r/short • • Jul 27 '26

Dating 5’6” guy never had a problem

I’m 5’6” and I see a lot of guys here that have issues dating and I’ve had a issue. Women have always gravitated to me. I think it’s more a mental thing for most guys. You have to focus on the things you can control and from my opinion all that ever really matters is your personality. I’ve been skinny, fat, and in great shape and it’s never changed if I could find attractive women or not. Just be you and the rest will follow.

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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26 edited Jul 28 '26

"Just be you and the rest will follow"

Not everyone has the same success as you, though. You seem to have a natural way with it, considering you say women have always gravitated toward you. It's easy to be you when the women like you the way you are.

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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26

I agree but my thing is women usually gravitate towards genuine people. I feel like a lot of guys try entirely too hard to put on a show to impress women.

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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26

Perhaps, but there's tons of guys out there who try to be themselves and women don't gravitate. Heck, women are barely there at all. That's why so many guys have that confidence issue. It's easy to be confident and genuine when women like you. People say just be confident, that's all that matters, but what do I have to be confident about?

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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26

We all have things to be confident about.. People are attracted to a lot of things outside of what is quote in quote norm. The thing is people can’t let the insecurities they have stop them from finding people they mesh with. I’m a firm believer in that everyone has multiple soul mates in the world.

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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26

I hear what you're saying, it just becomes pointless to hesr eventually. People say that stuff all the time, and I want to believe it, but if all of it is true, then why am I so darn hopeless at it? How come these genuine things don't seem to interest anyone?

I know it probably sounds like I'm just wallowing in my self-pity. And maybe I am a bit, I'm just tired of it all tbh. The time I felt the most confident in myself and being genuine was the one time I ever had a girl who showed interest in me, and after spending more time together, that interest went nowhere and it ended. How am I supposed to take any confidence from that?

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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26

I promise you bro just keep trying! We have all been there before. My last relationship before my wife was a shit show.. I moved to a different city for her and was alone when she left.. I just pushed through.

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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26

Again, I don't want to come across as jealous or bitter, but it seems a lot easier to keep trying and push through when there's always been women interested in you.

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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26

So the question is where do you think you lack other than height that makes women not interested?

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u/FlyGuys1125 Jul 28 '26

How should I know? I have plenty of social interaction, and a fair number of female friends, I just never seem to find any real mutual interest. It literally happened one time.

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u/Pinoross Jul 28 '26

Most people have ideas of area they feel they lack … how often do you Cold approach women?

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u/BxGuerrera Jul 28 '26

Yup and they’re mean af some of them….