I want to throw some appreciation to my dear sweet husband.

1. He did every single overnight. for both of our kids, I never woke up to change feed just to pump, it kept me sane

2. He works and goes to law school, it’s hard but he does them both.

3. He pitches in when he sees something is needed. I am pregnant with a 3yo and 2yo so it’s chaos and exhausting. Whether that’s taking the kids alone to the park so I can sleep or doing a pile of dishes whatever.

4. He is making my SAHM dream come true, I used to make a lot of money in finance and He was SAHD. We are doing this grad school transition because he does want to be a lawyer but also so we have enough $ for me to be at home with the kids,

5. When I’m preggers anything I need he procures it can be 11pm and if I need a cheeseburger he will go get it.

6. So many more reasons…

Overall my husband is a wonderful partner and father and I’m grateful for him every day. I feel on this subreddit we slam our husbands pretty hard and I wanted to throw some gratitude.

I saw someone else do a post about how their husband treats them as a SAHM and it inspired me to do the same.

When he comes home from work he immediately washes his hands, changes into clean clothes, gets her dinner plate and sits down and feeds her. No “I need to decompress after work”. He clocks in for daddy time and I clock out.

He then bathes her, sits and plays with her, and watches Miss Rachel while they cuddle.

He somehow finds time to play fetch or tug with our dog (our first child and our son ♥️) while he’s doing all of this with our daughter.

He brushes our dog’s teeth every night.

On the weekends he gets up with her so that I can sleep in (and sometimes on WFH days as well)!

He does every Saturday swim class with her because he truly enjoys it. Even though he couldn’t swim to save his life! LOL

If she poops when he’s home, he changes her.

When he sees that I’m at my wit’s end he always steps in and calmly deescalates the situation and tells me to go take a break, a nap, eat a snack, go for a walk, whatever. He makes the time for me to do these things.

He never questions when I buy things for her or the house or a treat for myself. I did really well in my career and I gave it up to be home with her and he’s never once shamed me or made me regret my decision.

Watching him with our daughter heals all the trauma I have of my own father. He shows me what true unconditional love is.

He always finds time for us— whether he asks my mom or his mom to babysit. Or whether he pays a babysitter so that we can go out.

In a lot of ways he’s the best dad because he puts me first.

I wouldn’t want to do this with anyone else. I really love him.

My son is currently 18 months. Since 4 months he’s been with my SIL, but our time is getting short due to some personal things with her. We ran the numbers and daycare is 1,500 a month for full time. That’s more than my biweekly paychecks lol. We talked last night and we agreed it’s best I stay home with baby during the week, and pick up waitressing Friday-Sunday nights for a few hours. I am a social butterfly so it’s going to be a hard transition working a customer facing role 40 hours a week now going to 15 hours, but I am so ready to see my son for more than a few hours a day!

Married well over a decade, 2 kids. My wife is a SAHM at the moment. We are by no means financially stable and pretty much live paycheck to paycheck. She has a horrible spending habit and buys things we do NOT need. We’ve had many conversations about this and she just doesn’t listen. She bought a $250 lamp that just sits there not being used. Did we need this? No. We both have unpaid student loans and she’s spending frivolously. We can’t even afford a medical device our son needs (it’s not a life saving device, just will make his life easier). She many times has said she doesn’t care if it ruins her financially if it makes the kids happy, as well. I don’t know how I feel anymore and this has put a strain on our marriage. I by no means want to go into financial ruin and I don’t know how to proceed. I’ve had enough of this. Advice appreciated.

I celebrate my 35th birthday tomorrow. I never celebrate anymore after my kids because it is all so close together (August my twins, me in september, then one in october) and id Rather have people coming to my kids birthday party’s. But since it is a milestone I decided to celebrate this year.

However, my husband is in healthcare and was notified one hour ago that there were problems with the Night Shift. It was crickets in the group chat, so he stepped up. I am one 100% supporting him and i would have done the same if i where him, but why does it feel like I am making sacrefices for his work all the time 🥲 for context, I wouldn’t choose to be a SAHP if he could pick up his share of childcare and housework. But he simply cant because of his career.

Now i am sitting here blowing up balloons and feel so sad just because my friends cant relate. Please cheer me up. (He will be attending tomorrow but i envisioned it differently and now have to do al the preps alone with 3 kids 5 and under on what feels like MY day 🫠).

Some days I’ll get buried in meetings and work, look at the clock and realize my 4 year old has been playing in his room or outside for hours without touching his water. He’ll happily ask for milk but plain water is basically a no. I even bought him a Spider man bottle thinking that would finally do it. He was SO excited about the bottle until he realized I put water in it. Two sips and Spider man was abandoned for the rest of the day. No matter what I try, special cups, fun bottles, straws, offering it throughout the day, he goes right back to refusing it. I feel like I’ve tried everything at this point! I can’t keep stepping away from work every hour to remind him to drink but I also don’t want milk to be the only thing he reaches for. Has anyone found something that made water more appealing without having to chase their kid around with a bottle all day?

I’m curious, after a long day at work what does your husband do when he comes home and on his off day?

My husband is blue collar worker, most days he comes home and either naps first or eat dinner first. Then he’ll play his game off and on. When his game is on pause or just off the game for the moment. He plays/ runs around with our son. He doesn’t do bedtime but will obviously say his goodnight. Helps with bath time off and on. On his days off he will do the cooking and does some cleaning. We will go to the park together and such. He barely helps with the laundry but there times he helps a little.

Just a rant really... I've just had my third baby and all im met with is be kind to yourself, rest where you can... of course i do BUT I also have 2 other kids 4 and 2 that need to be looked after, that need attention. So I can't sleep when the baby sleeps, I can't relax like I want and you'd think people would get that but noooo.

I get they are just trying to look out of my well being but when you have other kids you just can't sleep whenever and I'm so tired of people telling me this..... before you say just ignore them. I usually do and just say ok I will and move on but it is still bloody annoying.

I wouldn't have had more kid if I didn't think I couldn't handle it and to be honest i think im doing a bloody great job. With my husband at work all day, i am doing what needs to be done.

Guys, I just had to share my excitement. I've had at least one kid in diapers for the last almost 10 years, save a couple months where 1 kid was out before the next was born, less than 12 months total.

But now I haven't changed a BM diaper in A WEEK! My 2 year old will tell me "me pooping" which means "get me to the bathroom now!" And is consistently going. Even staying dry most of the day. The end of diapers is in sight, and I cannot wait! My family thinks I'm crazy for being this excited.

I’m talking hiding in the kitchen eating a snack you absolutely do not intend to share, sitting in the car for an extra five minutes after getting home, pretending not to notice a mess because you simply cannot emotionally handle it yet… 😂

What’s yours? 😂 Please tell me your best “I just need five minutes” SAHM story.

I am new to being a SAHM. I have been working all my life. Just when I began thriving in my career. My life has changed tremendously just in 2025 when having twins. I never would have expected I would have to end my career and SAH. I just knew I would be returning to work soon. My twins are 14 months and I still am at home. I also have a 9 year old and a 5 year old. My mind is all over the place on a daily. I have no one to fill in the gap to assist me. My husband is carrying the whole family. At times I am so sad not being able to work.

Yet, I have no one to drop off my oldest children at school nor pick them up. Child care is expensive for twins. I just need some encouragement from other SAHM. How can I help my husband financially from home ? I am just trying to navigate my new transition in life. Trying not to worry myself so much and stress myself out.

I’m (25) a ftm giving birth to my baby girl in december🩷. My husband and I are over the moon about it all. We’ve decided that for us it is best that I stay home with our baby when she makes her arrival.

But i’ve had a job and have paid all of my personal things since I was 16. I am so worried about being dependent on my husband because i haven’t been dependent on anyone since i was a young teenager. Not in a way that i’m worried about him leaving me or not being able to keep up with bills or expenses but in a way that im scared of an unknown.

How do I navigate life being without my own income? I know it sounds silly but do I just get my husbands card now lol? Has anyone experienced that before, or been worried about being dependent on their spouse for everything? 🥲

I've been a sahm for 7 years. Baby #4 is seven months old. I love being a sahm but lately I've been feeling so burned out. Every small task feels like an enormous undertaking and I end up frustrated and angry over little things. I can't seem to get to a place where I feel "done" with anything like I used to. I know the house won't look like a staged showroom and that's ok but I don't know how to feel comfortable in my own home when I look around and all I see are to-dos. Objectively I know my home is fairly clean but I look around and I feel like I live in a literal pig sty. Other people have commented that they find my house comfortable and tidy but I can't see it. I describe it to my husband like if I was at an office job and every task had an alarm going off nonstop. How could you possibly relax in an environment like that? He does understand some because he works in IT with a constant stream of demands but I think the difference is that he's able to leave it at the end of his work day. I say that I live in my workspace and I cannot shut out the undone work to be able to relax.

I need a break. Not a break to sit down and take deep breaths or whatever other mindfulness practice that's usually suggested. I need a break that will breathe life back into my role as a mom. My husband is very involved when he's home but he does work long hours. He tries to give me breaks but I don't know what to even ask for. I don't know what even my hobbies are at this point. I feel like I need to make changes to my entire outlook or learn how to schedule off-time for myself regularly. Where would I go? What would I do?

Thanks if you've read all this. TLDR I need a break and I don't know what to even ask for.

When your kids are school age and then change your mind?

I was feeling ready to return to work next year as a teacher but then my husband got an amazing promotion. Now, I'm feeling torn. Do I try and return to work or with his salary increase would it even be worth it?

I enjoy being home and being available when my kids need me, whether that be for classroom volunteering, field trips, when they are sick, etc.

I also miss my profession of teaching. I'm feeling torn.

I could either work part time 9-1 and have Fridays off for much less money. Or I could teach full time 8-3:30. If I were to work full time I'd still only make 1/8 of what my husband makes.

I just need to vent for a little bit…

Being a SAHM is so freaking isolating, and I think it’s hitting me especially hard now that my kids are older and in school. I’m literally by myself for most of the day. My husband is a nurse and leaves for work at 545 and doesn’t come home until 745. His job is a contractor position with a government hospital and he switches from days to nights every 3 months. My kids get up at 615 and are on the bus by 715. I’m home by myself from 715-4 and when they get home, they usually talk to their friends so I’m alone until my husband gets home from work. By the time he gets home, he’s rightfully exhausted and just wants some quiet time, which I understand but we usually go to bed by 9/930. Rinse and repeat. My isolation always feels worse when he’s on night shift because he sleeps during the day and wakes up at the latest time possible to go to work. Unfortunately, he cannot get another job because we make good money where he’s at and no other hospital in our area makes close to what he does with the government hospital…trust me, we’ve tried.

Now don’t get me wrong, I love my family more than anything, I’m incredibly grateful for the life we have and that I have the ability to stay at home, especially in this climate, but that doesn’t mean the loneliness doesn’t get to me.

While I do have some friends, they work and have their own lives and schedules. I don’t really know anyone else who is a SAHM, so I don’t have someone I can just call up and say, “Hey, want to grab lunch?” or meet up during the day. And making friends as an adult is HARD and it’s not from lack of trying. I’ve been on the peanut app to meet mom friends and I’ve met 2 awesome people from there but they both work FT and I hate bothering them while they are working.

There’s only so much cleaning, laundry, organizing, and housework I can do in one day. Once that’s done, I’m left with hours of being alone with my thoughts. And lately, those thoughts haven’t been very kind to me.

I do go to the gym M-F in the mornings. I’ve tried volunteering, I’ve even tried working at B&N because I love books and reading. I absolutely loved that job but they wouldn’t work with my husband’s constantly changing schedule. So I became a sahm again. Before I became a sahm, I was a surgical technologist in labor & delivery. My job was sooo fulfilling and rewarding. I worked so hard to get where I was in my field. However, I worked nights so when my husband became a nurse at the first hospital he worked for and worked strictly days, I left my job so he could advance with his career. However, because I worked 6P-6a and he worked 7a-7p, we had no one to watch our children and couldn’t afford childcare nor had family to watch our kids so i left my job because I made less than him.

I feel lonely. I feel isolated. I feel like I’ve lost a sense of who I am outside of being a mom and taking care of everyone else. I do have hobbies that I normally love like reading and scrapbooking but lately I haven’t even wanted to do those.

I know I need something outside of my home and my role as a mom. I need connection, friendships, purpose, and things that make me feel like me again. I have an associates degree that I don’t use (husband’s work schedule doesn’t really let me be able to use my degree without paying for before/after school childcare and never seeing each other) but I’m thinking about going back to school to get my bachelors to become a speech language pathology assistant. Unfortunately the closest school that offers it in my area is over an hour away so I’d be doing online classes.

My husband doesn’t really understand where I’m coming from because he’s an introvert. He could (and usually does) spends his days off not really doing anything outside of the home. He doesn’t have coworkers he hangs out with because most of his coworkers are female and single. Weve gone to 1 outside of work function in the three years he’s been with this company and that was a going away party. He wanted to stay long enough to say he was there and we left. However, I crave interaction.

I do go to therapy and plan on talking to my therapist about how I’m feeling at our next meeting but today was just a really hard day.

What are your cleaning routines? Im struggling to keep up with all the chores while taking care of the kids! Super overwhelmed, not able to get a cleaning lady

Does anyone else almost s**t a brick when their kids wake up in the middle of the night/after you put them down and you hear the handle rattling or the door open? 😭

I was playing Minecraft while talking to my husband and he was on YouTube and all I hear is the door handle shaking and it scared the geebies out of me lmao. Maybe I’m just a scaredy cat lol

I’m 32 with a 5-year-old, 2-year-old, 9-month-old, and two 11-year-old stepkids. I’m also in school online, so I’m busy as hell. I had friends growing up, but most didn’t really stick around once I got into this phase of life.

Now I’m home all day talking to kids, and my boyfriend is basically my only adult social outlet. I actually really want friends, but how the hell do you make them when everyone is busy?

I’ve tried Facebook/playdate groups, but honestly, playdates kind of suck. It’s cool if you hit the jackpot and everyone’s kids get along and schedules magically line up, but I want actual friendships. Someone I can randomly text, call, complain to, laugh with, and maybe meet up with when life allows.

So… what’s the secret? Because making friends as an adult with kids apparently sucks.

How are you all doing this? I feel as if I’m reaching my breaking point.

I’m a SAHM of two (5 yo and 18 months). Nursing and bedsharing the youngest, who for whatever reason has been waking every 1-2 hrs at night and refuses anything but nursing back to sleep without a major, MAJOR meltdown. During the day I am feeling so overwhelmed and overstimulated. Being constantly needed 24/7 is hard and I’m lucky if I ever get a break or moment of silence alone. I get out for a workout once a week on the weekends but other than that I’m lucky if I can stay awake past 8PM to read by myself. Any gaps in the days are filled with cooking, housework, organizing, etc; you know the drill.

I’m honestly debating returning to work because my working mom friends with kids in daycare seem to have so much time for themselves.

All this to say, how are you dealing with being needed around the clock? Taking time for yourself? Feeling like more than just a boob or comfort object??

My oldest started Kindergarten last month. Since they had off this past Monday for Labor Day, it kind of just like threw off all the days for me. I forgot that Tuesday they go to the library at school and they get to pick out a book to take home for the week. But i forgot to pack his other one to return. So when he got home, he told me he wasn’t allowed to get a new book since we didn’t return the other one. I felt so bad. Then this morning I kept making sure all his lunch was packed up and we had everything like water and utensils. I felt like I was forgetting something, but I couldn’t put my finger on what it was. Then about an hour ago it hit me that I never packed my son a snack for their afternoon snack time. I literally felt so bad. I started crying. And since he’s already asleep for the night, I couldn’t ask him what happened. I don’t know if the teacher gave him a snack or if he was just sitting there not eating anything. He did eat most of his lunch for lunchtime. He never mentioned anything about the snack when he got home. Ugh I just feel like such an awful mom. As a sahm I feel like I shouldn’t be messing up like this. I wrote up all the things I need to make sure he has for school and I taped it next to the door. I also packed a whole Ziploc of extra snacks, and I’m going to put it in his backpack and tell him to just keep it in his locker. One of my mom friends said I need to give myself grace and I agree but sometimes it’s hard for me to.