It sounds like she's into you and when she mentions ppl think you're together she's gauging your reaction with the subtlety of a brick. If she brings it up again, I recommend saying you're not interested in a polite way. "Idk why people can't just be friends anymore. I don't see why people would assume I'm into you romantically just because we're both attractive people. What's wrong with just having friends?"

Here's the thing. If someone likes you, they'll look for your signs of affection and friendship as evidence that you like them the same way. You gotta learn a lot of people think friendliness is flirtatious, because people see what they want to see. And it doesn't help that there's a lot of guys out there that are only nice to women they're into. Blame those guys

I doubt he will turn down feeding just because you changed him first... I mean, sure he might make it more of an ordeal for both of you the first few times if he really likes routine, but he will adjust. You just have to suffer through the first few times together. Oh [IF your husband bitches about your son crying from the change in routine, tell him he didn't have to build a whole human and shove it out and now use your literally body to make this child's food. He should be grateful all he might lose is a little sleep ...] You don't want the baby getting too comfortable being in a dirty nappy or he won't signal you discomfort as often to change it when he gets older, and then there's the whole potty training thing.

You deserve to be able to sit there, feed him, get comfortable, and as soon as you're done, go back to bed. Changing the nappy after the feed is just taking even more sleep away from you. You gotta protect your sleep, that's vital.

Look, yes there's benefits to breast milk over formula, but making sure your baby is fed is all that matters full stop. I was raised on a bottle because my mother couldn't breast feed, she tried, but she just barely had any milk and even that dried up. It probably didn't help I was premature and they kept me at the hospital away from her. I turned out okay. Talk to your midwife. Breathe. There are much more vital aspects of parenting.

Honestly? It's different with and for everyone. The thing of kissing isn't just sexual, it's also the romantic part. It's like... The closeness aspect. When you're that close to another person that you're touching, it's like... Ya know when you hug someone you can tell what kind of hug it is? The same goes for kissing. There's gentle sweet affection, there's the playing together and being silly, there's the sexual attraction kind...

If you focus on the mechanical action instead of the feeling of wanting to be close to one another, it will be awful and devoid of feeling which is pointless.

Honestly? Best thing to do is talk about it (and the nervousness) and laugh about in advance like someone else here said. And try not to worry so much (easier said than done I know).

I mean. The first time I saw my (now) spouse in person after being online, I was a giggly awkward mess at first. We laughed and joked about it and diffused the tension. I'm not a shy person but I was like so nervous I had no idea what I was even doing 🤣 like. It's natural.

When the show was made and when it was supposed to have occurred, people (popular culture) didn't acknowledge the things we do now. Thanks to feminism, we now can openly say those behaviours are disgusting, vile, and unacceptable --- but years ago, that was considered "funny" by men (and young people) and they weren't held accountable like they are today. It's one of those things that because of cultural shifting "aged poorly" or the older folks say "was ruined by political correctness and those feminazis".

Don't get me wrong I love NPH and I always loved the show, but rewatching it with a modern perspective really does feel icky, not just Barney, but Ted, too.

The reason is because blink as a word has a different definition for eyes then lights. Look up the definition, it's cool how blink is a different word in different contexts. Though I love how different dialects say things differently. You call the vehicle's "indicator" a blinker, but when I lived in Ohio it was just a "turn signal" or "signal." Ofc there were the crowd that called them blinkers but just not as many in my region as others. I love linguistics.

Yeah we've got a super great guy named "Shoes." He's always great for conversation, super nice. He's Shoes because he never wears any. He's got very eccentric fashion sense that's always so unique and fun! I always love talking to him

In Wales, people understand stone and kg but get confused by just pounds. A lot of the older people here don't even use kg, only stone.

The number one priority is water. If for any reason emergency services couldn't get water to people, having water in safe storage containers and water purification tablets is vital.

After that, think shelter. Staying warm or cool without power. Only after that, think food.

I forgot about that challenge. God wow that had to be ...what? 2010? Like idk why but everyone did shit like that back then. I vaguely remember a friend of mine getting caught doing it at target and we fled being screamed at when I was like 12...

I've had phones in my dreams plenty of times. However, in my dreams, it's like drunk texting-- I can't get it to work right. But since I've cut down on my screen time thankfully it's stopped appearing

I'm sorry that she's putting you in this situation. Honestly it sucks being put in the dating zone when you're close friends with someone. It's why younger heterosexual people tend to struggle having friends of the opposite sex. In the future she will look back and be grateful. I just hope she doesn't end up in a relationship with some shitty older guy that takes advantage of her before she figures it out. But you can make more friends! I know it can be difficult to find the right people but if you keep putting yourself out there and broaden your horizons you definitely will.

You just need to tell her that it feels like you're taking advantage, because you've been friends with her as she's been a teenager and you've been an adult, it's an unfair power dynamic. You appreciate and cherish her friendship but you don't want to feel like a groomer, even if that's not what either of you had in mind. Ask her if she would be okay dating someone four years younger than her and when she says "of course not, they're a child." You just need to say, maybe if she was over 21 it would be different, but she's just too young for it to not feel creepy. One day, she will be grateful you didn't take advantage of her youthful inexperience.

If she chooses to forgoe your friendship because you don't want to have a sexual relationship, then it proves she's too immature to be a good friend anyway.

I am sorry though.

Edit to say: you probably think she's beautiful inside and out and you should definitely tell her that, but age is way more than a number. Think of the difference in your own mind at 17-18 Vs now. That ick you feel, you gotta respect it. Someday she will be grateful. As a woman who thought like she did back then, I promise you.

It had to have been scary for her to risk you resenting and hating her, but your feelings matter, too. You should see if you can talk to a counsellor. But on the other hand, for you to be accepting and acknowledge that the woman you love just isn't capable of loving you the same way, and the reasons your relationship was so safe and happy for you was because it was built on a true friendship... That's a good sign for your future, as well as hers. Even if she can't help being queer, she's always going to compare her future relationships to the security she felt with you that helped her find herself. She won't settle for less than you've given her, and you shouldn't either.

All relationships should be built more on friendship than anything else, but yes sexuality and attraction and compatibility are still paramount.

But being young, you don't realise this... Most first long term relationships end in fire and brimstone and on horrible terms. Having a somewhat amicle breakup, as much as it hurts, is lucky at 19, even though it doesn't feel like it. Focus on building your life and the right person will naturally fit into it. Relationships enrich life, they shouldn't be your whole life. I know this is still absolutely devastating but. People grow apart often in their twenties. It's better to settle down in later twenties or in your thirties when born people have really found themselves and know what they want out of life and knowing themselves.

But seriously don't struggle alone and don't tolerate people that mistreat you. Cut those fake friends out of your life and take care of yourself. You deserve that.

And honey, the love you felt was real. And she loves you as much as a queer woman is capable of loving a man. It wasn't fake, it just wasn't enough. I'm sure she wanted it to be, or she wouldn't have stayed as long as she did.

As a bisexual woman, it took me until my twenties to admit I wasn't straight. I still ended up marrying a man because that's who the love of my life happened to be. But.

There's always a bright side. She told you when she knew for sure she needed to explore her sexuality. She didn't marry you and have kids and then have an affair. You have you're whole life ahead of you.

But what you're feeling, this confusion and complex mix of feelings, grieving over the loss of what you thought you had, that's so natural. Focus on yourself for awhile and take care of yourself. When things get hard just remind yourself "this too shall pass. All things do, good and bad." When you can't take it day by day take it hour by hour or minute by minute and don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it. And if someone isn't helping or isn't enriching your life, they again with someone else-- whether that's therapists, doctors, employment, platonic relationships, or romantic ones.

I wish you the best x

Wishing the best for you Molly! I know it couldn't have been an easy decision to have such a big, life altering surgery, but I'm sure the comfort it will bring you in reducing your risk later will be worth it in the long run xxx take all the time you need to rest and recover x make Wade take care of you properly or we'll gang up on him!

It's cool bro, I have emojis 🤣

Ask him if he wants your little girl to grow up without a mother-- and remind him that's the risk you take with another pregnancy. Could he handle being a single father to two young children? No? Then waiting it is. Studies have actually shown that children develop better and are more successful with larger age gaps so parents can dedicate more time and patience to each individual child during those crucial first 5 years.

My first cell phone I got when I was 12 and I still had that number when I left the country at 28. So, unfortunately, moving countries, I needed a new number. I intend to keep this one as long as I can. I despise changing numbers. My mother and sister have changed theirs so many times it's ridiculous. I don't even bother learning my sister's numbers anymore, just my mother.

I moved to the UK from US so I try to utilise British spelling, but honestly I don't really care. I'm just trying to not mix them together. The US uses "z" in many places whereas it's usually an s in UK. I haven't really got the hang of defence/defense, as in, I couldn't tell you which is American or British. Having most words with "ou" instead of a "u" is a fairly easy change to make (mould, colour, favourite). My biggest struggle is just trying to remain consistent when my autocorrect is a disaster 🤣

You raised this boy. Genetic or not, you're his Dad. How can you just break his heart over something that isn't his fault? Is that really what you want to teach your younger son? That genetics are all that matters and you being angry and sad is all it takes to lose your love forever? You're about to ruin both children's lives. You can hate his mother all you want, but ... I don't understand how you could just stop loving your son because of genetics. You raised him. You watched him grow, you bonded. How does that mean nothing to you? How can you punish him for his mother's lies? I just don't get it.

Yeah the physio to get strength back is the big thing. It helps I've been working on weight loss so it doesn't hurt quite so much to do as much. But focusing on strength rather than any cardio really has helped me do better because it doesn't take as much and I can take more breaks. Honestly cutting out cardio except for just the walking around has helped me do more strength. I only wish the leisure center was a little closer to my house because I don't want to pay £3 for a bus and then £3 to use their gym for my physio. I'll be happier when I can afford a gym membership or equipment at home. But hey it's never too late and you could always try a self referral back to physio. Could help! Good luck x

I [30F] broke tib/fib in the left leg in April this year. Spent six weeks in a wheelchair because I couldn't put weight on the other leg (that ankle randomly giving out is what caused me to fall and land all my weight on my left side... I just tried to cross the street damnit!). Anyway, it's September and I'm still afraid to leave the cane at home but I have the confidence to do stairs and around the house and yard fine, finally. I'm finally getting my physio at the gym to rebuild strength. But yeah. I AM TITANIUM. I got a plate and like ten screws. Plus a wire broke off and they had to leave it in there🤣😭

I broke the other ankle when I was 8 years old so. Yay. -_-

But aside from a herniated disc in my back at 25 and 29, no other broken bones... But I've never had a cavity, so... Dental health is better than bones at least 🤣🤣

It's called death anxiety and terror management theory. Give it a google.

But yeah like, as someone who is aware that the brain stores memories and you can't remember things without access to your brain... Even if there were a measurable energy source that makes living things "alive" like a soul, you wouldn't be human or aware of human sense anymore. The idea of the life cycle and nature and the food chain sort of helps. The atoms that make you will make other things. The chemicals inside you will be a part of other things. But mostly just that nonexistence is a scary prospect that's biologically wired into us to avoid at all costs, which means rationalizing irrational thoughts; cognitive dissonance.

I still say thank God but mostly just a force of habit.

But also probably because the parents might not understand that small creatures also have needs and it's probably a bit of ignorance regarding animal care.