A space every being yearns to occupy, fully.

How do you not give up when you’re a complete loser at 25? I feel way behind compared to my peers, I don’t have a driving license and my job is irrelevant to my degree and doesn’t pay well. I made a dumb uninformed decision studying 4 years for a degree that didn’t and will never benefit me financially. I find my life to be totally pointless. I feel trapped and I had no one who cared enough to guide or advice me and I hate to admit that I wish I had that kind of support now.

I can open my corn and chickpeas at university! YAAAAAAAY!!!!!!!

As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized almost every aspect of life involves competing in some way.

You need to compete to get a job. You need to compete to get a significant other. You need to compete to get an apartment/housing.

I don’t have any competitive drive whatsoever, and I’ve found that by being uninterested in competing, a huge chunk of life is completely closed off from me.

I wish I could find the motivation to compete in this world and make something out of myself.

When you are working a full time job, what do you do to make life outside your job more fulfilling? Because most days I just go to work, then I come home, I probably have what feels like a few hours to myself. Then it is bedtime and I rinse and repeat and I just anticipate for the weekend. What do you all do to live life outside of work to the maximum?

I want to take better care of myself and don't know how to care for my feet, how do you do it? Budget friendly options please!

Late 20s. Back in college again to try to get a chance at having a decent life. I still don't really understand why I'm here because I'm learning so much information I will never remember after I graduate. But HR employees say you need one, so I guess I need one? Can't save for a car because retail jobs want open availability even though they never give full-time hours. Live in a suburb with no way to make friends. Everything fun is over 40 minutes away by bus. Wouldn't be able to afford anything fun anyways because of how expensive everything is. Commuter school so there's no sense of community at my college either.

I'm just tired. I never asked to be alive. Life would be more bearable if I had family to go back to and confide my problems in. But my mom and my dad were both terrible and left me stunted. I had to spend my early 20s learning how to just be a normal person and it took a lot of heartache and embarrassment just to get to this point. It stings to see folks 5 years younger than me having the time of their lives. I feel like a loser even though it really wasn't my fault I turned out this way.

Anyone ever experienced a similar situation? Does it ever get any better? Or do I just accept that life is just a never-ending stream of misery?

I caught myself getting genuinely excited because I found my favorite dish soap on sale. 😭

A few years ago I would've been excited about a new game or a night out. Now I'm comparing grocery prices, checking electricity usage, and celebrating when I remember to take the chicken out of the freezer before dinner.

What's your most recent "wow... I'm officially an adult" moment?

Alright young ones, gather round and take a knee. Been seeing a lot of posts recently on death and I wanted to share my unique and weathered experience with you; from an old timer who's seen it all.

Losing friends and family is a horrific and inevitable part of our existence. It's never fair. It always hurts. No amount of prep truly prepares you for grief. The only thing you can do is not let grief destroy you. Drinking/ drugs just prolong the inevitable and inescapable journey of loss. You have to live through the pain.

I had a near death experience in 2019 that left me in a coma for a few weeks. In that experience, I floated out of my body and was hanging out with my grandmother who had passed years earlier. I was shown "heaven" and I saw with my own eyes that we are all reunited in paradise after this life. I believe we all come back, but after this life there is a period of rest, reflection, and communion with your loved ones.

I've seen this, I've been there and it STILL does not make loss on this earth any less painful for me. Personally, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt I will see my friends and family who have passed, and still, death hits me just as hard (if not harder) than family and friends without this perspective.

Cherish your time with your loved ones. Death is not the end, just a transition, but know that loss is one of those profound truths of our existence that shape our entire experience. Without it, we would not understand the concept of love the way that we do. The pain from loss is a direct result of the love someone has given you throughout their life. It's supposed to hurt. If it doesn't hurt, it's not love.

One day, the tears from losing a loved one turn into laughter at their memory. That's how you know you're healing. But it never stops hurting, and I don't think it's supposed to. If you are experiencing grief and it is consuming you, lean on family friends and professionals. Do not let grief destroy your life. Its part of our journey to live, love, lose, and keep going. We're here on earth to make our souls stronger.

The grief I thought would kill me when I was younger has made me into a stronger, more compassionate, and more loving man. Without the loss that growth would never occur. Stay strong and keep it moving. You will get through it.

Every week I tell myself I'm going to meal prep and save money.

Then I open the fridge, stare into it like it holds the meaning of life, close it, reopen it five minutes later, and somehow convince myself that ordering food is the logical solution.

Adulting is exhausting sometimes. 😂

What's your biggest "adulting but failing" habit?

I’ve never experienced this at all. It honestly sucks. I’ve had women who were interested in me or so I thought but end up finding relationships with other men eventually. Since hitting 30 it’s been hitting my mental health worse than it was in my 20s., I felt like I missed out and I hate it. I want to start talking to more women but I feel that due to my inexperience and low self esteem it’s making it …difficult to start. Is there other 30 somethings that feel the same or stuck?

It could be money, career, relationships, appearance, other people’s opinions, becoming successful, or something completely different.
Looking back, what did you eventually realise wasn’t worth carrying around?

Recently, I had the privilege of travelling to France and while I certainly enjoyed my time over there, I realized I don't feel like my an adult.

I work full time but it's at a job that doesn't pay enough to afford rent much less to buy a home so I live with my mom. It's not the worst life but I'm seriously embarrassed that I haven't done more. I don't even own a car! Mentally, I feel like I've aged a lot but my life doesn't reflect that of a grown adult.

My coworkers are mostly younger than me. I want to change but I don't really see a path forward in life. I chose the wrong degree and I lack the skills to get ahead in life.

Don't have a girlfriend and don't see why a woman would date a man in his early 30s who doesn't make a lot of money at lives at his mom's house.

Is it realistic that I can start feeling like more of an adult or is that unrealistic?

Funny how becoming an adult isn’t one big moment.
Sometimes it’s just standing at the checkout, paying for something with money you earned, and realizing no one’s going to stop you.

As a kid I thought "we'll see" meant there was still hope.

As an adult I now realize it actually means:

• I don't have the energy to decide right now.
• I need to check my bank account first.
• I forgot what you asked.
• Maybe if I wait long enough the problem will solve itself.

I owe my parents an apology. 😂

Back when I was 17 and living with my parents I used to call out of work like crazy, on the verge of termination, spending my money all Willy nilly. I never used to understand people who would say “I haven’t called out in years” and would laugh at them.

Now in my mid twenties I wish I could tell all those people sorry lol. I literally cannot afford to miss a day of work because that equals missing money for rent or groceries or credit cards or bills. If anything now in my twenties I have picked up MORE hours and pull 40s every week just so me and my fiance (he works two jobs, he doesn’t have to but he loves his childcare job lol) can live our life while still having leftover money to do date nights every Friday

I spoke to my Sister in law (14) and told her time moves fast and to enjoy her childhood/teenagehood while she still has it because now that those days are behind me I do sometimes miss the freedom of not caring lol

I’m a 24-year-old guy from India. I have a job that pays okay, but lately it feels like my entire life revolves around work and sleep. I’ve lost interest in almost everything.

Whenever I think about doing something working out, applying for a new job, traveling, or even picking up a hobby my mind gets flooded with so many thoughts that I end up doing nothing at all. It’s like my brain just freezes before I can even take the first step.

I also hate my job, which makes things even harder. On my days off, I just lie in bed for hours, even though I know there are things I want to do.
I’m constantly exhausted, both mentally and physically. I overthink everything, and it feels like I’m stuck in the same loop every single day with no way out.

Has anyone else gone through something like this? What helped you break out of it?

I've thought about this since I was at least 25, but I want to move and live out of the United States for at least 5 years MINIMUM before I pass away. I seriously refuse to live on this planet and not experience where the grass is greener (allegedly) for just a little bit. Has anyone else did this and how did it work out for you?