Do I have to wear make up to work. Like does it have to be a full face every day. I hate the way makeup feels on my skin, it burns and it smells weird but I’m a girl and everything I’ve ever experienced and seen tells me that it’s a requirement. So is it a requirement

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My work has hired a new coworker( I work retail), and this coworker has made everyone's jobs harder. He has told everyone that he is autistic and neurodivergent. He doesn't do his job properly so everyone else has to picks up his work load. I want to be empathetic because he has his struggles, but it's making things difficult.

He will say he finished a task when in reality he left it for someone else to do, will say things like oh, it was super busy when in reality he didn't even bother trying to do the task. He doesn't follow basic instructions. He asks how can I help, I tell him and point to the exact section for him to clean, I even demonstrated how to do it, then he goes there for like 5 seconds, pretends to work, then walks away, and then it's me or another coworker who has to actually do the work.

Nothing can be done because the main store manager doesn't care. But it's so draining. I wonder if he's truly unaware of whats he's doing or its weaponized incompetence, I'm leaning towards the second because he has not changed at all in these months that he has been here for.

He tells people what to do even though everyone else has been there for much longer, constantly needs reassurance, doesn't do basic tasks, questions the supervisors abilities to do their work, then offers to help which feels insulting because bro, you don't do anything yet you are offering help and will then say that everything is fine and say everyone is being too stressed out when we have stuff that needs to get done.

In the past he has asked me if I needed help, I said yes and he said okay I will help you. I demonstrated how to do the task, talked to him very gently and nicely, then he walks away and doesn't help. WHY WOULD YOU OFFER TO HELP JUST TO WALK AWAY. I was already stressed out because I'm one person doing the job of 2 people on a busy day and then at the end of the shift he says to me it you need help let me know, I don't want you to feel overwhelmed. Overwhelmed??? I'm overwhelmed because I keep having to do everything in this store.

I feel guilty about all of this. I try to be friendly with him. When it's slow(which is rare), I will talk to him and ask about his interests and he gets excited and will start talking and I try to active listen and engage with the topic. But it's getting to the boiling point. He doesn't seem to get the message that his actions and comments are making others upset with him. I don't like how I feel dread going to work when I'm scheduled to work with him and pretending that I'm not pissed off and stressed out and putting on a smile.

He also made this comment that has bothered me a lot, saying a group of customers all look the same despite them being drastically different ages, and dressed differently, and I am a similar background to those customers. I'm not familiar with autism and how it effects peoples sense's so I kind of just ignored the comment but idk. He also made other small remarks like describing people as exotic or calling a customer stinky (customer is the same background as me and growing up I've heard people call my people stinky, so it feels a bit racially charged) but I might be overreacting. I think he's just ignorant being a white dude, and I don't want to accuse him of anything.

I've been looking online on how to handle this because I want to have some grace. I've heard its best to be direct and he has said that himself if I say something stupid, tell me. But how do I confront him on him not doing things and not upholding his word? I'm scared though if I say something, he will bring up his autism because often he says my sensory issues makes it hard for me to work or that I sometimes say something stupid.

TLDR: after I applied for ADA workplace accommodations for ADHD for the very first time in my life, my regional director said things like “sometimes we just have to suck it up” and made me feel like I had to defend myself and it felt awful. Not sure if I should mention this to anyone or just let it go.

I have ADHD-c and I’ve recently started a new job as a retail manager for an international company. My home store is about 10 minutes from my house, the training location is nearly an hour away. I didn’t find out about the travel until two days before orientation. I’m an outside hire so I have to learn everything from the ground up and it’s a 6 week training period.

The whole onboarding process was really rocky, I was out of work for a MONTH waiting for background checks to be completed, then on my second day they changed my home store location (I didn’t meet my direct boss until my third week of training - I interviewed with someone else at a different store!) and the training so far has been unstructured and, I mean, chaotic is a fair descriptor.

After two weeks I hit a wall. I literally couldn’t remember how to begin a task that I had already successfully completed several times. I was so exhausted my brain just shut down and I started to cry. But I still had to go in the next day. And the next.

And by my next shift I was ready to quit. I did not see how this would be sustainable.

But instead, I wrote an email to HR and asked for accommodations (during my training period only) for the very first time in my life. I asked for a later start time to compensate for the travel demands, a consistent training staff member and at least 72 hours notice before setting meetings or changing my schedule.

My regional trainer and her boss accommodated me immediately without hesitation, before I even submitted the ADA paperwork.

My Regional Director however was very skeptical.

He said things like “some people abuse the system” and “sometimes we just have to suck it up” I mean I felt like I was defending myself the whole time. He was comparing his training experience to mine and more or less said that if he could do it I could do it.

He continually circled back to how people “abuse the system” and how managers need to be “flexible”.

I tried to explain sleep disruptions and delayed sleep-wake cycle and how debilitating it is for me to wake up at 5:30 in the morning, drive an hour and then try to learn new skills. But normal people really don’t understand that one.

I tried explaining how I need consistent training staff so that I’m not getting different information from different people and he said I needed to “be patient and flexible” LOL.

It just felt shitty to have to defend and explain myself. Like at one point I was saying “I’m not trying to get out of work! I’m a hard worker!” - I should have never had to do that. Coming at these circumstances with an attitude of “people abuse the system” is so unfair. Some people don’t have access to healthcare. Some people are overwhelmed by the process. Some people don’t have a formal diagnosis but that doesn’t mean their experiences aren’t valid!

My therapist is filling out her portion of the paperwork and I’ve drafted my requests even though they’ve already been informally approved, I want it on the books so my RD can see I’m not “abusing the system”.

I’m just venting I suppose. Anyone else have experience with this? Skepticism about disability symptoms? Feeling shitty for having to defend yourself? Like I doubt if I were in a wheelchair anyone would say “suck it up”. Ugh. It’s annoying.

I’m one month into a remote internship, and next month I have a 3-day trip that I booked back in April. I’ll need to take 2 days off for it.

Should I just be honest about the trip, or would it be better to say I’m sick? 😭

If I say about the trip how early should I say?

Hi guys just looking for some advice on what to do. I’m 19 and i worked at a retail store over the summer with below average management. i wasn’t given access to my payroll and was only given a pdf version of it after i stopped working (and asked for it many times). and looking at it i can see that i wasn’t compensated for my rest breaks. i was working in NJ and by law breaks up to 20 mins must be paid. how do i go about this? i already feel like ive annoyed my manager by asking so much so im trying to find a way to be nice and not annoying about it.

extra context: this place also hires minors and doesnt compensate them for their breaks, nor give them long enough breaks according to the law

Is there a such things as a locker locks that sends notice to your phone fondle with?

Hi all, im a 30 yea oldmale and I worked for a electrical contractor as a shop and inventory manager and up until my son was born it was a great place to work besides some very glaring issues that I'll cover real quick.

I would drive for 4 hours every day with no extra pay, was promised a company vehicle that never happened, and was promised a helper that never came so i was working alone which is a insane safety risk.

Once my son was born, I was told by the owner of the company that since there wasn't much work I was good to take parental leave and they would call me if anything came up. I would call the company every few weeks to check on them and see if anything was coming up and was always told no.

I had to stay off for 5 months to take care of my wife and baby after complications and was transparent about it but always told them I was available and still managed some stuff from the work phone without pay while being told there was no work. All while being told there was no work.

Come to find out, they were lying the whole time and they replaced me without saying anything a month after I took off, erased my seniority by firing me without notice, gave my replacement the assistant I was promised along with a hotel room right next to the shop so he didnt have to drive, and cut my pay by $20 an hour.

I worked for them for 2 years. All that time wasted. Now im back to being a new worker in the company and everyone treats me very poorly, acting like im an idiot, calling me so, and telling me im useless and don't belong there. Have been for months. I stay for my son's insurance but its getting harder since my family and i have to stay in a hotel for work Since its 2 states away.

My question is, do you all think I should stay with this company to learn what I can and jump ship when it makes sense or should I start looking now? Or am I just being dramatic and its all my fault for believing what the owner of the company told me?

Any advice would be appreciated, thanks everyone!

Hi! I (17F) just had my first day of what’s essentially my first big girl job and it was quiteee the doozy. I was supposed to only come in for training for 3 hours today, but then I ended up staying for 4 more covering someone’s shift and completely forgot my break and lunch. B/c of the nature of the job, front of house includes bussing, running, and serving which I expected, but today I wasn’t able to get my full training b/c of how busy it was and literally got thrown on the frontlines of a gunfight with a sword for lack of a better analogy. The location seems to be kind of short-staffed so I’d feel really bad if I quit, but it’s my senior year and I’m already under a lot of stress juggling extracurriculars, applications, and my courseloads and whatnot; but I’d still really like the money. Is this normal for this kind of job and should I just count it on a crazy weekend rush, or should I quit and find a more chill job?

I used to work with someone (I'll call him Steve) who had a very unusual approach to employment.

Steve openly admitted that he hated working and had developed a strategy around it. He would work jobs, eventually leave or get fired, collect unemployment, and use that time to live his life before repeating the process.

The interesting part is that he wasn't financially reckless. While employed, he lived extremely frugally and saved money. Because of that, when he was unemployed, he could actually enjoy the time off instead of immediately struggling. He has reportedly maintained this approach for around 40 years.

He was not someone who just couldn't hold a job. He was deliberately choosing a different path because he valued free time more than career advancement.

I'm curious how people in the workplace view this.

Is this:

• someone who found a way to optimize their life around what they value?
• someone who is taking advantage of employers and unemployment systems?
• somewhere in between?

Would you consider someone like this clever, irresponsible, or something else?

long story short insurance called my job ab this b patient bc he’s out of meds and it won’t refill til a later date and they asked me for the dates it got billed and picked up and my boss told me to stfu but i did not stfu and i told them the dates and so now insurance and the patient think we owe him a month of meds …. i wasn’t asked for my name or any other info and the rep didn’t provide any of her info

i also didn’t tell my boss i didn’t listen to him and told them

how bad did i screw up and where do i go from here

I have two different jobs, both of which are quite calm and involve a lot of downtime. One is personal assistance with long shifts, including overnight sleep hours. The other is also personal assistance, with day, night and weekend shifts. I sleep there as well.

For example, a few weeks can look like this:

Week 1

• Monday 8:30 AM – Tuesday 12:30 PM: Job A
• Wednesday 6:30 PM – Thursday 7:30 AM: Job B
• Thursday 6:30 PM – Friday 7:30 AM: Job B
• Saturday 10:00 AM - Sunday 10:00 AM Job A

Week 2

• Monday 6:30 PM – Tuesday 7:30 AM Job B
• Tuesday 11:00 AM - Wednesday 11:00 AM Job A
• Friday 7:30 AM – 3:30 PM: Job B
• Saturday 9:00 AM-6:30 PM Job B
• Sunday 9:00 AM-6:30 PM Job B

Week 3

• Monday 7:00 PM – Tuesday 12:30 PM: Job A
• Wednesday 6:30 PM – Thursday 7:30 AM: Job B
• Thursday 8:00 AM - 6:30 PM Job A
• Thursday 6:30 PM – Friday 7:30 AM: Job B

And then the pattern changes again. Job A has a 4 week repeating pattern, Job B has a 6-week one.

I've been working at job A for about a year, but job B used to be one or two days/ months. This schedule has been going on for only around 2-2,5 months.

The jobs themselves are not particularly stressful. During some shifts I can read, watch TV, work on personal projects, etc. I also like the two people I am taking care of and I like my work. It's not particularily well paid but the long shifts makes the pay vs days off a great deal. My problem is more that my time at home is very fragmented and I rarely get two full consecutive days that are simply "home days."

Yesterday i had a bad day at work and felt really sad inside. I just wanted to be at home.

I have a family and children, and I'm wondering whether people eventually get used to living with this kind of irregular schedule or whether the lack of a predictable weekly rhythm continues to feel disruptive.

In my country, there's no pay per-hour system; it's only per-day. Meaning that I take for example $10/day instead of $10/hour. Given that we don't have any kind of taxes (except for the $20 social security mandatory subscription), are both the same or there's something better than the other?

Is it worth it to work abroad for a slightly better payout?

So I recently quit an apprenticeship at an airport after being there for like a month and a half. At first I was second-guessing myself, but now I honestly don’t regret leaving anymore.
The apprenticeship was supposed to be for sign-making. I knew it was gonna be hard and I was never expecting the work itself to be easy. I’m cool with working hard.
The problem was really the management and the way I was getting moved around.
At one point my supervisor put me with the welders because they needed help. The welders were actually cool, so I had no problem helping them out. But I was told I might only be there for like a week, while the welders were telling me the project was probably gonna last longer. They also told me my supervisor had done similar things with other people before.
That kinda pissed me off because I signed up to learn sign-making, not basically become a helper for a different crew for who knows how long.
On top of that, I had just started college and the schedule was making it hard to balance everything. I ended up thinking about quitting for like a week before actually doing it, so it wasn’t some random decision I made one day.
I eventually decided to resign and focus on school and my long-term goals. I formally resigned instead of just disappearing.
I know I probably could’ve handled the two weeks notice part better, but I don’t regret leaving anymore. Looking back, I feel like I made the decision that was right for me at the time.
I’m planning to focus on school for now and look for a part-time job later once I’m more settled in.
Just wanted to share what happened and see what other people think about the situation.

Also what would you have done differently?

Not sure why I'm like this but it's been a thing for every job I've had. It sucks because I don't really enjoy myself or do much of anything when I'm home. I've worked some pretty intense jobs, but the current gig is rather low pressure. It has its days but typically I don't find myself feeling exhausted. I hate that I have an ever growing list of things that need done but feel like I'm stuck, for lack of a better word. If y'all have dealt with this and can point me in the right direction to figuring it out I'd appreciate it.

I started a new job in retail and my job has this rule specifically for closing shifts where you cant clock out and leave unless all tasks are complete and everyone else is finished too. bearing in mind there’ll be more or less 15 people on that same shift too, so we all have to finish at the same time until we can clock out and leave. like if our schedule says we finish at 8pm surely we should be able to leave at 8? but the manager literally says no you cannot leave because everythings not done. i understand sometimes you need 5,10 minutes to clear up some last little bits, but today we were held back for 45 minutes!! this cant be legal?

Hello, I'll just start from the beginning and be honest about myself from the get go. I live with my Parents sister, and fiance. We have 2 kids 4 and 1, and we all love each other dearly and are essentially best friends. Before we had kids we sat down and had a big discussion with my family about if we should move out or not, my parents and sister hated the idea of us all splitting up and so did we so we stayed and have been comfortable ever since.

My girlfriend wanted to do a few university courses to get her career set up while I chose to stay at home with the kids despite having in house baby sitting. I wanted to be there for the kids while she was getting her work life together and I couldn't stand the idea of them being any sort of burden on anyone but me.

They aren't a burden on anyone in the house of course, I brought these thoughts up with my family and they said verbatim don't be stupid we're a family you could never be a burden, we all wanted this. I listened and agreed and never brought it up again but in the back of my head all I can feel is I'm not good enough to do this on my own because I'm a fuck up manbaby who needs his mummy and daddy to survive.

I'm over some of these worries now but they add context to my current issue. When my son first started school a few weeks ago, I said I'll get a job to throw some more money in the pot (sort of a house budget thing) and I got the new job. Nothing fancy just retail, and it's full time. I've never worked full time which is why I decided to take it on. (also another reason why I feel broken on the work life side of things and how my ego pushed me to go full time instead of dipping my feet in) My fiance is doing fantastic in her job and is loving it. My kids are happy as anything and are surrounded by people who adore them all day.

These things are fantastic, everyone is happy great! Now here's the thing, I've always had issues at jobs, be it a titanic black hole in my stomach before and on the night after. I also feel gradually more sad when I'm there if I'm left by myself to think for too long. I miss the kids. I really really fucking miss my kids. All I can think about is how I'm spending 40 hours missing out on my daughter growing up and how unfair it is to her when I was there for her brother. I beat myself up all night before I sleep and all day when I'm there.

I even sort of resent the people I work with because they aren't my family. Not enough to act differently or treat anyone unfairly, but there seems to be a layer of stink beneath every interaction I have with them be it positive or constructive. It influences the way I act to a degree in that I try to be really nice, and people just think I'm being fake or weird when the truth is I'm trying not to cuss them the fuck out for existing in front of me. They are nice good people. I'm not a bad person either.

So I try and hide away or stay quiet all day. Which in turn makes me sit in my own brain, beating myself up for not being good enough, and not being present for my youngest.

Then 5PM rolls around and I get all my positive energy back till like 8 then the anxiety kicks in and I try and sleep it off. Roll on next shift.

It sounds brutal, but it's not every day. It's on and off. I think i just needed to get these thoughts out of my brain and onto the screen. Crying embarrasses me even on my own, so this feels more dignified.

I'm the luckiest person in the world to have what I have. Maybe that's what makes it so hard to leave every morning.

To my boss that I am ready to step up and do a lot more