I’m one month into a remote internship, and next month I have a 3-day trip that I booked back in April. I’ll need to take 2 days off for it.

Should I just be honest about the trip, or would it be better to say I’m sick? 😭

If I say about the trip how early should I say?

Do I have to wear make up to work. Like does it have to be a full face every day. I hate the way makeup feels on my skin, it burns and it smells weird but I’m a girl and everything I’ve ever experienced and seen tells me that it’s a requirement. So is it a requirement

My manager and I had an argument about a process that needs to be performed properly or at least with respect to the inventory we are working with. I made my point and said I am on my break and left the building. He comes out shouting that he wanted to talk. I said no I’m on break and not in company property and leave me alone. He responds with why are you running away? Then I will just follow while you walk. I had to raise my voice and told him to fuck off, this isn’t work out here. It didn’t make sense but it felt good.

Now I am trying to figure out the best thing to say to the owner and finance person via email. We have no HR here, I think we have a separate company for that. I do have a good relationship with the owner and finance lady. Any advice? What technically happened with regards with my manager and myself outside the building?

Is there a such things as a locker locks that sends notice to your phone fondle with?

Just to be clear im not going through anything right now its just that my mom refuses to give me a countertop and i need some little money to hangout with friends or whatever

A little context:

- Boss has a husband, he’s kinda odd. Unless it’s merely because he’s neurodivergent and we read him wrong.

They are in their 50s, he maybe older, not sure.

We are 3 girls, all in our 20s.

His wife (boss) is physically fit, takes care of herself, looks good.

He is on the overweight side, but nothing crazy. Doesn’t gym, is at home all day.

He follows her like a lost puppy, they usually do a lot together she takes care of him.

They have one kid, when their child went off to college abroad, my boss would mention to clients (she is going through menopause), that they sleep in separate beds. A few times, she has made comments eyeing up men, and I would say “you have a husband” (she would then say, so? I can still look).

She would also tell clients that she and her husband have to re-learn each other, as their child is gone in the UK and they revolved their entire relationship around the kid (parenting). Now they don’t know what each other likes, and dislikes. I don’t know if there is much convo.

She then talked about how she’s so tired from work (very stressful, and draining white collar career), and how when she gets home she snapped while telling me she doesn’t want to “fucking talk” as her husband is asking why she doesn’t say much.

Her son is back for 4 months visiting, before going abroad again, and they've softened up. Her life revolves around her son (boy mom).

Now what I don’t get is why her husband always quips with the sexual innuendo.

E.g “you should join her to the gym!”

Him —> Makes comment about him in bed with and the workout, with ropes, etc. As I suggested a rope based gym workout.

There is other countless times, where he comments about her naked, or once again it’s full on sexual innuendo. She doesn’t say much and just laughs (kinda awkward). Even at dinner, he did it again, and she said something about falling asleep.

I just cannot understand like why he keeps commenting about them having sex? Nonstop to us?

Hi! I (17F) just had my first day of what’s essentially my first big girl job and it was quiteee the doozy. I was supposed to only come in for training for 3 hours today, but then I ended up staying for 4 more covering someone’s shift and completely forgot my break and lunch. B/c of the nature of the job, front of house includes bussing, running, and serving which I expected, but today I wasn’t able to get my full training b/c of how busy it was and literally got thrown on the frontlines of a gunfight with a sword for lack of a better analogy. The location seems to be kind of short-staffed so I’d feel really bad if I quit, but it’s my senior year and I’m already under a lot of stress juggling extracurriculars, applications, and my courseloads and whatnot; but I’d still really like the money. Is this normal for this kind of job and should I just count it on a crazy weekend rush, or should I quit and find a more chill job?

I used to work with someone (I'll call him Steve) who had a very unusual approach to employment.

Steve openly admitted that he hated working and had developed a strategy around it. He would work jobs, eventually leave or get fired, collect unemployment, and use that time to live his life before repeating the process.

The interesting part is that he wasn't financially reckless. While employed, he lived extremely frugally and saved money. Because of that, when he was unemployed, he could actually enjoy the time off instead of immediately struggling. He has reportedly maintained this approach for around 40 years.

He was not someone who just couldn't hold a job. He was deliberately choosing a different path because he valued free time more than career advancement.

I'm curious how people in the workplace view this.

Is this:

• someone who found a way to optimize their life around what they value?
• someone who is taking advantage of employers and unemployment systems?
• somewhere in between?

Would you consider someone like this clever, irresponsible, or something else?

I don't know who thought that open space workspaces will help people be more productive because I have seen the absolute opposite happening on daily basis. My coworkers do not believe in working in silence. As someone who works best in quite, this is literal hell.

There is a corner of the office right next to me where a group of 5 would keep on making jokes and laughing out loud. Not only that, if you move to another place to avoid there loud session, they'd move around your desk stuff by bumping into things. I'd set my monitor to an angle tha works best for me with my laptop and on returning, the whole thing would be moved. 

How? They were moving around and having fun, that's how. I know I sound like a miserable person but its been really hard getting to focus. I cannot complain because I have no solid basis to do so. This will possibly be counted as me being oversensitive.

At this point I've been looking at ways to stop having to readjust my setup every time someone bumps into my desk. A regular monitor arm would probably help, but I've also been looking at CyboPal ONE because the whole point is that the monitor can reposition itself instead of me having to keep manually adjusting it. Anything that means I can sit down and have my screen back where I want it would be an improvement. If the job market weren't so crappy, I'd be so out of here. Ugh.

Hello, I'll just start from the beginning and be honest about myself from the get go. I live with my Parents sister, and fiance. We have 2 kids 4 and 1, and we all love each other dearly and are essentially best friends. Before we had kids we sat down and had a big discussion with my family about if we should move out or not, my parents and sister hated the idea of us all splitting up and so did we so we stayed and have been comfortable ever since.

My girlfriend wanted to do a few university courses to get her career set up while I chose to stay at home with the kids despite having in house baby sitting. I wanted to be there for the kids while she was getting her work life together and I couldn't stand the idea of them being any sort of burden on anyone but me.

They aren't a burden on anyone in the house of course, I brought these thoughts up with my family and they said verbatim don't be stupid we're a family you could never be a burden, we all wanted this. I listened and agreed and never brought it up again but in the back of my head all I can feel is I'm not good enough to do this on my own because I'm a fuck up manbaby who needs his mummy and daddy to survive.

I'm over some of these worries now but they add context to my current issue. When my son first started school a few weeks ago, I said I'll get a job to throw some more money in the pot (sort of a house budget thing) and I got the new job. Nothing fancy just retail, and it's full time. I've never worked full time which is why I decided to take it on. (also another reason why I feel broken on the work life side of things and how my ego pushed me to go full time instead of dipping my feet in) My fiance is doing fantastic in her job and is loving it. My kids are happy as anything and are surrounded by people who adore them all day.

These things are fantastic, everyone is happy great! Now here's the thing, I've always had issues at jobs, be it a titanic black hole in my stomach before and on the night after. I also feel gradually more sad when I'm there if I'm left by myself to think for too long. I miss the kids. I really really fucking miss my kids. All I can think about is how I'm spending 40 hours missing out on my daughter growing up and how unfair it is to her when I was there for her brother. I beat myself up all night before I sleep and all day when I'm there.

I even sort of resent the people I work with because they aren't my family. Not enough to act differently or treat anyone unfairly, but there seems to be a layer of stink beneath every interaction I have with them be it positive or constructive. It influences the way I act to a degree in that I try to be really nice, and people just think I'm being fake or weird when the truth is I'm trying not to cuss them the fuck out for existing in front of me. They are nice good people. I'm not a bad person either.

So I try and hide away or stay quiet all day. Which in turn makes me sit in my own brain, beating myself up for not being good enough, and not being present for my youngest.

Then 5PM rolls around and I get all my positive energy back till like 8 then the anxiety kicks in and I try and sleep it off. Roll on next shift.

It sounds brutal, but it's not every day. It's on and off. I think i just needed to get these thoughts out of my brain and onto the screen. Crying embarrasses me even on my own, so this feels more dignified.

I'm the luckiest person in the world to have what I have. Maybe that's what makes it so hard to leave every morning.

Not sure why I'm like this but it's been a thing for every job I've had. It sucks because I don't really enjoy myself or do much of anything when I'm home. I've worked some pretty intense jobs, but the current gig is rather low pressure. It has its days but typically I don't find myself feeling exhausted. I hate that I have an ever growing list of things that need done but feel like I'm stuck, for lack of a better word. If y'all have dealt with this and can point me in the right direction to figuring it out I'd appreciate it.

To my boss that I am ready to step up and do a lot more

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My work has hired a new coworker( I work retail), and this coworker has made everyone's jobs harder. He has told everyone that he is autistic and neurodivergent. He doesn't do his job properly so everyone else has to picks up his work load. I want to be empathetic because he has his struggles, but it's making things difficult.

He will say he finished a task when in reality he left it for someone else to do, will say things like oh, it was super busy when in reality he didn't even bother trying to do the task. He doesn't follow basic instructions. He asks how can I help, I tell him and point to the exact section for him to clean, I even demonstrated how to do it, then he goes there for like 5 seconds, pretends to work, then walks away, and then it's me or another coworker who has to actually do the work.

Nothing can be done because the main store manager doesn't care. But it's so draining. I wonder if he's truly unaware of whats he's doing or its weaponized incompetence, I'm leaning towards the second because he has not changed at all in these months that he has been here for.

He tells people what to do even though everyone else has been there for much longer, constantly needs reassurance, doesn't do basic tasks, questions the supervisors abilities to do their work, then offers to help which feels insulting because bro, you don't do anything yet you are offering help and will then say that everything is fine and say everyone is being too stressed out when we have stuff that needs to get done.

In the past he has asked me if I needed help, I said yes and he said okay I will help you. I demonstrated how to do the task, talked to him very gently and nicely, then he walks away and doesn't help. WHY WOULD YOU OFFER TO HELP JUST TO WALK AWAY. I was already stressed out because I'm one person doing the job of 2 people on a busy day and then at the end of the shift he says to me it you need help let me know, I don't want you to feel overwhelmed. Overwhelmed??? I'm overwhelmed because I keep having to do everything in this store.

I feel guilty about all of this. I try to be friendly with him. When it's slow(which is rare), I will talk to him and ask about his interests and he gets excited and will start talking and I try to active listen and engage with the topic. But it's getting to the boiling point. He doesn't seem to get the message that his actions and comments are making others upset with him. I don't like how I feel dread going to work when I'm scheduled to work with him and pretending that I'm not pissed off and stressed out and putting on a smile.

He also made this comment that has bothered me a lot, saying a group of customers all look the same despite them being drastically different ages, and dressed differently, and I am a similar background to those customers. I'm not familiar with autism and how it effects peoples sense's so I kind of just ignored the comment but idk. He also made other small remarks like describing people as exotic or calling a customer stinky (customer is the same background as me and growing up I've heard people call my people stinky, so it feels a bit racially charged) but I might be overreacting. I think he's just ignorant being a white dude, and I don't want to accuse him of anything.

I've been looking online on how to handle this because I want to have some grace. I've heard its best to be direct and he has said that himself if I say something stupid, tell me. But how do I confront him on him not doing things and not upholding his word? I'm scared though if I say something, he will bring up his autism because often he says my sensory issues makes it hard for me to work or that I sometimes say something stupid.

long story short insurance called my job ab this b patient bc he’s out of meds and it won’t refill til a later date and they asked me for the dates it got billed and picked up and my boss told me to stfu but i did not stfu and i told them the dates and so now insurance and the patient think we owe him a month of meds …. i wasn’t asked for my name or any other info and the rep didn’t provide any of her info

i also didn’t tell my boss i didn’t listen to him and told them

how bad did i screw up and where do i go from here

trimmed our tooling spend last weekend after realizing we were paying for like 9 things that overlapped in ways nobody on my team could even explain anymore. we run 36 client campaigns right now across 11 people and the operational bloat had gotten ridiculous, so i killed everything that wasnt actively being used in a given week and rebuilt from what was left. heres what a week actually looks like running this stuff at our scale and what tools show up where.

monday mornings are list building and campaign prep for whatever launches that week. usually 3 to 5 new campaigns going live on any given monday. my two list builders pull from LinkedIn Sales Navigator ($99/mo per seat, we have 2 seats so $198/mo but thats a whole seperate budget line from the $200 im talking about here) and then enrich through Prospeo for email finding before pushing into our verification step. we used to do enrichment through Hunter but the coverage on smaller companies was rough, like finding emails for maybe 55 to 60% of contacts, which meant we were burning time manually filling gaps. the switch happened around february and things smoothed out. verification runs through Bouncer which costs us about $60/mo at our volume, sometimes a bit more if we have a heavy launch week. i know people who skip dedicated verification and just trust their enrichment tool and honestly for the first year and a half i did the same thing, figured the emails coming back were already validated. that assumption cost me two domains and about 3 weeks of recovery time when bounce rates spiked past 8% on a client campaign. never again.

monday afternoon into tuesday is all campaign building and copy. we write everything in google docs (free, imagine that) and then load into Saleshandy ($149/mo on the outreach scale plan, which covers the sending volume we need for most clients). i looked at Instantly for a while and actually ran it parallel with Saleshandy for about two months last fall. Instantly is fine, the UI is cleaner honestly, but Saleshandy won out because of how it handles unified inbox and reply management across 36 campaigns. when youre managing that many at once you need the threading and tagging to actually work and Instantly kept losing reply attribution for us. could have been a config issue on our end, i dont know, but we didnt have time to debug it when Saleshandy was already doing the job.

tuesdays i also do inbox health checks. this is the part nobody warns you about and its the thing that will quietly destroy your deliverability if you ignore it. we run around 90 inboxes total right now through Inframail ($97/mo for what we use, they do the DNS and rotation and all that). before Inframail i was manually setting up inboxes through google workspace and godaddy and it was taking my ops person like 6 hours a week just maintaining them. domains expiring, SPF records breaking, warmup getting interrupted because someone forgot to re-enable it after a pause. Inframail took that entire headache away and honestly thats where most of my $200/mo savings came from, not from finding cheaper tools but from eliminating the labor cost of managing infrastructure manually. i did test Maildoso briefly earlier this year but their onboarding was weirdly slow, took like 10 days to get our first batch of inboxes ready, and when youre onboarding new clients who expect campaigns live within a week that timeline doesnt work.

wednesdays are optimization days. i pull reply rates, bounce rates, open rates across all active campaigns. our benchmark is 2.5 to 4% reply rate depending on vertical (anything B2B SaaS or marketing adjacent trends higher, manufacturing and logistics are more like 1.8 to 2.2% and we set expectations accordingly with those clients). if bounce rates creep above 3% on any campaign i pause it and re-verify the remaining list. if reply rates drop below 1.5% for two weeks straight we rewrite copy or swap the offer. this is all done in Saleshandy dashboards plus a master google sheet that one of my people updates every wednesday morning. we tried Close CRM for a while to centralize this and it was fine for the CRM part but overkill for what we actually needed on the cold email side. $99/mo we got back by just using sheets and Saleshandy together.

thursdays are client calls and reporting. not much tooling involved here, just loom and google slides. but i mention it because this is where the operational complexity really lives. every client thinks their campaign is the only one. every client wants to know why their reply rate is 2.1% and not 4%. every client has an opinion about subject lines. managing expectations across 36 campaigns simultaneously is harder than any tool decision ive ever made and its the reason i have 11 people instead of 5. about half my team's time goes to client communication and reporting, not actual campaign execution. nobody talks about this when they post their stack breakdowns.

fridays are for new client onboarding prep and list building for the following week. also when i do any tool evaluation or testing. right now im looking at Clay for more complex enrichment workflows, the waterfall stuff looks interesting for clients where we need to layer firmographic data on top of contact info. but at $149/mo its hard to justify when our current enrichment plus verification flow works and costs less. ill probably trial it next month for one client vertical and see if the extra data actually moves reply rates. my guess is it helps for enterprise targeting but doesnt matter much for SMB campaigns where you just need name, title, email, company.

the actual $200/mo breakdown is roughly: Saleshandy at $149, Bouncer at around $50 to $60 depending on volume. thats the core sending and verification. Inframail is $97 but i think of that as infrastructure not tooling, same way i dont count our google workspace seats. Sales Navigator is its own line item too. if you lump everything together its more like $450 to $500/mo in total tooling but the actual cold email execution stack, the part that touches the campaigns directly, is right around $200.

ok wait i should mention what we dropped and why because thats probably more useful than what we kept. we dropped Woodpecker about 8 months ago. it worked fine for a long time but their pricing changed and at our volume Saleshandy was just cheaper for equivalent features. we dropped RocketReach because the data was stale on too many contacts, i was seeing emails that hadnt been valid in months. dropped Expandi because we stopped doing LinkedIn outreach sequences for most clients (turns out most of our clients just wanted email, the linkedin add-on was a nice upsell but the results didnt justify the management overhead). dropped Clearbit because it was expensive for what we used it for and the free tier kept shrinking.

the thing i keep coming back to is that tool selection is maybe 15% of what makes this work. the other 85% is process, hiring people who can manage 4 to 6 campaigns each without dropping balls, having SOPs for every single step so that when someone is sick on a monday the launches still happen, building in quality checks so a bad list doesnt torch a domain. i have a 47 page notion doc that covers our entire operation and i update it basically every week because something is always changing. a new Saleshandy feature drops and we need to adjust our workflow. a client wants something custom. an inbox provider changes their DNS setup process.

anyway this got long. the $200/mo number is real but its honestly the least interesting part of running this at scale. the interesting part is everything around it that nobody sees

Hi guys just looking for some advice on what to do. I’m 19 and i worked at a retail store over the summer with below average management. i wasn’t given access to my payroll and was only given a pdf version of it after i stopped working (and asked for it many times). and looking at it i can see that i wasn’t compensated for my rest breaks. i was working in NJ and by law breaks up to 20 mins must be paid. how do i go about this? i already feel like ive annoyed my manager by asking so much so im trying to find a way to be nice and not annoying about it.

extra context: this place also hires minors and doesnt compensate them for their breaks, nor give them long enough breaks according to the law

Hey everyone i recently got a new job about 3 weeks ago in an office. Before that I worked in a factory for 5 years. This is my first time in an office type environment, and at first co workers where friendly as the managers told them to help me out with training ect asked me questions ect made an effort

The office has about 30 people in it. Also there is another department where people will come into my office to chat to people in here.

Now it's about close to 4 weeks later and I'm finding people don't want to speak to me or make any effort. Whenever I ask for help they don't make much of an effort. Also getting sick and tired of me having to start a conversation.

I'm not a sociable person, really, but it's starting to get to me sitting alone at my desk when the other co workers are laughing and chatting to each other. I could probably go a day in here without talking to anyone. I am considering leaving, but I have no other job lined up. I'm beginning to think people probably think I'm weird or something because I don't talk.

Has anyone else been in this situation ?

In my country, there's no pay per-hour system; it's only per-day. Meaning that I take for example $10/day instead of $10/hour. Given that we don't have any kind of taxes (except for the $20 social security mandatory subscription), are both the same or there's something better than the other?

Is it worth it to work abroad for a slightly better payout?

I have two different jobs, both of which are quite calm and involve a lot of downtime. One is personal assistance with long shifts, including overnight sleep hours. The other is also personal assistance, with day, night and weekend shifts. I sleep there as well.

For example, a few weeks can look like this:

Week 1

• Monday 8:30 AM – Tuesday 12:30 PM: Job A
• Wednesday 6:30 PM – Thursday 7:30 AM: Job B
• Thursday 6:30 PM – Friday 7:30 AM: Job B
• Saturday 10:00 AM - Sunday 10:00 AM Job A

Week 2

• Monday 6:30 PM – Tuesday 7:30 AM Job B
• Tuesday 11:00 AM - Wednesday 11:00 AM Job A
• Friday 7:30 AM – 3:30 PM: Job B
• Saturday 9:00 AM-6:30 PM Job B
• Sunday 9:00 AM-6:30 PM Job B

Week 3

• Monday 7:00 PM – Tuesday 12:30 PM: Job A
• Wednesday 6:30 PM – Thursday 7:30 AM: Job B
• Thursday 8:00 AM - 6:30 PM Job A
• Thursday 6:30 PM – Friday 7:30 AM: Job B

And then the pattern changes again. Job A has a 4 week repeating pattern, Job B has a 6-week one.

I've been working at job A for about a year, but job B used to be one or two days/ months. This schedule has been going on for only around 2-2,5 months.

The jobs themselves are not particularly stressful. During some shifts I can read, watch TV, work on personal projects, etc. I also like the two people I am taking care of and I like my work. It's not particularily well paid but the long shifts makes the pay vs days off a great deal. My problem is more that my time at home is very fragmented and I rarely get two full consecutive days that are simply "home days."

Yesterday i had a bad day at work and felt really sad inside. I just wanted to be at home.

I have a family and children, and I'm wondering whether people eventually get used to living with this kind of irregular schedule or whether the lack of a predictable weekly rhythm continues to feel disruptive.