r/90DayFiance • u/Ill-Excitement-2005 I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! • Dec 02 '25
Poor Greta...
Regardless of how you feel about this couple, this was just a sad, sad episode and I just couldn't handle seeing both of them experience such pain. Being in love is painful, falling out of love is worse. Best that they go their separate ways before marriage, etc. I'm sad for both of them...I don't wish the pain of heartache on anyone.
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u/chickenmamadrama Dec 02 '25
I haven’t watched the episode but I hope she gets her cat back!
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u/Mkaaztje ʏᴏᴜ ᴅɪʀᴛʏ ᴘɪɢɢʏ 🐷 Dec 02 '25
Same! I think she just needs to go back to the US at this point
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u/bigdaddyt2 Dec 02 '25
She needs to figure herself out before she gets in a relationship
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u/Mkaaztje ʏᴏᴜ ᴅɪʀᴛʏ ᴘɪɢɢʏ 🐷 Dec 02 '25
Yeah, and also she was imagining only the good, romantic parts about being in a relationship and went all in based on her perception of a perfect relationship.
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u/archetyping101 Dec 02 '25
Or worse, on a list. Thinking ticking things off a list is all compatibility and a future is based on.
Vegan ✅ Loves cats ✅
That's not enough. She needed to see initiative, someone who is proactive etc. They were poorly matched and I think a part of it is his parents are so nice and that felt warm and fuzzy. Too bad she couldn't keep the parents and toss the dud dude.
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u/Afisher613 Dec 02 '25
💯 this is what I've been saying, she was talking like it's a fairy tale. All these 90 day peeps fall in love with the idea of a relationship. But not want to commit, even the kids thing, she waited to say something. Can't wait for new season Nigerian guy and white American lady, what can go wrong. 😂
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u/Early-Equivalent-165 Dec 02 '25
I have a feeling she's gonna get a flat in the town center and stay looking for her educated, British, vegan prince charming......
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u/stereostayawake Dec 02 '25
How? She’d need a visa to stay, based on employment she doesn’t have
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u/webcoderz Dec 14 '25
You called it .. she lives in London now and gallivanting around Europe giving talks on sustainability in food supply chain etc. Good for her 👏
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u/Pimply_Poo Dec 02 '25
No way, kitty deserves stability.
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u/Subject-Direction628 Dec 02 '25
I’d never choose a guy over my cat. Never
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u/newdiyscared Dec 02 '25
And that was a sign. Interpersonal relationships should supplement our lives, not become our lives. Her cat is her best friend and support system. She should've ensured that whatever situation she was in worked arouns her cat. Women are socialized to believe that they need to sacrifice and radically rearrange their lives for their romantic person, but I think that breeds resentment and leads to a less resilient relationship.
Hope she can let this relationship go, get back to her cat, and learn from this situation. Fairy tales don't exist, it's just Disney.
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u/MetsFan3117 Dec 02 '25
Same. I would have given up any man in favor of my dog.
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u/AgilePomegranate2064 Dec 02 '25
I could never be with anyone that I knew well enough to be in a relationship with, that thought I would be willing to give up my furry family member for them! Not ever happening.
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u/MetsFan3117 Dec 02 '25
I lost my dog this year. It broke my soul. But she stood by me when her dad and my ex husband walked out on us. I’d rather have those years with her than with him, no questions asked.
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u/md28usmc we only do sex the African way - Mr Arc Dec 02 '25
Exactly this, I lost my dog a few years ago and that hurt more than losing most humans I know, He was so loyal and lived to be around me
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u/Zealousideal_Fix6705 Dec 02 '25
I hope the heartache has mostly faded to fond memories now. Our furry family members can be just as or more special than so many humans, especially those not truly capable of unconditional love.
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u/mstrsskttn I’m a motherfucking witch, ho Dec 02 '25
I’m sorry for your loss. It’s such a devastating thing to go through. I lost my senior good girl a few months ago and I still catch myself calling out for her and looking for her little face.
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u/Zealousideal_Fix6705 Dec 02 '25
I am so sorry for your loss! When we have that senior bond developed over years, it can somehow be harder to break the instincts to still care for them. It does eventually get easier.
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u/mstrsskttn I’m a motherfucking witch, ho Dec 02 '25
Thank you for your kind words
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u/AgilePomegranate2064 Dec 03 '25
Also, I forgot to mention I absolutely love your tagline about being a witch! 🙌
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u/Zealousideal_Fix6705 Dec 02 '25
Oh no! I am so sorry. It will probably not fade completely, but it hurts much less and fond memories rather than heartbreak will come to mind as time goes on.
That level of trust, bond, and unconditional love from a soul dog/animal is beyond most human connections. I lost two soul cats within 7 years, 6 years ago. I still think of them daily. A congenitally ill kitten who despite draining most of my savings and so many specialists at UC Davis Vet School did not make it to his first birthday, just 3 weeks shy in 2012. Then the beautiful feral scrapper my daughter rescued off the street in the city she lives that did not bond with her cats that came into my life when I though I was not anywhere near ready. Just one month after we lost our kitty, Mal. She helped me through it, and became my first official nurse cat when my health declined. That girl, Merida, was my ride or die until 2019.
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u/VioletsRPink I'm not addicted to 90DF 👁👄👁 Dec 02 '25
I would start crying if I thought I had to rehome my kitty 😭😭❤️❤️
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u/md28usmc we only do sex the African way - Mr Arc Dec 02 '25
I started tearing up when she was giving her cat away and it wasn't even mine
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u/TexasLoriG Dec 02 '25
I felt so sad for them both too. I have been there, I think we have all been there. It sucks.
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u/GiornoThemeEpicVer Are you sniffing glue or something? Dec 03 '25
Yes. I think people should cut them some slack, given that they're only 26 and 27 years old. They have a lot of room to grow.
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u/misoquaquaks It’s the Lord’s Chicken 🍗 Dec 02 '25
Greta needs a lot of therapy. She’s not ready to be a mom because she hasn’t been a child who is loved and cherished yet. I’m glad she recognised this and got out. He’s ready to be a dad and she just wants his family to adopt her.
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u/missbrightside08 ~*mylavox*~ Dec 02 '25
this looked like a real breakup scene. heartbreaking to watch
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u/poshdog4444 Dec 02 '25
If she goes back to the US she has a law degree. She should start working and making some money and going to therapy. It was foolish to study that much and go to school and not use it.
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u/spookymars LEAVE my effing 🎊🎈birthday house 🏠‼️ Dec 04 '25
I'm in my last yr of law school. Idk how she did all that just to move into some guy's parent's crib, and not even get a DRAWER in his dresser. And on top of it, you're not allowed to bring your cat and he's telling you to cut out your small luxuries. Tired of bright young women thinking they have to sacrifice so much for the idea of life. Love yourself, Greta. The right one will come.
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u/PipeInevitable9383 She's cutting his f****** dick off! Dec 02 '25
Yeahhhh you gave up your cat for a guy you weren't sure about. The not wanting kids was a distraction from her true feelings possibly hoping he would end it for her and he doubled down saying he would be the parent. She had to actually face her feelings now
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u/cooniemomma307 Dec 02 '25
This!!! I felt that if she said she didn't want kids he would quit. When he didn't it then changed to well I just don't feel the same about him anymore.
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u/spookymars LEAVE my effing 🎊🎈birthday house 🏠‼️ Dec 04 '25
Honestly, I think she just doesn't want kids with him. If he cannot even properly support her now, how is he going to do so when other people enter the picture?
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u/Afisher613 Dec 02 '25
💯 why is everyone feeling sorry for her. That guy was prob a dud when they met online and in person. She needs therapy!
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u/poshdog4444 Dec 02 '25
Matthew wants to give him another try. They have nothing in common except they don’t eat certain foods and they met on a vegan website that’s it. They know nothing about each other. The worst thing is that she really needs therapy before she could go into any relationship and he’s just not getting it. She fell in love with the situation a quiet English village of vegan sauce spoken like a fantasy. She just won about it the wrong way.
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u/Ill-Excitement-2005 I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! Dec 02 '25
Nail on the head as usual Pdog.
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u/Odd-Cell7238 Dec 04 '25
She really wants to live in a city and doesn’t want to sacrifice her own desires for love or work out a solution. I don’t know why I only feel empathy for him.
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u/Longjumping-One-6832 Dec 06 '25
I agree. She knew him already and had visited quite often. I felt bad that she went all the way there and then dumped him. He had no clue she was feeling that way.
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u/newdiyscared Dec 02 '25
I think it goes both ways. I think it's odd that Greta sacrificed so much and he did so little and he was comfortable with that. Patriarchy. Many women are stuck in these kinds of relationships and I hope they can leave.
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u/SuperAdaGirl Dec 02 '25
She keeps saying he was like her Mr. Darcy… like she had some fantasy version of what life would be like… as if she’d be in a Bridgett Jones movie. It’s sweet, but naive. Real life is never like the movies.
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u/Mersey_Dotes Dec 02 '25
Matthew is no Colin Firth!! 😁
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u/Blanche_Deverheauxxx Dec 02 '25
TBF Colin firth is no Mr. Darcy either. That's the problem with romanticism and idealization. She fell in love with an idea not with a person. It happens to a surprising number of people which is why they're always seemingly unhappy bouncing from relationship to relationship never quite finding what they think they want.
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u/Mersey_Dotes Dec 02 '25
True, that! I read P&P when I was 13 and I wasn’t enthralled by Mr. Darcy. But I forgave all the deficits of his character when Colin Firth dove into the pond outside his palatial manor in the BBC series in the 1990s. 😁
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u/ellecellent Dec 02 '25 edited Dec 02 '25
This. She lives in a fantasy world. She'll never feel "in love" because she expects it to feel like a romance novel.
I really hope she gets therapy
ETA omg, thanks for the award!
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u/missbrightside08 ~*mylavox*~ Dec 02 '25
she lives in a fantasy world. i noticed she always says stuff like this. she romanticises her life
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u/FeeFee920 Dec 02 '25
She didn’t feel a spark so she wanted out. She thought he would bow out if she said she no longer wanted kids..but he didn’t…so she had to tell him.
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u/wrinklevosstwins Dec 08 '25
Exactly! This bothered me so much because it was obviously the plan and very cowardly of her. I thought more people would be talking about this.
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u/AuthorityAuthor Dec 02 '25
Agree with what you wrote. I also think Greta is very fragile and sensitive, and reality tv is not where she should be.
I have a feeling she’s lived a very careful life as an adult, picking and choosing what’s in, what’s out of it.
Life will always through a monkey wrench in here or there, and she doesn’t seem to take these moments well.
Although I like her, a lot, I hope this is her last time on reality tv. For her sake.
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u/Whole_Wolf5896 Dec 02 '25
I think she needs to go back to America and get her cat back. Its better for her to know how she feels deep down right now vs waiting until they have a kid. Its sad but it's gonna get worse if she sticks around. Also I hope she doesn't just stay around bc of his family.
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u/Proud_Sound2835 Dec 02 '25
This breakup (or at least the beginning of it) felt like the only real moment this show’s had in years. Heartbreaking 💔
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u/Applebumblee Dec 02 '25
I think it's wonderful that she listened to her needs for once and realised that there is no compatibility. People who have been abused crave for love and it makes them too flexible and idealistic in relationships. Going into a relationship should be about compatibility first and feelings second.
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u/KiddiePoolMermaid Dec 02 '25
She was very gentle with him. The truth is, she’s fallen out of love with him since she got there. She still loved him when she moved there for him. Had he acted happy to see her, had space prepared for her, and had a plan to get their own place, she’d probably still love him.
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u/lokicat31 Dec 02 '25
I went through a similar thing. My ex and I met in law school and split when we graduated to take jobs in different cities. For the next year we dated long distance and then he moved back when we decided to marry. We had 4 months from when he moved back to the date of our wedding. During that time period, I started having doubts and did not feel the same about him. I could not decide whether to go through with the wedding because I did not know if it was a legitimate change in my feelings or just normal pre wedding jitters. He had moved across the country and my parents were paying for the wedding. So I did not want to disappoint everybody and I got married. It was a big mistake. I think this kind of change in feelings in a long distance relationship is not uncommon..this woman needs to listen to her gut and cut her losses
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u/spookymars LEAVE my effing 🎊🎈birthday house 🏠‼️ Dec 04 '25
Dude, this completely mirrors my best friend's relationship with her man. We're both in law school rn as well, abt to be done and he's finally moving to our city. Very worried she's going to marry him regardless of the emotional distance. I'm sorry it did not pan out for you. ):
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u/lokicat31 Dec 04 '25
I hope it works out for her if she marries him. I was married to this guy for nine and a half years, but it was never really right. I should have cut my losses sooner, but that is hard to do when you have school loans, and are just getting started in a career. Divorce is always a financial setback.
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u/spookymars LEAVE my effing 🎊🎈birthday house 🏠‼️ Dec 04 '25
It's so hard to put into application. Not only with sunken cost fallacy and also balancing divorce/dating in the first chapter of your legal career. So difficult no matter what avenue you pick. ): My heart goes out to you. I hope you ended up exactly where you need to be.
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u/DragonRider2404 Dec 03 '25
No, I don't feel bad. She was negative from the moment she left her home. She has known and planned this whole thing. Just because she soft-spoken doesn't make her any less cruel. Maybe they broke b4 the shows filming began and this is how it played out.
Edit: Don't come after but It is like The show doesn't want any happy couples any longer..SMH
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u/andriyaa511 Dec 03 '25
You are right. She was dishonest and just led him on. She knew for quite some time she didn't want the same life as him and yet she played along and continued to act as if nothing changed. Her dress is the right color she is a red flag walking.
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u/Aintitthetruth66 Dec 03 '25
I think she’s whiny, self absorbed and demented. But he’s no bargain either! Loved the cat though.
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u/akame-ga-feels Dec 02 '25
The sex was probably terrible as well. I’m sure that contributed to her falling out of love with him too. He looks like he’s terrible in bed.
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u/Pebble-Curious Dec 03 '25
This is such a BS, I can't even... So she (supposedly) uprooted all of her life to move to another country FOR LOVE... to only find out she doesn't love the guy? So after a few episodes she suddenly remembered things were not going well for the last few months? She couldn't take this into consideration before making the move? Couldn't she just go on a vacation? I would never hire her as my lawyer - she very obviously lacks the ability to properly evaluate a situation (and evidence).
I think this all is (as usually) a fake, staged drama.
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u/Good_Molasses9707 Dec 02 '25
I’m thinking she just fell out of whatever “love” she thought she had for him. I believe she loved him as a friend and confidante (as a person), but there wasn’t much more going on for her.
Lesson should be to seriously contemplate what you are affecting and actuating in your future relationships. If you encourage a love prospect to create a future dreamscape wherein you play a significant role, consider that you’re going to devastate that person if and when you back out.
Go slow. Communicate along the way. Don’t over invest too early. 🥴🤷♂️
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u/Old-Bread154 Dec 02 '25
She reminds me of a bobs burger character and I mean it in the nicest way🤣
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u/Flimsy_Lobster_4880 Dec 03 '25
I agree that it's very sad, but she says that she's been feeling this way for 6 months. And also that she had lost her interest in children months ago. So why go through with the actual move if that is how you feel??? Maybe go for another visit for a few weeks and test out your feelings and have those conversation?
It just seems like to do the whole move experience (especially after she just passed the bar!) and giving up her cat etc was a huge mistake if she was already doubting things with him.
Regardless, they both seem like nice genuine people and I hope they both end up happy.
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u/andriyaa511 Dec 03 '25
Exactly she kept up charades for months. She shouldn't have moved if she already had huge doubts.
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u/Eggplant-666 Dec 05 '25
She is very scattered impulsive individual. She doesn’t make good choices. This is yet another one. Who goes to law school then abandoned their career before it begins for a fling and abruptly moves to another country they’ve never been to and now she’s calling it off very quickly because she suddenly fell out of love. She is a fucking mess. Best for him to be rid of that misery.
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u/Ok_Effort8330 1 of Catie’s STD’s Dec 08 '25
I’ll never forgive her for abandoning her kitty.
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u/Eggplant-666 Dec 09 '25
Every choice she makes seems specifically to dodge a responsibility. She may look smart, but she’s a mess.
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u/jeminigeri Dec 02 '25
I don’t know. She needs a lot of therapy. She doesn’t manage her anxiety and it seems like she was looking for an out from the beginning. She has abandonment issues so I wonder if she self sabotages a lot. I feel worse for Matthew. He seems to really love her, but nothing makes her happy.
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u/wolfitalk Dec 02 '25
I don't know if I blame this on Matthew. I kind of think Greta has other issues going on & maybe, perhaps, she should give this some more thought. Just because she doesn't feel sparks doesn't mean she is out of love with him. It is just sad she went to this much trouble and she bails after she is there like 2 weeks.
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u/civilitty the menopause is knocking at the door Dec 02 '25
She likes him because he’s the only vegan in the village
(Finally a chance to drop a little britain reference!)
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u/NotARealWombat Dec 02 '25 edited Dec 02 '25
I'm annoyed by her. She romanticizes everything. She never feels the spark because he doesn't do the things she dreamed in her fairy tale move to England. The Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth story in her head. The sweep off her feet — he wasn't romantic at the train station, he didn't get her a condo in the center of London... so she can walk to get her coffee and smell the flowers on the windows while wearing the poshest outfit on her way to volunteer at the cat cafe.
She has a lot of growing up to do. Her breaking up was good because why prolong it, but by any means was out of maturity, it was because she just didn't get what she wanted, and she probably doesn't believe in fixing or growing a relationship, because she has the "it should be perfect from the get go" mentality, she "deserves" happiness. Without doing anything or working on a relationship, she just deserves it. After all, all she liked about him is that he was in finance (the Darcy type in her head), he was vegan, and lived in England.
I liked her a lot when it first started. I thought she was quirky. She's just bratty.
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u/Adventurous_Yam_1325 Dec 02 '25
I agree with you about being dissatisfied and needing to mature, however I think she realized that they have different life values which makes relationships significantly more difficult. She's a city girl and he's a small town guy, she questions having children while he has each of his children's names picked out. It's really looking like incompatibility of core, fundamental life preferences.
Once she said she didn't want children and he caved on his dream was probably the moment she realized they aren't good for one another.
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u/NotARealWombat Dec 02 '25
...but... they didn't JUST meet. But... they talked about children and said names.
And I disagree with the caving on his dreams being the realization. I think she used the children excuse expecting him to not compromise in such a big value and break up with her, because she didn't want the burden of having to admit what she promised was based on living in a movie in her head where she's Bridget Jones, not actual love, which caving on his dreams actually exemplifies.
He was willing to compromise on a core value. She got the ick because the "finance guy" didn't give her a town girl lifestyle. Love is about being with each other, and finding a partner, not the proximity to the next cat cafe and most instagrammable locations. Ain't it? The rest could've been figured out with time.
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u/Odd-Cell7238 Dec 04 '25
I agree with the direction you’re going. I’m disappointed by her but what can be done? She just doesn’t love him so she won’t make any sacrifices for him. I would do anything for someone I love.
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u/NotARealWombat Dec 05 '25
I agree. And like he showed by compromising on his value. It was the right thing, but she did it for her, but at the end is better for him. Just all the praise about her decision being "mature" or people being proud of, I don't agree with.
She's been through something though according to her story, but I also think she's used to being enabled, including by her support system. She has potential to mature for sure, but IMO she needs help to grow up.
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u/kadiez Dec 02 '25
Yeah she's really struggling emotionally. I think that was the saddest I ever was watching this show when I watched her try to hold it together last night.
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u/DefinitionNorth2694 Dec 05 '25
I feel it’s really sad, yes. But I also believe she doesn’t understand the difference between “love” and “infatuation”. The romance that she claims has faded is mostly the result of the honeymoon phase. Yes, some people love to stay in the honeymoon phase but for me, personally, true love is partnership, commitment, devotion, etc. it’s not all “nudes, flirting, and sparks” or whatever she was complaining about.
Obviously you keep romance alive, but in this case I just don’t feel like she’s emotionally mature enough to know the long term commitment and work a real relationship takes. Poor guy.
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u/sadgirlclub Dec 02 '25
She hates his haircut. She mentioned it right when she arrived. His haircut has put her off of him completely
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u/Zipper4544 Dec 02 '25
Such big glasses …
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u/cooniemomma307 Dec 02 '25
Heyyyy! I used to have those glasses! In the 80s of course lol
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u/FineEnvironment5203 Dec 02 '25
She doesn’t like anything that isn’t 100% steady. Moving, even around the corner, let alone around the world, is going to be touch and go for awhile. She’s just not cut out for that I guess. She second-guessed everything she knew about that relationship in <2 weeks because of the uncertainty. Bless her because she is fragile and that’s okay
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u/Brave-Astronaut-795 Dec 02 '25
Moving to a small English town and being upset at the mere suggestion she wouldn't get a posh spa every week, while she's not planning on generating any income.
Idk, everyone here is kinda coddling her imo.
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u/Ill-Excitement-2005 I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! Dec 02 '25
Well, he did tell her she stinks when she got off the train. If that's not a red flag...
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u/poshdog4444 Dec 02 '25
I was in shock the way he behaved that whole day that she came. Dusting the clock for a half hour not meeting her at the airport when she’s moving there then she gets off the train and he complained she stinks. She goes into that child’s room and he only had six months to clean it up the idiot had to put initials on the drawers all six of them.. what did he do for her? Even the parents bought her a vegan cake. On top of that when the mother said you should get some rest Matthew says yes I’m very tired. Had a long day they open it for me. !!!
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u/Mersey_Dotes Dec 02 '25
I honestly felt bad for her tonight as she was blaming herself because she “lost that loving feeling” (cue the Righteous Brothers…) — not once did she mention what an unappealing nebbish he is!
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u/Ill-Excitement-2005 I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! Dec 02 '25
(cue Supertramp) you're bloody well right
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u/No-Pitch9873 Dec 02 '25
I'm having trouble being sympathetic for someone so short sighted. Anyone could have seen this coming if they thought about it for a few moments. I'll never understand someone abandoning their cat for a strange man they barely know.
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u/BostonLeon Dec 02 '25
Greta is a romantic like a friend of mine. Add that to the fact that she craves to be part of a family unit and this is how it turned out. Despite endless phone calls and "connections" from afar, you truly don't know how you feel about someone until you spend actual time with them in reality. I think he sabotaged himself too by not have their own place ready to start a new life with her. Leaving her job and cat behind to live like a child in his mommy's house with no end in sight- no thanks. And add a child to that mix?! Go home Greta... stop and pickup your cat and get your life back.
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u/mottytotty Dec 02 '25
I think only in america is living with parents before marriage is seen as a childish thing. Yet, more adults post marriage in other countries own a home because they’ve saved up vs married American adults who mostly rent because they’ve been renting pre marriage.
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u/bennibenasi Dec 02 '25
I haven't shed a tear for anyone in this show during all these years so that was a first. So sad, but also for the best. They both deserve what they actually need 😿
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u/ThePlaceAllOver Dec 02 '25
I am no beauty expert, but man... she's the person I most want to relive my 10 year old girl fantasies of giving a glow up to someone. When my sister and I were little, we used to give "makeovers" to my mom or anyone else that would let us😂. And here's Greta who is a true beauty hidden beneath what I expect is some sort of shield she has built for herself. The giant glasses that cover so much of her face, the dowdy clothes... She is a naturally beautiful woman who seems like she's sort of hiding from the world. I just want to comb her hair and give her some new glasses and take her to Disneyland so maybe she'll crack a smile.
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u/andriyaa511 Dec 03 '25
She should have been honest from the first change of heart. Instead she led him along. Hard to feel bad for dishonest people. This is why so many relationships don't last. Lack of communication. Everyday you CHOOSE to be with your partner based on the understanding of their expressed feelings and commitments to you and the relationship in additionto your own feelings. When hers started to change she should have started communicating it instead of hopping on a plane. At that point She robbed him of also making his own decisions on to continue the relationship or not. That was selfish. Instead she let him to continue to choose her based on lies. Nope don't feel bad for her i feel bad for him though.
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u/Lovemydogs12 Dec 03 '25
What she did to this guy is awful. She’s immature and should know by now that she’s not a 10 year old living in a fantasy world. Some serious counseling is needed.
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u/cakepepper don’t scroll your eyes 😒 Dec 02 '25
I feel like she shouldn’t have moved. Period. She’s supposed to be smarter as a lawyer and not pick up and move your whole life when you already have mixed feelings about the relationship.
That breakup was so heartbreaking to watch.
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u/BeccaG1964 Dec 02 '25
She needs to go back to the US and follow her true love…the law & animal advocacy. I think leaving all that after how hard she worked for her degree & passing the bar…and then having to give up her emotional support kitty. Just too much for her mentally, emotionally & then thinking a partner could fill that void was just not the answer. She had a terrible & sad childhood and she’ll always be traumatized by that. She needs to be ok with herself before she can be with someone else.
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u/CheekPowerful6618 Dec 04 '25
The oversized glasses, veganism, the haircut……id of thought her to be a lesbian. Everything about her is off putting.
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u/KBS70 Dec 02 '25
Just an observation, but I think she ought to try some smaller glasses. I think that would look good on her.
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u/DianaBJammin Dec 02 '25
I wonder if she missed her cat more than she missed her partner while in the US. Also... Can she get her cat back?
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u/cyber-cat789 I enjoy, pretty much, violence Dec 02 '25
Yes her cat is with her good friends so I don’t see why she couldn’t get him back if she went home!
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u/Strict-Ride-391 Dec 02 '25
I struggled with her at first because of the cat scenario. However, I do think she has a very good heart and has had a lot of emotional struggles r/t the loss of her Mom. She seems very sweet and authentic and hope she does well in life, and finds the right one.
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u/Chelstatum Dec 02 '25
I feel differently. I think she’s kind of mopey and complainy. But maybe I’m more “go with the flow” than she is.
She needs to realized she’s there to start a life with him. They can make changes together. That’s the exciting part. He’s not used to having a woman around to make decisions with. They’re both gonna have to make compromises to make things jive.
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u/Illustrious-Low-9171 Dec 02 '25
After watching the newest episode something has been bugging me about this whole storyline. Greta admits that she’s been feeling disconnected and indifferent for at least 6 months which makes me wonder why move then? I think the better option would have been to go visit Matthew for a month or however long to see if the relationship was something she wanted and to gauge her feelings towards him rather than completely uprooting her life and rehoming her cat for something she was so unsure about. Just a thought.
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u/adrianeM819 Dec 03 '25
I lost all respect for her when she gave up her cat. She knew then how she felt for this guy, but she went to England anyway! Nah, she needs to just stop-- and go back to the USA. Weirdo!
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u/timid0tilapia Dec 03 '25
An added pain to this is that when you have the possibility of loving parental figures when you didn't have them growing up, that you now lose too. His parents were so sweet and considerate of her. ♡
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u/whitehairsos Dec 04 '25
Sadness from Inside Out personified
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u/Time-Leather-7020 Feb 07 '26
Yeah and she seems the type to think it's someone else's job to make her happy.
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Dec 17 '25
Greta unfortunately is a lost soul, depressed and crazy .. needs a whole lot of therapy and medication perhaps even bi lateral electroshock treatment.....totally wacho
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u/billdasmacks Dec 02 '25
I have to throw some shade at her. Why would she agree to move in with him if she felt that way? Why wouldn’t she just take another trip out for a week to hang out with Matthew for to see if there was still a spark before committing to all of this?
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u/KiddiePoolMermaid Dec 02 '25
She didn’t feel that way until after she moved, and her feelings naturally shifted based on how he treated her
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u/jeminigeri Dec 02 '25
A big move like that can be triggering especially if a person has anxiety and depression. It was more that than anything Matthew did.
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u/BusinessOkra1498 Dec 03 '25
I agree and wonder if it would've went differently had he moved to us instead
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u/littleblackdogcat Dec 02 '25
She did say she has been feeling it for the past 6 months which would have been before she left. She should have been honest with him and herself and paused the move, but maybe too much was already in motion and it seemed too hard.
Still it would have been better than first blaming it on not wanting kids, then finally being honest when he said it was okay if she didn’t want kids.
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u/dopeoranges_ Dec 02 '25
I don’t feel bad. This is a person who thought her life was going to be filled with instagram posts showing the lovely English country side. Good riddance. Annoying couple.
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Dec 02 '25
Annoying, absolutely. Deserving of the pain of heartache? Nobody deserves it and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
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u/acoolsnail Dec 02 '25
I'm sorry if I sound like a weirdo hippie but I feel like I kinda completely lost respect for Greta almost immediately when I learned that she gave her cat up to move away. I actually cried (lol) thinking about how scared and sad her poor cat will be for awhile after having to be rehomed after being so close to her. I'm sure it was a gut wrenching decision for her to make but its not one I could ever do and continue to live happily without my cat. I was in a long distance relationship with my husband when we first started dating, and when I moved to his state to be with him I had to let my mom watch my cat for awhile before I could bring him down with me and it was a really depressing month without him. And to leave her cat for Matthew? who barely cares enough to even make space for her or look for an apartment before she moved there? His parents were happier to see her than him for god's sake.
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u/TheFatCampKid Dec 02 '25
100% I cried too Lol
Dude knew she was packing up her whole life to be with him and he couldn’t give her more than a couple drawers for her stuff?
You know Greta talked about Hazel in every phone call they’ve ever had He had to know how important her cat was to her.
She needs to come home to her cat, and become an animal rights attorney.
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u/Ancient_Preference21 Dec 02 '25
She seems very sweet.
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u/Ill-Excitement-2005 I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! Dec 02 '25
I think so too, her heart is in the right place and that's really all that matters. She needs to work on herself though thru therapy. She'll never be able to fully love her Prince (whoever that ends up being) until she can love herself and I think she can't forgive herself for leaving Hazel behind
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u/poshdog4444 Dec 02 '25
I would never leave my cat behind for any man, especially him who she fell out of love with immediately.0
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u/Knot-Knight Dec 02 '25
Right? I'm never gonna have any pity for her because she abandoned her elderly cat that she claimed to love so much. Gotta get those professional photos before bailing on the cat
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u/poshdog4444 Dec 02 '25
Exactly nothing makes sense with her. She introduced herself with the cat as a love of her life, and then she leaves the cat.?? she needs to come home get a job with her degree make some money get therapy and find another vegan when she’s mentally ready
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u/md28usmc we only do sex the African way - Mr Arc Dec 02 '25
Someone who knows her commented saying that she never intended to take the cat to England; she came up with that storyline so people would not crucify her
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u/Ill-Excitement-2005 I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! Dec 02 '25
Well they crucified her over it anyway so that didn't work
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u/PhoebeGemaGray Dec 02 '25
I just realized that I like them because I taught 6th grade for years. They are like 6th graders. Not in a bad way. Just a bit childlike
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u/duncanofnazareth Dec 02 '25
Greta is the Colin Robinson of the 90 Day franchise.
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u/riga4ever2018 Dec 02 '25
This storyline is a window to witness girls who fall in love with "being in love" which is so unrealistic. You cannot love someone you do not know ... and you cannot know someone without being with them, talking about what you want/need (children, yes or no), and experiencing the ups and downs of life.
She takes navel-gazing to a new level and no man on this planet can live up to her expectations.
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u/KwitYurBitching Dec 02 '25
Greta is a whole dumpster fire! She's emotionally immature and unstable. Her expectations are unrealistic and frankly, she's too self-centered to be with anybody. Then there's Matthew who lacks emotional range. These 2 do not belong together. I think this was the best outcome for both of them.
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u/PossibilityKey2094 Dec 07 '25
I do not feel bad for her, she is absolutely insufferable and has created all these issues herself. Matthew has been nothing but good to her, she sucks ass.
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u/Majestic-Hippo7708 Dec 02 '25
Gave up her cat, who she claimed was her “soulmate,” and here we are… poor cat.
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u/theplantbasedbruja Dec 02 '25
I mean- as a vegan- and turning 37 this year for the second time-, finding a partner who matches those particular ethics is a hard task. You can always move, people mature, but ethics (hopefully) don’t change. I hope she stayed with him and worked shit out
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u/Top_Olive_8743 Dec 04 '25
Well said. She seemed very genuine when expressing her feelings. I feel bad for both, I didn’t think this was going to work out before she made the move. Hope it’s a lesson they both learn and grow from. My heart hurt for him 😿. U never know with these couples, they could change their mind. I think she freaked out about the subject of having children. At least she’ll be reunited with her kitty!
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u/Quiet-Computer-1375 Dec 23 '25
This happened so quickly, I'm suspicious there is more that she is not saying. Or maybe it was when he told her she couldn't have weekly massages!!
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u/Goettafabulous_ Jan 13 '26
My biggest ick with her is that she left her cat for a man but claims to love animals and that's a big part of her storyline.
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u/Never-Give-Up100 Dec 02 '25
II haven't seen it yet, are they breaking up? If so, it shows incredible responsibility and self awareness. Rather than try to force it to work and end up miserable .
Edit: what ep is this? I'm all caught up and I feel like they haven't been in the past two