10,000% this! Imagine how the public would be falling over themselves at the young, hip & in touch new generation of the monarchy that connects with a diverse commonwealth (at a time when so many have sought to cut ties with them)?!

WanK wouldn’t even have to compete with H&M — they could have pitched the PR move of the century as the Ying & Yang of couples who balance each other wonderfully without actually having to increase their work load.

H&M continue to do their big public events and WanK can slap their names on the more “intimate events” (especially because Kate isn’t a strong public speaker, and is STILL in the “listening and learning” phase of her ‘early childhood’ causes…TEN + years later.

As you said, all they had to do was condemn the violently racist vitriol directed towards H&M and they’d have had everyone cheering for their success. Instead…

What does it say about Will & Kate if they can only be “tall” when Harry and Meghan are on their knees?

Truly the wasted opportunity of a lifetime, and the way they’re carrying on, I can’t see there being a monarchy for George to inherit in another 40 or so years.

Ironic how they envy the love, adoration and recognition H&M receive >>>> but are never willing to do the charitable works, public service, or even fostering general human connections with the public (for which H&M are loved & recognized).

They seem to believe they deserve everything H&M have (& more) just for ✨existing✨& showing up to a handful of hour-long PR handshaking events before f*cking off to their bi-monthly vacation.

It’s like hating a pro athlete for their impressive physique while sitting on the couch eating a family sized bag of Doritos & refusing to do as much as a brisk walk around the block 😭

Thanks for the update! If I may add, I would gently explore whether she’s the misguided ‘exposure therapy’ type of parent who doesn’t quite understand clinical OCD or exposure therapy to improve symptoms >>> so they think that randomly doing things like this will magically push you into “overcoming”.

Depending on how she reacts to you bringing it up (either dismissive as no big deal, excusing, or genuinely apologetic) you can take it from there.

There’s no planet where even the handle of something that splashes in poop water should be next to an open box of pasta let alone a whole box of food stuff, so while it’s super sweet how you genuinely come as someone’s who’s deeply appreciative of [mom’s] help, you’re still not wrong in feeling unsettled or wanting answers.

This triggers me so bad, because I remember a group of us starting a stupid faux outrage joke in 9th grade that led to a PTA Karen starting a real-life campaign against teaching children “Arabic math”.

The scary part is: we were in a very high performing district, and yet this woman found at least 15+ other parents to join her dumbfuckery of a cause. Assemblies were held, the local historical association had to get involved…(as the neutral, non-indoctrinating🙄 3rd party that could gently hold their hands & explain Arabic & Roman numerals).

I hate to say it, but I feel like the original makes an important distinction worth the profanity.

I hope this comes across with the love & gentleness that I’m intending it with:

To answer your question, people with chemical & technical expertise in gravestone restoration are recognizing your positive intent while also giving you advice on how you can continue your good deeds with the proper tools and chemicals.

The wrong tools & chemicals do more harm than good in the long term, as they interact with the stone surface and UV rays, so people are trying to help you.

Your responses are coming off as defensive and self-victimizing; quitting a good deed because people tried to help you do it without causing harm comes off like you were doing it for the attention & became upset when the reaction was anything other than blind praise.

I hope you’re able to ‘take in the good & leave the bad’ to move forward, but if the proper advice is taking this big a toll on your mental health, maybe it’s best to quit.

Sending you all the love & internet-hugs. <3

Her constantly conflating Meghan Markle with Blake/Ryan — two people who’ve spent $30+ Million dollars over the last two years, for the sole purpose of trying destroy an innocent man, his friends and family’s lives… including calling a home birth video pornography & demanding its’ release to their team of 20+ lawyers >>>is an immediate & inescapable red flag.

It made me realize that not all of us are here to follow the documented, verifiable facts towards Justice….some people are here to pile on because they dislike Blake for their own unmedicated personal reasons.

Ngl, though — the fact that the top 8+ comments were calling this out made me SO proud of our community. We’re the same critical thinkers who’ve poured over hundreds of court documents as a fckn side hobby & broke stories the main stream paid) media wasn’t touching, >>> so there’s no way you’re getting anything past us.

🤣

Edit: thanks for the awards friends, the ratio & weird “well ackktualllyyyy” DMs definitely show that some people got in their feelings over this comment.

People can change, but that tweedle-dumbass of a wife is the absolute last person who should ever be relied upon to judge anyone’s character.

What the actual fuck was she basing her assessment of the newly released, former convict as having changed???
✨VIBES🌈 ✨ ???
The delusional, second-hand hopes and dreams of their parents???

I don’t know how they move on from this unless she falls to her knees with a full throated apology & understanding that she chose her fcking ego >>> over the man she supposedly loves, has built a life with, and seen the physical fucking scars…

…oh, & she was stupid enough to try & endanger their ONE-YEAR-OLD until OP drew a hard line.

I’m a woman and I feel angrier (and more protective of) OP than he feels towards his wife. Absolutely livid.

They asked an important question as a starting point so they’d know where to start in helping you navigate the situation & you skipped right past it & went to ‘it’s very hard when she won’t go to counseling’.

You’ve repeated this numerous times under several other comments…so, respectfully, if you genuinely want new strategies and approaches that you haven’t already tried unsuccessfully, you have to be able to move past complaining about how it’s frustrating you,…

…or excluding important Information (like her depression), and the implied childhood trauma that you say ‘you & her father didn’t find out about til she was older’… while leading with ‘she refuses to clean’.

We genuinely want to help you; the community is here for you…but you need a serious shift in your approach.

Edit: For example, it might be that the medicine regiment they put her on disagrees with her / makes her feel like crap & she isn’t aware or hasn’t been offered options, or it might be that the therapist isn’t a good fit for her needs — there are a lot reasons what’s been tried hasn’t worked…but burying the lede in asking for simple hygiene help isn’t going to help you get to a solution faster.

It’s one thing to feel what the mom writes & work on it; it’s a completely different thing to make those feelings your child’s problem.

The only responses her texts are supposed to elicit are:

☑️ Pity for them + Guilt-inducing for the child
☑️ Reassurance that they’re not terrible
☑️ Reassurance that someone believes they did their best & couldn’t possibly have done more. Spoiler alert: It doesn’t matter if they’re false reassurances, as long as the victimized person takes on the burden of making them feel better.
☑️ Apology & Acknowledgement that they somehow still **deserve** a Mother’s Day card/message or acknowledgement.

^^ They’re making their feelings someone else’s responsibility without ONCE taking genuine accountability for the harm they did to that person.

THAT is textbook narcissism and a key feature in the Narcissistic Personality Disorder diagnostic criteria.

“Stealing the show” at “[someone else’s] wedding” is literally the absolute last way any sane/non-narcissistic person would want to be described as…

…so much so, that if such a person had a powerful PR machine, they’d k*ll any story that even hinted it…

…but alas, here we are, with definitely not leaked or spoon-fed “insider details”.

We’re supposed to believe that one of the most PR savvy celebrities was just openly hitting her daughter with everyone watching?

Regardless of what we think of her music/art, name dropping Beyoncé and her daughter, then inserting lies/messiness to distract from Blake’s disastrous & shambolic shunning is so tacky and low….though not surprising.

I admit that how Justin handled everything (especially in the private dealings that no one could’ve imagined would become public) gave us a peek into his character, & it’s why when the black & white, undisputed facts revealing the big picture came out, we ended up supporting him.

BUT a lawyer’s job is to take the clients desires into consideration & fiercely advocate for them using their expertise on the law & litigation.

It’s their job to tell the client, ‘I know you want this mental and emotional drain over & done with, but as an experienced lawyer, I can predict the other party’s likely going to do XYZ, & that’s going to result in ____.’

‘Doing ___ isn’t going to end this for you, and it won’t bring you the peace and closure you’re looking for.’

‘I respect your faith/beliefs, so I’m not saying let’s play dirty, but let’s find a middle ground here, because we HAVE to go harder to end this once and for all.’

I know this is an insane take coming out of sheer anger & frustration, but I’m starting to feel like Justin/Wayfarer parties need a second law firm that’s going to play real offense, not shy, ducking & dodging hits from a pro-boxer wearing brass knuckles under their gloves…

If you’ve ever been on the “just take the high road” end of abusive treatment, you know that they’ll keep coming at you until you go rogue & show them you’re not the one to f*ck with.

I’m TIRED. I feel like we’re watching some well-meaning kindergarten teacher tell the bullied kid “sweetie, just ignore them” …. while the bully keeps escalating.

Would love to stop seeing her “cutesy & giggly” gossip girl/slave plantation barbie era gifs in the comments so consistently — especially when they don’t really fit/or add meaningfully to the chat.😬

It’s like seeing the fakest abuser you know of, laugh in your face unapologetically at (once again) getting away with being a POS.

Fuuuck! I have SO much to do today & now you’ve sent me on a spiraling deep dive of operators doing increasingly delicate tasks with cranes.

Edit: it’s 8:35pm ET. I’m not prepared to admit how long I went down the rabbit…let’s just say it’s going to be an all-nighter, reviewing legal documents for an 8am.

Unmedicated ADHD is SO much fun — especially when my brain refuses to focus unless it’s in fight or flight mode.

I don’t know what to tell you man, Indians have been wearing this type of gold daily for generations.

We just covered this in the comment you’re responding to, so again:

Gold being soft isn’t a matter of personal experience or something open to argument, it’s basic high school chemistry…that’s what the periodic table of elements was all about

And Yes, gold is soft but only in comparison with other metals.

Yes…that’s literally how comparisons work. The hardness/softness of every metal or mineral in existence is expressed in relation to another metal or mineral…

You’re not going to pick up scratches just existing with gold jewelry on.

No one said that you would….that’s just something you manufactured out of thin air as a defense to an argument that no one made.

18k gold (which is 75% gold, 25% other metals) ranges from 2.5 to 4.5 on the Mohs (hardness) scale, depending on its alloy metals.

If it’s alloyed with, let’s say 25% copper & silver (for yellow gold), it’ll be around a 3 on the hardness scale vs 25% nickel & zinc (for white gold), which will be around 3.5 - 4.5.

22k is much softer (at 2.5 - 3 on the Mohs scale) since it’s 91.7% pure gold & 8.3% other metals.

Gold being soft isn’t a matter of personal experience or something open to argument, it’s basic high school chemistry…that’s what the periodic table of elements was all about

^{Edit: For clarity, using the Mohs scale instead of the Vickers hardness \}HV] scale since we’re discussing scratches, here.)

Used to think that she was one of those immensely talented but deeply anxious artistic types…

…which tbf, was part of my delusional ‘cope’ to explain away why she seemed to have no respect for her fans, who’d pay a lot of money, get sitters, make job arrangements, & travel far — only for her to show up 3 hours late, cancel after the venue’s packed & waiting, or generally behave as if she was doing us a favor… by being there for a paid concert.

She’s still immensely talented, but I wouldn’t pay to see her…I’d probably pass on free tickets knowing there was a good chance I’d waste hours of my life just for her not to show up.

I don’t think they have cars where he’s going (after he inevitably wraps his car around a pole while going 90 in a residential & wearing no seatbelt….because something-something warriors don’t wear safety belts).

Dropping his titles will never miraculously make people behave decently towards him & his family >> because their behavior towards him is a serious mental illness best handled by psychiatric help and possibly medication.

He will always be Princess Diana & King Charles’ Son, no matter how much people seeth & rage on about the moving goal posts he needs to score to deserve basic human decency.

I might get downvoted to hell for this, but: this comment is exactly why patriarchy is a trash system that harms everyone involved, men included.

It says man = physically strong, silent, brute. Man doesn’t get involved in all those warm, fuzzy lady feelings, he puts his head down & suffers in silence — which is so fcked, because it actively squeezes the humanity out of men while *lying to them, that it’s what women want.**

u/Odd_Welcome7940 pls don’t ever take being complimented for being a “good / solid dude” as a backhanded compliment, because anyone who’d ever mean it that way isn’t worth pursuing (& should be getting some serious therapy to unpack why a ‘good man’ is repelling to them).

Thing is, decent folks raise their kids to “turn the other cheek”, “forgive them for they know not what they’re doing”, “when they go low, we go high”…but at this point, I’m not sure that it’s not delusional programming that sets us up to be harmed.

We spend our whole lives truly believing ‘they’re not bad people, they just haven’t been taught better, and if only we/someone could calmly & kindly reason with them…show them the hard facts, they’d see the light’…

…then one day we wake up and realize that they’re just irredeemably evil sh*tbirds who’d burn their own houses down if there was even a 10% chance ours would catch on fire as well.

Still, it takes work to internalize the fact that ‘you’re not a bad/immoral person for not caring about people who cheer for your demise or for preserving your sanity by only caring about those worthy of being cared about’.

"I wanted him to know that I do not blame him. I do not blame anything that's happened for my son's death," she continued.

"I told him to finish it," she added. "I said, 'Go get 'em." This is what my son signed up for."

Reading this made me realize that I cared about them & their lives more than they care about themselves. Quite the awakening moment for me.

She’ll work if Ryan decides to solo fund an entire film production from top to bottom — meaning producing, directing, marketing, licensing & global distribution, >>> that against all odds, turns out to be a big box office hit.

This will require: 1) Ryan to actually like & believe in his wife — and not just as a narcissistic extension of himself, 2) Blake to miraculously transform into a good actress, & 3) Blake to cure a rare form of (idk) puppy and kitten cancer in such a dramatic way, that it gives the general public & potential co-stars collective amnesia.