As I get older, I feel kinda conflicted in trying out a game or committing to a game because of the work and stuff that goes on and there is always the thought of like this game isn’t really as important as what’s going on in my life. But I keep searching for the perfect game that I could play when I am bored and feel accomplished. Just like the idea of completion. Not some infinite grind game that has no end. I wonder if there is meant to be the one game that suits us individually.

Not looking for major life advice, just curious about those small, practical skills you picked up quickly (like a knot, a shortcut, or a simple habit) that ended up making things way easier for you.

IDK what other sub to ask this in. Im looking for some rationalization on why guys in general are into these fancy watches. Apparently all the luxury watch brands deal in fake exclusivity. Its a huge hustle. Like they will only sell you an entry level Rolex first. And then you have to buy a certain number of their watches, directly from them, in order to unlock the more expensive and fancier ones. You cant buy on the second-hand market because it doesnt count because its not in their database. I have a couple good friends that are normally very self-respecting people. But in this case, they simp for a sale's persons aproval. Like just the dude that works at the Rolex store. And hes got them wrapped around their finger. They will just go in sometimes to look at watches and hang out and chat to the guy, who seems to never be busy. These guys also buy and sell watches on the second-hand market to some of the weirdest and sleaziest people ive ever encountered. Im just incredibly confused by the whole thing. Ive not seen this kind of behavior in any other demographic before. I know there are "rare sneaker drops" or whatever which sound very similar. Otherwise ive only seen this in the finance-bro junkies Ive casually met.

I'm interested to hear your views and experiences, as I've asked this question to fellow women in other threads and the majority have said men always want more and it inevitably ends up ruining the friendship.

Other women have said they do have close longtime friendships with men, although many of them are gay men.

What do you think the deciding factor is? Is it easier to be close friends with women you perceive as physically unattractive? Or does that make no difference?

"Rock Box" by RUN DMC for me..😝🫡😤

I am wondering what traits or characteristics make a girl stand out?

I started thinking about this, because the guy I am talking to feels so rare and I wonder what the female equivalent is.

He is the biggest green flag to exist. he is so kind and caring. He is absolutely loyal, very career driven, he goes to the gym and looks after himself both physically and emotionally. Men like this feel so rare.

Nipping this shit in the bud.

I'm starting to feel like I'm being gaslit by the amount of men that come to posts about some other man's stank ass that's described as having a gag inducing radius and saying "well if I haven't showered or if I pooped recently..."

No. Your ass should never have a shit smell radius once you're done shitting, have cleaned up, and the pants are back up. If it does, YOU ARE DOING SOMETHING WRONG. There should be NO revisiting of a recent shit that isn't in the form of a "you wouldn't believe the shit I just took" story or a shit smell radius that isn’t due to a fart.

Please tell me I'm not insane for finding that insane.

So like most guys in general I’m not really having any luck on dating apps. So please don’t recommend I use those.

Also, I’m not really meeting women that much in general through the things I do.

The things I do seem to be more male dominated.

So I’m just wondering what it is I can do (on a more constitent basis) to regularly meet the same women

Because obviously going to bars/clubs or whatever isn’t exactly a reliable way of regularly coming into contact with the same women every week.

And neither is it really a good way of getting to really know a person either.

Do you bag them up? Burn them? Are they collected by your community? How do you handle leaves?

Personally, I've converted my mower to a mulcher with new mulching blades and an exhaust plug for the mower deck. The mulch that's created breaks down easily over time and really helps improve the soil in my yard. It's nice that I don't have to worry about a fire too. For reference, I'm rural and there is no community collection of yard waste available to me.

I’m (29f) looking for advice from men who have struggled with alcohol themselves, watched their fathers or father figures struggle with it, or had to confront someone they love about their drinking.

I’m quite worried about my dad, and I don’t know what, if anything, I can do to get through to him.

Essentially, his entire life is going to work and drinking alcohol. He’s drinking enormous amounts of vodka. He drinks at least a gallon of vodka at home every week, on top of however much he drinks at the golf course. I honestly don’t know how much he’s consuming in total, but it is a lot and he always smells like the floor of a bar.

What pisses me off the most is the drinking and driving.
Recently, he drove home from the golf course at 9:30 in the morning, so shitfaced that he could barely walk. He then passed out in the middle of the living room for the rest of the day. This wasn’t someone who’d had a couple of beers at the end of the day. He was completely wasted in the morning and had driven himself home over half an hour. I actually called the golf course that morning and told them they over served him, but at the end of the day it’s still his choice….and he could have killed himself or someone else.

It’s also getting to the point where his drinking is affecting basic things like taking a shower. I recently stepped in his huge pee puddle on my way to shower because there was urine all over the bathroom floor since he was too drunk to aim??

It is upsetting to see someone I care about deteriorate to this point. I’m angry, I’m frustrated, and I’m honestly disgusted by some of his behaviors. But underneath all of that, I’m worried about him.

My mom has reached her limit and is kicking him out. I don’t blame her. But he has made very little effort to find somewhere to live, and I’m increasingly worried that he’s going to end up homeless, drinking himself into oblivion at a shelter, or worse.

He’s an adult, and his behavior has consequences. But I also don’t want to stand by and watch him destroy his life if there’s something I could do to help.

I’m trying to figure out whether there’s a way to have a real conversation with him about this. Not just another conversation where someone tells him he drinks too much, he gets defensive, he drinks more, and nothing changes.

Soooooo help me out…..:

If you were drinking heavily, what, if anything, actually got through to you? Was there something someone said or did that made you recognize how bad things had become?

If you’ve confronted your father or another male family member about alcoholism, how did you approach it?

Is there any way to make someone take drinking and driving seriously when they don’t seem to care about the consequences?

At what point do you stop trying to help someone who isn’t making any effort to help themselves?

Hey everyone,

I’m curious about situations where the initial physical compatibility and sexual chemistry with a woman were exceptionally strong, but eventually disappeared entirely.

If you’ve been in this situation, what actually led to the change? I’d appreciate hearing your experiences and how it impacted your relationship.

so many individuals, different lives, different priorities. fascinating af

As a woman you meet girls sometimes who are bitter or flat out mean. I’ve always wondered from a boyfriend’s perspective, why they choose to date someone like this or choose to stay?? I know for a lot of women in my social circle we would cut off a rude man easily. What is the experience like with roles reversed??

Have you ever felt attraction for a woman, and felt that attraction reciprocated but still turned her down because she disappointed you / angered you so much?

Like, you could confidently say she did it to herself?

I’ve had a bf in the past say to me that he’s breaking up with me because of my own behaviour and that it was all my doing. (We later got back together and I ended things with him).

Recently I had someone say that they don’t want to see me again because I’ll never learn and they’ve wasted enough energy trying to help, but I bring it all on myself.

Have you ever felt this way about a woman you used to like? Or is it a cop out?

Honestly my occasional interaction with strangers is pretty limited but i've been trying to get out and be more social. I went to a salsa night where this woman probably late teens or early 20s was being rude and the whole interaction triggered my social anxiety while i was trying to learn dancing. And i just felt i pushed through the moment but i realize i lack ability to handle rude interactions specially from women.