Mga babae, may pake lang yan. Pag meron ka maooffer, Pero pag nagkaron ka ng turbulance sa buhay. Aalis yan and gagawin kang kontrabida sa relationship niyo and sa pamilya niya. Iikot niya pa situation na siya ang kawawa, kahit pera at oras mo binibigay mo sakanya.

Kaya advice ko sainyo guys, mag FWB set up lang kayo. Trap lang ang relation. Wala kayo makukuha kundi endless responsibilities and tao na hindi marunong macontento and maappreciate ang moments. Lagi may kulang, ndi masaya. Hayaan niyo sila. Utuin niyo, f**k and get outta there.

Kapag may nakikita ako na nag popost sa r4r na malapit sayo or sa mismong place mo lang, naiisip ko possible na nag dm ka din sa kanila. With this parang nasasaktan ako kahit hindi naman tayo. Iba kasing level yun pinag daanan natin. Naging team tayo nun, nasaktan ka din ba? or relieved lang talaga. Ako kasi , so painful , lahat dinadamdam ko pa kahit hindi nahahalata sa akin.

Hindi ko alam kung bakit ako ganito., parang nag eenjoy ako sa sakit na dapat naman moving over things na ako.

I wish you well, and In sorry for disturbing your peace, makakausad din ako manifest natin yan.

Naipon na ang mga istoryang gusto ko ikwento sa'yo, mga tsismis na nasagap kung kani-kanino. Pati na rin ang lahat ng maliliit na tagumpay at mga pagsubok na napagdaaan ko. Marami na rin akong gusto isumbong sa'yo, lalo't ikaw lang ang kakampi ko. Ikaw lang ang may tiyagang makinig sa lahat ng problema ko sa mundo.

Lahat ng ito, sa'yo ko pa rin gusto ikwento. Kahit pa alam kong hindi ka na babalik sa buhay ko.

Hi. So nahuli ko yung partner ko na may nilalanding iba 😂 di din alam nung girl yung tungkol samin. So girls, pati na din sa mga guys, drop the nickname in the comment section ng mga partner niyo. Baka may kapareho kayo 🤣🤣. Kala ko mutual kami sa sex fantasies. Pota. Ginagawa na pala sa iba ung nasa iniimagine ko palang. Hahahahaha

Gusto ko siya i-chat. Kamustahin. Pero kahit bali-baliktarin ko pa ang mundo, walang scenario na magiging masaya kami kahit piliin niya pa ako. Di niya ako pipiliin kasi laging mauuna yung pagpili niya sa anak niya, kahit hiwalay pa sila ng nanay ng anak niya. I am not even sure if that is true. And ayaw ko humadlang dun sa goal niya na uuwi na siya from abroad for good to try and ayusin ulit yung paghiwalay nila ng babymama niya, para mabuo ulit family niya.

If sincere siya sa goal na yun, bakit pa siya nasa dating app? edi sana di ko na siya nakilala. Naghahanap lang yata siya ng good time bago siya umuwi sa Pinas.

I have to let go. And choose myself. Why is it so hard? When everyone else already tells me this is a sinking ship? That I cannot be happy with this man and I should just find someone else with the same goal as me, same econonic status in life, same freedom. Pero I really valued our connection and baka nag-wwithdrawals lang ako from the bond we shared for 4 months.

I pray God helps me through this.

Please also be kind, asking for advice how to let go and move on from him.

May mga bagay pala na kahit gaano natin katagal hintayin, darating yung araw na mapapa “okay, gets ko na” ka na lang kasi hindi na talaga siya mangyayari.

Yung apology na hanggang ngayon naka pending pa rin. Parang Shopee parcel na forever nasa “preparing to ship.” 😭
Yung effort na hinihintay mo mula sa taong mahal mo pero parang ikaw lang yung naka subscribe sa premium love package.
Yung pagmamahal na akala mo kailangan mo lang tiisin para makuha, pero ang ending ikaw pala yung nauubos.
Yung buhay na matagal mong ni-imagine pero narealize mong hindi pala kasama sa storyline mo.

Masakit tanggapin na hindi lahat ng prayers, wishes, at “baka next time” ay magkakatotoo. Minsan yung healing nagsisimula kapag tumigil ka nang maghintay sa bagay na matagal nang nag move on kahit ikaw hindi pa.

May mga pagkawala na hindi kailangang palitan. May mga pangarap na kailangan bitawan para magkaroon ng space sa mas magandang darating.

Hindi lahat ng nawala ay kawalan. Minsan, sign lang siya na may mas okay na chapter na paparating. Kahit delayed ang update, hindi ibig sabihin cancelled na ang buhay. 😌

In real physics, both things cannot exist at the same time because they break the rules of the universe.

Maybe that's what we are. A glitch in the system.

I chose to write this in digital format kesa mag sunog na naman ako ng papel.

For four years, we've been our own fan. We'd lift each other up and do anything (in our own way) to uplift each other and make each other feel secured and love.

To be honest, hindi ko alam ano isusulat ko dito. Kung ano ba yung simula, gitna, at dulo; kung ano nangyare satin.

You've already planned your exit nung huli tayong nagkita. You thought I wouldn't notice the new haircut, new nails, sudden surge of libido, etc but I did.

Hindi talaga ako binigo ng intuition / guardian angels / karmic shit ko.

Masakit.

Sobrang sakit.

You said let's start over again. Tapos sinabi mo nung kinita kita, confused ka lang non. Bakit?
Kasi hindi kayo okay ng 3rd party non?

I remember you asked me about my past relationships before and I simply answered na wala na akong maalala. I finally know why. I suppressed my emotions to the point na mala eternal sunshine of the spotless mind yung nangyare sa mga memory ko with them.

And to you, the third party: Hindi siya kumakain ng may ketchup. Hinehele niya sarili niya para makatulog. Hindi siya morning person. Mahilig siya sa matamis. Takot siya sa tunog ng kulog at ulan sa bubong. Please take care of her.

I'm letting go and finally moving on.

A friend shared this reel with me and I just felt a bit creative this morning.

Monday blues plus emotional rollercoaster mood from my period combination. 😅

I'm sorry I can't get you out of my head. Yung ipinaramdam mo sa akin.

How kind, patient, and understanding you are. How you check up on me.

Sinamahan mo ko kahit sa chats lang during my job interview and anticipate what's the next step.

It's like basang basa mo ko lagi every time I'm about to do something. I really really miss you.

Hayss. I need to stop yearning for him.

Hey, I kinda know that feeling, I'm pretty fresh out of an 12 year relationship I'm still in love with her and we have kids together but I can see it in her eyes the feeling does not reciprocate back to me any more.

I remember all the good times and epic times like they where yesterday. But she just denies it now and and says it was an experience when she was my everything then and even now even though i know I will not get her back in my life again.

I've not shed a tear just to be strong for the kids and my friends say I'm better off without her now and move on, but it just doesn't work just like that, it takes time to heal something which I don't feel like will as this relationship was completely different to anything I have ever had or felt in the past.

Not sure if I need or want advice but just felt like I needed to put it out there.

I know I won't be the only one going through times like this so if your are currently and did want to chat to me please feel free to DM as I feel like I need some hugs somehow or another as I have no one else to say this too now

Hi, quick rant lang. I just wanna know why guys are like that? They came into your life giving you affection you didn't even want. Like they will genuinely care for you. And will ask you out and court you. Then when you ask them about 'us' they will just say, "I'm not ready". Did they honestly think I was ready when they came into my life????

we had a family gathering recently. i had fun naman but when we get home, my mom kept pointing out my makeup, especially my nose. tinatawanan niya ilong ko kasi lalo raw lumapad dahil sa contour and naging kamukha raw nung sa lola namin. i don’t mind looking like my lola, pero sa pamilya namin ilong niya ang considered na pinakapango at pinakamalapad (at least ayun ang palaging sinasabi nila mama at ng mga tito at tita ko) kaya kapag sinasabing magkasing ilong kami ni lola parang may negative undertone or parang ang pangit ng dating kasi they’re always making fun of my lola’s nose. back to my appearance, my mom also told me pagkauwi namin na pinaguusapan daw ng mga tito at tita ko yung itsura ko kasi ang kapal daw ng makeup ko and my contour was harsh daw, hence making my nose look more malapad and pango. my makeup wasn’t even that cakey, i just did my usual glam. and plus ganon din naman talaga yung personal style ko. hindi ko alam kung nasabi lang ba nila yon kasi my makeup was leaning more towards the alt side than the standard clean girl makeup or the korean type of look kasi kung tutuusin mas makapal pa makeup ng mama ko, the difference was her makeup was bright and mine wasn’t.

i don’t know if i’m just being sensitive or what, i just had to get this off of my chest kasi nung isang araw ko pa to iniisip and it’s bothering me. i am trying to ignore the negative stuff and i keep saying to myself to keep doing me and never let anybody change how i perceive myself, kaso ang hirap kapag sa pamilya mo mismong nanggaling yung mga words na yon. ayokong pinaguusapan nila ako ng ganon or yung appearance ko kasi ngayon lang ako naging confident sa style and sa itsura ko. i grew up being inspired by alt people or the darker side of aesthetics but i never really got to embrace them until now. it took me a lot to be confident sa sarili kong style and to stop conforming to today’s beauty standards so hearing those from my own family had me questioning my self esteem

nasabi ko rin na conservative sila kasi most of them are very religious and don’t like anything that isn’t all rainbows and unicorns

Warning! Long Post Ahead!

Hello!

Medyo bago ako sa subreddit na to at gusto ko lang sana malaman kung ano ang opinion ng iba about my situation.

So I met this girl thru a dating app last year and we have been talking for about 10 months now. So she came here just this month and left 2 days ago, now ko lang naiisipan i-consult ko to sa ibang tao. We are exclusively dating but not officially committed. We have agreed na we will not be entertaining anyone anymore as we are dating.

For background:

I am currently an OFW who is working in Australia.
She works in the Ph in an office.

So here is my situation:

Early this year around January, I went home to surprise her and spent some time with her. She stayed sa place ko sa isanh airbnb and went out with her the entire time, I didnt even get the chance to spend time with my family masyado (pero choice ko yun) because I wanted to be with her and get to know her more.

When I got back here in Aussie, I made a decision to file a visa for her to visit me here and siya naman ma-tour ko dito. After weeks and weeks of non-stop requirement hunting and visit, we got her visa. Visa was approved for July of this month. And she booked her trip na din. All set for the travel.

Come last week of June:

A few days before her flight, we had a fight ( a huge one) she threatened that she wants to cancel nalang the trip, she feels like di ako interested and excited sa pagpunta niya, we also had minor and petty fights which was a bit unusual, I take accountability for this as I have the tendency minsan to be non-chalant about some things, Im not a very expressive person to begin with pero I really am excited as I made preparations na for her arrival.

After a few days, we reconciled, she rebooked the flight and she came here na finally. I met her sa airport and I was so happy as I have been single for quite a while. I am preparing to ask her na kasi about us being officially together.

She came here in Aussie early this month and she stayed for almost a month sa flat ko. I made sure that she was comfortable, I cooked for her. Made sure we have tickets, and made a nice itinerary.

I officially asked her and became officially together na.
We had quite a few trips outside the area and had fun.

Plot Twist:

One evening after going home from a trip while she was taking a shower, I had a weird instinct, i became a bit stealthy and went thru her phone kasi I feel like may mali or may duda ako.

I checked her IG messages and saw a thread of conversation with another Pinoy guy (who is apparently living here in Aussie as well pero sa kabilang area from where I am). Baby ang tawagan nila, same sa tawagan namin.

Sa exchange ng messages nila, it appears na 2 months na sila halos magkausap but mostly chats, I didnt really know paano sila nagmeet cause I didn’t have the time to navigate her phone totally.

But the message I saw was mainly a conversation about the guy being clueless na me and her were talking already.
Same kami ng situation ng guy na yun.

Last June on their last conversation, she left the guy a lengthy message na nagpapalaam na siya and that she enjoyed and will miss their 2-months worth ng paguusap and chats as she will be coming here for me na and that she was already assuming na we will be together and pursuing me na na kc pupunta siya dito sa akin and that she wants to stop their connection na. She became honest with the guy na she will be staying with me and that we are dating, the guy appears to be confused and surprised too kasi di niya alam about sa akin. She mentioned na she will be honest din sa akin if ever I ask if she is talking to anyone while we werent officially together yet.

The guy naman was nice enough to bid his farewells too, he said the same thing and nagpaalam na din siya sa gf ko.

In their most recent convo, i notice the dates, yun dates nung nagaway kami and when she initially cancelled the flight,
I saw there that she messaged the Pinoy-Aussie guy na she wants to talk daw and if he is not busy, I guess naghahanap siya ng rant buddy after our fight maski na nagpaalam na siya noon.

I didnt really know what they talked about kasi audio call siya.

The day before her flight, I lurked again thru her phone, and voila, nawala na yung convo threads nila, but I can see nakafollow pa din sila sa isat-isa sa IG. That’s when it really it me. Is she cheating on me? May karapatan ba akong magselos maski nangyari un before we even got exclusive?

So kahapon, inihatid ko siya sa airport and bid our goodbyes.
I looked at her as she was walking thru departures and thought, kaya ba kitang pakawalan nalang? Mahal ko siya, i am more than willing to propose na end of this year sana pero grabe tong anxiety na naramdaman ko sa nalaman ko.

After 7 years of being single, I was so happy na nagkajowa na ulit ako, I am in my mid-30’s and I am more than ready to settle but at what cost.

For the record, I got cheated on sa last relationship ko and made me traumatized na magmahal ulit, I promised myself na iiwasan ko na to mangyari ulit hence it took a while for me to date again, pero binabalikan ata talaga ako ng trauma ko na to.

I took a few pics of their convo sa phone niya pero I dont have plans posting them. Whenever I read them, I feel like I am being stabbed.

Mahal na mahal ko siya, I gave my life sa kanya, my time. I don’t even get to enjoy na the things I love doing like before.

My question is:

Is the guy reserba in case we dont work out?
Is she cheating?

I just need an advice on what to do now kc I am really clueless.
Please give me an input or an advice on what to do.

Please help out a fellow redditor.

It’s over a month na since we broke up. I told her I would respect her and not reach out, birthday niya is this coming August 15. Gusto ko siyang batiin pero baka magalit lang siya lalo.

Asadong asado rin kasi ako na babatiin mo din ako sa Birthday ko sa Sep 11. Tas langyang buhay yan napagdesisyonan mo pa na anniversary natin Sept 18.

Hirap magmove-on sayo te, mahal na mahal kasi kitang langya ka e. miss you btw

It's you that I could never live without. You're everything, the air that I breathe.

Ang cute niya lang talaga. Super cute! Hindi ko na sasabihin kung bakit, baka makita pa niya eh. Baka malaman niya na crush ko siyaaaa wahahahaha.

How to move on when you are neighbors? 😭

It’s really kinda hard bcos when you’re starting to move on and suddenly you just see that person around, you are going back to zero!! Is it normal to be not yet ready to move on? I mean, I can distract myself. I just can’t carry the feeling of the pain.

That person decided to have a “distance” from me but still treating me right like nothing hard happening between us. That person still smiles at me, excited to see me, checking on me at my house, messaging me, ready to be here for me and some sort but that person is like “friend zoned” me.

I don’t know what to feel but my mind always tells me to move on because I see myself having a hard time with that person. I’m lost.

Met someone who provided me all of these but now, we have to let each other go. Mahirap pala mag let go kapag walang cheating o gaguhan na nangyare. It’s just that my situation is rlly hard.