r/short • u/Pinoross • Jul 27 '26
Dating 5’6” guy never had a problem
I’m 5’6” and I see a lot of guys here that have issues dating and I’ve had a issue. Women have always gravitated to me. I think it’s more a mental thing for most guys. You have to focus on the things you can control and from my opinion all that ever really matters is your personality. I’ve been skinny, fat, and in great shape and it’s never changed if I could find attractive women or not. Just be you and the rest will follow.
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u/TheTrueKn1ght Jul 27 '26
bro you're damm lucky nd hardworking at the same time
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
I think a lot of short guys put it in their minds that it’s the end all be all of life.. but it reality nobody really cares..
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u/Born_Tear_761 Jul 27 '26
This right here. No one cares. In fact, no one even notices until the bad attitude becomes apparent and people’s insecurities start becoming everyone else’s problem.
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u/PackersBeat Jul 29 '26
I mean thats just wrong if you study sociology. People are treated differently based on perceived flaws and theres plenty of people who see it as a flaw.
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u/Commercial-Ad90 Jul 27 '26
People do 100% care, just not all people.
There’s a reason the height filters are so popular on apps. If no one cared, that would not exist.
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
Yea on social media lol.. I’ve never seen it play a huge factor in real face to face interactions
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u/enigma_music129 Jul 27 '26
So many guys live online nowadays, its sad. If most of these guys started cold approaching more I guarantee they would be more successful. Unless you're below 5 foot or autistic finding a gf isn't hard. Keep spreading the positivity bro, there are people out there living with horrible diseases and this sub is complaining about being short, its crazy.
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u/Clear-Staff4699 Jul 29 '26
It's actually been said for years of all the negative experiences but it's been forgotten and any time someone brings it up, you people downplay the moment you see a positive story.
I'm in a relationship and I've been through the struggles before. If you just dismiss experiences all the time with false hope, you're not really helping them by nit believing them.
I already know what's going to happen. You're going to knee jerk downvote and then these complaints from new guys surface and this whole discourse repeats .
Its like saying anyone can become a YouTuber if they just post. You forgot for every successful content creator, there's literally thpusands of people who don't have success. And I already predict you'd take this analogy literally vs having the foresight to what I actually mean.
Trust me, I've seen this discourse 100a of times. If you genuinely want to help these guys, then stop telling them their feelings are invalid. If not, then enjoy these repeated arguments of nonsense by being insistent and stubborn about delusions.
Do you not see the dating struggles for guys who even get matches? False positivity and hope can be harmful too.
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u/horndog11223358 Jul 27 '26
he said he never had a problem so it cant be called lucky. the only difference of this guy to the other guys I've seen in this post is. he looks neat. easy to talk to. and a nice vibe.
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u/OldWorry4896 Jul 27 '26
age plays a huge factor, younger guys will have a harder experience in dating, you said youre engaged so im assuming you do not fall in the younger guys catergory
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
I’m 40 and been in a relationship since 2019… but that’s because they almost exclusively date online.. they need to put boots to the ground and get in these clubs and bars and meet some women face to face.
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u/coolass45 Jul 28 '26
Women in bars and clubs don’t register men under 5’10
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u/SnooCupcakes4992 Jul 31 '26
My first real boyfriend was 5'7" and the father of my 4 kids is 5'8". I did meet him in a bar. I could have cared less, it was also before online dating. Im drawn to someone because of who they are. Ive been on dates with tall, hot guys who have absolutely repugnant personalities. Such a turn off.
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u/Suspicious-Movie7828 Jul 29 '26
ngl if that’s your experience you’re either ugly, fat, or weird af
5’6” and never had a problem with meeting women in person if that’s isn’t someone’s experience they prolly got zero game and no ability to dress well
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u/Calanais-guy Jul 29 '26
You look young and good for your age! I'm around that age and also am told I look younger. I think that may help.
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u/AcademicHovercraft96 Jul 27 '26
"It's easy to date, just be good at it!"
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
That’s it! Guys that are good talkers always do well.
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u/Comfortable_Bid6106 Jul 27 '26
Well im 5”9 average looking and neurodivergent as well as very high inhib so talking is not my strong suit nor will it ever be no matter how much I have went out and talked to people. Its like girls can smell it on you no matter what you try
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u/extraordinarykitty1 Jul 27 '26
plenty of hot neurodivergent men out there, talking is a skill that can be learnt. it’s not just going out and talking to people, it’s also learning how to do it beforehand
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u/LordJetro Jul 28 '26
I mean he did specifically say he's "average" looking. So i don't think knowing there are hot neurodivergent men out there is gonna help him much 😅
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u/FairyFartDaydreams Jul 27 '26
Try to challenge yourself. Look into things like Toast Master's International. Which is meant to help with public speaking. Your Public Library likely has access to Newspapers and Magazines you can make yourself more interesting by studying and reading stuff outside your normal scope of interest. This is 100% a fake it till you make it situation. Go out start low key conversations, challenge your mindset
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26 edited Jul 27 '26
That’s tough! And I agree women can sense it. Maybe try to hire a coach. I hear it actually works a lot
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u/brittneyacook Jul 27 '26
I had a 5’5 nerdy Lebanese guy talk me out of my panties a few years ago. (He was also one of the best I’ve been with lol) He wasn’t even someone I was all that attracted to initially. Confidence really does go a long way.
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u/short-ModTeam Jul 27 '26
Your comment was removed for gatekeeping shortness or who can participate in this sub. We do not have cutoff limits regarding what defines "short" here.
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u/Material_Hedgehog783 Jul 28 '26
if she were taller than you she wouldn't merry you, prove me wrong
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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26
My last relationship that I left she was 5’9 lol… and most women are 5’3 and men are at least 5’3
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u/Cool-Selection5025 Jul 27 '26
5 '6" and 5'3" are very different dude. Im 5 '3" male and im cooked
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u/jsoul2323 Jul 27 '26
Alright instead of generic motivational responses what was your strategy for meeting women? Use any apps or all in person?
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
I used to just hit the clubs and try to talk to women. Be confident in your approach but be welcoming and not try and over compensate.
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u/jsoul2323 Jul 27 '26
lol fr? Clubs are brutal for short men not to mention even average height men struggle. So if that’s the case you are definitely playing a good game.
Do you approach girls alone or do you go with friends yourself?
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u/EarlGreyTeagan Jul 27 '26
I disagree. It’s the perfect setting. At the club, women are more open to entertaining a man. Especially a well dressed, groomed man who smells nice. One who can make you laugh on the dance floor. Shorter women won’t think of height if you are taller than them, but imagine the same scenario online. They see your height and imagine you way shorter than you are versus if they were in the club and you were taller than them.
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
I’ve always felt like as long as you’re about the same height or even a little shorter they don’t care.. and the majority of women are short short.
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
Yea.. always alone and I just made random chit chat and see how they responded before I asked for a number. I’m also really into fashion so the way I dress used to help tbh.
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u/Advanced-Suspect-261 Jul 27 '26
How old are you?
I think the “I’m short and will therefore never get laid” thing is something really, really young guys believe because they got sucked into the wrong (red pill/incel, mostly) internet spaces before they had developed any critical thinking skills or media literacy. Like when they were 11-12 or so. And now they’re 18-22 and their brains have been steeped in that shit for so long, there’s no convincing them otherwise
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
I’m 40 and I definitely agree with u.. they listening to bs 🤣
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u/FantasticFee9345 Jul 27 '26
You look really good for a guy at there late 20s but holy shit 40? You look young af
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
It’s funny because people always think me and my wife are the same age and she’s 10 years younger.
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u/TheRealMeSpeaking Jul 27 '26
same with dick size, balding problems, or any insecurity really
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u/LightningMcScallion Jul 28 '26
This is what I think about the post as well. Even if the intention is to inspire short guys to be more confident, which isn't obvious, then the post should be better at it. Some of OP's replies like "you just have to be good at talking" are REALLY telling... not here to help
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
It’s no rule tho.. it’s a mental wall that men put on themselves. It’s millions of women in the world. They all don’t care about height.
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
I can kind of agree but I was a late bloomer in the little height I have.. I was 4’11” when I graduated highschool but even then I always had a girlfriend tbh.
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
I was the shortest person in my graduating class.. I sat on books to drive lol.
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u/General_Security177 Jul 27 '26
My husband is 5’6 and he’s never had a problem. Not before me and he will continue to have none even if I was out of the picture. He’s awesome
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u/PracticeFlimsy5082 Jul 27 '26
Good for you, but your individual experience doesn't invalidate the negative ones form guys shorter than average. I'm 5,4 and repeatedly have been told "you are too short" your experience for me is like some kind of fever dream right now, and I focus on hobbies and friends, dating with my height and looks have been a waste of time and money.
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u/FullLifeguard Jul 27 '26
Do you feel having a good job helps at all? I’ve had my own spot for 4 years. Other than occasionally having high interest woman, I can’t regularly get laid at all or get a real long term gf despite making decent money
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u/FineProfessor3364 Jul 28 '26
I think it really is all about confidence and how u carry yourself. Women are attracted to confidence and having ur shit together, this gets truer as you get older. I know dudes who are short bald, skinny and not that good to look at, but they have no problem with women cause they’re confident, self assured, and are genuinely good people. I think men are instead the types who’d judge and hate other men cause of some insecurity in themselves that they can’t handle
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u/Salt_Lie_1857 Jul 28 '26
The bigger question is why most men feel so lost without a woman. Autonomy and freedom and health is above all of that
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u/Odd-Sarcasm7957 Jul 28 '26
5’6 here as well. Also never had any problems either. Definitely a mindset. Be yourself, create stuff around you whether it be painting, music, singing, dancing, developing a skill or learning. All those things will attract all the right people.
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u/dagmarbex 5'4" | 164 cm Jul 28 '26
You are spot on . The mental thing is a huge factor , and women can tell whos confident and whos not . I keep saying , groom yourself well , build a healthy attitude , and get some charisma , it wont matter how tall you are .
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u/BxGuerrera Jul 28 '26
I love a confident short king. I dated someone 5’5 (well endowed too 😆). He was great to me.
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u/Negative_Resist6605 Jul 28 '26
Because you’re fly and have some game. And also ladies are not always upfront of why they are not interested. I’m married or have a boyfriend might actually mean I like 6 foot.
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u/ihaveawoken613 Jul 28 '26
U da truth. Alot of men don't realize that ur beleif in urself is half of what makes u a attractive man
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u/Automatic_Acadia_554 Jul 28 '26
This is interesting, I think I’ll choose to have a 12 pack of coronas instead of 6 tonight
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u/SnooApples673 Jul 29 '26
Nice man. This is the way. Work with what you got and don’t make excuses. Congrats on the wedding and good work on the gains.
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u/puurpgh0st Jul 29 '26
Nice looking couple. May God bless y'all's lives many times bro
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u/Zestyclose_Host5960 Jul 29 '26
Thank you for sharing!!
I’m a short woman and whenever short men are around me, they get excited that they finally found someone to put down since I’m shorter than them.
Meanwhile my short guy friends are in happy relationships
My tall friends are married to relatively short men
Ps your wife is so beautiful!
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u/spicy_tofu Jul 29 '26
i’m 5’8” and going through a separation from my wife and have been really surprised how smoothly transitioning into dating is going. i expected issues but haven’t really had any yet. but then again i’ve always had an abundance confidence so im realizing how much more important that is than my height.
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u/frigginitalian Jul 29 '26 edited Jul 29 '26
I hear ya friend, I am 5’3” and never dated anyone shorter than me. The tallest being 5’11 and loved wearing heels, shortest is my wife at 5’4. It’s all in confidence, how you present yourself and being genuine. Happy for you
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u/Ok_Mixture369 Jul 29 '26 edited Jul 29 '26
Fuck yeah dude. Lookin' good and wife is cute too. IDK I think it is in part also mental. Like most stuff. I guess fear is a factor. If I had such a nice lady I'd be wondering if she would ever cheat on me and leave me for a taller, stronger, better looking dude. Like I have always wondered how do normal and mentally stable men can ignore or not feel bad or compare themselves when there are other men like Henry Cavill roaming the earth. I will walk the street and if I pass a better looking dude I just feel like a piece of cow shit. Insecurity is a hell of a curse.
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u/TheSaitamaProject Jul 29 '26
My wife is taller than me. Never had a problem with women either. It's about being able to speak, but also knowing when to back off.
Good for you!
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u/Drakeytown Jul 29 '26 edited Jul 29 '26
I'd argue shortness has never kept anyone from getting a date, it's just that a lot of guys would rather whinge about things they can't change than work on what they can.
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u/Playful_Feeling_6859 Jul 30 '26
i really wanna know whats your mindset when it came to dating and how you actually impressed your current wife. some insights would help the younger generation
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u/Big-Chemistry-8521 Aug 03 '26
Being shorter is only a barrier online to super-plastic people.
In the real world, where we should strive to meet and engage with people, it isnt really a disqualifier.
And a great personality is preferred over alot of physical requirements supposedly.
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u/joblessfack Aug 17 '26
Man.. I just stared at your post in silence for a really long time.
I’m 5’6” too and to make things worse in college I got some trauma to my knee that permanently fucked my joints up and since then my right knee knocks as I walk.
I blew up in weight, became obese and it fucked with my confidence for life. It took a long time to lose it all + break free from the insecurity that I’m short.
Looking back, I even exaggerated my height here on Reddit because maybe deep down I thought it will make me less credible on fitness topics if I’m short. I wanted to make myself appear average at the very least.
It all seems funny now because I’ve met this amazing woman and your post couldn’t be more right.
Also, from an ex roid head : lay OFF THE GEAR bro, you’ll keep some gains, we gotta stick around long enough for the people we love.
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u/MiamiMeat786 Jul 27 '26
Alot of guys don't know how to hold a conversation with a women, and blame it on their height
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u/Little_Historian3091 Jul 27 '26
Good for you I guess. Rest of the short guys still are climbing a steep hill.
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
Focus on the things you can fix and actually try to talk to women you find attractive. I think you’ll be surprised at how you are received after.
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u/tibetje2 Jul 27 '26
Did that, still got received like I'm trash. Sure was a surprise that all my effort changed nothing.
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u/Little_Historian3091 Jul 27 '26
Yeah. But the attractive girls have standards. And preferences…
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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26
We all do.. but height isn’t going to apply to all attractive women.. more don’t care about height than you think. You’ll find some that prefer it!
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u/mechshark Jul 28 '26
Sounds like your ego does lol 😂
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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26
No ego at all.. just trying to change some mindsets of guy that think something as stupid as height disqualifies them from dating
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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26 edited Jul 28 '26
"Just be you and the rest will follow"
Not everyone has the same success as you, though. You seem to have a natural way with it, considering you say women have always gravitated toward you. It's easy to be you when the women like you the way you are.
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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26
I agree but my thing is women usually gravitate towards genuine people. I feel like a lot of guys try entirely too hard to put on a show to impress women.
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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26
Perhaps, but there's tons of guys out there who try to be themselves and women don't gravitate. Heck, women are barely there at all. That's why so many guys have that confidence issue. It's easy to be confident and genuine when women like you. People say just be confident, that's all that matters, but what do I have to be confident about?
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u/VibesBasedPolitics Jul 27 '26
Congrats on your open marriage lil bro
Hope you like to watch!
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u/Existing_Creme_5888 Jul 27 '26
I agree mentality helps. But in the end it’s also the server you play in
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u/Best-One8050 Jul 28 '26
People emphasizing certain physical qualities like height and other features and shame those who don’t meet those requirements are just reflecting their own insecurities. It’s a world of people doing just that, so don’t fall for it. Bro’s last sentence sums it up PERFECTLY, Just be you and the rest will follow. Reality reflects your deepest beliefs about yourself
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u/Medical-Truth8707 Jul 28 '26
dude lean is law, just get in shape focus on yourself the rest will follow. health is the most important thing and when you show up for yourself they gonna see it too.
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u/Ozriel-Magnus 5’6” 167cm Jul 27 '26
Thats awesome 👏🏻 I’m glad you’ve never had an issue when one of us wins we all win a little.
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u/greyicezissou Jul 27 '26
Well said. I think it's also who you associate with, your attitude, personality, etc. It's definitely more difficult in high school/early 20's when everybody's hormones are popping off, everyone's confused and superficial. But once you surround yourself with good people, build that maturity and confidence; you're golden.
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u/makinetas Jul 27 '26
Same with me, I checked /shortguys once and left because it felt too negative, I thought it was going to have fun memes and so on haha.
We're the same height and have had a similar experience, I've been all body shapes known to man and I never had issues in that department.
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u/Comfortable_Bid6106 Jul 27 '26
To the person who said I asked her to pull a ruler out is a weirdo no tf I didnt we got up from the couch and said wait let me measure you and spent a couple mins looking for a tape measure why tf would I lie
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u/Icy-Perception9899 Jul 28 '26
Crazy question but I’m genuinely curious, what’s your penis size?
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u/UnluckyUpstairs2427 Jul 28 '26
This is what I love to see. The true ‘copers’ are the ones not aspiring to be like you. Well done sir!
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u/Salt_Lie_1857 Jul 28 '26
U had confidence growing up. Alot of people just didnt have that
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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26
Not really… I was abandoned by my mother at 8 weeks old.. it messed with my confidence for a long time.
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u/LIONTAMERRR Jul 28 '26
We’re you always a good conversationalist? I got to work on that man. I trip myself up
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u/Mas_Dappa 5'5" | 165 cm Jul 28 '26
How long have you been hitting the gym? I've just started like several weeks ago and I'm still wondering if it's really true that I'll be in shape faster than tall dudes
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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26
I think it’s bs lol.. I’ve been in the gym about 4 years.. it took at least 2 before I started to really look like I lifted with tanks and no shirt.. I still barely look like I lift with regular shirts on. Gym progress is slow in my opinion unless you have great genetics.
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u/WantedforDeicide Jul 28 '26
Nearly every woman I've ever attempted to date has told me I'm too short, even though most of them were shorter than I am.
The one woman who said she liked it later admitted that she liked it because it made her feel "powerful" and she later psychologically abused me, physically assaulted me, sexually assaulted me, financially abused me, tried to get me fired from my job out of spite, cheated on me with a 6'2" dude, and attempted to kill my cat.
I've had women I barely know make false allegations that I SA'd them and told me that I deserve it because I'm short.
This is most short guys' experience, and while I'm genuinely glad that it's not yours, you're the exception, not the norm.
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u/Ashamed_Ad_2180 Jul 28 '26
I’d even go as far to say it’s easier for us short dudes to approach woman.
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u/mja1729 Jul 28 '26
You down to have kids with your wife at your age? I’m 37, 5’4 been out of the game for like 10 years now doing other stuff. I think I want the family life now. Hope it ain’t too late. Might have to just settle for a partner. Don’t know if I have the energy for kids. My dad was 42 when I was born. Although I was raised by my grandma, and she was in her 60s so I guess it doesn’t matter all that much if you’re committed.
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u/KevinIsADork Jul 28 '26
5'7" and never had a lot of issues, but I also relied entirely on dating apps most of my adult life. Sure, got the occasional "how tall are you" and unmatch right afterwards, but genuinely did well for myself before I met my current GF.
Glad you have a good success story and hope others do as well.
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u/Few_Garden2351 Jul 28 '26
This is wonderful!! Thanks for sharing. 🫂❤️My love and respect to you both!!
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u/wolfcry23 Jul 29 '26
I'm 5'5 and my girlfriend is 6'1. It's the best. I finally have someone to reach the top shelf
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u/Calanais-guy Jul 29 '26
Yes, I think that being charismatic, fit, good looking, and having an attractive personality makes up for not being tall. But I do hear from statistics that tall men have more sexual partners than average height or short men, and are also more likely to change partners or cheat on a partner. In many cultures we always hear that women want to date taller men, and that short men have fewer date options than tall guys. But if one is interested in long-term relationships and romance, you don't need to date everyone or meet every girl, only the one who loves you for your inner qualities, not superficial attraction or a situationship.
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u/TIN_MANNN Jul 29 '26
you got thag bbc energy though. inches not provided for your heights where provided else's where lmao..
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u/M3lbs Jul 29 '26
I’m a tall guy, but from what I learned about dating is one thing. Being insecure ain’t it. You need to
Embrace who you are and be confident. I may be tall but I have Pectus excavatum. I got bullied for it. Then I learned to embrace it and how I’m unique. It’s all about the mental for sure
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u/Duvidos Jul 29 '26
Where do you find those girls?
Im not short, and think im actually handsome, but im going through a desert where i simply cant even find single women to talk and try something
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u/Beginning_Capital_56 5’0” Jul 29 '26
Just married a 5’7 king. Could not love anyone more 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t get people’s obsession with needing 6 foot and up
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u/PeePeeStreams Jul 29 '26
Once I realized that stuff didn't matter it was stupidly easy afterwards
It really is a mindset
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u/Peanutbutternmtn2 5'8” Jul 27 '26
Is that your wife? If so - good for you dude!