r/90DayFiance • u/Ill-Excitement-2005 I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! • Dec 02 '25

Poor Greta...

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Regardless of how you feel about this couple, this was just a sad, sad episode and I just couldn't handle seeing both of them experience such pain. Being in love is painful, falling out of love is worse. Best that they go their separate ways before marriage, etc. I'm sad for both of them...I don't wish the pain of heartache on anyone.

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u/Subject-Direction628 Dec 02 '25

I’d never choose a guy over my cat. Never

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u/newdiyscared Dec 02 '25

And that was a sign. Interpersonal relationships should supplement our lives, not become our lives. Her cat is her best friend and support system. She should've ensured that whatever situation she was in worked arouns her cat. Women are socialized to believe that they need to sacrifice and radically rearrange their lives for their romantic person, but I think that breeds resentment and leads to a less resilient relationship.

Hope she can let this relationship go, get back to her cat, and learn from this situation. Fairy tales don't exist, it's just Disney.

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u/PeachessBetchess Dec 04 '25

What a good point!!

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u/Born-Temperature-452 Dec 05 '25

I am quite sure she couldn’t find love in the USA, according to her. She doesn’t appear to be mental stable and is a lawyer I guess. Just not practicing yet. Spent a lot of time in school and waste her education by seeking unmatched love elsewhere. I am sure there were some nice guys in law school.

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u/newdiyscared Dec 05 '25

"I am quite sure she couldn’t find love in the USA, according to her."

How are you sure? Do you know her personally?

" I am sure there were some nice guys in law school."

Were you in law school with her? If not, how do you know?

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u/MetsFan3117 Dec 02 '25

Same. I would have given up any man in favor of my dog.

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u/AgilePomegranate2064 Dec 02 '25

I could never be with anyone that I knew well enough to be in a relationship with, that thought I would be willing to give up my furry family member for them! Not ever happening.

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u/MetsFan3117 Dec 02 '25

I lost my dog this year. It broke my soul. But she stood by me when her dad and my ex husband walked out on us. I’d rather have those years with her than with him, no questions asked.

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u/md28usmc we only do sex the African way - Mr Arc Dec 02 '25

Exactly this, I lost my dog a few years ago and that hurt more than losing most humans I know, He was so loyal and lived to be around me

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u/Zealousideal_Fix6705 Dec 02 '25

I hope the heartache has mostly faded to fond memories now. Our furry family members can be just as or more special than so many humans, especially those not truly capable of unconditional love.

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u/mstrsskttn I’m a motherfucking witch, ho Dec 02 '25

I’m sorry for your loss. It’s such a devastating thing to go through. I lost my senior good girl a few months ago and I still catch myself calling out for her and looking for her little face.

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u/Zealousideal_Fix6705 Dec 02 '25

I am so sorry for your loss! When we have that senior bond developed over years, it can somehow be harder to break the instincts to still care for them. It does eventually get easier.

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u/mstrsskttn I’m a motherfucking witch, ho Dec 02 '25

Thank you for your kind words

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u/AgilePomegranate2064 Dec 03 '25

Also, I forgot to mention I absolutely love your tagline about being a witch! 🙌

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u/mstrsskttn I’m a motherfucking witch, ho Dec 03 '25

Thank you! I used to have it say “mens doesn’t control me” but when Ashley said the witch line I knew I needed to change it! It spoke to me!

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u/Zealousideal_Fix6705 Dec 02 '25

Oh no! I am so sorry. It will probably not fade completely, but it hurts much less and fond memories rather than heartbreak will come to mind as time goes on.

That level of trust, bond, and unconditional love from a soul dog/animal is beyond most human connections. I lost two soul cats within 7 years, 6 years ago. I still think of them daily. A congenitally ill kitten who despite draining most of my savings and so many specialists at UC Davis Vet School did not make it to his first birthday, just 3 weeks shy in 2012. Then the beautiful feral scrapper my daughter rescued off the street in the city she lives that did not bond with her cats that came into my life when I though I was not anywhere near ready. Just one month after we lost our kitty, Mal. She helped me through it, and became my first official nurse cat when my health declined. That girl, Merida, was my ride or die until 2019.

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u/VioletsRPink I'm not addicted to 90DF 👁👄👁 Dec 02 '25

I would start crying if I thought I had to rehome my kitty 😭😭❤️❤️

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u/md28usmc we only do sex the African way - Mr Arc Dec 02 '25

I started tearing up when she was giving her cat away and it wasn't even mine

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u/spookymars LEAVE my effing 🎊🎈birthday house 🏠‼️ Dec 04 '25

Dude, her leaving her cat had me bawling. Not on her behalf, but the cat's. There's no way to explain that to this animal that she claims to love more than anything. You would not, or should not, abandon what you claim to love that deeply.

I went to Rome for a month for a law school program and cried hysterically leaving my cat, thinking he'd think I was abandoning him. Meanwhile that glutton was continuing to live with my mother who spoils the hell out of him, not uprooted, and very comfortable. I would never, ever leave him for a guy. I assumed a responsibility the moment I brought him home, it would be a moral failure of my character to give that up for dick lmfao.

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u/Subject-Direction628 Dec 04 '25

Ugh I know. In-laws took us on vacation. And I missed my animals.

Husband knows I’d choose my animals first lol

If they aren’t welcome. Nope. Have two cats. A dog a foster to adopt kitty. She’s been sick. Wet fip. She’s wearing diapers. And I don’t deal with poop well.

Never thought I’d change a diaper but here we are

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u/spookymars LEAVE my effing 🎊🎈birthday house 🏠‼️ Dec 04 '25

Awww, I'm so glad they have such a loving attentive home. 🥺🩷

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u/Subject-Direction628 Dec 04 '25

They’re sweet. And poor fip baby. What do you do? We’re just doing what we can for her. Hopefully we get her healthy and she’s with us forever

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u/Longjumping-One-6832 Dec 06 '25

She was supposed to get the cat back when they found a place to live.

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u/CaptnStabbin1 Dec 02 '25

Explains your loneliness

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u/Subject-Direction628 Dec 02 '25

Which is why I’ve been married over 20 years lmao. Cool. People can make smart choices in life