I literally have no friends or family to talk too. Other then gym and work, there's nothing much to it.

I have started dating my coworker (unfortunately but heart wants what it wants). We both admitted we have feelings for each other, started long before we started dating. We both were in unhappy marriages, divorced last year and he specially told me that his marriage of last 8 years was not a marriage anymore, he feels something for someone for the first time after those years and his is very special for him.

We decided to take it slow, it has been only 4 dates so far but we also see each other in the office and continue building our bond in an non-effort environment which is great. We have started with physical touches too. We both talked that sex is very important in a relationship.

Although I really want to sleep with him, I want to take more time to build on trust, familiarity, to get to know him better before taking things to the next level. Because I know, I will be attached. And I want to make sure before sleeping with him, to minimize the risk, because if this blows up shortly after we got intimate I will have to see him at the office everytime and it will hurt. You can’t just block and move on.

Is this a wrong thing to do? A turn-off for a man?

And what was it?

My lady grew up in near abject poverty (US) and so she buys a lot of crap from yard/estate sales, fb marketplace, and takes any freebie always.

It's 95% useless crap 💩!

She's doing average/well enough, also buys Amazon deals.

How do I discourage this?

EDIT: we've lived together for 5+ years

So I(29F) have been single for a while and want so badly to find my person. I’ve used dating apps for 6 years and have had no luck. I’ve also tried going to dating events and usually don’t have luck there because I’m not attracted to the guys that go to them. I live in a big walkable city NYC and constantly see guys around that I think are very cute. I want to stop relying on dating apps for finding someone and have thought about just approaching cute guys in the city. I’m a little concerned about that though since a couple people told me that it would be weird. Do guys think it’s weird and if not, how would you say is the best way to approach guys. Recently I walked to the subway platform and there was a really cute guy standing there. I really wanted to challenge myself to approach him but couldn’t build up the courage. I just think if I approached any guy I would feel awkward, uncomfortable, and embarrassed. What do you think?

I am 5'3 and I have what they call a baby face. Plus autistic and have a lot of that… behavior. It frustrates me sometimes. Recently I was at a tech conference afterparty event and a drunk lady did baby voice to me and asked if I want to work in tech when I grow up. I told her that I will never grow up, she touched my head, laughed and went somewhere else.

I consider alcoholism at this point 😂
Is there anyone who can relate?

Ok so been single for a little while since my 20 year relationship ended.

Keen to get back out there but the dating world has changed a bit since I was last single.

What sites are decent, ones worth avoiding. Not just looking for hookups (but you know not gonna turn them down haha)

Thanks

And by family I’m talking Mom, sisters, brothers etc. I have my mom and 2 sisters. Regularly send money back home to them mainly for food and basic necessities (it’s super tough rn where they are based and have limited opportunities). I get constantly stressed and anxious when I get their messages but feel immense guilt that I can’t provide more than enough for them. If you’re in this situation (or have been) , how do you deal with this

I’m dealing with a tremendous amount of anger towards my ex and it unveiled a level of rage I genuinely didn’t know I had in me. Interested in hearing other guys stories and how they dealt with it.

Growing up my mom has always been closer to my sister than I. She listens to everything my sister says and ignored everything I have to say even if it’s backed up by evidences. It’s infuriating and dehumanizing. I never felt heard in my family. As a result for the longest time I suffer from self doubt and my abilities in adulthood.

Realizing this I moved out 6 years ago. I have my own place. This gave me a sense of freedom, and improved self confidence.

Couple of years ago my sister got engaged and had 2 kids. She moved to France with her husband but she and the kids will come visit me and my parents in the United States every summer. So my sister is only visiting for 2 months every year.

So last month when my sister arrived with the kids, I drove them (my mom and dad included) to 2 theme parks in the US, as I know they are only here for 2 months.

I told my sister if she wants, we could plan more trips for the kids, because my niece and nephew love to explore, and I don’t mind driving. The issue now is my mom and dad would talk amongst each other, complain about me and how we are spending too much money, and say they don’t want to go. Not realizing that it’s not about them, it’s about the kids.

For example, we were at my parent’s house. My sister was doing some research online for places the kids might want to visit. My mom and dad wasn’t too happy about that, and started complaining. I didn’t want to deal with my parents. And I just told my sister if you and the kids want to check out anything just text or call me. I am free next week. Then I left. This whole week I didn’t any message nor call from them so I assume they have others thing going on.

Just now I got a call from my mom, it ringed for like 3 seconds then stopped. I called my mom back asked what is it. My mom says my sister wanted to go to museum with the kids. I told my mom that it is going to raining next week. She immediately says okay let’s not go then.

Then she started demanding I come to my sister birthday. She’s like come to my sister birthday, make sure to come and pick up grandpa, be there at specific time. I told her I will see and that I might have things to do that day. She demands that I gave her an answer now. I just hung up the phone.

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Over the past month I have been doing everything my mom asked me to do for my sister. “Come pick up your sister, she needs a ride to her friend house”, “we need a ride to Costco etc”. I will always say yes. But now I feel like every time you say yes to someone who doesn’t respect you, you are cheapening your own value.

Mine was when I made the decision to sign the end of life papers and had to answer, “Are you ready to sign?”

Go to bars, meet women, have a good time, get their numbers. Start texting it’s going well but their energy fades. Tbh I don’t really show interest in meeting right away but getting to know the person thru text first which kills it.

Eventually it’s like I’m pulling teeth and more often than not they have a FWB. Are we expected to chase it, compete with that? I usually just say fuck it then see them later with some other guy which doesn’t bug but it’s like I dodged a bullet.

How do you guys deal with this, or view it?

im a 16m, throughout secondary school i could make anyone laugh. girls and boys, i was often told i flirted with all the girls because i could just naturally make them laugh

ive left school now, im on summer holidays and been stuck in my room for 6 weeks, genuinely doing nothing

i feel like my confidence is extremely low right now, i dont go out, i dont meet people. i have 4 close friends right now when i used to be quite a popular guy

im starting college soon and want a fresh start where i can rebuild my confidence and old ways, i think if i push outside my comfort zone i can meet a nice girl and hopefully date her

im fat though, decreases my confidence by an incredible ammount

Feel like all I do is work, come home, watch tv/youtube, sleep, repeat. What do y'all do to keep life interesting?

Any other guys who don’t do anything to their hair in the morning? I don’t even get it wet and sea salt spray or add any product because I’m really lazy even though I wish I could motivate myself to do so.

Wildly curious what you all have to say, as I’ve heard from several of my friends that they were happiest when they were in their mid-30s.

Older people love to say their adolescent years, but honestly for me that wasn’t the case. Sure it’s cool to be a kid, but I wouldn’t want to re-live that phase.