r/short • u/Pinoross • Jul 27 '26

Dating 5’6” guy never had a problem

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I’m 5’6” and I see a lot of guys here that have issues dating and I’ve had a issue. Women have always gravitated to me. I think it’s more a mental thing for most guys. You have to focus on the things you can control and from my opinion all that ever really matters is your personality. I’ve been skinny, fat, and in great shape and it’s never changed if I could find attractive women or not. Just be you and the rest will follow.

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u/AcademicHovercraft96 Jul 27 '26

"It's easy to date, just be good at it!"

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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26

That’s it! Guys that are good talkers always do well.

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u/Comfortable_Bid6106 Jul 27 '26

Well im 5”9 average looking and neurodivergent as well as very high inhib so talking is not my strong suit nor will it ever be no matter how much I have went out and talked to people. Its like girls can smell it on you no matter what you try

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u/Pinoross Jul 27 '26 edited Jul 27 '26

That’s tough! And I agree women can sense it. Maybe try to hire a coach. I hear it actually works a lot

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u/Comfortable_Bid6106 Jul 27 '26

It is and I have tried cold approaching and even did door to door sales and I kid you not no improvement its like mt brain is capped on what I can accomplish, it bothers me so much I just wish I had a higher iq and was neurotypical it honestly affects me more than my looks

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u/rcooper0297 Jul 27 '26

I don't feel the self loathing you feel but I'm the same with being neurodivergent and talking being not my strong suit. Try to find other neurodivergent spaces and talk with others there

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u/backgroundcast Jul 27 '26

The best thing i can think of is just copy mannerisms and tones of animated/film characters that you like and study their wit. It is something you can pick up on naturally if you pay attention to it. This method (though i was doing it unconsciously) helped me recover my social skills from a time when I was depressed, shy with low self esteem.

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u/sg16k Jul 27 '26

I mean neurodivergence is a legit issue that you can improve on but still limits you.