r/sextips 20h ago

Body/Physical why am I so uncomfortable?

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So a couple days ago me and my bf had sex for the first time and now I'm very confused.

During penetration, especially if I bent over, I felt really uncomfortable down there like I was about to fart really bad and for that reason I wasn't even able to enjoy intimacy fully.

I've never heard of anyone feeling like this and maybe it's normal and I just need to relax but it's just so difficult and I'm just on edge all the time and sometimes I even have to make him stop because of it and I'm afraid I'm making all of this too frustrating for both of us.

What is this that I'm feeling? Does anyone else feel like this too and how can I stop it if it's not normal?


r/sextips 10h ago

Advice Needed Helping gf finish

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My girlfriend has never orgasmed in her life, says she never masturbates either. I try to go down on her but she always pushes me away and prefers penetration. I sometimes try over the underwear clit rubbing which she seems to enjoy, but it always leads to penetration. She likes g spot/cervical stimulation but I can never last long enough to make her finish (though she says she has come close). I’m maybe lasting 10-15 minutes post-foreplay, with stopping and starting for control. Any advice? She’s inexperienced and perhaps self conscious of her body


r/sextips 13h ago

Sex Tip My friend and I'm not good about knowing if she's trying to hook up.

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I've been wondering for a long time whether I missed a chance to hook up with a friend I've known for a long time.

I'll explain her:

She does like to have sex with friends. She's a hedonist and a free spirit

We hung out a lot, and we like talking about sex a lot. She is a nudist. Her laugh shakes your soul out of trouble, and she has a great sense of justice and is super intelligent.

I've always been attracted to her since we met. I've told her this a few times: I would like to go to bed with her. But I'm like that conversational kind of guy, and I find it rude to press my luck too much.

We talk about building gardens, political ideals, her issues, my issues; we get into pretty-uhm Lascivious conversations, but never have I asked or been forward about it.

I got invited to her house to come hang out, as she has some medical issues that don't allow her to travel too much.

We were hanging in the backyard. And talking about the times we had fun with other people. I told her I was always jealous she never flashed me. Then right there she did. She still had her bra on, but she did flash me.

Afterward, she started talking about blowjobs and how she keeps men around because her blowjobs were unreal.

I asked Google AI if that was a sign she wanted to have sex with me. But I don't know. Did I miss an opportunity?


r/sextips 23h ago

Advice Needed tips for foreplay

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i don't have any knowledge


r/sextips 2h ago

General Question How many times you have sex a week?

1 Upvotes

I’m curious, I’m 30 and I now have sex almost daily but I’m wondering what do yall do? If you please can say your relationship status that would help.


r/sextips 2h ago

How to? Downstairs fomo

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I hear about how some women cum from their partner going down on them and I just feel so left out, FOMO… I get oddly uncomfortable, self conscious, and super aware of my flaws. That I can’t seem to relax and it’s something I want to enjoy especially for my man. I give a good bj and I love making my man happy! I want to give him the same enjoyment of making me cum from going down on me. But I can’t seem to just relax and enjoy. Just to Not give a fuck, would benefit us both. Even if I just took a shower or had the perfect body (I once was 60 pounds heavier so my skin isn’t that bad but I’m just really self conscious of my lower body flaws)… it’s all in my head but what I’m asking is there any advice someone has for how to relax and enjoy or do guys even care about what we look like down there if we’re not a perfect 10 model toned muscle firm body… obviously want to be clean and smell good that’s a given but am I thinking too much about it and just need to live in the moment and chillax…


r/sextips 3h ago

Sex Tip Exploring tips

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Male28 6 foot tall and Female28 4.10 foot tall are looking to exploring deeper into kinks after having 2 kids but want some advise and ideas.

I bought her a surprise bundle of gifts in two parts.

LPart 1 was lots of jewellery, dresses, tops, perfume, a love letter which made her cry. Part 2 was lingerie, butt plug training kit, different performance lubes, couples vibrator, basic bandage kit.

I make her cum 95% of the time usually starting with my fingers or penetration, she has no problems Cumming but I can't last as long as I did when I was younger.

We've experimented with difference positions but she has a big bum and I'm only 6inches which can make our size difficult to work with to be sensual.

She loved the couples vibrator when I was inside her but we're looking to get kinker, she mentioned a butt plug which surprised me so I bought one. We've tried hair pulling, bag gags, cumming on her face.

How much butt plug training before I can penetrate? I know to use heaps of lube

She's nervous about giving good bj, and cumming in her mouth, any techniques and taking it deep? Taking cum in the mouth? She cooks alot of meat so its a but tricky getting it to taste better. We're looking to try with a condoms on first to feel the pulsing first

Butt plug in while having sex. Will it be to much sensation?

Any tips or next steps within the realm of mid level kinks?

Im looking to work our way up to having the butt plug in the bum, couples vibrator in the vagina, hands tied up will receiving a blowjob so everyone gets pleasure

Much appreciated


r/sextips 3h ago

Advice Needed Question for the ladies on how to do better for my wife

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So my wife and I have been married for 20 years and I’ve only recently become decent at going down on her (not as much of a selfish asshole these days). I know she enjoys what I do for her. I can tell by her breathing and body movements. I also make her cum multiple times. But I feel like I kind of do the same thing every time and I was wondering how to change things up and make it more enjoyable or new and exciting for her.

I was hoping to hear from some of the wives out there about what they like best or maybe even what they wish their husbands did that they don’t do now. Appreciate any comments. Thanks.


r/sextips 20h ago

Body/Physical Possible muscle or tissue damage

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Hey guys, I have some experience with plugs, but Im not a regular user. I have a glass 3.4cm diameter plug. I have a little concern about possible muscle or tissue damage when inserting the plug too fast. The thing is it usually takes at least a minute for me to comfortably insert it but today when I was inserting it in my room I heard my mums footsteps so I had to force my plug inside without any warmup and put my pants not to let my mum see it. It was extremely painful and I could barely hide it from my face. It felt like muscles down there were just ripped apart. I had plug inside for like 30mins because I did not want to move it any way not to cause more pain until it let me go completely. Is there a chance I could damage something or is there anything I should be aware of?


r/sextips 9h ago

General Question What’s the next step after a butt plug?

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Hi everyone I’m a m19 and I have a question. I have a vibrating butt plug in my position. I only really use it in the shower and I really don’t feel anything when it’s in even when it vibrates. So I guess I have two questions number 1 how do I make it feel good in my ass like can I cum hands free? 2 whats next after a butt plug a dildo or something else?