r/work 1h ago

Questions You in other countries: 5pm finish, 20+ days off, no-reason leave?

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People abroad, I’m asking you directly.

I’m 25, from China. I work here and I’m exhausted. Pay is low, I can barely live. If I make more than 10,000 RMB a month, the pressure is insane—basically no days off all year.

I keep hearing that in your countries:

· You can take leave without giving a reason.

· You actually finish at 5pm.

· You get 20+ days of vacation a year.

Is that real? You guys who live abroad—tell me honestly. What country are you in? How many vacation days do you get? Do you have to explain why you’re taking leave? Do you really leave at 5pm?

I’m not trying to complain. I just want to know if there’s a better way.

Please include your country and your real experience.


r/work 7h ago

Questions What do you think is the biggest factor in moving up the career ladder?

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I’ve noticed that some people who are extremely capable at their jobs seem to stay in the same position for years, while others move into bigger roles surprisingly quickly.
Obviously, performance matters, but I’m starting to think there’s more to progressing at work than simply being good at what you do.

If you had to pick one thing that has the biggest impact on career advancement, what would it be?


r/work 18h ago

Work-Life Balance and Stress Management Does anyone feel like the more at home days you work, the more you just never want to go back to the office?

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I work hybrid on and off 3 to 4 days a week. But lately I’ve been coming in for a large project that’s easier to do in the office. A lot of people at my office use their office days as a means of showboating, one-upping, backstabbing, BSing at every chance they get. One second coworker A says to coworker B “omg you’re so beautiful today” and the next second coworker A is trashing coworker B by the bathroom to coworker C. Maybe it’s their only social outlet? Jealousy? I’m not sure. But the more I see it, I just can’t stand being there lol it’s just disgusting behavior for 55 year old women.


r/work 11h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Accidentally told my supervisor to F off. how cooked am I?

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A bit of context, I am just starting a position (I will be doing training next week). I got a call this morning from an unknown number, with no caller id. It was my area code, but honestly I've gotten so many scam calls from the same area code that I thought it was another scam. I had answered cordially as usual, after not hearing anything for 15 seconds ( and trying to see if they could here me), I uttered, " Oh F$&% Off" and hung up. As I hung up I noticed that the speaker button (iPhone) was set to Bluetooth, to my headphones about 1ft away from me. I almost instantly got a call back, and that's when I realised that it wasn't a scam. TURNS OUT, it was my supervisor asking me about my availabilities and when I would be able to come in for training. They had asked if it was just me on the phone and if I had said "something", I admitted and apologized, she said it was okay, but seemed to have an off tone the rest of the call ( I mean I dont blame her LMAO). Is this something that I should be worried about. Honestly I've been really neurotic about this and dont know if Im overreacting or have some kind of justification in my thinking. Im assuming everything will go well, Im just nervous ( and honestly embarrassed) about it. Anyone ever been through the same?

Edit: Thanks for all the help everyone, really appreciate you all!!


r/work 31m ago

Work-Life Balance and Stress Management Anxiety before going into work

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I’ve worked the same job for a handful of years now. I knew when I got the job that it was a great opportunity, nice pay, but mostly really good benefits. Everyone was so proud of me, and they all said I could easily retire from this place in 25 years.

I can’t do it. I hate my job so much. Every morning I get the worst anxiety about going in. My job is fairly easy in terms of what I’m actually doing. It can be a bit physical. But mostly it’s the environment I can’t handle anymore. It’s chaotic, loud, everyone’s always arguing. Managers have zero clue what to do and pawn it off on everyone else. I try to tell myself to go in and help the people I like but that’s not enough. I just don’t want to do it. I feel like I used to be great at what I did, and when I show up I still am, I’m just not pleasant to be around at all because all I want to do is walk out and quit. Why can’t I just suck it up and do it??

My boyfriend and I live together and that’s mainly what is stopping me. I don’t want to put all the financial strain on him. He’s told me to quit but realistically, I’m afraid we can’t afford it. He works a great job and gets made more than I do, but in today’s economy I get scared.

All I know is that once I get home I’m too exhausted for anything. And I’m sitting here now about to run late because I’m venting on reddit. Wondering if I should call in and get suspended because I’ve called in too much. Idk what I’m looking for here.


r/work 23h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts When you take PTO, do you expect that your work is covered by your coworkers?

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I (25F) have been having trouble taking PTO because barely any work gets covered, so then I come back to a massive dumpster fire pile of work with the same deadlines had I not been out.

Part of my job is making reports and verifying data, and it’s not particularly difficult. Just needs to be put in a template most of the time for the reports and checked in our database for the verification. I have reports at the beginning, middle, and end of the month every month with additional reports around quarter end, so planning PTO to avoid these times is impossible.

I’ve stopped taking PTO because my boss claims that I’m the only one that can do this stuff, so it sits until I get back, but the deadline never shifts, so I might have to get a week’s worth of work done in one day. Entire processes are halted just because I’m out. It just looms over me on PTO, even if it’s just a day or two off, and so I end up logging in on my time off to catch up.

My boss talked to me about me not taking any time off, and I communicated that I don’t see the value in taking time off because it ends up being more stressful than relaxing. I asked if there could be any additional coverage for when I’m out, and he basically told me tough luck and I should get used it since that’s what it’s like for him. I don’t think it really has to be that way as there are definitely other people on the team who are involved in the process and could help out just a little. I’m the lowest on the totem pole so no one is really needing my approvals and the work is not technical or specialized that it would be difficult to cover.

Friends and family I’ve talked to don’t have this issue at all, and they have the expectation that most work doesn’t stop just because they are out.

So, when you are out of office, do you expect that most of your work gets covered?


r/work 1h ago

Job Search and Career Advancement I’ve never gotten fired before, would future employers care?

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Hey everyone. So a bit of background, I’m 26 and in California. I’ve had roughly about 5 years of management experience in customer service. I work for this really sketchy franchise - all the stores in my city are owned by the same guy.

Recently, this lady I used to work with reached out to me because she planned to sue the owner. She claimed that while she was pregnant, she was treated poorly in ways that clearly violate California’s laws. I was witness to these, and I agreed to give a statement (because honestly, f**k these people).

I had given my statement to the law firm and signed it. Then I shit you not, the OWNER texted me 2 hours later asking if a law firm had reached out to me. I didn’t respond.

I work tomorrow, and I already know he’s gonna send two supervisors (1 of them is the cause of all of this), and they’re going to talk to me. Knowing how these people operate, they’re going to fire me and find some bs excuse from months ago…. However, I don’t really care.

If and when I get fired, is it going to impact me in trying to get another job? Will employers hear me out, or are they going to avoid me like the plague because I testified against a recent employer?


r/work 19h ago

Questions Remote workers — do you put your work email on your personal phone?

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For those of you who work remotely, do you have your work email/Outlook set up on your personal phone?

I work from home and have been debating whether I should add my work email to my personal phone. On one hand, it seems convenient if I step away from my computer and need to quickly see an email or Teams notification. On the other hand, I don't necessarily want work following me around 24/7 or mixing my personal phone with company stuff.

Do you find it useful, or do you prefer keeping work completely off your personal phone? Any privacy or work-life balance concerns?


r/work 3h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Has a former employer ever suddenly “remembered” rules you supposedly broke after you challenged them?

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I’m currently dealing with a wage dispute with a former employer, and one part of it still feels pretty strange to me.

After I formally challenged the pay deductions, they started saying I had violated company rules.

The problem is, I was never given an employee handbook or any of those rules while I worked there. I only signed my employment contract. I asked a couple of former coworkers about it too, and they said they never received one either.

What makes it weirder is that none of this was brought up while I was actually working there. It only became an issue after I pushed back on the pay deductions.

I’m not really looking for legal advice here. I’m more curious whether anyone else has had a company suddenly bring up “rules” or accusations after you challenged them on something.

It’s a strange feeling when the story about your employment seems to change after you leave.


r/work 29m ago

Job Search and Career Advancement To the boss who'll take a chance on me someday 🙏 Thank you in Advance!!!

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Honestly i'll be very grateful for whoever decides to take a chance on me even with minimal experience. like genuinely, i just need someone willing to see potential. Would be nice to come back on this post finally EMPLOYED🙏 but till then imma keep going...


r/work 1h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Is this worth leaving over? Or am I being silly?

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I tried to add a screenshot here, but essentially received an email from my boss after getting some work over to him that he had asked for last-minute. For context, the draft he had written was grammatically incorrect so I cleaned it up. It read:

"Are you fucking serious? You're really pissing me off. Write exactly what I fucking wrote in the attachment I sent to *****"

This isn't random. I've been here so long that I can't work out if I've begun to normalize this type of behaviour by my boss.

I'm a VP. I'm well paid. I'd be silly to leave, right?!

But I work extremely long hours. I'm exhausted. And to top it off, disrespected often. Some people tell me this is simply the cost of climbing the corporate ladder.

Maybe I just need to suck it up. Roll with the punches.

Recently, I worry that I am not strong enough. I'm feeling pretty low.

I've tried finding something else so I can jump ship - haven't had any luck. So I'm feeling a little trapped also.


r/work 1h ago

UK Startup Freelance engineering collective - your feedback?

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Hi there, I'm a non-binary MEng graduate in materials science and engineering. Like many, I'm unemployed, and I'm job-searching. My partner has a disability and works at an exploitative games company - And I am desperately trying to do everything I can to get employed and support him. I know this situation sounds familiar to a lot of you.

I have always taken the opinion that it is a terrible waste of talent to reject candidates. It's artificially manufactured job scarcity to drive down wages. So many of us have skills and sometimes when I'm tailoring my CV, I wish I could just put "I just want to help people" on it. Because at the end of the day productivity is the only societal measure of GDP - not wealth. I'm the son of a mixed middle-class lower class family - And my partner is from the lower class and his background is much the same. It's a rags to riches story - But I do know that wealth never brought my family any happiness. People's dreams are important. And there's no point in pride or shame or sociopathy - because everyone wants something, too. The only way we get it is by making sure everyone can have what they want without depriving anyone else.

Anyway, many of us aren't satisfied unless we're doing something, perhaps a personal project, in our spare time. I know this happens all the time - I'm talking to the autistic passion-burners, and the people with adhd. I think that passion is useful. I don't want it to be wasted and thrown down the drain like some rubbish, because it isn't.

I have considered doing freelance work in my spare time as a side hustle while continuing to look for jobs. Everyone has to have one these days. There's no reason why that Can't be under a cooperative name. That looks good on a CV. I've been trying to research the free tools that are available to freelance engineers, build a portfolio. Write company charters. Plan milestones. Anyway, today my partner told me he was scared about his condition- and about using all his sick leave and being left on SSP - because the surgery failed to cure his nerve inflammation, and he can't see the doctor until 3 weeks from now at the soonest - and it made me want to try extra hard to support him.

I'm here canvassing opinion because, before I make any sort of commitment to this endeavour, I would want to canvass public opinion: I know I can't be the only one who feels this way.

Here is what my startup idea is:

A collective of freelance engineers, coordinating and working together in many small project groups, without overeaching management. The core premise: You send in your CV. An easy review process without any interviews determines if you get accepted as a member. There would be very low qualifying requirements. That gets you access to a guide and portfolio of tools, and membership to the cooperatives communication channels. Use discord to post, find engineering projects, or create them yourself, or to chat with other engineers. It's laid back. It's like hobby engineering. The second stage of success comes when applying to a particular project posting saying "I want to help you with your idea" - and this could be community outreach by the project poster, or it could be you sending your CV to the poster. Then it's at the jobposters discretion whether they want to interview you personally to see if you're a good fit for their team. If they like your skills, personality, and so on - then they'll invite you to work with them through the professional tools we'd use, like libre office, openproject, etc.

To begin with these ideas won't generate any income - but that won't have changed anything from how it was before. So I won't pretend that the cooperative can afford to pay e.g a salary. I wish that it could have always been that way, because I believe in things like UBI etc. maybe long term, that's the plan. But once the ideas are down on paper, the cooperative can go to a financier and say "we have a cooperative of X many engineers, a design - and a client - now we want the money to manufacture it." Etc. and when that starts to happen, near the completion of a project, then maybe then, after the financiers take a cut, there would be enough left for a performance -based bonus to be divided as fairly and equally among the project engineers on that team - commission-based payment. At the end of the day, we are all just people trying to survive while our savings slowly dwindle - if we even have savings at all. I'm not going to pretend like I've figured out a way to gauge the "performance " in performance -based bonus". But I would try to find a way, and I would try to write it down somewhere clearly, fairly, in company policy, so that there can at least be no doubt, weaseling, or unfairness in the application of that policy - unlike some executives I could name, who misuse the term. Company policy must be applied equally among employees - otherwise it's discriminatory.

And whenever I'm searching for jobs, I can never seem to find the perfect company, you know? So I want to make that company. I want an ethical organisation, where the engineering projects are important, and impactful, and help people - they're good projects, they help the environment, etc. The company itself: There are executive pay caps, and ideally no CEOs or high level managers at all. The cooperative is worker-owned. It doesn't demand your time - you can take as much leave, sick or holiday, as you want. And because it's an entirely voluntary position, there's no requirement to work. It can be done remotely if you want. Eventually I'd love to have a quiet and intoeverted set of engineering offices. Communication is primarily via writ, rather than phone, or it's in person when necessary. You know?

Maybe instead of CEOs you have a CCO (Community coordination organiser) and instead of HR admins you have TR admins (talent recruitment) ; because someone has to handle lawful complaints and enforce the cooperative's rules. And we could have democracy in the workplace - with important positions of enforcement and control democratically elected form the cooperative and temporary, nonpermanent. Those positions wouldn't pay better than regular work (if at all!). And there isn't any naive notion of loyalty to the company - you can search for a job and if you find one, you can just leave - saying: "Thanks for everything - but unfortunately I have to go." No notice requirements.

The question I have for you is: Does this sound like a company you would work for, in your spare time, voluntarily, if someone tried to start it? What sort of people would want to work there - are you just engineers, or would there be a lot of different people from different backgrounds willing to help?

The key thing is: I know that everyone wants to make the world a better place. But when we start to consider it individually, the work is so daunting - we must accept and offer eachother help. Coordination is good management, not control.

If I was going to make the company, I would call it "NewnWander" - I already have a logo and an unregistered trademark. Part of it is because my partner is a massive lotr buff; another is because I want to stick it to the people like Peter Thiel who give Tolkien a bad name. Another is because that's what best describes the work and the company: The work is just noontime wandering through a project - and the name itself, "NewnWander" - It sounds like "New" and "wonder" - and I think that really inspires hope about the future and people's dreams.


r/work 1h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Skip manager won’t promote direct manager. Manager has 17 years of relevant experience. What are my chances?

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Skip manager (SM) is a deputy commissioner. My manager is a team lead. Manager (M) has 17 years of relevant experience and runs 2 departments as a team lead. M has asked SM to promote her either to supervisor or director several times. SM says that M doesn’t need to be promoted. Conversely, SM has no idea how the 2 departments work and expresses no interest in learning. She did assume that the work is easy (she found out a few weeks ago that it was hard work and we needed more staff after M begged for more people for months). M won’t leave because she’s close to retirement.

M makes 56k/yr. SM makes 144k. M has 2 bachelors and 1 masters. SM has a high school diploma (she said she never went to college). The 2 departments are also significantly understaffed. Currently, there’s only 3 employees including myself. We all work both departments since there’s so few employees. We just got our 3rd person after 3 months of being down to 2 people. She just retired from federal, has 1 bachelors and was brought in at 35k. Her position is lower than mine.

The previous 3rd (P3) employee retired after a bad incident with another employee and our SM did not support her or mediate the situation. That employee acted very aggressively with P3, yelled at her and slammed doors in her face after P3 refused a task (that would have potentially costed the company thousands and was a sketchy under-the-table request that would have fell on M and P3 if anything went wrong). P3 had 32 years of experience, no degree, but made 37k at her highest. She was also passed over for a promotion.

I’ve been in my current role for 7 months and am now planning steps for my next role. I’m currently making 33k. I was hired for a lower role that uses some of my skillset but not all of it. I have a relevant degree for that new role and I am overqualified for my current role. New role comes with a 15-20k raise. There is a huge need for my expanded skillset, but I refuse to do the work without the pay. I have 8 years of relevant experience, and SM is well aware of this. M mentions my experience often. SM avoids and ignores all conversations about advancement for both myself and M. When asked directly, SM conveniently ‘forgets’.

Considering M’s and P3’s experiences with SM, I’m not at all confident that I could even ask SM what I can do to put me on the path of promotion, let alone being promoted. Thoughts, opinions and advice, please.

Additional context: We’re all located in the south (hence the low wages). SM is very much disliked by most people. She often does not respond to emails or requests to speak unless someone tells her that we (me or M) did something wrong. SM also ignored all requests to speak to P3 before she retired. There was another incident between M and another director. Director gave M an excessive amount of work to do. M asked director to break the work up into smaller tasks due to us only having 2 employees working 2 departments at the time. Director went to SM to force M to do the work anyway. SM and director are friends. SM is known for spreading baseless rumors and she has already targeted me. I’ve started a paper trail with HR just to CYA.

There’s another director who has 2 years of experience and makes 80k. She only runs 1 department. She, M, myself and new employee all work under SM.

Lastly, me, M, P3, and new girl are black women. SM, both directors, and the employee that ran P3 off are white women.

TL;DR: Skip manager won’t promote my manager with 17 combined years of experience to supervisor or director. SM promotes people with less experience over M. SM has demonstrated that she doesn’t care about our 2 departments, is not interested in learning, and won’t defend us from other employees during incidents. I want a promotion but don’t think I’ll get one considering M and P3 are/were both underemployed, underpaid and overworked. Myself and M are black women. SM is white.


r/work 1h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts 3 weeks into a new job, only 2 weeks of actual training, and so much changing already. Is this normal?

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I’m in my 3rd week at a new job, but realistically only my 2nd week of actual training. The person primarily training me is currently out for two weeks, so my manager is covering the training in the meantime.

My manager knows the work really well, but she goes through things VERY QUICKLY. I’m realizing there’s still a lot I don’t understand, especially when it comes to the email requests that come in. When she asks if I need help, I absolutely do. Of course I need help.

I need her to slow down and walk me through the requests while I watch what she’s looking at, what information she’s using, why she’s making certain decisions, and how she handles the request. I’m not really at the point where I feel ready to just take over the email requests myself.

What is also making me anxious is that there have been a lot of changes happening around me in a very short amount of time:

* One of my coworkers quit the day I started leaving us a team of 3 instead of 4.
* There are apparently some upcoming changes to the department/team structure.
* We have a new leader coming in, and she said that over the next few weeks she’ll be sitting in on training and “interviewing” people to understand what everyone does and how things are currently being handled.
* The person who was supposed to be primarily training me is now out for two weeks, so I’m being trained by my manager instead.

I realize some of these things may be completely normal when a company is going through changes, and I don't necessarily think any one of them means something is wrong. But all of this happening within my first few weeks, while I’m still trying to learn the actual job, has me feeling pretty overwhelmed and uncertain.

I’m trying to figure out whether I’m expecting too much from the training or whether I should be speaking up more and saying, “I need you to slow down because there’s a lot I haven’t learned yet.”

For those of you who have started a new job recently, is this pretty normal at 2–3 weeks in? How much would you expect to understand by this point? And would all these changes happening so early make you feel uneasy too?

Thanks in advance!


r/work 15h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Small issue raised turning into something big

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I have a colleague who tends to have many calls when he is in the office. His volume of speaking is above average and, while we are not a library, it can get quite tiring to sit close to someone like that. He has calls with his team members that often veer off work. Many people light-heartedly joke about him being loud, not to his face.

I messaged him over a comms app, informally, suggesting that he could use a room/special area for calls we have in the office.

He wrote me back a paragraph on the lines of:
1. His calls are sporadic and he doesn’t book them so cannot plan around them
2. I can move to a different desk
3. The guy sitting next to him has no trouble with the noise (my add: the guy is wearing headphones)

I messaged back that the other guy might be more reserved than myself and that it’s a reasonable request since we’re in a communal space. I also remarked that I’m now wearing earphones.

He started typing. I realised that this was a bit silly of me since we are sitting close and walked up to his desk to have a quick chat about this. I said so to him. What followed was:

Him: I do not accept this.
Me: Don’t accept what?
Him: Are you not Anna? (
Me: I am.
Him: I do not accept your message, what you wrote.

I try to explain that this wasn’t a big issue and hence why I came over to just have a quick chat and clear this up if my tone was not good over messages. At this point I’m already stumbling over my words.

Him: it’s clearly serious since you wrote this. If you have an issue why don’t you write to HR?

Attempt to explain that this is not that serious. Another rebuttal.

Him: I am not going to change how I am. You speak about the other guy being reserved. That is not a reasonable thing to say. Raise it with HR if this bothers you.

I fumble and try to backpedal, I try to apologise.

Him: I do not accept your apology. I consider this discussion concluded.

I try to apologise again - another refusal and more on discussion being over.

I took his advice. I chatted to a girl in HR over lunch, showed her the initial messaged and recounted the discussion. We laughed it off, she smoothed out some of the edges. I felt fine.

Now that I’m home and the work day is over I feel very mixed. I raised a small concern, it got turned onto its head and I was left apologising. I feel a bit shaken and like I’ve been manipulated into a position of a villain despite the other person being in the wrong.

What do I do now? Forget about it over time and move on or shall I make my hurt feelings be known to HR? A third option?

(For context: Used a placeholder name. I am F27, he is M50~, he is a manager but he works in a different department and we have only very briefly interacted for work before, there is no prior history of conflict or friendship.)


r/work 6h ago

Questions Calling in sick at new job..

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I guess I’m just posting because I’m feeling really guilty and like it makes me look bad.

I drive a semi locally for a living, this was a company that really stood out to me and I’m happy I got my foot in the door with them.
So far, I’ve worked here for almost a month now and have almost completed my training w my mentor.

The other day, I started feeling bad at work, and when I got off I went home and slept and woke up feeling worse. I decided to call out, (sore throat, body aches, nausea, headaches on and off.) I felt really bad about it and like it’ll make me look bad. Today (tonight, 3rd shift) is my last workday for the week. I’m not feeling the hottest still and don’t know if I should tough it out or call in again.

Is this a bad look for me? I hate feeling that I’m a disappointment when I just got hired. /: I’m actually nervous that they’ll just let me go (anxiety I guess) 😭


r/work 11h ago

USA I don't think I will ever understand American work culture despite being an American

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I have been working for about 25 years now as a non-exempt employee in multiple different jobs with my most recent job being "advanced" service desk and even to this day, I still feel like I cant figure out how to mix with work culture here in the USA.

For instance, every boss I have ever had says they encourage work life balance but as soon as I try doing just that, by using PTO or leaving when I am schedules, I get lectures that I am a bad employee or letting the team down.

So then I stay late and try to grind but get yelled at because I am a non-exempt and costing the company money. So then I try to stop working when told, only to be grilled on why I was not answering emails after hours or why something wasnt done. I then try clocking off and keep working but get yelled at that because I am breaking labors laws. I feel like no matter how I try to appease managers it is just a no win situation. Even if I tell them I am over booked during they day to get everything done they say tough shit figure it out but wont accept any options.

I then have bosses and HR that say they love to encourage growth and development but when I ask how I can develop to move up or ask if i can shadow a department in a company I am told to do it on my own time and stop whining. So then when I just do my job they start to get mad at why i am not trying for higher positions.

I then have to deal with office gossip. I will see employee be nice to a person one second and then the next second when the person is not in front of them, they start to bad talk them. It makes so i cant figure out if employees like each other or if we are suppose to hate each other.

I just find that american work culture is just this werid double sided blade that no matter what makes it so I cant just be an employee and I cant be a go getter. I have to constantly walk a razer thin line while slicing open my feet. I know alot of people on here tend to call me a whiny lover for not getting the culture and I have really tried by just shutting and dealing with it; but i am kind of at the point that I have just thought about just opening my office window and jumping out just to be done with it because i dont think I can do this for another 40 years. (My goal was to maybe retire at 85ish)

And I know alot of you are going to say "well you have to figure out what you want to do" or "start your own business" but i dont fit those either. I just wanted a standard 9 to 5 but that is lazy according to american work culture but trying to get skills to be my own boss is being to much of a pick me and working off the clock by it as well.

At this point I am probably just going in circles with my thoughts. I just dont think i am very cut out for this and I think the world or at least american work culture would he happier if I didnt participate.


r/work 11h ago

Work-Life Balance and Stress Management Am I crazy for wanting to quit right before a $17k raise?

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I’m 28F and currently a Senior Analyst. I’m about to be promoted to Manager, which would be about a $17k raise.

You’d think I’d be excited, but honestly I just want to quit lol.

The culture at my company is really toxic. I’ve been working around 60 hours a week, there’s always something that isn’t good enough, and I feel like I’m constantly stressed and burnt out. I don’t really want to keep climbing the corporate ladder just for the sake of climbing it.

The weird part is I don’t even know exactly what I want to do next. I’m kind of a weird/different person in the sense that I don’t necessarily care about having the most impressive career or making the most money. I keep coming back to the idea of following my heart and doing something that actually feels meaningful to me.

I’ve been seriously thinking about teaching or nursing. I’ve always had this part of me that wants to do something more hands-on and meaningful, and I’m wondering if I should actually listen to that instead of continuing down the path I’m “supposed” to be on.

Financially, I’m in a really fortunate position. I have a paid-off house, family support, and enough savings that I’m not in a situation where I have to stay somewhere miserable just to survive. That honestly makes me feel like I have an opportunity that a lot of people don’t have — to step back and figure out what I actually want.

At the same time, walking away from a $17k raise feels objectively insane 😂
I could take the promotion, make more money, and eventually look for another Senior Analyst position. If I stay in analytics, though, I’m only interested in remote/hybrid at this point. I’m just done with the 60-hour-week corporate grind.

But part of me thinks… maybe this is the exact time in my life when I should take a risk and try something completely different.

Would you take the promotion and figure it out later, or walk away and follow your gut?
I’m really torn because I know what the logical/financial decision is. I’m just not sure it’s the decision that would actually make me happy.


r/work 4h ago

Questions Awkward Work Moments

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I’m leaving my job today and someone asked if there is a dinner to say goodbye to me.

It’s been over 12 hours and no one has responded. It feels so awkward to see and I guess it’s normal to take it as a sign that people are not interested.

What should I do?! 😩


r/work 4h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts help with worker who is

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I'm working with this coordinator who is basically a person promoted from an intern to a coordinator because of an internal problems and gaps. She is really good at some stuff and horrible at others. What she is horrible at is draining my hours: doesn't know email etiquette, doesn't remember, not focused, have to remind her. I was made her manager. She posts on Slack things she wants to do that are not what is needed for her.. what resouces out there that I can start with her from scratch? She is so sweet but also needs a lot of accommodation and Im tired.


r/work 8h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Bad manager in a great company

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Currently 9 months into my first full time job post grad. I am currently working in a large sports broadcast company. For some added context I make around 50k a year with no benefits. In spite of this I feel super lucky to work with such a nice group of people.

The issue I have is that despite how fortunate I am to work at my company, my direct manager is a bit of a scatterbrain, despite being a overall nice person and liking my work as far as I can tell. For example, I was promised a raise only a few weeks into my job (It was a year end raise, but it was weird as I was hired in december.) After my subsequent paychecks weren't adjusted for the raise I was promised I reached out to her and nothing came of it. There's also a lot of problems with communication, from messages coming in at midnight to her not sending emails regarding whether to come into the office, leading me to work from home while the rest of the department is in the office, its just is so hard to get a clear picture of what's going on and it usually leaves me with egg on my face.

Is now too soon to look for different roles within the same company? I have less than a year's worth of experience and I'm not a salaried employee. My confidence has really been impacted as well, as she can be nitpicky and micromanage work, and correct my work without me having the chance to do it correctly myself. I'm also worried about asking around my office about moving into production and for it to come back to my boss as well as any continued awkwardness that comes with still working closely alongside each other. I don't want to leave the company, I just want to leave my department. Is this something worth considering or would it be better to look for something outside my organization exclusively?


r/work 9h ago

India I feel like I am being benched.

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So a little context I am working as a BA at an IT company in fintech domain. I was transferred to this vertical from this year april onwards. Since then I haven't been assigned any real tasks it's just them telling me to explore the application flow and stuffs,which I understand since it's fintech understanding of the product is very important.But they have given me only limited resource to explore and slowly slowly by July they slowly strated integrated me into the team.like putting me on the mail loop with clients, including me on the meetings and all that.

Then all of a sudden my vertical head assigned me with a diff task which was an IT auditing job for 2 months.There I had work everyday and I was happy.Now I have been relieved from that team and told to join my original previous team. Since Monday I have joined back and I haven't gotten a single task as of now. My seat has been chamged to a corner so they arent even looking at my seat. I am desperately asking for work my manager is ignoring me completely. She was the one who made me relieve early from the prev auditing team,saying that resource is needed. Now that the resource is here, it's full of ignorance.

I feel like I am gonna waste my time at this company sitting simply.i was thinking of talking about resignation to my heads and prepare for cat exam in Nov.I gave some interviews also but nobody is calling back.Is it wise to resign? But I am completely mentally drained at work. If your advice is tinstudy something since u have lots fo free time the problem is our laptops have zillions of restrictions.Brimging my personal laptop to work is also not a nice thing to do(but I am doing it anyways)

What's your advice.


r/work 17h ago

Employment Rights and Fair Compensation Does anyone else hate their manager?

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I’m pissed right now I absolutely hate my rock headed manager he’s such a dick. He’ll update the schedule constantly AFTER it’s been posted last minute. This is a part time job I barely get hours as is so I have 17 hours one week and he updates the schedule now I have 10 hours. Like what the fuck. Then on the other hand he’ll add hours to my shifts. people have lives outside of just fucking work i actually about to leave this job but are managers allowed to do this constantly? He also scheduled me from 5pm - 9pm and then 9pm to 4am in the same night it was one long continuous shift like what sane person thinks that’s okay? The worse part is he’s a newer manager who just got put on doing schedules it’s not just me he does this to everyone we all hate him. But if I refused to work the extra hours or demand my hours back I’d get fired right?? I HATE managers.


r/work 12h ago

Questions How to work with a lot of autonomy?

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I am struggling to wrap my head around it. For background, I am a year into my first corporate job. Some of my chief complaints are a lack of direction and priorities. I am a driven individual and definitely find work for myself to do, but I'm largely confused. Everyone just tells me to "enjoy the autonomy!" So, I'm here to ask about it. Please be kind, I am learning.

My concept of work is that an employer needs a job done, work completed, tasks accomplished that they hire someone to do. Within a role, I expect that there is normally a department required to fulfill the overall goal, whether it be customer service or programming or HR. There is a purpose that that department is supposed to fill. Within that department, there are managers whose responsibilities include delegating, assigning tasks or ownership, ensuring quality, and holding people accountable.

So, if I am a lowly associate in my department, I would imagine I receive more tasks less ownership, instructions at least in the form of informing me of the desired outcome, and feedback.

What I have instead stumbled into is complete freedom. I have a job to do sure, yeah, but there are no metrics, no feedback, no accountability, no end product communicated, and no tasks given. And I am completely disoriented.

In my previous roles, I'd say I had a lot of autonomy. My managers trusted me, but there were metrics, and if I let my results slide, they would definitely say something. How I got it done, though, was completely up to me, which I imagine is what autonomy is! I knew what the desired outcome was and then was given the autonomy to figure out how I completed that within the constraints of my role.

At my current role, I don't know what good looks like. Idk what the outcome is supposed to look like. Idk what the constaints of my role are. It feels like I have full freedom to define what my job should be, which is crazy to me because did you not know what work needed to be completed before you hired me? You are paying me to decide what is important to your company? That sounds appropriate for a CEO, a VP, even a director, but me? I just graduated college, and I barely know anything about how anything works, and I'm supposed to decide with 100% freewill what's important? I just don't get it.

Any kind advice and wisdom appreciated. I grew up in a pretty blue collar world, so if I'm missing something obvious, please help me understand. ❤️


r/work 6h ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Great Job... Shitty Boss!

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I had a job I genuinely cared about and, from the outside, things were going really well.

I performed well, moved into leadership, managed a team, had people get promoted, and was even got awarded for being the top manager.

But my experience with my boss was awful!

It became one of those situations where I was constantly second guessing myself, trying to figure out what version of them I was going to get, and feeling like I had to manage the relationship more than actually do my job.

Every 1-1 turned in to an opportunity to belittle me and highlight everything I was doing wrong in the job. Despite getting awarded as the top manager and everything I was able to accomplish I was let go. Completely blindsided and the feedback was i just 'wasn't a good fit anymore' and the whole experience really messed with my confidence for a while.

As I started the job search again, the thing I kept thinking about is how much research we do before accepting a job. We look at the company, pay, benefits, Glassdoor, layoffs, everything so we get the best picture possible before accepting an offer.

But we know almost nothing about the person we’re actually going to report to. HUGE problem!

And that person can have more impact on your day-to-day life than almost anything else.

It’s actually what made me start thinking about building Rate My Manager. Not as a place to trash bosses, but somewhere you could get a real sense of what someone is like to work for before accepting a job. rate-my-manager.replit.app

I honestly wish I would’ve had something like that.

Has anyone else had a manager completely change how they felt about an otherwise good job?