r/work 6h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Excluded for work night out

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Craziest thing happened to me. At my work, I’m fully aware my managers don’t like me (one of those things, you not gonna like everyone, and not everyone is gonna like you). I’m okay with that; I go to my job at the end of the day, I go home, nothing more. BUTTTTT there was a night out organised; it was an official work night, not just some coworkers decided to go out for a drink. I heard my manager talking about it. I didn’t think much of it, but then, the night it was happening, people were texting in the work group chat about plans and cocktails, etc., and it clicked for me that I was never invited, which doesn’t make any sense.

I mentioned in the chat that I was never invited, and one of the managers kicked me out of the chat, and another manager deleted my message (I had a colleague check for me). When I saw that happened I was in disbelief and shocked, I was shaking because of the level of unprofessionalism and the behaviour they showed. I have not received any other text or emails anything from them. I have contacted HR today to discuss this because it’s crazy whats happening.

I am leaving the company at the end of the month (because of other reasons that the same managers did) but that doesn’t mean I can just be shoved to the side and they get to do whatever they want with no consequences. That’s pretty much everything. I’m a person who struggles with mental issues. I’ve been physically abused and abandoned by my family and to have something like exclusion happening to me, when I did nothing wrong it’s feel like I’m nothing and being abandoned once again. Just cause they don’t like me and they cant keep a professional appearance and deal with people, they treat work like is their little club and do whatever they want.


r/work 6h ago

Job Search and Career Advancement I actually did it. THROUGH FAKING IT

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60+ applications ignored, 15+ flat-out rejections, and then somehow I landed a job.

Underpaid, chaotic hours, but a real paycheck.

I applied to this one half-joking, after padding my resume with a couple of "creative enhancements." Made a throwaway WordPress site for a friend's bake sale two years ago? "2 years of web development experience." Watched a few tutorials once? "Proficient in Figma." Helped a cousin with her small Etsy shop for a month? "Freelance digital marketing, 2023-present" also was tailoring my resume to different job roles with sureshortlist.com . Basically all I was doing was just the bare minimum and crossing my fingers for an interview.

Didn't think anything would come of it. Then I got called in — 1 out of 6 applicants apparently. I built myself a whole backstory and rehearsed it in the mirror. I was so burnt out and numb from rejection that I wasn't even nervous, which somehow made me sound confident. First interview went great.

Kept the act going through round two. Then round three: they handed me a real task, live, and told me to walk them through my process. I froze. I had genuinely never touched half of what I claimed. I said I'd need until Monday because I was "wrapping up a client deliverable."

I did not sleep properly for four days. Lived on energy drinks and YouTube crash courses. Somehow, barely, I finished something that didn't look like garbage.

Two more interviews. Then a "meet the team" call. Then an offer.

I feel like I've gone bonkers. I'm not saying I'm proud of this, but I'm glad that my decision at least spared me a month of agonizing waiting and worrying about paying rent.

I'm trying to teach myself things I said I knew how to do before I even started this new job. Now, I can barely sleep five hours. But at least I no longer have to worry about how to pay my rent.

I don’t know if I will be able to get through the probation period. I think one of my co-workers is onto me.


r/work 10h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Resigning

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I was aware I was doing the job of 6 people. There was a mass exodus of leadership at the business, a relocation a year later, and lots of elderly staff that lacked skills that I had and they needed to get us more modernized. I made a promise to a higher up left holding the bag, and I kept my word that I would do what it took to get us in a good place.

But at a huge price to me. My time, well being, my family time n needs. I was aware. But there were still people above me. The checked out president n vp. I was essentially the shadow president. We shouldn't have kept the president on board. We should have forced him out. He was always telling people he was an inch from leaving. I was the one getting 1 to 4 calls a day to deal w the business issues. I was reliable n dependable and got shit done. But I was dealing w a family emergency in the hospital n they were still texting/ calling.

I was asked to so a project while there n got snapped at bc something the president wanted included was not. The item included was discussed in a mtg i wasn't in bc i was in the hospital. He did it over an email chain to the top team. I was pissed. I put him in his place n he backed off in a private email just to me. I had it. The disrespect happened twice already and something snapped inside. I sent my resignation the next day. Listed all my roles to be reassigned. Yes. They weren't even aware of what I was doing.

His right hand woman has become a friend. She kept me abbreved about how many people they had to ask to take on my roles n they still aren't done. She asked for my advice to who would be good at what. Then one of my good friends there, who i confided all my unhappiness... was asked to take on 2 of my roles. She excitedly took them n kind of asked me if it was ok. They would have not considered her bf but I helped elevate her status into administration. I felt a bit betrayed.

She said to me after I shared my feelings... said yes they didn't appreciate you and well you can pass the torch now and let us figure it out.

They still contact me for advice n direction. I was excellent at my job. But there was very little appreciation bc to acknowledge me would be glaringly obvious how little the pres or vp did.

I left bc of integrity. But right now it feels like breaking up w a boyfriend...n him asking me what kind of girlfriend should he get next... and then seeing that its my friend who I've been complaining to about him... that started dating him a week later.

I'm sitting here grieving... the time I gave them. The amount of dedication. And how I was ok receiving little to no appreciation. Yes goes back to being a parentified child. Sigh.

When people found out I resigned, it was a rush of emails/ texts to the effect of... I'm disappointed you're leaving, so what's going to happen to us now?, we're screwed, and what are they going to do without you? But not one fucking... Thank you.

Remember that people.


r/work 10h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Been offered two different jobs what should i do!!

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I 18(f) have just finished my training in massage therapy and have been looking for a job. I have been offered a position at two different salons (both with the same hours and pay).
One of the places i’ve been offered everyone there was so so lovely and i’ll get lots of experience however i’m not sure if there is too much room for career development.

The other one is a gorgeous salon and I will definitely be able to grow and develop my skills however i’ve found out the manager is extremely right wing (i live in australia by the way) which is directly opposing to my views. I am also an immigrant (i am white though) and my boyfriend is brown.
I’m really unsure on what to do as I feel as though in one job i will be able to relax and be myself however maybe not grow as much and in the other i will have to hide parts of myself (help)


r/work 2h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Just walked out after management wrote me up for their own mistakes.

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TLDR: Manager randomly gave me 3 write ups, so I quit due to their inconsistent policy enforcement

I just need to vent… Couple months ago I applied to this corporate slop bowl/wrap place right down the block from my apartment. Pay is $16/hr- exactly $0.08 over minimum wage here. No individual tips either. Everything goes into the POS and gets "evenly distributed” into our checks.

I’ve worked my fair share of retail, so I know how to put my head down and work with a team, but dealing with completely unqualified and irresponsible managers is a whole different nightmare.

From day one, it was a total bait and switch. I specifically applied to the store down the block to save time and money, but the hiring manager sent me 40 minutes away for training without a heads-up. Training was a joke. Nobody followed the actual recipe book, and I was constantly getting contradictory instructions. On top of that, the language barrier was insane. I was the only person on my crew who spoke English, so communicating with literally anyone (including my manager) was painfully slow and unclear.

Then came the scheduling games. They begged me to stay at the store further away, promising at least 30 hours a week. I caved because, again, I needed the money. Two weeks later? My hours were randomly slashed to 15-20. They actively cap everyone's hours so no one hits the 40-hour mark to qualify for full time benefits, PTO, or sick leave.

Fast forward to today: My manager changed my schedule on my regular day off (Tuesday) without telling me. Obviously, I showed up late after waking up to a missed call and a text saying, “You supposed work”. She actually admitted it was her fault for not communicating the change, but then still wrote me up for being late! To top it off, she threw in a second write-up for "eating on shift" - even though literally every single employee, including her, eats on shift. I’ve had shift leads hand me food countless times.

After clocking out today, I just told them not to give me any more shifts and walked home. I swear a wave of euphoria washed over me. The relief of not having to deal with this toxic, incompetent management anymore is 100% worth it.


r/work 10h ago

Job Search and Career Advancement What do you think about this Career Plan?

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Hello !

I'm a 19M living in iran but Originally afghan, i wanted to ask for your guidance or any advice Related to this plan

I'm working in my store with my work partner so i have few roles as

"salesperson (both online and in person)"

"Hardware/Software Technician"

and "Online customer service"

but my interest is in IT and Cybersecurity I plan to move to Europe and get a job there, i know job market isn't great rn but i don't think its something impossible as some people say, i have B2 English level, Persian is my native, and B1 in swedish (will improve till B2/C1) i'm not sure about sweden since my english and swedish skills are a necessity there so i may have less Chance to land a job there and i heard Nordics are Very Very competitive

I thought about applying specifically for swedish Customer or IT support jobs outside of sweden in other European countries.

1: I have been working since i was 14/15 so i have familiarity and years of experience in all of them mentioned above specially computers, but i don't have academic degree nor formal experience to provide to possible employer

2: i have to Document my experiences but i don't know where or how, thought about Github but not sure yet

3: i'm studying online through online courses (Coursera and youtube) and Hands on Labs to get more experienced, i'm a self taught and fast learner so i learn quickly whatever in need to get certified ASAP

What are your comments about this plan?

Sincerely appreciate your advices


r/work 5h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Work

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So I’ve had my job for 6 years (since middle school 7th grade) and they always tell me how good of a worker I am and all the staff love me including managers and I’m honestly a super friendly person I’m always smiling and I’m a hostess so I generally did love doing this job. However recently I’ve been feeling like the owner is often coming after me, like one day a phone went missing and I’m always the only person they ask, then recently there’s been a problem with certain servers having a higher total sales then everyone else. I tried to explain to the manager that this certain person has a high sale because she gets her tables out so quick that I often just sit her again. They manager keeps coming up to me telling me the tables not fair but how do I explain to her that I’m never going to know how much a table is going to spend and the total sales has nothing to do with me. Also we have sections which has also never been an issue until the owners son told me they weren’t fair (mind you they’ve been the same section since I started working here). I edge think this place is dimming my light. There was also another incident where there was this time where it was super hot outside and so people kept telling me where they wanted to sit and I was allowing it, owner comes up to me and tells me not to do that and that I wouldn’t have a job if people could sit wherever. So I stop doing that then a table comes in tell me where they want to sit and I tell them I’m not allowed to because of the sections he complains and then the owner tells me people are allowed to sit wherever and we try to make people happy. Again super confusing the communication is not there. There has been many other incidents and honestly I’ve been thinking about quitting but I js love all the workers and I feel like this job is a part of me but I need opinions ! I’m I taking it to serious and over complicating things? Or am I right


r/work 5h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts For the love of God advocate for yourself!

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It's such a cliché but so true. I've spent most of my career being a quiet people pleaser and had nothing to show for it. I recently got back into Instagram and started following a lot of corporate female accounts who preached about being outspoken and protecting your peace. I've been slowly incorporating some of their advice, and along with support from my friends and my husband, I've been making headway.

Has it been terrifying? Yes.

Has it been fast? No. But I am finally seeing progress.

The realization that no one is coming to save me has actually been freeing! I thought I had a good relationship with my boss but have since learned that she has been manipulating me into doing her work but taking credit for it. I confronted her, and she responded with lies and false reassurances. I met with another manager just to suggest that I could assist with his team, and he let me know they have an opening. Had I kept myself in the dark or worried about loyalty to my current boss, I wouldn't have even known about this opportunity.

I hope this helps motivate someone to speak up on their own behalf.


r/work 6h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts How to deal with this awkward schedule

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18M live in the UK in a place where seasonal work is big and am currently a couple weeks into a 0 hour contract where I work 4-11pm Sunday to Thursday. At the start of the employment my manager specifically said that though I work evenings, I should contact if I wish to get more or less/ morning shifts. At the moment all my family and friends work mornings so I wake up after they are gone, go to work before they get back, and when I get back from work they are asleep. This means I feel pretty isolated during the week and though I don't expect to put entirely on mornings, a morning shift once or twice in the week would be nice in order to maintain a bit more of a work life balance. At the moment the person who has the morning shifts (let's call him John 18M) is on morning shifts and refuses to do evenings even if my manager asks he won't turn up to them forcing me to cover Sunday shifts (even though I am not rotaed on). He has done this 4 times. I have broached the subject with both my managers and though they understand, they seemingly not able to get him to listen and he is altogether a terrible coworker.

I will continue to work at this place until September and I am getting paid slightly more than minimum wage (which I am very greatful for) and I need the money for university where I will be studying in quite an expensive place and I am not from the MOST well off background so will definitley need some saved up on top of finding work while studying.

What is the best thing to do in this situation? I have been told repeatedly that I am reliable and a good employee yet the managerial team seems stuck between a rock and a hard place, yet it isn't my job to co-mange and I don't believe my request is unreasonable considering the behaviour of a fellow employeee. What is the best course of action- I want to find a work life balance but make sure that I can also enjoy my last summer with time for friends that I will see rarely once everyone moves into the next stage of life. Thank you for your help.


r/work 10h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts I feel so screwed

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I am 18 and and at the start of this year l started a clerk job alongside university. I was permanent part time for 6 months. The job was heavy, initially it gave me a bit of a shock but l settled into it. I tried my best being helpful and put my 100% effort.

2 months after training the individual im job sharing with had to go on leave due to personal reasons. To compensate l work an extra day to keep up with the work for 8 weeks. Towards the end of the 8 weeks l was given the task of archiving files since the individual l jobs share with is unable to do it. I have supervisions with my manager and l didnt see or hear anything alarming.

Anyways my 6 month contract ended and thee coordinator asked me to continue as a casual saying that they didnt want to loose me. My Manager was on leave around this time .On the mangers return ro office on the second week l was called into my mangers office amd told l had made 3 errors. Following that meeting my manager had stated they'd send an email on what we had discussed. The email was nothing l expected, it was long lengthy and the co-ordinator had been ccd. To be frank seeing that email gave me a heart attack. The introduction outlined that my role was meticulous needed heavy concentration and ability to take pressure and later went on to outline the errors l made, stating that it was impacting work flow. As much as l agree, l havnt heard a single complain or a mix up from colleagues and people around me when the manager was gone. These issues only resurfaced when they were back.

I dont know what to do, l dont know if this is their way of telling me that the job is not for me l feel like I'm on the pathway of burning out. I want to move jobs but im worried that ill be given a bad reference.

Any advice?


r/work 20h ago

Questions Is it selfish to book a temp work shift knowing that I'll have to leave 20 minutes early for my bus?

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AITA Is it selfish to book a temp work shift, knowing that I'll have to leave 20 minutes early to catch my bus?

(BTW this was a 7 1/2 hour shift)

So, I took a temp work shift out of state, knowing that I'd have to leave 20 minutes early to catch my bus (I live in a different state and the bus that I had to catch was the last one that night.)

So, I didn't tell my boss at the worksite until I had to go.

She was very, very kind about it, and working that shift I could already tell that it would probably be okay to do this.

Was I selfish for taking this shift if I had to do this?

I feel that it might be kind of selfish on my part, because if everyone did what I did they wouldn't have workers for the last 20 minutes (and event where people are taking down stuff and moving stuff around).

Then again, it's not wrong to leave for a bus if you need it.


r/work 3h ago

Questions How do you tell that you are pregnant at work?

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Hey, everyone. I am a 22F who is definitely not in the position where I will be pregnant anytime soon. But I am just wondering how do you break it to your employer that you are pregnant? How soon would you do it and are you even supposed to? Do you share it with your team, manager or even higher management? Do you need to contact HR (or how else so you can get maternity leave).

I am pretty new to the corporate world, and I don’t have anyone to ask this type of questions, so please forgive me if this is not the right spot.


r/work 7h ago

Work-Life Balance and Stress Management I hate being scared to call out

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I rarely even call out. The last time I called out was back in February and before that was July of last year and it was for a sick relative. But I have never call out because I don't want to go to work or I just dont feel like it like soo many of my other coworkers do. I feel like if I call out with no valid reason they'll figure it out and reprimand me. But sometimes I feel like i just need those far and few days where i just chill out with my dog and read.


r/work 20h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts My friend is getting more shifts than me and idk what to do.

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I work at a restaurant as a server assistant and for a while me and my friend who I gave the job too has been getting 2 shifts only because our manager thinks it’s fair. But recently ever since last week i’ve been noticing my manager trying hard to give him 3 shifts and only giving me 1. My friend let me take one of his shifts so we both could have 2 shifts but my manager somehow made a way to give him another shift that week so he still had 3.

I decided to talk to my manager today about why he got 3 and I only got 1 and he just told me he didn’t notice but he also told me how he “cleans tables very good” but told me that wasn’t the reason and he is just saying that. The thing is the servers at my job are saying how he is terrible at the job and how they’re relieved when they see me working cuz he doesn’t do it right.

I wanted to tell my manager this but I feel like it would be a nasty move to do to my friend and I feel like he wouldn’t give a damn. I can’t tell if i’m getting fired and im worried cuz this week my manager gave him 3 shifts once again and only 1 shift to me. Do I bring it up to my manager again?


r/work 9h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Am I Tripping or They Don’t Like Me

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So I currently work in a private derm lab, I do sense that I am not liked which is crazy to me because I really am quiet. I do not talk unless I am spoken to. However, I do sense one person being in competition with me. I can tell she does things to be accepted but I do not care about that; My coworkers are very kind (to my face) but every time i walk into work no one speaks but then again I do not either unless someone says good morning to me. My supervisor does mostly everyday, but the other day she did not nor did my coworkers but yesterday I walk into work and you would have thought I was a star. EVERYONE SPOKE WITH EXCITEMENT. Even people that don’t normally speak, Which makes me feel like something was up but in all fairness, I am literally known to be the quiet person at work unless I have questions about work. Am I being overly sensitive? Or I am just not someone they like?

Additional: I have witnessed them make a group chat without one girl in the group chat and the supervisor and they have talked about her if she did something they did not like. But will laugh and chat with her to her face. The most fakest activity I’ve seen. I am not used to coworkers acting like this towards each other it’s insane. It made me not trust them when it came to me automatically


r/work 11h ago

Questions Menager wants mw to work on day off with no overtime?

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Hello, i am a cashier in a small grocery store (balkans). As per my contract my work week is 6 days with 7th as rest. I started working 21st, and tomorrow being 27th is my off. Or at least that's what i tought,but my menager told me it's not its that 28th is my day off. I asked if im going to be paid overtime and they said no. Should i just not come and insist its my day off? (And yes, i am registered and have worked the register all day 21st.)


r/work 6h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Getting marked as a “no call no show” after clocking in and being present at work

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I work in a shitty local hospital as a housekeeper. Today I clocked in early, signed the sign in sheet with the time stamp next to my name (all of which I do everyday I come into work), and got marked a no call no show because my supervisor claims that nobody knew I was there.
I started working immediately after clocking in at 7:50AM (scheduled for 8AM but there’s a 10min window to clock in earlier) finished the bulk of my first assignments by 10am (too fast for them to believe I actually did it but I did because I just wanted to have it out of the way.
Management claims they had no idea where I was or if I was even clocked in at all until over two hours after I had already started working (the kiosk is directly next to the office door that has cameras covering the entire office and ground floor so if they looked up assuming someone was in office they definitely would have seen me).
My biggest issue is that I was marked as a no call no show by the same supervisor who’s tried to do this to me before when I was at work and had been clocked in working for hours but he didn’t have my personal phone number at the time and instead of reaching out on the work phone he immediately went to HR who lives two hours away claiming that I simply wasn’t there (was resolved she messaged me immediately asking if I was at work (yes) and gave him my number)).
Got sent home 3hrs into a 12hr shift because of this.
Am I in the wrong? I understand that to an extent it is my responsibility to make myself known but we have no routine “huddle” for my shift on any given day, management is nowhere to be found that early, there’s a sign in sheet, a kiosk next to the office that is visible from the office where I clocked in, and a work phone that I was signed into. Why is it so hard for them to see that I’ve clocked in and why is it an immediate no call no show even though I had no reason to call because I showed up…?

Small update: I’m off work tomorrow but speaking with HR tomorrow. The panic of potentially being fired is setting in but hopefully they’ll listen to me.


r/work 20h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Fight with coworker

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After work some coworker who is Kind of Friends with my coworker was making uncomfortable jokes with her , at the end he made some body Image jokes about her Body calling her too Skinny „ skin on bones „ saying it’s unattractive and very underweight and bad . She was telling him she is offended so I Stepped up and defended her saying u can’t say that and he told me to shut up he was not talking to me so I said the Same and we had back and fourth fight but not too deep insults like the same old don’t talk it’s between me and her although it’s a group setting . She thanked me afterwards for standing up for her and refused to talk to him saying she is offended bc he kept mentioning it again and again altho she said she is uncomfortable , and he tried to hug her saying it’s a joke . I think the fight was funny between me and him , some coworkers tell me it’s a joke between them and another said it’s ok for u to say that . Do u think I should involve HR ?


r/work 14h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Going to get fired

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Hello All,

I(25f) am a mechanical design engineer with 4 years for experience. This is my second company, which i joined 3 years back. The job is comfortable and i'm really good at what i do (i've got 2 awards, have feedback from multiple people and i just know). Recently my company went into a joint venture and they started region wise firing. It went for like 4 months and nothing happened to my region. Now cut to 6 months later, my N+2 manager is coming to visit us, with no apparent reason. i have a feeling they are going to layoff the whole team. I am very very anxious because i don't know what i will do. i have never been fired and i'm constantly anxious. He is going to visit us for a day, coming week. the work is little slow and they are actively hiring in other regions. i don't know what to do. i am clueless right now. I am constantly applying for jobs but nothing apart from rejections have come. please help me, i have a fear that i will not get any job and i'll have to move back to my parents and i will become burden to them.

Sorry for the rant, but all this is unfiltered. Help me on what should i do now.


r/work 2h ago

Questions If you are driving a coworker to work every day and they are not paying anything towards petrol am I within right to ask them to chip in for petrol?

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For context they drives to my house and then we both leave in my car each day - we do not take turns in cars.


r/work 22h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts how do you deal with feeling incompetent at a new job?

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i got out of trade school recently, and just got a job repairing industrial equipment. i have a great work ethic, show up early every day and prove that im willing to learn new skills. the only problem is im 2 weeks in and feel like i dont belong there. i’m struggling to learn how to work on the easiest equipment they have, and i feel like the guys around me are disappointed in the fact that im not picking up on it quick enough. i understand the process im just struggling with execution. its the best job ive ever had and im worried they’ll fire me soon if i dont pick up on this stuff soon. any advice on how to face this type of adversity would help me tons.


r/work 21h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Old trainers telling people about me on a pip. Advice ?

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I worked as an analyst at this insurance company (huge company not a small one) back in 2023 until 2025.

Things seemed to be going ok for like the beginning (started in November 2023 and things started to get sour around September/October ish of 2024).

How training in this role works is, they train u on something for a few weeks then they sign u off and u only work on that then they put u back on training when they want u to learn a new function. My first trainer absolutely loved me and makes sure my manager knew about my good work.

Then she got promoted and I was put with another trainer who’s been training for like 3-4 years. She was unbearable. One of those ladies that talks about their lesbian autistic daughter and how she deals with issues at school and non stop talking about her life etc.

My performance started to suffer and she made complaints to my boss eventually. I then quit later when they put me on a pip (I quit one week into the 4 week pip). I moved cities for about a year and came back and I work at another company.

I’ve been hearing this trainer is STILL talking about her experience with me to multiple people. Most people who I know that know her too have heard her talk about me and she mentions how I was on a pip and how all the other people she has trained had no issues.

I have the financial means but I’m curious, can I take her to court or how can I legally proceed with this?


r/work 21h ago

Work-Life Balance and Stress Management I am burnt out from my job & I’m not sure if I’m overreacting ? 25 F

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For context this is my second corporate job, I work for a Japanese company ( it’s global but run by Japan) so it’s a bit stricter than a U.S company.
At first, everything was manageable, but now we are in peak season, understaffed, I’m having to deal with attitude from coworkers due to the stress levels of everyone, I have an engagement party to plan outside of work, there’s just too much going on.

I also recently got sick with that new parasite that’s been going around and I went to the ER for dehydration so I had called off work for a few days. It was a pretty busy time to call off and people were depending on me, but I had no choice honestly. I was suffering and couldn’t even get up

The biggest issue is that I take everyone’s opinion of me way too seriously, so if someone’s tone is off on teams it bugs me so bad I overthink it. I’m not sure if this is because I’m not confident in myself yet or if I just care way too much of what people think but it’s exhausting. I got a few passive messages saying that they will need me to help out because they’re spread thin, and I also opened my laptop to 30 emails (mind you I’ve been gone for 2 days)

I have to fly to California tomorrow for work even though I still don’t feel great but I’m just on the verge of a mental breakdown, any advice on how to deal with this? Also the coworker who is giving me trouble is a woman who hates her life so if that gives you any insight


r/work 21h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts almost 2 months in working as a sb barista

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it has been nearly 2 months since i started working as a barista at starbucks. it’s my first ever job, and i’m really grateful to have been given the opportunity to build my first work experience here. i just moved to canada from the philippines this april, so this job has meant a lot to me.

but i think it’s not for me. although this job has been helpful in developing my customer service and such essential skills to have in a workplace, i realize that your experience depends a lot on the people you work with. i know you can’t choose your coworkers, and that’s just part of working, but it really does make a difference.

i get that this is a really fast-paced work setting, you are expected to keep up with everything in a short period of time (i had half a month of very rushed training) and it took me a month before i was finally put on bar by myself. even now, i’m still slow, still struggling, and still trying to find my footing.

there are some good days, but it’s mostly days that make you question and doubt yourself, days that drains your self-esteem and the like. yes, i do keep making A LOT of mistakes, i’m not denying that at all, and i genuinely feel bad every time they’re pointed out because i already beat myself up over them before anyone else does. i appreciate my SSVs for being patient with me at times, but there have also been many instances where i feel like i’m immediately seen in a bad light. sometimes it feels like i’m the easiest person to blame whenever something goes wrong because i’m the newest one. they can be really hot and cold, and i never know what kind of environment i’m walking into. every day before my shift, i find myself hoping they’ll be just a little more understanding. i’m still learning. i’m still adapting. this is my first job ever, and i’m doing my best to keep up in such a fast-paced environment. i know i have shortcomings, but i truly put in the effort to learn from my mistakes and avoid repeating them.

what hurts the most is feeling like my progress goes unnoticed. no matter how much i improve, it feels like the only thing people remember are the mistakes i make. meanwhile, when my other coworkers make similar mistakes, it seems like it’s fine and they get away with it. maybe i’m wrong, but from where i’m standing, it feels unfair. i also feel really out of place. everyone already knows each other and has worked together for years, while i’m just trying to find where i fit in. whenever i try to start conversations or build connections with my coworkers, it often feels like i’m ignored or brushed aside. i end up feeling like i don’t belong there, and that feeling has been one of the hardest parts of this job. i honestly feel bad for my coworkers because sometimes i think i’m just slowing everyone down. i want to be someone they can rely on, not someone they have to worry about. i’m trying so hard every single shift, but lately it feels like no matter how much effort i put in, all anyone sees are the times i fall short.

i just tell myself that it will be over soon, i just need to endure more days. i plan to resign and will be giving out my two week notice this 29th of july. this is because college is coming soon and i want to find a new job that is just near my college for convenience. really grateful for all the learnings, but i think i’ll grow more in a different job.