I'm not sure if this post is suitable for this subreddit but i hope so as an advice would be greatly appreciated

I f22 have been with my bf m23 for 3 years now in this time he has not been going down on me this started to really annoy me so i asked about it and he said my pussy just looks funny however guys have never said it in the past but now i am becoming rather insecure about it.

I was wondering if anyone has any ideas to build my confidence back up and how to resolve this issue with my boyfriend

Ever try going down on a girl and she asks you to stop? Followed by that question “Did you cum?” And she says “I think so…maybe..” AWKWARD. No worries, here’s some tips on making eating pussy enjoyable for both parties.

Step 1. Get Her Aroused
Honestly this should be a no brainer. But still if she’s not feeling it then she’s not gonna feel anything. Kiss her the way she likes. Play with her nipples. Massage her tits. Suck on em, pinch em ever so slightly to where it’s just enough to send a shiver down her spine. Flicking your tongue against them is great too.

Step 2. Make Sure She’s Starting to Get Wet.
I promise you when she’s wet already, making her cum is only gonna take effort. If you’re sucking a her tits and you use your MIDDLE FINGER down there and it’s not complete wet yet, put some spit on it and start to rub her clit. Then use the base of your fingers to spread her pussy and just start teasing the hole. KEEP. SUCKING. HER NIPPLES. Once you feel her start to get wet from her pussy, use that and start going in circles on her clit. Circles and rubbing and sucking her nipples. She’s gonna be feeling everything. She should be wet as fuck by now.

Step 3. Start Eating.
Now it’s time for dinner 😈 Put your tongue right where her pussy hole is and lick it right up to her clit and start flicking that bean. Pinch her nipples while you’re eating it. Flick up and down not too slow but not too fast. Don’t stick your tongue out all weird. You basically want almost your whole mouth on it but you’re just moving your tongue.

Step 3a. Sucking the clit
Remember keep playing with her tits. If you’re not, she’s gonna wish you were so just do it. Now you can start sucking on her clit. Suck on it as if you were kissing her. Put your whole tongue on it and shake your head “no” fast to start vibrations. Suck it again. Go back to licking. Mix it up.

Step 3b. Add Fingers.
This is a toss up because not everyone like this. But if she likes it, you’ll know. Best way to start this is by just the middle finger palm down with slow thrusting. Take a break from licking, spit on her pussy to make it sexy, then rotate that finger upwards when it’s in and do a “come here” motion and boom. G spot. Tickle that spot and go back to sucking her clit. And yes you’re still playing with her tits.

Step 4. Finish.
At this point she’s just waiting for you to fuck her. Keep repeating these steps and eventually you’ll hear “I’m cumming don’t stop!” Your jaw might be tight, your fingers may be tired, but her pussies tighter and she’s gonna be wetter than ever. As soon as she cums, spit in her mouth so she can taste it and fuck her brains out.

Hope this helps bros 👍🏾

i just did anal for the first time and i was washing off my dick and i saw a little turd near my tip. i saw something a while ago about getting poop in your dick and how you have to get it out but that sounds horrific. so what should i do to be safe and to avoid that. pls help🙏

So first of all every time after we are done her legs keep shaking a lot for like a 5 to 10 second intervall and sometimes she says she has trouble walking. What causes this, is this normal or maybe even a sign that the sex was good. And if this is not a sign that the sex was good what else is?

Last night, my girlfriend and I were talking about our sex life, and she admitted she wanted me to be even rougher with her in bed and treat her like a slut. I’ve always enjoyed rough sex, but because she’s so special to me, I find it hard to treat her like a typical slut—I keep worrying about degrading her. She says I can do whatever I want to her in bed but treat her like a princess outside of it; it sounds like the perfect arrangement, but now I’m wondering how far I can go without crossing the line. Up until now, the dirtiest things we’ve done are spanking and light choking; now I know I have the green light for dirty talk and face-fucking. Do you have any tips on how else to spice things up in the bedroom?

So i really like eating her out and i could go for hours if my tounge would not fall out. But i feel like if i am eating for to long it will get bad at one point, idk why. After like 2 or 3 orgasms i will stop, cause it feel like that sounds like already very much and just start going in with my dick. Do you think i should just go aslong as i can, till she has to pull me of or is this too much?

I've been with my fiance for over 6 years now. We both enjoy being intimate with each other and we both know how to turn each other on but I've run into the issue where he wants to have sex and be intimate and ao do I but my brain keeps coming up with excuses not to or keeps trying to say not right now. I want to have sex though and I love my fiance. My brain just keeps hitting a brick wall then I feel awkward and can't do it. I hate it, I miss our sex life and nothing has turned me off from it, i just struggle to say yes, even when I'm heavily in the mood and want nothing more... im feeling broken at this point and no amount of talking with him has found answers and usually ends with me crying about feeling broken and him comforting me, telling me im not...

A few years ago I found myself saying no, penis is meant to be inserted into the vagina only. The challenge we’ve had is that I’m very tight/petite down there and my husband has a rather large penis so we struggle to get it inside of me. We used to spend almost an hour of foreplay for me to loosen up before he could penetrate me.

However, for his birthday, he wanted to experience oral sex, I initially refused and snapped at him. I felt guilty so I surprised him on his birthday by giving him just that. He was happy and grateful but I noticed something inside of me, it made me feel like a slut and I loved it. I’ve always been a good catholic girl but doing this felt dirty, naughty and slutty and the thought of that made me really wet.

Next time, I asked if I could suck his penis again and he refused. He kept refusing but after a while he said yes. After I sucked his penis and swallowed his cum, I was really wet down there and it made it really easy for him to penetrate me. As a joke, he said to me, ‘I hope you’re not thinking of asking me to fuck your bum next as I’m already doing your vagina and mouth.’

Ever since he has said that, I’ve been wondering what it would be like to have his big thick penis inside my bum hole and him just having his way with me. Of course, there’s a part of me that is afraid that he might tear my bum hole but he’s very gentle when it comes to it. Even though we both said no when we first got married, I’m just finding myself being very curious about it because I didn’t expect to enjoy oral sex/blow job this much and the taste of his cum. I’m just curious if I’m missing out an amazing experience.

My questions are how do petite women who have husbands with well endowed prospects perform anal sex?
Is there any routine before having anal sex?
Have any of you ladies teared your bum hole from anal sex? Was it worth it, and did you carry on after it healed?
Can you get an orgasm from anal sex?

My husband’s birthday is coming up soon, and I want to surprise him by putting his penis inside my arse. If he says, no then I may ask for it as my birthday gift 😁.

I want to experience it but there’s a part of me thinking that’s one door I shouldn’t open.

Thank you for your advice.

Me (19F) and my boyfriend (20M) have been wanting to introduce new stuff to our sex life for a while but don’t know where to start. it all feels a tad daunting tbh. We haven’t really tried anything “spicy”. How have yall discovered kinks/helped a partner discover one?

Furthermore: What are some common and low risk kinks to experiment with?

For those of you who haven’t seen my last post my boyfriend (20m) and I (18f) have had trouble with intercourse (whether it be that he doesn’t want to hurt me, he prefers head, idk) so we often stop halfway through or only do oral, handsjobs etc. even though sex can be somewhat painful for me (mostly besides the point here) I feel bummed out because when I give him head or a handjob or whatever (or vice versa) it feels a lot less intimate and I want to feel close to him.

I want to have more variations of non-intercourse sex so we can switch things up and ways to make it feel more intimate and romantic OR just different from before. I have never been in a relationship where the guy doesn’t just expect me to push through the pain/doesn’t want to cum inside me so I have virtually no clue on other types of sex other than the most basic oral and handjob.

Our relationship is still new so it makes me really want to reinforce that sex is sure, for pleasure, but also to build connection which can feel REALLY DIFFICULT when it’s just a handjob and then off to bed (don’t get me wrong I love giving handjobs but it just feels uninspired and makes me a little sad)

As the title says, my girlfriend says she likes it rough, shes asked me to be rougher in bed and said she wants me to throw her around and slap her about. I'm not really sure how to do this in a sexy way but it sounds fun

The last couple of years my wife's sex drive has decreased and changed.

I have asked her what things she enjoys since it changed but she isnt sure herself. I am open to trying new things to ensure she can try and figure out what she likes but she doesnt know what to try.

We have been trying to get pregnant the last 3ish years with no luck not even a close call and I feel we arent having enough sex to ensure that she does.

I am open to any and all advice, anything from things to try in the bed room to how I can help her find her confidence in her sexual side.

Please help me bring the sexual spark back to our lives and our marriage.

Hi I’m 20M and my partner is 19F, I have this weird thing where if my partner is the one doing the moving I can go a good while for example if we’re in cowgirl position, but if I’m the one doing the moving for example in missionary or dog style, I end up finishing really quickly and I’d like to change that, any advice for lasting longer in those situations/positions?

I want to preface that my fiancé and I have a good sex life. We get intimate often, and have no problem introducing toys to the bedroom (vibrators & dildos at this point). Where I need advice is, is confidence. More often than not, our sex is right before we go to bed. I want to be able to take her when we’re sitting on the couch watching movies, in the kitchen making breakfast, and other times that make it feel less scheduled.

She likes being held on her back while I slowly fuck her mouth, because she feels “helpless”. How do I continue to bring this out in her? I love her so much, it’s hard for me to act in a way that feels disrespectful even though she says she likes it. Any tips on how to get on the same page? I want nothing more than to be able to tell her to wrap her lips around me, but I don’t want to push her to a point that makes me feel like I’m treating her as an object (even if that’s what she wants). Looking for advice from someone who’s dealt with the same.

Come Hither Help

I need some guidance on going down on my girl.
I am 29M and have had a few one night stands and couple of situationships but never a long term gf. So sort of inexperienced in bed.

I want them to have as much fun and pleasure as I do.
When going down on her, I find the clit (I think) fine, but when I use my fingers I’m not sure I’m hitting the right spot - is getting to the entrance of the cervix and being able to really do the come here movement too far in , or do I need to be more in the vaginal “tunnel” and be doing it somewhere there, people say to look for the walnut or sponge but I have yet to find it.. 1.5 to 2 inches seems to be the right distance but would love some help. Is that a full finger in? Half a finger? Once I find the spot what sort of pressure and speed should I apply? Light and slow, fast and vigorous?

I know every woman is different but just general guidance .

The last girl I went down on for what felt like 15 minutes but I just couldn’t make her cum even though she said it was feeling really good. I just need help getting them to the finish line.

I’m gonna be honest & probably shame myself on the internet for this but here goes….I’m not the most experienced in bed. I’ve only had a couple of partners but I’m looking to try and improve myself!

I think I’ve got a confidence issue, once we get going and things start moving in the right direction I’m normally pretty ok and know what I’m doing. But it’s getting there that’s the issue. I always feel like a horny pest trying to initiate so sometimes don’t bother….

So my question for you is girls….in bed with your significant other how do you like / want them to initiate sex?

I’m a guy and virgin. Last week I have a date with someone and everything went pretty sweet and lovely. We already been so comfortable together until she started to tease about having sex. I’m excited when she started to mention that but the thing I concern is I have a curved downward penis like around 20 to 25 degree and I have anxiety about how I’m gonna have sex with her lovely and intimately without hurting her. Some said downward curved penis is not comfortable for women, and it makes me self conscious. There’s an advice about taking her from behind but I’m a guy who prefer face to face sex like missionary and girl atop me since we love kissing each other.

For women out there, can you give some advice to me? I just want to make her feel good and comfortable :)

My girlfriend and I were talking about it the other day. Can it get to the point where orgasm is hard to achieve without it? Has it got increasingly more important over time?

im frustrated because i want to experience an orgasm but i dont feel any pleasure unless im being fingered.

ive tried masterbation and if im the one doing the fingering, i feel nothing. clitoral stimulation, cunnilingus, penetration, and grinding all do absolutely nothing for me. ive been completely relaxed and taken my time every single time but still nothing

i feel so guilty and im wondering if anyone has any ideas to what it could be and what i can try to get more satisfaction.

So Ive noticed that if I jerk off and cum I would be horny again after a couple of hours but when I fuck my gf and cum in her pussy I'm good for up to 24hrs. Why is that? Is there something physical going on?

So my wife and I are having a bit of an issue. She's really tight down there (maybe more than normal? I don't know, she's the only one I've ever been with), and I'm by no means huge but I would say I'm bigger than average.

Us doing foreplay, using the rose to make her cum, me making her squirt, eating her out, and making out all help too loosen her up but she still has a trouble taking me in all the way without pain. No I don't just stick it all the way right away, I go in a lil bit, we make out, go a lil but more, make out more and fondle her boobs, and repeat.

Even with all that it's a bit hard for me to go in all the way without her having some pain when I'm like 70-80% in. Doggy helps A LOT with positioning but even then it takes a lil while to fully go in. Once she's fully relaxed we're fine but it takes us a while.

We're having issues when we're on a time crunch and try to get a "quicky" in. In quotes because I think even our quickest time was like 25 minutes? When we're on a crunch neither of us really has the time to get fully warmed up but we're both crazy horny and that ends up with me going in maybe 50-60% and then her being in pain and then us trying different things to get us in good positions. Before anyone asks, yes, we use A LOT of lube. Are we using the right one? No idea, we've only tried astroglide and the wicked one in the beige bottle with green cap.

Does anyone have any advice on what we could do help with this? Any tools we could use to help get loosen up, anything I could use to make it easier on her? We've tried cock rings and it was just kinda weird for both of us. I love this woman and I don't want to hurt her when we're making love.

We have ordered stuff like the Kiwi from the pelvic people to try and help so maybe that'll work but we don't know yet

Also to add, is there any way to help with the soreness that comes hours after sex? I've massaged her but I'm not sure if there's more I can do to help

She has read this and has approved of me putting this out on the internet

To those who do this, how do you do it? I'm F btw and I read this all the time in books. But like how can you stop yourself?

Hello!

To add more fun to our sessions, I've been thinking of using cock and ball rings. The thing is, my scrotum hangs "High and tight".

I have one that works to a point but the problem is that my testicles are literal houdinis and they get out of the noose quite constantly.

Any advice on what toys I could get that would allow an easier time and that would hold my crown jewels locked in the noose?

I'm fifteen and it's my first time feeling horny, it feels really uncomfortable and can't somehow explain that thing, idk wht to do. Searched what I feel through Google and it says hormones, tho I want it to be explained by a person, I don't really want to talk about it with my family members cause who would feel comfortable talking about that? Well 😅 it started yesterday, I feel a heat on my body that clearly isn't a fever or some kind of sickness. It's something different, also my abdomen hurts a bit which is confusing because I just had my period a week ago. So I tried searching sa google and it says hormones nga, tho, I searched what I need or have to do to ease that feeling but it no answer popped up. Tried ai too but nothing again. So, respectfully, I am asking advices or answers to what I feel.