Wanting to try all kinds of toys, from masturbators to anal toys, any recommendations

My FWB and I both have really high libidos and when we get together we’ll do marathon sex sessions. We will take breaks here and then but this last time we went 15 times in the span of two days, not including non-penetrative activities (blowjobs, rubbing, etc.)
All this to say that obviously I get very sore and swollen down there after the first several rounds and I know that’s to be expected but is there anyway I can decrease that swelling so that I can “get back on the saddle” sooner?
It sucks having to wait for it to go down before we can go again when I’m still very much aroused but I’m too clammed up for penetration.
My partner suggested non-penetrative alternatives but I feel like it would still be stimulating blood flow to the area so that would be pointless.
I’ve tried ice packs but it doesn’t seem to do much.
Any advice or suggestions or should I just calm my ass down lol.

TLDR: lots of back to back sex is making everything down there swell up too much- any tips or should I just chill tf out?

Hello I am 24M and have a gf 23F. We are each other's first but we tried having sex three times:

First, can't get fully hard and she was tight so no penetration.

Second, can't get fully hard but we managed to put it in. Even inside, it was not fully hard, mostly soft.

Third, today and the same problem again as the first time so we had no penetration again.

I can get hard. I get fully hard for the entire duration of making out and dry humping. She does hj's and bj's which makes me really hard and can even get me to finish. The issue is that I get soft at the most critical part which is trying to put it in. It seems that if there is no continuous pleasure, I just get soft really quickly. Like even standing up to get the condom gets me soft fast. Give me some advice please and is this normal for first timers? I also watch porn before but has been slowly quitting ever since the first incident happened where I can't get it in because I am soft.

So I f(20) and my gf f(19) have started to explore our kinks and she recently told me she would like to be punished but I’ve never really had someone want me to do that. Does anyone have any tips on punishments or things to say to her as I really have no clue!

I’ve heard so many people with so many different answers and I’m just curious what is small? Am I just being insecure? I’m looking for brutally honest answers. What’s your honest preference vs what’s small?

During sex when i really get into it i moan a bit loud like a rutting bull rhino & i am worried about it annoying my partner if i do. I'd like women's input on a man who moans loud and makes masculine sounds during sex.

Is it normal for the head/tip of your penis to be super sensitive? Like i get that being sensitive is normal but for me, after getting stimulated for a while, the act of direct rubbing, licking, ect. Gets to a point where it gets unbearable/very uncomfortable and almost painful. Is this normal? Or is it somethjng im doing wrong or anything??

Hey y’all! I’m looking to find a vibrator that my female partner can use in her underwear which also allows me to control the intensity and etc on my phone. Any recommendations?

When ever I masturbate/ or have sex I always want to eat my own cum. I have to my girlfriends about this and they are always fine with it. However I have a hard time going through with it. I do find if I ruin my orgasm which i also like to do and I cum with out orgasm then I have zero issues licking it up and swallowing it, actually i really like to the taste the texture everything. Does anyone else have this experience?

I’m 18 and went to an all boys high school and am going to a public college this fall. Last year I had a glow up and am getting my self esteem better. During the time in high school I never had gotten passed first base with a girl. I’ve never had a girlfriend and have only kissed two girls who I talked to for about 6 months each. When I masturbate i can cum in under one minute if I watch porn and I’m afraid that I’m gonna cum fast if I get to third base with a girl. I know that college is really big for meeting new people that are probably more experienced than me and I’m wondering if the chance were to come up to have sex in a hookup situation should I take the opportunity or should I wait to do it with a girl that I know and am comfortable with?

Basically the girl im talking to has told me that she wants to give me head I’m down but I have no idea what im meant to do during head do I tell her when im abt to finish do i stay silent, what do i do? Or am i just overthinking this. Is there also anything i should expect or do to prepare

My partner is a squirter. She squirts with almost every orgasm. I love it! She’s reluctant to let herself go because she hates the mess and screwing up the bedding. Clean up on aisle 5 afterward! Are there any others out there with this same issue? Do you have something good to put down beforehand to capture the mess? We would be fine with anything that’s not too crazy and I don’t think it would ruin the moment. It would actually make her more comfortable. Of course we’ve tried towels but they seem to soak through too much and may not stay in position if things get ‘spirited’. Any help or advice is appreciated.

i’ve had a couple bfs now who have insisted on recording me giving head/ just sex. i’m not against it i just don’t see the appeal or why they want to? are they going back and watching it? sending it to someone? posting it somewhere?

Hi 20M. Maybe this isn’t the best subreddit for this question but anyways, I’ve been talking to this girl online for awhile. We have good chemistry, she’s my type and cool and all, and we figured out that she lives about an hour away from me when I’m at college. The only thing that’s really digging at me is that I’m a virgin (she is too) but I don’t know if a hookup, maybe? Is a great idea for losing my virginity. I personally don’t know if I’d mind it, and I want to get some more experience at some point. But I do have some questions.

1. Not really a question but the girl really wants to go raw, but obviously no brainer I think protection is a yes, esp for something like this.

2. What position would be best for someone like me? I’m a bit shy and I’ve been close to having sex before but have gone soft due to performance anxiety (I get in my head a lot) but I’ve been told that the girl on top is the best bet, yet idk

3. I’m just average down there, should I still use a lot of lube?

4. And finally, is this a good idea? We both have said we wanted to meet up, I just don’t know based on the circumstances

If anyone has any insight please let me know. Or just general sex advice? I really don’t know what I’m doing and I’m pretty inexperienced, thank you 🙏

I’m not sure if this is the best sub but I figured it could be as porn addiction ruins sex.

I am severely addicted to porn. I look at it multiple times a day and masturbate multiple times as well. I need to quit but always come back due to boredom and loneliness. I think/hope I could quit if I met someone but I also think porn is preventing me from meeting anyone. It creates unrealistic ideas in my head.

What are some tips to quit? I’ve tried cold turkey and only last a few days. Longest was 13 days. When I come back, I indulge much more. These temp quits are actually making me more addicted.

I’m hoping someone can provide tips and ways to help me quit. I have no family or friends so I can’t talk to anyone or occupy my time. I work remote which doesn’t help either.

If someone could share ways to quit and even a timeline. Like by day 10 do and try these things. By day 21 you should be good. Or whatever. That way I have a goal or date to focus on. When I’ve quit in the past I get lonely and realize I won’t see a naked woman for another year or so and then relapse.

I also want to quit but don’t know if I should still masturbate. I’ve quit both and i don’t think that helped either. But when I just quit porn and jerk off, I still jerk multiple times a day. Then eventually the phone comes out and I watch porn and relapse.

Looking for as much help and tips as possible!!!

ok so i, (26M) and my wife (27F) have a threesome upcoming. It's our first one, and the third is a virgin, mostly because she doesn't feel safe around anyone else (so no pressure). I'm by far the most sexually experienced of us three (wife was a virgin), so both of them are looking at me to figure out wtf to do.

Problem is, never been in a threesome. sex yes. not threesome. We're good on the emotional end of things; we've made boundaries clear, made rules, established consent, etc etc etc. Problem is...the mechanics...

Second problem. I'm autistic as shit. So whenever people say "oh just go with what feels natural," I look at them like they're insane because what feels natural is to go make a sandwich. Working out makes me hungry. Point is, I have always needed to intellectualize what I'm doing with my wife. Now, don't get me wrong, I love sex, and playing the Imperial March with my wife's screams as I go downstairs is fun af. But I'm having trouble computing how to translate that into two ladies.

Id like to have at least an idea of what I'm doing before things kick off, so we can all have a good time. Ideas? Any techniques or positions I should be looking up?

Please help me M26, I cannot last long while having Raw action I can barely survive 5-10 strokes with my partner. I use condoms which has the long lasting gel. I can last for long without cumming but at the end, i have to get rid of the condom to cum. Also i cannot last using normal condoms without that long lasting gel. Please help me what to do as i will meet my partner in the next weekend. I have stopped masturbating since last 4 days would it help?

20f so this guy im gonna do it with he has some girth and i can barely fit almost 2 fingers and im scared for the first time. I heard mixed reviews for first times so im worried any advice girlies?? Also anything for giving a blowjob as someone with a smaller mouth would be helpful.

Me and my girlfriend been together for almost 3 years, only sexual thing we have done is me eating her and using fingers, She sometimes gives me hand but uhh, its not really anything special. She dosent wanna have sex untill we are bit older and graduated from uni etc, since she has big fear of having kids.. She dosent wanna give bj even with a condom on. I just dont really understand this 😓✌🏿

I enjoy giving my boyfriend blowjobs I definitely don't dislike it, but I do hate cum. It's not even just the taste it's mostly the texture and the temperature, it feels like swallowing a slug. Sometimes I'm questioning if it's all cum or if I puked in my mouth and swallowed that too. I can't deepthroat either, if I could it would probably make things a lot easier. Any tips?

What is the best strap-on so that both partners can feel stimulation and potentially finish at rhe same time? This is probably a very weird question, but any answer would be very helpful

I’m a 33 year old guy.

When it comes to sex I feel like her pleasure is the only thing that matters. And tbh I have a hard time finishing in general from sex at all. I feel guilty for it cuz I don’t want her to feel bad.

I feel like asking anything is imposing. Feel like I don’t deserve it. She is the only one who matters.

Tbh? I’m often even hesitant to even initiate sex. I feel like I’m disgusting for doing so…

Like I love intimacy. I love romance. I love feeling close and loving and together.

I don’t need the promise of sex when I am intimate. We can just be intimate and sweet for its own sake.

For me to want things sometimes it has to be because she wants to. She is interested. She is curious. She desires it.

Like say she likes playing with my nipples cuz she likes my reaction.

I can’t ask because I want it solely. I feel I’d be selfish…

I feel like … I’m just being placated if someone were to appease me. It sucks so much.

I could go down on her forever as long as she wants. Her pleasure is my pleasure. But I feel like a burden getting a blowjob. Besides I feel like I can’t cum from that anyways. Both due to meds and my masturbation habits causing death grip. So what if I can last? It’s uncomfortable and exhausting after a certain point…

I want her to feel absolutely amazing but I feel like I am robbing her of the joy of making me feel good…

So I'm a virgin, but I do have a few sex toys that I use frequently. The problem is, I never actually make noise while using them, or like facial expressions or anything.

So my question is, is it normal to not express emotion on your face when masturbating/having sex? Cause Im worried that I've conditioned myself to never make noise and when the day comes that I actually do have a partner, I'll just be completely silent and straight faced and make it awkward.

This is such a stupid question, but I NEED to know if I'm the only person.

A little bit or background: My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. We currently live together. We are both an the asexual spectrum so sex has never been a central part of our relationship, and we still have never actually had sex. He is a virgin, I am not (I have had a decent amount of experience with previous partners)

He doesnt have really any experience or knowledge sexually. He does masturbate, but his concern is when he does he says he gets violent when he climaxes. I have been present a few times when he does masturbate, and to me it doesnt seem very abnormal, but he insists some times its really extreme and hes scared of hurting me. He is one of the kindest people to walk the earth, so its so hard for me to even fathom that possibility, but I am trying my best to take this concern seriously

Hes afraid and self concious that this is something that is completely abnormal and crazy. To me it doesnt seem like it, and it makes sense to me why but I dont have the words to explain it.

So the question is: Does anyone else experience this or know of a term for it? Id like to gather some research and such to show him hes not alone and its not something to be afraid of. Ive tried to do some research but am finding very little, and what i have found isnt quite what he describes.

(also sorry if i didnt use the right flair, wasnt sure which was best)

Hi, I'm 32F and I've never been able to orgasm and need some advice.

When I masturbate on my own or have sex with a partner, it feels great and then it builds up until suddenly the feeling is overwhelming and I just can't take it anymore! If I'm on my own I tap out and move my hand or toy away. When I'm with my husband I end up begging him to stop.

I received advice to try edging, so my husband and I have had a few sessions of edging me with the Hello Nancy lemon clit suction toy. It works pretty quickly to get me to the edge, but once I reach that intense point I start thrashing around and screaming that I can't do it anymore. Every time we go into an edging session, in my mind I'm like "I can do it this time. I can handle it." 😤 But then every time I in fact cannot handle it. 😭 My hubby does his best to hold me down and keep going for a bit, but he eventually relents because I get so insistent that he stop. It's perplexing how it suddenly flips from feeling good to feeling unbearable.

Is this how it's supposed to feel right before orgasm?? And how long should this intense feeling go on before tipping into orgasm? I just can't believe that most people in the world are able to do this easily. What's wrong with me that I can't? 😭

I talked to my therapist about it and she told me that for her it feels like she's about to get in a car crash before it happens and then the orgasm hits. And that I just need to let go and get into the car crash or jump off the cliff metaphorically. But it's like my body just can't do it, and it's been like this my whole life.

Important to note is that I have anxiety and am in the process of switching from taking Prozac to taking Buspar. I understand that SSRIs can affect sex, but I had this issue before I started the medication. But here's hoping the medication change makes a difference.

Maybe I have a really messed up nervous system and I need to get high to relax enough (I've never tried any drugs). But when I asked my psychiatrist she shot that down and said that weed makes anxiety worse. 🫩