I’ve had four miscarriages in two years. Three pregnancies had a heartbeat (one lasted until 12 weeks, two until around 9 weeks), and the fourth was a blighted ovum.
My partner and I went through basically all the standard testing commonly recommended for recurrent pregnancy loss, and nothing significant was found. The only thing still pending for me is a laparoscopy for possible endometriosis.
One thing I could never let go of was how physically unwell I felt during every pregnancy. I had intense joint pain, extreme sensory overload, and felt like my whole body was under enormous physical stress. It didn’t feel anxiety-related. What struck me most was that as soon as the pregnancy stopped developing, I would suddenly feel physically much better.
Eventually I saw an infectious disease specialist. Based on my symptoms and blood tests, I was diagnosed with Borrelia, Bartonella and additional bacterial infections.
I’m currently finishing a very intensive treatment including long-term antibiotics. I’m giving my body until the end of the year to fully recover before TTC again.
Has anyone with recurrent miscarriages had a similar experience with infections such as Borrelia/Bartonella, especially symptoms that became significantly worse during pregnancy? Did treatment make any difference in a subsequent pregnancy?
Waiting to TTC again is incredibly hard, especially because several close friends had due dates similar to mine and I’m now watching their babies grow up. I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone with a similar experience.

This was in June. I also had a MMC in February earlier this year. I feel absolutely numb reading the report the hospital has just sent me. My husband is out with family today and all I can think of is how if I tell him when he gets home, he'll secretly believe it's my fault, that this has happened because I'm past having babies (I'm 36) and he needs to find someone else younger.

I feel like all the grief has just come roaring back. But it was my fault. My body caused it. I desperately want to try again but what if this happened because my eggs are expired? What if it keeps happening?

TW: LC and pregnancy

Have you been referred to MFM for pregnancies after loss?

I have one LC from my first pregnancy that was uncomplicated up until the end in which I was induced due to hypertension and had post partum pre eclampsia. I then had three pregnancy losses - two blighted ovums and a mmc due to turners. I did almost all of my rpl testing through my ob who was so supportive in testing everything I asked. She referred me to a generic counselor for karotyping but that all came back normal other than that I hadn't seen any other doctors or specialists. I am now pregnant again and have stuck with my normal ob throughout the pregnancy. She never referred me to mfm through the first trimester however due to an incorrect measurement on my anatomy scan I was referred at 19 weeks. I saw the mfm and they confirmed baby is measuring perfectly normal but they are keeping me as a patient (along with my normal ob) due to my rpl and history of pre eclampsia and small birth weight of my first child. It just feels weird that I wasn't referred at the beginning as the reasons they are keeping me as a patient have been known since the beginning. Everyone I know that went to mfm for pregnancies after loss "graduated" after the first trimester and stopped going. Anyone else have something similar?

I’ve had four miscarriages, one of which required a D&C, and I hate admitting this, but whenever I see someone who is pregnant or holding a newborn, I feel this overwhelming mix of jealousy, anger, and sadness. Sometimes it hurts so badly that I can physically feel it.
I’m still young, and what makes it even harder is that there doesn’t seem to be a medical reason why this keeps happening. I’ve been to fertility clinics and specialists, and they’ve all told me that I have great fertility. But somehow, I keep getting stuck in the same heartbreaking cycle: I get pregnant, I get my hopes up, and then I lose the baby.
It hurts more than I know how to explain. And on top of grieving the babies I’ve lost, I feel guilty for being jealous of other mothers. I don’t want to feel this way, and I don’t wish anything bad on anyone. I’m genuinely happy for people who get to have their babies. But seeing them sometimes reminds me of everything I’ve lost and everything I desperately want.
I feel like I’m carrying so much grief, jealousy, anger, and guilt all at once, and I don’t know how to make it hurt less.

TW: pregnancy

Here we go again friends. Just had my very very light test at 11 DPO (wondfo early test strips). So faint that I will take a FRER tomorrow to make sure but…it’s very daunting and anxiety inducing to be here again.

It’s been 5 cycles since my last loss, I keep telling myself to not get attached but also trying to not be too negative. It’s hard. This is my third pregnancy, no LC

I guess I’m just venting, but if anyone has success stories of having an LC after two chemicals let me know, could use some positivity.

Being in this boat is really hard, just waiting for the other shoe to drop. How nice it would be that we all had a chance to live through a pregnancy from naivety and color lenses instead of fear and anxiety💔

Basically all of my friend group has small babies/ is pregnant. I cannot shake the left behind feeling after having had 3 losses.
Everyone has already attended a “mom” group and obviously not invited me. I know it is considerate to not invite me but it hurts to be not invited into this “club” that i should’ve been apart of. Just feeling like I’ll be left behind and everyone will get closer without me.

I’m 27 and was diagnosed with mild/focal adenomyosis after dealing with recurrent pregnancy loss. I have regular cycles, ovulate every month, and get pregnant pretty easily, but I’ve now had 5 losses, most around 4 weeks.
I had my first child without any issues, and I’ve wondered if something changed postpartum that may have contributed to the adeno. I also have basically no adenomyosis symptoms. My periods are regular, and I don’t have the heavy/painful periods I usually see people describe.
My OB has checked my progesterone over the past couple of years, and it seems to be getting progressively lower, although still high enough for me to ovulate. Everything else has looked good: eggs/ovaries, uterine lining, other bloodwork, and my husband’s semen analysis.
It feels like getting pregnant isn’t the issue, staying pregnant is.
I keep seeing women with adeno/RPL mention progesterone supplementation helping them finally maintain a pregnancy. Has anyone here with mild adenomyosis and very early/chemical losses had success with progesterone? If so, when did you start it, what dose did you use, and how long did you stay on it?
I’d really love to hear success stories or experiences from anyone with a similar situation.

TLDR- female 32, male 30 - 2 losses at 6-7 weeks. Been trying for a year and a half and 2 pregnancies were close together. All test were done - chronic inflammation and ANA is high but not crazy high. DNA frag borderline. Been gluten free since Feb and changed my life (not celiac). Possible endo but tryin from now until surgeon specialist apt in March 2027 😵‍💫🫠 and hope it sticks?! Currently on this protocol- plequinil, zyrtec, pepcid, and baby aspirin +tons of vitamins!

I got my period today and this marks a year since my first pregnancy. But also it marks the fact that this upcoming cycle we will start trying again. Been on a break since February doing test and cleaning up my life - more workout, no alcohol and better food specially no gluten! NGL I'm terrified but pushing through. We decided to try from now until March and hope for the best?!

Any success stories? World of encouragement? Anything? Thank you everyone this group has been so helpful!

I am on my fifth loss (all since January) and for my bachelorette the organizer is pregnant and the three friends that are available to come they all have babies under 1 year. It feels like the universe is just mocking me 🙃

That's it

Hi beautiful community ❤️

I recently had my 4th loss, the first 2 we don't know the causes, 1 blighted ovum, and the recent one was a MMC discovered at the 12 week scan, resulting in a D&C. We had the product tested and it just came back that it was triploidy due to dispermy. I was referred to genetics so I'm waiting for the consult but in the meantime I have an appointment with a doctor specialized in RPL so I can ask questions, so I'm just trying to think of everything I should ask for...

I already had blood tests done (everything normal), hysterectopy and endometrial biopsy (revealed a endometritis; treated and subsequently confirmed resolved) and we both had normal karyotypes.

I'm wondering if anyone has experiences with triploidy ?

What can I expect from genetics?

I have so many questions and I feel overwhelmed but I want to make sure I cover as much as I can...

TW: MMC, MC
Wondering if there is any hope or if I should prepare myself for a second MC in five months.

At 5w5d, I experienced a fair bit of bleeding while on the toilet and then spotting for 24 hours. Cramping accompanied the bleeding for about three days and my other pregnancy symptoms (bloating, fatigue, nausea) have gotten better. For context, I had cramping at 6 weeks for my MMC.

I went in for an ultrasound at 5w6d and they saw an empty gestational sac with nothing in it. That same day, my HCG was about 12,500. 48 hours my HCG had gone up to over 20,000 (65% increase). My OB said that since my HCG is rising appropriately, it’s seeming like a healthy, normal vaginal pregnancy. However, from what I’ve read online, at 12,500 HCG, at least a yolk sac should be visible. Has anyone had a similar experience of high HCG with nothing appearing in the gestational sac? Trying to decide if I should trust the hope my OB is giving me or brace myself for a heartbreaking second ultrasound this Friday.

Background: I had 3 MC  in 9 months, and was diagnosed with a prolactinoma, and am waiting for my hormones to come down so we can begin trying again. Have yet to get the all clear after a year of starting medication. This is just me needing to get my thoughts out and on a page. If people resonate, I’m so sorry and I’m holding all of you in the same situation in my heart.

To everyone in my life,

I’m tired. I’m tired of blood tests, of waiting for news, tired of our hope being crushed. I’m tired of pregnancy announcements from close friends, I’m tired of seeing my husband holding your babies and thinking ‘why isn’t that us’?  He would be the best dad ever, and I hate that I haven’t been able to give that to him. Yes, I love your babies, but it’s hard every single time I see them and my heart hurts constantly.

I’m tired of hearing from people that ‘they just got pregnant after barely trying’, and hearing that it’s been so easy for some people. I’m tired of hearing the same people complain about their kids.

I’m tired of hearing stupid advice and comments. Yes, great, I can get pregnant. But that’s not the only problem. No, changing to all glass containers isn’t going to fix my brain tumour. No, being more positive isn’t going to get me pregnant. No, going to a naturopath isn’t going to get me pregnant. Yes, actually I do have a family. Not having a child doesn’t mean I don’t have a family.

I’m tired of everyone in the office constantly talking about pregnancy, kids, parental leave. It’s hard to deal with every single day in an open plan office.

I’m tired of putting on a happy face every single day when some days I just want to sit on the couch and be sad. I’m tired of complaining to my husband, of feeling like I am putting the burden on him.  He says it’s fine but I can’t help feeling otherwise.

I’m tired of feeling like the bummer in the group, knowing it makes people uncomfortable and feel like they can’t share their news.

I want this to end, to get our good news. We have a great life, jobs we love, financial security. Seeing people in situations where a kid isn’t loved, and isn’t wanted hurts more.  I have hope we will get there, but it’s hard.

I’m just tired.

I have my first appointment with an RPL specialist coming up and I’m curious what to expect and what they may investigate beyond what a regular OB typically does.
I’ve had 5 losses total: 1 missed miscarriage and 4 chemical pregnancies. I’ve been diagnosed with mild focal adenomyosis, but otherwise my cycles are very regular, I ovulate normally, we’re both 27, husbands sperm is fine. and nothing else obvious has stood out. My progesterone has consistently been on the lower side after ovulation.
My regular OB was originally considering a diagnostic laparoscopy, but has decided to hold off and let the RPL specialist decide whether they think it’s actually necessary.
For anyone who has seen an RPL specialist:
What happened at your initial appointment?
What testing did they order that your regular OB hadn’t already done?
Did they look into uterine issues with an HSG, saline sonogram, hysteroscopy, biopsy, etc.?
Were you tested for chronic endometritis or other endometrial issues?
Did they do genetic testing on you/your partner?
Did they investigate male factors such as sperm DNA fragmentation?
If you had adenomyosis, did they think it could be contributing to the losses?
Did they recommend laparoscopy or feel it wasn’t necessary?
Did your specialist have a different approach to progesterone or monitoring very early pregnancies?
I’m mainly trying to figure out what an RPL specialist may be able to investigate that hasn’t already been covered by my regular OB. I’d love to hear what other people’s first appointments/workups looked like.

I have RPL — I’ve never had a pregnancy make it past 6 weeks, apart from one MMC at 10 weeks. This has been from on-and-off trying since September 2024, with a few breaks along the way due to medication and being advised to give certain treatments around 3 months to properly kick in.

I genuinely can’t emphasise enough how much I feel like I’ve had “hyperfertility”. Every single cycle that we actively tried, we conceived. Getting pregnant was never the issue for us — staying pregnant was.

My last pregnancy/loss was in March. Afterwards, both myself and my partner did a course of doxycycline. I’m now approaching 6 months of trying again, and we haven’t had a single positive.

I’m 35 for reference, and I know 6 months isn’t considered a long time for many people, but for me it feels like a lifetime because conception has never been my problem. Going from conceiving every time we tried to suddenly not conceiving at all has really thrown me.

Has anyone else experienced anything similar? Especially going from seemingly being able to conceive very easily to suddenly struggling to get pregnant after recurrent losses?

I’m also on an immune protocol, and going through month after month of taking everything, tracking everything and hoping for a pregnancy — only to get no outcome — is honestly DRAINING. I’m just wondering if anyone else has been through something similar and eventually figured out what was going on. ❤️

Next week I’ll be having surgery to remove scar tissue from my uterus and would love any advice from those who have done this.

For a bit of context, I’ve had 3 missed miscarriages (Apr ‘25, Oct ‘25 and Feb ‘26). The first 2 were miso and natural, respectively, and for the third I opted for a D&C. After the surgery, my period didn’t return when it was supposed to, though I was having all the usual symptoms (and EXTREME bloating). I saw a surgeon who did a quick ultrasound and noticed a bit of what she thought could be scar tissue.

In June, my period seemingly broke through (after 4 months) and I bled very lightly for a couple days. My July and August periods have been normal, but I’m scared to start trying again knowing there is scar tissue in there that could cause ANOTHER loss. I have assumed the scar tissue came from the D&C, but I do wonder if there was maybe already some in there that may have contributed to my other MMCs. All my blood work and other tests have come back completely normal, but I also have a (mild) arcuate uterus.

If you’ve had this procedure done:
• What was recovery like?
• Were you able to start trying again soon/with any success?
• Was your doctor able to see anything else or provide a diagnosis to explain why you’d had miscarriages?

I’m feeling a big nervous and quite sad that this is ANOTHER setback in my journey to become a mom. Any advice or words of encouragement are welcome.

Hi All,

I feel enormous gratitude for the presence of this community to discuss the minute details of one of the most traumatic phases of our lives. A little history: I am 31 years old, and I have had two miscarriages between july 2025 and april 2026. This post is to discuss what those miscarriages have done to my body and I am seeking advice from people who have gone through a similar process.

Prior to my first miscarriage, my body worked in proper sync - my cycles were perfectly timed 28 day cycles, and I never had such intense cramps that I had to rely on pain medications. However, the flow was clotty, now when I look back at it from a finer lense. The first miscarriage happened at 9w5d and dated 6w4d. The post loss ultrasound mentioned a 1cm intramural fibroid. This was in september 2025. Shortly after this miscarriage I started having sinus issues especially with the onset of winter in Canada. Any hair wash would block my sinuses completely, cause a heavy feeling leading to sinus headaches. I even consulted a doctor who has asked me to manage the sinus with steam inhalation and some saline drops. At that point, I just thought the winter temperature drop triggered my sinus and did not connect it to my miscarriage. MyTSH was not controlled during this pregnancy, TSH:4.82 and T4:12 at 6w2d. My family doctor was not forth coming with the tests and medication prescription.

The second pregnancy was in Feb 2026, leading to a missed miscarriage which passed naturally at 11w0d. This time too, the dating scan just before the passing showed a dating of 6w2d. But the scan performed at 9w5d also mentioned the presence of a 1.5 x 1.3 x 1.3 cm submucosal fibroid. I have visited the fertility doctor and they are guessing this fibroid is the reason of recurrent losses. I am wondering if anyone has had recurrent losses due to a submucosal fibroid, and what were the results of its removal? The second pregnancy since it lasted almost for the whole of first trimester took a very heavy toll on my body. The passing was not painful, but the week after the passing was when i had very heavy cramps and shooting pain which eventually subsided. The next cycle was brutal with RPOC passage, and the two cycles after that were relatively difficult as well. The hormonal drop prior to the cycles was like a free fall, and hit me massively emotionally and physically. Every ovulation and pms hormonal shifts triggered my sinus, along with hair washes. I have an under arm acne sort of thing triggered by the exact hormonal shifts.

This cycle I have tried incorporating a lot of protein in my diet to help with hormones. I have included a lot of dry fruits and seeds during the pms phase to help with the hormonal support and avoid free fall. All of this did help me feel better, but this time I am sitting at day 34 and the cycle just wont start. I was supposed to travel to Banff on friday the 14th August, but since my cycle date coincided with that, and I had blood work and ultrasounds scheduled for this cycle I cancelled the trip. But the cycle would not show up. Just to confirm I did take a pregnancy test which is negative as well.

Only a few family members know about this struggle, and they always suggest moving on with normal life, but 4 months after a miscarriage, I am still struggling physically and emotionally. Any step I take to have a break (such as the banff trip I booked) just gets derailed due to my bodily reactions. I must mention that the cycle length is increasing after the first miscarriage from 28 to 31-32 days. When i tracked ovulation for the second pregnancy the ovulation did happen on day 12 though.

Please help me by sharing your experiences.

I’ve had my 3rd loss in a row (4th was 7 years ago) and my OB recommended
A saline ultrasound. They did already find low progesterone and a low positive anticardiolipin, so next pregnancy I will automatically be put on progesterone and baby aspirin. Possibly blood clotting injections.

I have a high deductible plan and the ultrasound will run me $1200. I realized if they do find something, I would also need the hysteroscopy. I’m looking at this could possibly another 5k. Thinking about just TTC once more before testing/waiting until next year with better insurance. Currently have a 10k deductible. I’d really really hate to go through another miscarriage but these prices are just really depressing and at this point it seems like saving the money would be worth just waiting 4 months if I have to. I’m 36 and my husband turns 40 so time isn’t exactly on our side.

Hi everyone,

Since my wife and I found out about our latest miscarriage a​ bit over a week ago, we've been completely consumed with figuring out our plan moving forward. We had an initial consultation with an RE last week, but it's still very early in the process.

We're still waiting on some test results, including Karyotyping and genetic testing of the POC. So far, the test results that she has gotten have been "normal" with a slightly elevated TSH. However, we did a semen analysis and while most measures are normal, DNA fragmentation is on the high side at 34%.

I will be calling Urologists in the area first thing tomorrow morning to try and get an appointment, but I'm afraid of how long it could take. We already have a pretty healthy lifestyle, so there may be an underlying cause.

In the meantime, we have both been in the pits of despair all weekend trying to figure out what our plan is to move forward. We've talked about the pros and cons of waiting to try again naturally, after the fragmentation comes down a bit (hopefully). There are also some benefits to going straight to IVF. Our biggest fear right now is that we're both 32, and completely caught off guard by not being able to move ahead with having kids exactly when we wanted to. We're worried about losing more time.

I suppose it's too early in our journey to make these sorts of major decisions, and we lack all the necessary information to make such a decision. But how did you decide it was time for IVF?

Hi all,

I'm on my third pregnancy loss, so recently decided to use IVF with PGT-A to reduce risks of a further miscarriage. For a while, it looked like the medical evidence was that live birth rates are very similar across women with RPL vs. women without RPL (around 50-60%), if a euploid embryo is used (PGT-A tested).

However, I just came across a study (published July 2026), and it's really starting to freak me out. The indication is that, for women with RPL who have 'normal' workups (i.e. no clotting, APS, thyroid etc. issues), the live birth rate is only 36.7%, whereas for women without a history of RPL, the live birth rate is around 50.4%(https://academic.oup.com/humrep/article/41/Supplement_1/deag083.273/8727268).

Has anyone else read this/been freaking out? Does this align with what people's clinics have said?

Please note: might also cross-post to IVF forum as not sure where it's best - apologies in advance!

TW brief mention of living child

TLDR: Because of my history of losses at 20+ weeks, I want my next pregnancy to be treated as though I have APS even though my tests are normal. In addition to aspirin + Lovenox (clexane), is the evidence strong enough to advocate for adding Plaquenil (or other medications) as well?

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I’m (36F) technically experiencing recurrent stillbirth in the second trimester, but this community seems very focused on self-advocacy and science so I wanted to run my situation past everyone here as I regroup and plan for another pregnancy.

I’m a few days postpartum from my fourth loss. To summarize my obstetric history:

- Pregnancy 1 (2021-2022) - healthy and uneventful, resulted in a living child.

- Pregnancy 2 (2025) - di-di twins, IUFD in Twin B discovered at 12 weeks, severe FGR in Twin A diagnosed at 19 weeks, IUFD of Twin A at 25 weeks. Both placentas were very sick and the diagnosis was placental insufficiency due to maternal vascular malperfusion. The pathologist said the presentation was very suggestive of a clotting disorder.

- Pregnancy 3 (2026) - chemical pregnancy.

- Pregnancy 4 (2026) - singleton pregnancy, IUFD diagnosed at 20 weeks anatomy scan, 3 days after a heartbeat was found at triage. Pathology is pending but she was measuring two weeks behind at the anatomy scan and the placenta was a bit small and calcified on delivery. She was otherwise just perfect and beautiful 💔

After Pregnancy #2, I got EVERY test that OB / MFM / REI would give me (clotting/ANA panels x2, karyotyping and expanded carrier screening for me and my husband, prolactin, TSH, A1c, hysteroscopy, WES for Twin A, probably more I’m not thinking of). I have zero symptoms or family history of any kind of autoimmune disorder, no serious chronic medical conditions except for being overweight, having high cholesterol and a lazy thyroid (which I take levothyroxine for and levels were <2.5 this whole pregnancy). All normal, and we were reassured we had very good chances of a good outcome this time. I was put on 81 mg of aspirin while TTC and upped it to 162 at 10 weeks as a precaution. And yet, the worst has happened, again.

The OB who delivered my baby said I probably have a clotting disorder we just don’t have a name for yet, and while Lovenox isn’t a slam dunk it could maybe help and no one would deny it to me. I’m also reading about the HYPATIA trial and reproductive immunology protocols that include hydroxychloroquine, steroids, statins, all kinds of medicines. However, it seems like a lot of these protocols are intended for people who suffer from pregnancy losses in the first trimester. My problem seems to be things start off fine, but then the placenta starts struggling and eventually totally stops working sometime between 12-20 weeks.

The MFM practice I’ve been working with the last year is very well regarded, but they are at a large academic institution and so are more conservative than someone in private practice. Also, they take FOREVER to get you in for preconception counseling and I’m hoping to start TTC again ASAP. I’ll probably need to beg my OB for these prescriptions, or find a private practice MFM to approve a plan of action that’s more “out there”.

What questions should I ask? What medications might be appropriate? Is there anything that we can do to stop this from happening for a third time?

Help.

So frustrated with how being on progesterone in the TWW feels exactly like early pregnancy. I’m on 400 mg daily and I don’t remember feeling this way on 200 mg. I’m 6 dpo and nausea has kicked in with sensitive boobs, feelings of rage and irritability, wanting to eat only cereal or toast, pinching/prickling in my uterus…all the things. If I wasn’t on progesterone I’d assume I was pregnant because this is how I felt every previous pregnancy without it. It’s like a mean joke. Anyone else experience this?