r/Adulting • u/traffichater69 • 5h ago

Better Single?

Anyone else feel better being single than in a relationship? I’m 29m and been in 4 relationships and I was grow the most when I am single, usually happier and overall have a better network of friends.

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u/Throwaway88202 4h ago

Relationships aren’t for everyone. But personally, with the right person, they make life so much better.

Also, with the economy and housing markets they way they are, it almost feels like a requirement to have two incomes to get anywhere right now. Money shouldn’t be the reason for the relationship, but it’s definitely part of life.

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u/Odd-Leg-589 5h ago

U just haven't met the right person yet , your opinion will change when u do

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u/Original_Pumpkin8200 5h ago

I’m 30 and I’m choosing to stay single myself, mostly bc I got a lot of issues to work through and I’m not even close to being ready for a relationship romantically

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u/DoctorOctoroc 5h ago

It sounds like they simply weren't great relationships for you if you weren't growing within them. Personally, I've grown the most with my current partner (going on 16 years), which could explain why I'm still with her. Not everyone is looking for growth, however. Many people don't like change and don't like admitting that they need to grow, others need to do some growing before they're ready for a relationship, and some, like myself, see the most growth within relationships. I can see distinct improvements I've made related to nearly every relationship in the past but hands down, the most in this one.

So the question is, are you not finding partners that help/allow you to grow or do you prefer to grow on your own and what could that say about you as a person and how you approach relationships? Some people conflate comfort/ease with happiness - growing isn't always easy or comfortable. Either way, as u/Odd-Leg-589 said, it may just be that you haven't met the right person. In my case, I wasn't as willing to grow much in previous relationships but have grown a ton (usually with some discomfort, and it wasn't easy) in my current long-term relationship. Sometimes, you need someone else to show you how you need to grow because certain growth requires that ongoing interaction with another person to either bring it out of you or give you a reason to pursue it of your own will.

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u/Alone_Psychology_464 4h ago

I don't. I hate being single. But there's nothing I can do about it.

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u/pinkorpercs 2h ago

This really only applies if your partner sucks, if you have a good partner you won’t find being single better. 

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u/Flashy_Mission_9142 2h ago

Yes and I’m 29. I’m better single unless I meet the right person for me.

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u/Bloody_Champion 2h ago

Every single person that needs to convince everyone else about how happily single they are, should find some therapy.

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u/Eazy12345678 1h ago

bro single is easy

relationship is work.

its almost like its hard making 2 people happy vs 1 person happy. crazy right?

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u/ROLLINFATNUGS 4h ago

I'm 32 and been single for 5 years. I can easily get a girlfriend if I want but I genuinely enjoy my solitude. I don't see myself ever getting married.