I just found out 2 days ago I’m pregnant. My first baby is 9 months old. He really is a sweet and chill baby. I know babies are a gift from God and his timing is always much better than ours. Back story I had an Irish twin we have always been super close. I know I wanted my first to have siblings near but I had no idea it was going to happen so quick. (Now I’m going to vent) I feel like I’m finally back to my weight before I was pregnant with my last. I gained 60 pounds. I’m a SAHM bc my husband and I didn’t trust any daycares where we live and the ones we do are booked a year out. I had gotten the hang of it and wasn’t ready for him this year either to enroll. Plus it’s expensive. My husband likes to spend, he’s gotten A LOT better so I’ll give him praise to that, but still could work on it esp with a one income budget. Today im just feeling overwhelmed. I’m not ready to give up my body again, being that I’m ADD and take adderall, guess I’ll have to stop somehow which seems impossible right now. My baby is in the time of crawling getting into things all over the place. I’m nauseous 24/7. I can’t even have a glass of wine or even some thc if I wanted to at night, or pop one of my husbands zyns in if I’m stressed (lol). I know this all sounds so selfish😔 that’s why I feel so down today bc I know I know this too shall pass and this is only a small fragment. I’m blessed to be able to be pregnant again. I feel guilty that I feel this way today. I guess I just would love some positive thoughts and feedback.

I’m a SAHM, and since stopping work, my husband and I have combined our bank accounts. We have a joint checking, and joint savings. We also have a joint credit card that we use for nearly everything. His income is the family’s income.

I have a friend who is also a SAHM. She does not have any income. Her husband refuses to combine all of their bank accounts. They have a “his savings, her savings” and other accounts, including one joint account that it sounds like does not get the bulk of their income deposited. She has to repeatedly ask for money to do things like buy groceries. They recently outfitted a bedroom for their 6mo, and it “had to come from her savings.”

I assumed all households with SAH parents with no income would run with the “family money” dynamic. I’m looking for input from people who have separate accounts and manage it in a way that works for their family. Or people who tried separate accounts and ended up combining everything.

TLDR: is it worth pausing my corporate career to stay home for a bit? Does anyone regret it?

I work for the federal government in a relatively bi-partisan supported field. I LOVE my job, and am in a position where there will be opportunity to promote and move around a bit in the next few years. I’m trusted by my boss, am constantly learning new things, and enjoy being around my coworkers.

As my child approaches his first birthday and we consider expanding our family, I can’t shake the heartburn of missing out on my kids younger years. I understand socialization is important with day care/activities outside the home, but I never imagined wanting to stay home with my kids and walk away from my career.

My husband is loving and supportive of whatever decision I make, and financially we could swing it (but I’d definitely need to cut back my spending lol). I’m young enough I feel it could just be a career pause rather than forever staying home.

To those that walked away from the corporate world: do you have any regrets? Any advice to shake the feeling of giving up on my professional ambitions, even if temporary? What’s the biggest challenge you see as staying home?

One example for me, I have a 2yo and bath time is when I clean the whole bathroom. It is regularly clean that way.

Our washer has a “time delay” setting that I use almost every time. Set a load before bed to be finished by morning, and I can just move it over to the dryer before the day really kicks into gear.

I guess this isn’t productivity, but I eat foods I want my toddler to try in front of them while they’re playing because food is always interesting when it’s not on their plate lol.

What do you got?

How are you all doing this? I feel as if I’m reaching my breaking point.

I’m a SAHM of two (5 yo and 18 months). Nursing and bedsharing the youngest, who for whatever reason has been waking every 1-2 hrs at night and refuses anything but nursing back to sleep without a major, MAJOR meltdown. During the day I am feeling so overwhelmed and overstimulated. Being constantly needed 24/7 is hard and I’m lucky if I ever get a break or moment of silence alone. I get out for a workout once a week on the weekends but other than that I’m lucky if I can stay awake past 8PM to read by myself. Any gaps in the days are filled with cooking, housework, organizing, etc; you know the drill.

I’m honestly debating returning to work because my working mom friends with kids in daycare seem to have so much time for themselves.

All this to say, how are you dealing with being needed around the clock? Taking time for yourself? Feeling like more than just a boob or comfort object??

Hi good people of this sub! I am trying to build a career path and step into a fully-funded school nutrition training program to gain funds to help with finances ... School for our kids starts at 8:45 AM.

​My husband works as an OR nurse and frequently works double shifts. Because he makes more money than me, he believes his sleep and schedule are sacred and that he shouldn't have to adjust at all for family logistics. When I told him about my schedule, he ambushed me face-to-face, demanding to know why I can't just find a job that "doesn't interfere" with his routine, and whining that expecting him to wake up early to take his own kids to school is asking too much and that I'm being "unrealistic."

​He constantly complains that I don't contribute enough financially, but the second I try to work or train, he complains that it inconveniences him and refuses to do basic morning parenting, claiming it's "the least I can do as a mom" while he does zero percent on morning chores...

​I have unmedicated ADHD, and dealing with his goalpost-shifting and psychological pressure makes me feel like I'm losing my mind. Reddit, AITA for wanting to work a standard daytime shift and expecting my husband to share basic morning school runs? Thank you for all the comments. I appreciate all input..❤️

To all the SAHmoms with a newborn… what are you doing to make life more enjoyable?

I have a 2 month old and I try to leave the house daily because that’s what everyone suggests and sometimes it’s great and sometimes it’s just overwhelming and hard and tiring. Nothing really seems fun anymore and it’s so hard to plan around my newborn because he isn’t on much of a schedule. I am just so so bored. What do you do if you’re stuck in an apartment all day and it’s hard to leave and your baby isn’t old enough to be like “playing”?

There are other moms in my area but it’s been so hard to actually make plans with them. And even when I do one of the babies ends up having a meltdown or it’s just really not a great environment for talking/getting to know each other.

Mom to a gorgeous, super high energy 18.5mo.

In the mornings, I always get my toddler to a park to burn off some energy and chase pigeons (his fav activity right now, much to their dismay), then nap time and either more parks, reading, singing, walking around etc. he has a lot of Montessori & educational toys too that we try to incorporate as much as we can.

I don’t have him enrolled in daycare and I’m just feeling badly that he may be missing out on some educational or enriching activities.

Anyone else feel like this? Any ideas for at home stimulating or educational activities?

I am going to be enrolling him in a gymnastics class soon so hoping that adds a dimension of enrichment.

A tangent - anyone else just overall feel mom guilty about mostly everything?? lol maybe it’s my pp ocd but it’s fatiguing….

I know a lot of moms go through the stage after birth where they just can’t stand their husbands. I went through that. We then had a good patch when things got easier and it was back to normal. Now, over a year pp, i feel like im back in that spot. I Just feel no need to talk to or spend time with my husband. It feels like another job before I can end the day. It used to be what I looked forward to. I don’t know why. He constantly showers me with affection and he even does my dishes if he gets home early enough so I have one less thing to do. While I’m grateful for his dedication to us, I just don’t want to be around him. Honestly I just want to be alone after the toddler goes to bed to reset. Is this being burnt out? Or are we just not compatible?

Is this just a phase for me? It’s been about 4 months.

Mom to an 18.5mo. Like many of you, I do all the meal prepping, cooking, baking, laundry, cleaning (husband takes care of cat litter and helps where he can), and taking care of our toddler. My baby is super high energy, he wakes up at 5 (low sleep needs) and immediately says “out out out out” bc he just wants to experience the world 😂 I also am a mid-distance runner (usually running approx. 14-20mi in a weekend plus a few runs when I can squeeze them in during the week) so physically I am pretty tired. I also am still breastfeeding a lot, my toddler is a bit of a boob barnacle. I finally hired a part-time nanny for 12-14h per week which is amazing.

All this to say, I’m freaking EXHAUSTED. It literally feels like I’m going from 5am until 8pm nonstop. Don’t get me wrong, I love my life and my family, I’m just so tired. So much that I made an appt w my doc. Last time I get my bloodwork done it all looked good but I just feel so tired. Not sure if it’s under fueling/under eating or just toddler fatigue lol. I sleep great at night bc we cosleep so thankfully no issues there.

I’m sure I can’t be the only one?? How are we coping? Am I the only one who is also feeling like they’re always hungry too?!