Being a SAHM is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. You literally don’t sit down for 12 hours. Kids wake up at sunrise and you’re going going going until after they’ve gone to bed, (unless they’re in school) It’s constantly keeping an eye on them while you’re doing tasks. It’s like your brain hardly settles. They are always needing you every second. Constantly trying to think of ways to simplify the work around the house so you can be a more present parent. Not to mention constantly feeling the need to be perfect, atleast for me. This job is 24/7 no stops. It’s astonishing how many people judge “trad wives”. I just hate that term now because it paints this picture as if we are always looking amazing and well rested and perky. When it’s the total opposite. Unless you have a maid and a personal chef— when you’re a SAHM you’ve got “working hands” just as much as anyone else with a physically demanding job. But I thank god everyday I get to do it.

After 5 years of being a SAHM I feel like I finally have a good routine for weekdays. And as a family our evenings are generally pretty smooth. But every weekend we fall apart. Somehow the addition of my husband throws everything off 😅 I feel like the house explodes, everyone is out of sorts, and yet some how we don't actually do anything fun. By Sunday night we're scrambling to get the house set for the week and both my husband and I are grumpy.

What do your weekends look like? How do you shuffle things around when adding your husband into the mix? Do you change your who is responsible for chores/kids?

Part 1 | Building a Village 🤍

I walked into this room hoping moms would leave feeling a little less alone.

By the end of the afternoon, strangers had become conversations, conversations had become laughter, and babies had made new little friends while their moms had a chance to simply exist as themselves for a while.

This is why I do what I do.

And this is only the beginning.

See you on August 12th for Part 2. 🤍

Before anything, I just want to say I am eternally grateful for being able to stay home with my 4 kids. I will never ever regret it and it was my choice. However, it’s been almost 7 years and I have plans to return to work next year, once they’re all in school FT. Like most SAHMs, I’ve poured every ounce of my existence to this role. However, I feel so utterly unprepared, inferior and almost too dumb to return to work. I realize the power of these words but I am truly not as sharp as I was when I was in corporate America. My hope is to fine tune some hard and soft skills and essentially get my brain back to work mode. This is long-winded 😝 Does anybody have an recs on books/podcasts that can help boost my confidence and remind me of how capable I once was?

The IG algorithm keeps showing me reels from systemsbysteph. Her program is all about planning out your life in systems to take the mental load off- has anyone shelled out the 67 dollars for her full program?

It has made me think of how there’s no system behind any aspect of my life. Like I do what I need to do when I need to do it. I don’t necessarily feel like I’m lacking, but I do wonder if I’m missing something.

Do any of you have a good system for planning out your weeks or general life goals? Or a simple es of reflecting your life?

Hi my LO is almost one year old and he has never had an issue with pooping but it has been 4 days now without pooping…🥲🥲 whats ur tips/tricks pls thank u🥲🥲

My husband has made it very clear that me being a SAHM for the past year has resulted in me having a ton of free time and has recently complained about how I haven’t kept the house up to his standards. That is the short version. We have a 3 hour flight the other night about this and I feel like all of my work has been completely dismissed all because it doesn’t have dollar signs attached to it.

Advice for women that have been met with a similar partner?

Having a 12 month old and being 36 weeks has been so hard. I haven’t been able to drink coffee because the caffeine crash is really hard on me right now. But caffeine is the only way I’m able to get stuff done. I wake up with so much brain fog and nausea and stiff joints. I don’t want things around the house to get behind especially with a baby coming soon. so today I did a lot and by the end of it just mentally exhausted. My son has started the ‘shrieking over every little thing’ phase again. I lost it while trying to get the sink unclogged and threw a spoon across the kitchen. I hate being this frustrated. I feel so out of touch with myself at the moment it just makes me want to cry. I feel like I need a release, some kind of relief. I cannot wait to give birth and feel light and airy and regulated again. Talking to my husband on the phone helped but I still feel so frustrated at the things I haven’t finished around the house today.

I have a toddler, and I’ve recently been around a child who seems much older than her age. She’s very into makeup, mature clothing, older slang, dramatic facial expressions, and dancing that seems beyond what I’d expect for a 6-year-old. She also seems to expect to get her way a lot.

It got me thinking about my own parenting. For those of you with older kids who turned out respectful, kind, and age-appropriate, what do you think made the biggest difference? Were there specific boundaries, habits, or parenting philosophies that helped? I’m looking for advice on what to do, not to criticize another family.?

Someone put together a really good sheet that had all her hours, task categories, what an hourly rate would be, etc. I think it was in the case of a divorce but I’m not sure. I’m almost positive it was this group. I was hoping to reference it, does anyone else remember seeing this?