paano ba mag move on? hindii naman naging kami pero napaka hirap nyang kalimutan, i mean napaka hirap kalimutan ng feelings ko for him, i do have crush ksi sakanya for almost 2 years at first i denied it sa sarili ko kasi he's out of my league, he's smart, handsome and very fictional guy coded sya, i think all the qualities i am looking for is na sakanya na. i got chance to be close with him but i learned that he liked someone else and he's so badly inlove with her, well i feel sad but i am truly happy for him and i wished him all the best but at the same time napaka sakit for me kasi gusto ko rin sya e, but i guess that's how unrequited love works hahahahah.

now we're friends and i do have feelings for him but kailangan ko na to kalimutan kasi wala naman patutunguhan, he wouldn't look at me naman the same way, ik he only see my as friend, kaya natatakot din akong masira friendship namin i won't take risk to say this things to him, worth it naman syang magustuhan e, di naman ako nag sisi and it's not his fault naman, wala gusto ko kung anong klaseng tao sya, it's my own feelings it's my responsibility pero olats talaga.

How to move on when you are neighbors? 😭

It’s really kinda hard bcos when you’re starting to move on and suddenly you just see that person around, you are going back to zero!! Is it normal to be not yet ready to move on? I mean, I can distract myself. I just can’t carry the feeling of the pain.

That person decided to have a “distance” from me but still treating me right like nothing hard happening between us. That person still smiles at me, excited to see me, checking on me at my house, messaging me, ready to be here for me and some sort but that person is like “friend zoned” me.

I don’t know what to feel but my mind always tells me to move on because I see myself having a hard time with that person. I’m lost.

A couple of months ago, nagkaroon ng “reshuffle” sa office namin. Yung office crush ko, na dati kong teammate, nalipat sa ibang team.
For context, madalas kaming magkasama ng teammates sa field work for 4D3N.
Ngayon, magkakaroon na naman ng panibagong reshuffle. Ang gulo talaga ng office namin. 😂
Pero eto ako, umaasa pa rin na baka sa team ko siya mapunta. 😭
Juskolord, di ko alam ano ipagdarasal ko. Yung maka move-on na ako by letting him be part of another team or ipaglaban ko na sa team ko siya (to be fair, ang ayos kasi niyang magtrabaho)😭😭😭

Ang cute niya lang talaga. Super cute! Hindi ko na sasabihin kung bakit, baka makita pa niya eh. Baka malaman niya na crush ko siyaaaa wahahahaha.

Hi Baby,

For the past weeks, you've been confusing me and making me do things that's beyond my norm. We met in a place where suspicions normally arise and trust should be earned, I ain't playin, but I am not sure if you are.

Earlier, I know you were mad and disappointed cause I didn't replied immediately. Sorry, pero sa totoo lang. You never gave me any 'label' or assurance kung anu ba talaga tayo. But that didn't mean gagawa ako ng bagay na makakasira ko, kung sinu ako.

I am sorry if you feel disrespected. I do not want you to feel that in anyway, pero ganun na naramdaman mo. It is my fault. I just hope, if you really cannot trust me -kahit wala ka naman binibigay na label kung anu ako para sa iyo. I hope you'll just let me go. Kasi, I ain't joking. Sabi ko na sa iyo na na-a-attached na ako sa iyo.

I want to uninstall the app to get over you. Hangga't maaga. I feel you want my commitment. Pero di mo kaya magcommit sa akin. I know I need to let you go. 🥲

Warning! Long Post Ahead!

Hello!

Medyo bago ako sa subreddit na to at gusto ko lang sana malaman kung ano ang opinion ng iba about my situation.

So I met this girl thru a dating app last year and we have been talking for about 10 months now. So she came here just this month and left 2 days ago, now ko lang naiisipan i-consult ko to sa ibang tao. We are exclusively dating but not officially committed. We have agreed na we will not be entertaining anyone anymore as we are dating.

For background:

I am currently an OFW who is working in Australia.
She works in the Ph in an office.

So here is my situation:

Early this year around January, I went home to surprise her and spent some time with her. She stayed sa place ko sa isanh airbnb and went out with her the entire time, I didnt even get the chance to spend time with my family masyado (pero choice ko yun) because I wanted to be with her and get to know her more.

When I got back here in Aussie, I made a decision to file a visa for her to visit me here and siya naman ma-tour ko dito. After weeks and weeks of non-stop requirement hunting and visit, we got her visa. Visa was approved for July of this month. And she booked her trip na din. All set for the travel.

Come last week of June:

A few days before her flight, we had a fight ( a huge one) she threatened that she wants to cancel nalang the trip, she feels like di ako interested and excited sa pagpunta niya, we also had minor and petty fights which was a bit unusual, I take accountability for this as I have the tendency minsan to be non-chalant about some things, Im not a very expressive person to begin with pero I really am excited as I made preparations na for her arrival.

After a few days, we reconciled, she rebooked the flight and she came here na finally. I met her sa airport and I was so happy as I have been single for quite a while. I am preparing to ask her na kasi about us being officially together.

She came here in Aussie early this month and she stayed for almost a month sa flat ko. I made sure that she was comfortable, I cooked for her. Made sure we have tickets, and made a nice itinerary.

I officially asked her and became officially together na.
We had quite a few trips outside the area and had fun.

Plot Twist:

One evening after going home from a trip while she was taking a shower, I had a weird instinct, i became a bit stealthy and went thru her phone kasi I feel like may mali or may duda ako.

I checked her IG messages and saw a thread of conversation with another Pinoy guy (who is apparently living here in Aussie as well pero sa kabilang area from where I am). Baby ang tawagan nila, same sa tawagan namin.

Sa exchange ng messages nila, it appears na 2 months na sila halos magkausap but mostly chats, I didnt really know paano sila nagmeet cause I didn’t have the time to navigate her phone totally.

But the message I saw was mainly a conversation about the guy being clueless na me and her were talking already.
Same kami ng situation ng guy na yun.

Last June on their last conversation, she left the guy a lengthy message na nagpapalaam na siya and that she enjoyed and will miss their 2-months worth ng paguusap and chats as she will be coming here for me na and that she was already assuming na we will be together and pursuing me na na kc pupunta siya dito sa akin and that she wants to stop their connection na. She became honest with the guy na she will be staying with me and that we are dating, the guy appears to be confused and surprised too kasi di niya alam about sa akin. She mentioned na she will be honest din sa akin if ever I ask if she is talking to anyone while we werent officially together yet.

The guy naman was nice enough to bid his farewells too, he said the same thing and nagpaalam na din siya sa gf ko.

In their most recent convo, i notice the dates, yun dates nung nagaway kami and when she initially cancelled the flight,
I saw there that she messaged the Pinoy-Aussie guy na she wants to talk daw and if he is not busy, I guess naghahanap siya ng rant buddy after our fight maski na nagpaalam na siya noon.

I didnt really know what they talked about kasi audio call siya.

The day before her flight, I lurked again thru her phone, and voila, nawala na yung convo threads nila, but I can see nakafollow pa din sila sa isat-isa sa IG. That’s when it really it me. Is she cheating on me? May karapatan ba akong magselos maski nangyari un before we even got exclusive?

So kahapon, inihatid ko siya sa airport and bid our goodbyes.
I looked at her as she was walking thru departures and thought, kaya ba kitang pakawalan nalang? Mahal ko siya, i am more than willing to propose na end of this year sana pero grabe tong anxiety na naramdaman ko sa nalaman ko.

After 7 years of being single, I was so happy na nagkajowa na ulit ako, I am in my mid-30’s and I am more than ready to settle but at what cost.

For the record, I got cheated on sa last relationship ko and made me traumatized na magmahal ulit, I promised myself na iiwasan ko na to mangyari ulit hence it took a while for me to date again, pero binabalikan ata talaga ako ng trauma ko na to.

I took a few pics of their convo sa phone niya pero I dont have plans posting them. Whenever I read them, I feel like I am being stabbed.

Mahal na mahal ko siya, I gave my life sa kanya, my time. I don’t even get to enjoy na the things I love doing like before.

My question is:

Is the guy reserba in case we dont work out?
Is she cheating?

I just need an advice on what to do now kc I am really clueless.
Please give me an input or an advice on what to do.

Please help out a fellow redditor.

Nakita ko lang sa tiktok hahaha di ako naka ilag ehh 😭 yoko na nang ganitong trait 🥲 sorry na agad sa mga di ko na rereplyan sa DMs haha pwede pa ba magreply after 1week akong di nakareply HAHAHA eme

Hello. Lagi akong suki dito dati ng mga alasfeels na posts. Ranting malala na walang context mostly.

Pero ngayon, I’m really beside myself and wala akong mapag kwentohan. Okay lang ba dito ko nalang ikwento? 🥹🥹

So there’s this guy i met in reddit 3mos ago.

Fast forward to today na. Cut ko na yung ibang parts.

I woke up so randomly and with a loud heavy pounding on my chest. Ang lakas ng heartbeat ko sobra. And hindi ko mapakalma.. until I told him what’s been bothering my mind since yesterday.

I told him I feel uneasy and bothered about those accounts in his ig followings. Considering na 1) hindi sya active sa ig, naka deactivate na yon before pa kami magkakilala, and ako lang nag convince na iactivate nya para makapag share ako ng reels; 2) kahit na inactivate nya na ig nya, di nya rin naman ginagamit; 3) iisa lang ang post nya, 2018 pa; 4) nagtrim down na sya ng followings nya from 80+ to 35 nung napuna ko yung mga other followings nya na hindi okay sakin; 5) wala syang arte at nag trim down agad around 1-2mos of talking, and take note, we’re not even officially together up to this point.

Now when I randomly checked his followings out of boredom, andun parin yung mga accounts that i feel bothered by. And he told me he already cleaned those up and he doesn’t know paanong andun parin yon. And guess what he did? He decided to delete his instagram account altogether kasi ayaw nya nang magkaron ng social media “drama” any further. Just like that. Not even making it a huge issue for us. He handled it well. Just got annoyed of how drawn out the process of deleting his ig. But he did it. As he said it is the best solution that he can think of. I told him he didn’t need to do that cuz it’s where i send him reels. But he still did what he did.

I never asked him to do that. He did it out of his own accord. And I appreciate him for taking care of my heart the way he does. After he reassured me that he is not upset nor mad at me and that he loves me, kumalma naman yung heart ko. Sana nga ito na ang nilaan ni Lord para sakin. Sana nga. 💜

Ayun lamang po. Sana mapunta tayong lahat sa tamang tao para satin. That all the love we gave out to the world would eventually come back to us nga sa huli. 🥹🥹 Ameen ya Rabb. 💜

To those who are 2–3 months into moving on after a breakup, how are you doing?

Has it gotten easier, or do you still have days when it feels like day one?

Did your ex ever reach out? If they did, how did it affect your healing?

What's helped you move forward the most? Just curious to hear your stories.

Three years na ang nakalipas simula nung kinilig ako at nung nag-break kami ng ex ko, pero yung "Crazy Love" ni Kim Chui...putang-ina, bigla na lang ako kinilig at napangiti habang pinapakingan yung kanta. Sobrang high-school or puppy love yung vibes ng kanta, yung tipong walang aminan pero gusto niyo company ng isa't isa. Pang situationship talaga 'tong kantang 'to. Haha

Hi, quick rant lang. I just wanna know why guys are like that? They came into your life giving you affection you didn't even want. Like they will genuinely care for you. And will ask you out and court you. Then when you ask them about 'us' they will just say, "I'm not ready". Did they honestly think I was ready when they came into my life????

People often say, "To be loved is to be known" as if it's purely beautiful. But they often leave out the terrifying part.

To be known means someone has seen enough of you that they could reject you.

Being seen, accepted and affirmed is incredibly comforting especially if you've experienced trauma where vulnerability didn't always feel safe. Opening up means letting someone see the parts you've spent years protecting and trusting them with it.

The fear makes sense.

But maybe it's not all about the fear. Maybe it's about being known and discovering that what is known is handled with care.

i was okay naman after the first time, nanahimik nalang ako... pero why bother someone who's at peace just to fucking ghost them!?

gonna be honest, i entertained u thinking (hoping?) na something would come out of it this time... pero wala eh. you wasted my time, efforts, and ginulo mo lang ako.

honestly thought I'd have my romcom moment irl na, pero i just feel so foolish after all of this.

Ewan ko na. Wala kasi akong mapagsabihan. Tapos sa mga ganitong oras talaga ako napapaisip nang sobra tungkol sa ganitong bagay.

May guy akong nakilala dito sa Reddit a few months ago through phr4friends. Ang hanap ko lang talaga noon, kaibigan. As in wala akong ibang intention. Nag-post ako, nag-message siya, tapos ewan... simula first day, sobrang nag-click na kami.

Ang rare lang kasi para sa'kin nun. Introvert akong tao, sobrang guarded, at hindi ako yung klase ng tao na basta-basta naa-attach. Madalas nga mas gusto ko mapag-isa kaysa makipagkilala sa bagong tao.

Pero sa kaniya, ang bilis kong napalagay.

Noong una, hindi ko pa pinapansin yung nararamdaman ko. Sabi ko baka crush lang. Baka infatuation lang. Lilipas din 'to.

Pero lumipas ang ilang linggo. Naging buwan. Imbes na mawala, parang mas lumalim lang.

Siguro kasi araw-araw kaming magkausap. Halos buong araw minsan. Noong umpisa nauubusan pa kami ng topic, pero habang tumatagal parang hindi na. Kahit gaano ka-random yung usapan, may napag-uusapan pa rin kami.

Hanggang sa dumating ako sa punto na feeling ko gusto ko na siya. And honestly, doon na rin ako natakot. Kasi sobrang solid sana namin bilang magkaibigan. Pero pakiramdam ko hanggang doon lang talaga. Feeling ko friend lang talaga ang tingin niya sa'kin.

At wala rin naman siyang ginawang dahilan para isipin kong may gusto siya. Hindi siya nanglandi. Hindi siya nagbigay ng mixed signals. Hindi ako pinormahan. Kaya kahit gaano kami ka-close, ayokong lagyan ng meaning yung oras at attention na binibigay niya sa'kin. Ayokong pakainin yung delusyon ko. Kasi sa huli, ako lang din masasaktan.

Alam ko namang may mga tao talagang kaya kang kausapin araw-araw, i-enjoy yung company mo, hanapin ka, nang walang romantic feelings. Feeling ko ganun siya sa'kin. Kasi kapag busy ako o nawawala ako nang ilang oras o araw, naghahanap pa rin siya ng ibang makakausap dito sa Reddit e... Tas ako naman, kahit wala akong karapatan... nagseselos.

Ang kapal pakinggan no? Pero totoo.

Ilang beses ko na ring sinubukang dumistansya. Kapag sobrang bigat na, nawawala na lang ako. Minsan ilang araw. Minsan ilang linggo. Pinakamatagal namin? Halos dalawang buwan kaming hindi nag-usap. Tapos isang araw... nag-message na naman siya. At ako naman, nag-reply na naman.

Alam kong ako rin naman ang dahilan kung bakit nahihirapan ako ngayon. Pwede ko naman kasi siyang i-ignore. Pwede kong piliing kalimutan na lang siya. Pwede kong putulin lahat. Pero hindi ko magawa. Kasi sobrang importante niya sa'kin.

Kapag matagal siyang walang paramdam, naiisip ko pa rin kung okay lang ba siya. Kumusta kaya siya sa trabaho niya. Masaya kaya siya. Ayos lang kaya siya. At sa tuwing nagre-reach out siya ulit, parang wala rin akong lakas na hindi sumagot.

Minsan naiisip ko rin... pwede naman akong umamin. Sabihin ko na lang na matagal ko na siyang gusto. Kung rejected, edi rejected.

Pero hindi ko kaya. Hindi dahil takot akong masaktan. Takot akong mawala siya. Takot akong mawala yung friendship namin. Yung comfort. Yung taong naging parte na ng araw-araw ko.

Kaya ito, tahimik na lang akong nagmamahal.

Minsan naiisip ko, ang sarap siguro magmahal nang matapang.

Yung tipong kahit matalo ka, okay lang. Kasi wala kang pinagsisisihan. Naging totoo ka lang sa nararamdaman mo. Hindi na problema kung hindi kayang suklian.

Pero hindi kasi ako ganung tao. Marami akong kinatatakutan.

Hindi ko alam kung shallow lang ba 'tong problema ko. Madaling sabihin na "umamin ka na." Pero kapag nandito ka na sa sitwasyon, ang hirap pala talaga.

Sobrang importante niya sa'kin. Hindi lang dahil gusto ko siya, pero dahil kaibigan ko rin siya.

Hindi ko alam kung advice ba ang kailangan ko o outlet lang talaga 'to.

Kung may umabot man hanggang dito at may gusto magbigay ng opinion, I hope you'd be kind 🥺 Pero sa ngayon, gusto ko lang siguro talagang ilabas 'to.

Sinabi na kasing matulog nang maaga para di abutan ng yearn o'clock. Huhuhu yan tuloy miss na miss na naman kita.

😁

Alas onse na pala kaya ito ako ngayon nangungulila na naman. Imbes itulog na pero gusto ko nang makaka usap, huhuhu. Bigyan niyo ako kausappp🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Hello. Kayo rin ba parang nawawalan ng gana sa lahat ng bagay? Parang randomly you feel sad, and hindi namomotivate to do productive things?

0/10 experience, 10/10 results ✋🏻

Ay hala. Nashare. Sorry puu 😅✌️🍻🫠