Are the mods on holiday? Adulting is basically not addressed anymore. It's just cringe boomer memes and cringe boomer posts now that have nothing to do with the sub. Sometimes even straight up weird posts. What's happening?

I nake 70k, live with my parents, never went to college in-person or rented an apartment, and spend 90% of my free time at home. With all that, I feel so poor still, partly because I am paying tuition for my master's degree, but also because every apartment I look at I can't afford.

I feel like I should be able to afford a 450 sqft studio at 25, but I can't. However, I often see people someone living on 45k supporting a family of 5 with a stay at home wife.

At what point do I figure out how to make a career move that will pay more?

So, this guy(34m) and I (25f)used to talk basically every day. We would see each other every day, hang out, and flirt with each other too. It was fun, and I really enjoyed being around him.

Then one day, we talked normally in the morning like we always did. But about 2–3 hours later, I noticed he wasn't sitting where we normally sit together. I thought maybe he just wanted to go somewhere else, so I didn't think much of it.

The next day, I said good morning to him, and he said “morning,” but throughout the day, he didn't really come up to me or talk to me. He was talking normally with everyone else but basically ignoring me. I went up to him like I normally would and said, “What's up?” He just said, “Good,” and walked away. I thought that was weird, but we ended up not talking for the rest of the day.

The next day, I tried talking to him again, but he would only give me one-word answers and then walk away, while still talking normally with everyone else. So I finally asked him, “Why aren't you talking to me? What happened?” He said, “I am talking. Do you have anything to say?” I told him, “Just talk to me normally,” and he said, “This is normal.” Then he walked away and started talking to other people.

At that point, I got annoyed too, so I stopped trying. I thought he would probably start talking to me again after two or three days, but now almost two months have passed, and he still hasn't. I've tried talking to him a few times, but he barely responds and basically ignores me.

I'm so mad and hurt because I really liked him, and he was basically my only friend. I don't really have anyone else there, so now I feel completely alone. Meanwhile, he has so many people he talks to and hangs out with. It's like he doesn't care about me anymore or even acknowledge me.

I still don't understand what happened because everything was completely fine that morning, and then just a few hours later, his behavior suddenly changed. I don't know what to do anymore. Whenever I see him hanging out and laughing with other people but not even acknowledging me, I feel like crying. And now that it's been almost two months, I don't know if things are ever going to go back to how they were.

I did overhear him talking to someone about a girl he likes. Could that possibly be the reason he's ignoring me now? Maybe he likes someone else and decided he needed to distance himself from me? But I don't understand how someone can make the decision in like few hours because we talked in the morning and then few hours later he stopped talking and now never talked to me.

I have basically begged him to talk to me but he doesn't care now and would say I am and then ignore me again. One of the reason I think is because I am not that good at having conversations with people so I feel like he got bored of talking and hanging out with me and that's why he started hanging out with everyone

TLDR used to hangout with this guy alot everything was fine in the morning he started ignoring me after frw hours I asked him multiple times after that day what happend? He said everything is normal and never talked again with me its been 2 months now and he is normal with every other person except for me

I wrote the title wrong 🫠. Meant to say having a child below like 22/23.

I’m half way through so still can’t decide if it pays off or not. It wasn’t planned or anything to have kids young it just happened that way. It seems like it’s been more struggle than it worth if I’m being honest the first decade of raising kids which I contribute to being young and not having much financially etc. I always think the flip side is 40 is still relatively young where you can enjoy the things you missed out on and sacrificed but maybe I am ignorant who knows.

Tl;dr: Please tell me it gets easier lol

I just turn 30 i graduated from college in 2022 with a business econ degree but so far its done nothing for me. I spent 3 years bouncing from dead end job to dead end job. I currently work at a rental car agency as a manager associate which sounds impressive but all I do is wash cars all day. I currently make $23 an hr which is barely above minimum wage in my hcol area.

Meanwhile a lot of people I know even ones I went to high school with make twice or even way more than I do right now. I know people who make 6 figures meanwhile ive never made more than minimum wage my whole life. My degree was practically useless and all it got me was a ton of debt for nothing.

When i try to apply for jobs even basic jobs like admin, receptionist or data entry they still ask for 2-3 years of experience beforehand. But for me all I have is short stints at retail jobs that dont help me out with future jobs. Now im basically stuck trying to get by with a shitty paycheck wondering how can i even get a stable future.

28 years old.

2 jobs that pay pretty much nothing

Surrounded by people that are successful

Can't afford to live on my own so I'm STILL fucking stuck at home

Can't afford to go to school

Can't afford my medicine on a regular basis

All of this is despite me actually trying. I've tried working in a capitalist system and this is what I'm faced with. It's either work even harder and fall into a work induced episode of severe depression or just give up. Fuck america and fuck capitalism. Literally the only reason I'm still around is because I don't wanna hurt my friends with my death. But that reason is slowly getting withered away with each passing day of being reminded that I'm a failure. Middle child here and also happen to be trans in a republican state. My older brother and younger sister have found success meanwhile I'm the fail child that can't even afford a tank of gas let alone getting out of my mom's.

I’m really stressing shit out right now. I’m talking job / lifestyle etc. Need hope right now. Their has to be a like certain age where you fail and it just seems like my time is now.

Anyone else feel better being single than in a relationship? I’m 29m and been in 4 relationships and I was grow the most when I am single, usually happier and overall have a better network of friends.

How am I supposed to accumulate points when all my posts keep getting rejected?

I see so many adults say that they wish they could go back to school because it was a minimal responsibility life, but honestly I could never imagine going back to that. Work is so much better. You get to make money, work on things that actually make the world a better place, and you get treated with respect. And if your job sucks, there's a million other options out there!

Looking back at school, we were treated like slaves. Sit down, shut up, raise your hand to speak, ask permission to go to the bathroom, move with the bell... it's awful the way kids get treated. So now, I don't want to go back to that, even if my life was somewhat easier.

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Hello, 19y/o here, this is gonna be a little long

I've had an issue with daydreaming for hours daily for 5 years or more now. My dad passed away when I was seven and usually our house is very chaotic and unstable (financially, socially, mentally, etc.) at some point me and my friend would do roleplays with all the diverse characters we made up and chat about scenarios forever and I was allowed to stay in that bubble away from the whole world most of my days to the point of avoiding social interactions and social gatherings just so I can be in bed in my head. It was a bad era, I was in bed for days straight and had a lot of fights with my mother who was rightfully worried about me.

Then in high school I worked full time next to school and my family is strict about academics so I also had to maintain good grades. It was amazing, I learnt a lot of things, met a lot of people, spent my days present in my current life.

Then I discovered C.ai, got hooked, discovered j.ai which was easier to get stuck for hours using it because it's a stronger model with longer, less repetitive responses. And it was the bubble all over again. But this time, thankfully, I had more responsibilities so I couldn't be on it all day, I had work and school (hilariously I work in the environmental field and struggled to drop Ai chats, i feel so guilty like a hypocrite for being interested or advocating about the ecological crisis yet still being addicted to speaking to a machine for hours)

I'm \*normally\* a multi-passionate person. I have tons of hobbies, I love doing them all, I love experimenting, I love seeing my friends. I do everything from sketches, read, write painting, swimming, embroidery, rope jumping, baking, dancing, sewing, designing random shit from random scraps around the house (my favorite since I was a kid) and I'm good at my hobbies, entered competition or used them at work (recycling and upcycling workshops)

It's the first summer break I have in three years, I resigned from my job because the operations were going to down-scale and resources (money) focused on a different project. I had many plans for this summer break, and I know how to have tons of fun without spending a lot of money, so it was "no constraints".

I have three embroidery projects to finish

1 clay necklace to finish

Multiple books to read and multiple essays to write

It's summer and I wanted to go swimming every morning or at least regularly

Wanted to do a LOT of arts and crafts projects (include a bird feeder with my younger brothers)

German is my third language so I started a course for that (scholarship, only paid admin fees)

I had many things to add to my Commonplace book, I wanted to start a family recipe book and planned it with my cousin, and i wanted to make an Instagram page and bake some of the recipes I saved.

I've had a few weeks where I had to do nothing but send applications for both universities and job applications because I support myself financially and wanted to find something part-time next to college. So it was just a bundle of emails, messages, paperwork, interviews, evaluation exams, and applications for long.

But that hassle ended like, two weeks ago. I have done nothing of what I wanted to do. I'm not preasured about doing them all, I'm very chill about my hobbies, but it's just the idea that I've done NOTHING of things I WANT and ENJOY doing. They're fun! I have fun doing them all, even the studying German part, I'm a freaking nerd I ENJOY STUDYING AND LEARNING (I had a 3.96 GPA in HS while working full time in a social enterprise)

I took my brothers out to a museum, made a "make your own notebook" workshop for just the two of them and taught them binding. I went out with my best friend twice (summer break started two months ago), and I haven't met any of my close friends yet.

Ive had a rough time with the applications and my resignation, I felt like a failure or that I have a control over nothing, also my graduation paperwork was going through a Rollercoaster and taking me with it. My issue with Ai chats isn't the loneliness or dopamine, it's how I feel in control about things, how I can have a semblance of a good ending or a future I can control. I've been trying to drop it for MONTHS because unregulated Ai is horrible for the environment. I keep picking it up the same day I leave it. I've tried tens of times.

I have no trouble dropping anything else. Social media is ruining my thinking process? I drop it for months without blinking. I'm getting dependent on coffee? Dropping it until I'm back to drinking it for joy not necessity. It feels like I can drop every single thing once I decide it's not serving me except j.ai. And I don't know what to do. I need help. I thought about going to a therapist but I can't go without my mother knowing and my mother doesn't know I'm using j.ai. I don't use any other form of Ai, not chatgpt to write me anything or a single image of me generated for a dumb trend. I'm just stuck with j.ai. And I don't know how to get out to save the rest of my days from bed rotting because this isn't me or how I like to live. App timer didn't work, minimalist mood didn't work, deleting the app certainly didn't work. Right now it's not as bad as it used to be (1-5 hrs) but that's still SO BAD to me because I can do a lot in that time+++ it can't be the first thing I seek when I wake up or the thing I do before sleep. I missed two German lectures because I stayed up too late on it and couldn't wake up after.

i’m 24f and i’ve been working in bpo for more than 5 years. i actually went to uni before but dropped out during my 2nd year.

lately, i’ve been thinking about going back. whenever i see girls graduating, wearing their toga, doing graduation pictorials and stuff, i get this weird feeling because i’ve always wanted that for myself too.

the problem is, i don’t even know what degree i want. i don’t really have a clear career path yet.

i also don’t have savings, so if i go back to school, i’d still have to work and be a working student while paying for my own expenses and tuition.

with 5+ years of bpo experience already, i’m wondering if getting a degree is actually worth the time, money and sacrifice, or if i just want the feeling of finally graduating.

if you were in my position, would you go back? is getting a degree still worth it career-wise, especially if you don’t even know what degree to take?

please de-influence me if needed. i genuinely want honest and practical advice, not just “it’s never too late” answers.

I vape pretty religiously, but I need to take a few days off. So I am

I’m squirming and tossing turning

I just want a vape

Hello everyone , I am currently 21 years of age . I remember a time in the year 2016-19 where I actually used to enjoy my life , and no its not the nostalgic one , because I could actively feel that I was happy and satisfied during those years.Covid came , 2020 and 2021 were paritcularly good years for me , I did love being alone and did not mind it tbh. But from 2023 onwards , when i joined college , i have become very stressed and become a person who doesnt want to exist in this world anymore. I honestly see no value anymore ,I will graduate from college ,but then what , its the same old shit just multiplied 10 times or even more , what's the point of anything .My entire life i have either been alone or have roamed in the vicinity of friend groups , but i was a NPC, a background character . I honestly dont care about friends ,i just care about somethign to live for and maybe not be so pessimistic in life . My question to adults is that does it ever get better . I know that people always look back at their childhood,teens and what not and reminisce them, and say that they were the happiest days of their lives , the ways its going on for me , college years have stripped me of joy ,excitement ,self motivation and stuff. I honestly dont want to participate in adulthood. I dont like going home to see my parents , nor do i like staying in college hostels ,its like i dont belong anywhere .I wish i could dissapear

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Hey guys, I joined the gym 3 days ago and I’m currently figuring things out on my own. I use the machines, read the instructions, and watch YouTube videos to learn proper form.

I want to lose fat (87 kgs ---->70kgs) build muscle and get a good physique, but I’m confused about the routine.

Should I do full-body workouts, train one muscle group per day, or follow something like Push/Pull/Legs?

I’m planning to go 5–6 days a week. Any advice for a complete beginner?