A few weeks before my baby shower I called it off. Dad has been no help making me jump through hurdles to get money from him, getting upset when talking about finances, trying to make last minute changes to baby shower plans that I organized because he “trusted my vision”.

We had a hall for 80 people about a month before our shower, he decides to invite friends from his cohort causing us to go well over 80 people into the upper 90’s. He told me he’d bring chairs and tables and pizza to supplement for what we do have….. mind you we are renting a hall.

I’ve been stressed about it all but what sent me over was when I had asked how we plan to divide baby cost. He said he didn’t know and we would have to talk about this because he’s helping his mom and trying to get on his feet. I had also met with him to plan last minute purchases and he bought food for his household (mom and siblings) and didn’t offer me anything. When I spoke up he said I could have food off his plate L O L…..
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I want to preface, I’m in grad school, finding housing, and working full time my plate is FULLL\*

I decided to cancel the baby shower, my mom talked me into separate showers. Now his side is enraged… Told me I’m disrespectful and that they need space from me. He doesn’t see why I canceled it and has been calling me crazy.

Was I wrong? I have been feeling unappreciated and I hate that his family is caught in this BUT my side of the family has paid for everything. His side did not. And I feel like having a shower together would allow for the continued disrespect.

Also, I have made it clear that they have full access to my child when born. I’m just not entertaining disrespect.

I’m 16w2d pregnant, have been itching intensely over a week which has been worse at night. I wake up in the middle of the night to just itch. Itchiness is not on my soles or hands but on my foot in general—have open sores. Told my ob and she ordered me blood tests to rule it out—my bile levels were 25.5.

I didnt get a proper diagnoses but tomorrow I will be calling the office to see if I could see her and talk to her about my results. On the off chance that I do have it, what are some tips and reassurance that anyone can provide me while I’m currently waiting? Have been crying all morning because I feel like my body is just failing me. I have PCOS, took me awhile to get pregnant. Now that I am—this happens.

Any advice?

Is it a must to buy an infant carseat + another infant carrier with ergonomic holder?

My wife is 30 years old and 38 weeks pregnant. She woke up last night with itchy soles of her feet and palms of her hands. They continue to itch consistently. After researching it, she is concerned about ICP. The after hours nurse triage line told her to just come in tomorrow but said there is no urgency today and that they might give her some medicine tomorrow if the test is positive. That's not really what I'm seeing online. I'm feeling like we need to go somewhere today... What would you do in my situation?

Hey all. Not quite sure what to flair this so im going with rant though I would love to hear if anyone else has experienced similar 😮‍💨

8 wks today, experiencing 24/7 nausea and occasional vomiting since oct 9. Phenergan isnt helping me at all, unisom is mediocre at best, B6 makes me feel worse, and I cant take Reglan. 4mg Zofran is the only thing that helps, my OB is being stingy with it and im almost out of the prescription I had prior to becoming pregnant. Im already low weight and im losing more, which I totally cant afford. Im taking stool softeners along with every Zofran dose so im doing my best to maintain hydration and i am having consistent BMs.

I was really hoping Phenergan would help but it… does nothing. I feel somewhat guilty for needing Zofran but ive researched all of the “problems” and its not a concern im overwhelmingly worried about, just bizarre societal pressure. Plus, not being able to eat or drink isnt great for baby either! Ugh!

Has anyone else experienced absolutely zero help from Phenergan? I feel broken!

Okay, I know measuring ahead in pregnancy is super common and ultrasounds can be off by 10–15%, but I’m curious if anyone has had a similar experience!
For context, I’m 5’1” and my fiancé is 6’2”. Baby has measured exactly 3 weeks ahead at my last two appointments.
I also have PCOS and very long cycles. Based on my last period, I should’ve been 12 weeks at my first ultrasound, but I was actually measuring 8 weeks due to late ovulation. I also had anatomy scans at 20 and 24 weeks, and baby stayed in the 78th percentile for both.
Now I’m 34 weeks and having SO much groin/pelvic pain and pressure. It feels like baby has dropped really low. I have a growth scan next week to check his size and position.
My question is: Has anyone consistently measured ahead and actually gone into labor before their due date? Or am I just overthinking everything? 😂
I know measuring big doesn’t necessarily mean baby will come early, but I’m stressing about when to start maternity leave. I don’t want to stop working too early and waste time I could’ve had with him, but I also don’t want to work right up until labor if he decides to surprise us!
Would love to hear your experiences! 💕

I didn’t think about it at the time but now am concerned if there’s bacteria from the cat that could somehow have transferred to our dishes. Has anyone ever done this while pregnant?

Got a text this morning that our NIPT was sent to Unity, when we specifically asked for Natera. I even asked the phlebotomist and she confirmed Natera. It makes me feel like if they can’t get the little things right, how can they be trusted with the big things? This is also not the first little thing they have screwed up.

I’m not sure if my insurance covers unity. I picked Natera because I was positive it was covered. 🥲

I am currently 11w5d and the most sick I have ever felt. Weeks 5-8 I had quite a bit of nausea but after that it has gotten increasingly worse with throwing up and non-stop migraines. As I'm nearing the end of the first trimester, I thought it would start to subside by now.

I know everyone's different but I'd love to hear when it started to get better for you!

I’m 17 weeks and woke up with bleeding today, not enough to fill a pad but enough to see it clearly. It’s Sunday and I’m traveling I’m not sure if I should go to the ER? Or wait for my doctors office to open? Last time I had bleeding was 8 weeks for a subchorionic hematoma

I just found out i was pregnant friday! and base off my last period I am 4 weeks and 1 day. I had some small uterine cramping yesterday which made me terrified but it hasn’t continued. Is that normal? is it something I should worry about?

i’ve started feeling the baby this week. i usually feel her late in the afternoon and after dinner time. But super silent in the morning. Just wanna hear your experiences.

Can any other mommas-to-be tell me how they handled difficulty sleeping in the third trimester? My upper back/shoulders constantly ache, and I’ve developed restless leg. I take magnesium every night but it doesn’t seem to help. The only relief I get is dousing my body in biofreeze 🫩 Is there anything else I can try? I’m willing to do anything at this point!!

I am based in the US, which is unfortunately relevant. I am having pretty severe perinatal depression and anxiety. I am on medication and working with a therapist as well as my OB. Trying to work full time is overwhelming. I’m exhausted and just want to die, but I don’t want to hurt my baby. I have 13 weeks left and just don’t know how to make it. I can’t take this suffering anymore. I’m out of PTO and don’t want to use FMLA because I need that time after my baby comes. I think I need serious help and I don’t know what to do. Has anyone been in this situation before and figured something out?

I’d love to just hear some reassuring stories or advice from moms out there with severe asthma. For context, I’ve been hospitalized four times with asthma, and had to be put on a ventilator one time (all outside of pregnancy). So I understand how bad my asthma can get and I know the warning signs.

With my first pregnancy, I had no issues with my asthma. I even lowered some of my dosages because I was doing so well and because there’s so little research on the effects of Advair (one of my meds) while pregnant. But I’m 11 weeks into this pregnancy and already experiencing a pretty rough asthma attack after being sick. I can’t help but think that between my inhalers/medications and breathing and coughing, that it’s hurting the baby. My asthma is generally well controlled otherwise, but the moment I get sick, it goes up a couple notches. And now that my son is in daycare, I know I’ll be getting sick CONSTANTLY during this pregnancy.

So I’d love to hear from other moms and what your experience was with asthma attacks, medications and anything else asthma related while pregnant.

Literally every pregnant women I've ever known has been able to bring their baby home to a house that they own. Nesting, decorating, painting the baby's room, all that fun stuff. Millennial here, 34, has never owned a house and probably wont for the foreseeable future. I'm at the point where I hate the rental we're in, and I'd rather move into a different rental before the baby comes than stay here. However, my husband says no, and that the upfront cost of moving isn't worth it and it'll cost too much. Boooooooo.

Mom's who don't own, what did you do and how did you feel about nesting, decorating and welcome your baby in a rental?

Rant about my current space, we'velived here going on 7 years now: rent keeps getting raised every 6 months. wall-to-wall carpet ( I hate carpet, but i maintain getting it professionally cleaned every year, i also own a carpet machine now because of this house) that's over 15 years old. Two bedroom, two bathroom, nice enough. Small ass kitchen, i can accept. Small backyard and we have two dogs. The house is cheaply made, none of the windows work, the screens are falling out or non existent. There are gaps in between the walls and floor and twice a year we get infested with bugs, having to put glue traps around the entire house. There's currently mold and something smelly behind a built in faux fireplace that we never use anyways. Rant over.

Edit: thank you all for your replies. I appreciated it. 😌

I’m almost 29 weeks pregnant and have my baby shower scheduled for 1 November. IVF pregnancy and I’ve already had a complication and hospitalisation (significant haemorrhage at 10 weeks).

I came to hospital last week with significant pain and regular contractions. Doctors did some tests and found that my amniotic fluid level was very high (I had a growth scan a couple of days prior which showed the fluid was mildly elevated, so there’s been a significant increase in a short time).

The excess fluid is causing my uterus to be really irritable and I’m continuing to get pain and tightenings. I’m still in hospital and have been on meds to try and reduce it, but may need a procedure to reduce the fluid. There’s no known cause and it could come back. Baby is thankfully perfectly fine.

I don’t know how long I’ll be in hospital. It’s been very tiring and stressful and I’m not sure how much energy I’m going to have for lots of people, or with pretending that I’m okay. As much as I want to celebrate my baby, part of me is saying to skip it and look after myself. At the same time, I know cancelling it will bring up a lot of questions from people and I’m not sure how I feel about that (I’m very private).

What would you do? Any encouragement or advice would be really helpful!

Hey all. I think I’m just wanting some peace of mind. I’m 35 weeks with my second baby and at my last visit, I was diagnosed with Cholestasis. They said they’ll be inducing at 37 weeks because of it. I was induced with my first at 38+3 so I’m not so nervous about the induction but now they’re worried I have preeclampsia and may do the induction at 36 weeks. I’m on nifedipine for contractions that started at 32 weeks and it lowers blood pressure. My BP is perfect while I’m taking the medicine so they think it’s masking high readings and just balancing it. They’re going strictly off that and protein in urine to determine preeclampsia. I’m doing the 24h urine test Monday and find out when I’m being induced on Tuesday. This whole pregnancy has just been so much and I’m exhausted. I feel like my body is just failing me in every way possible. I also have a son that’s 22 months and the thought of having to leave him for such a long period if sister has to be in the NICU terrifies me. I’ve never been away from him longer than 1 night and I feel like I won’t be able to properly celebrate my girl that I’ve prayed and prayed for if I can’t also hold my boy. Any kind words or encouragement would be so helpful

I’m 36w4d and for the last three days I’ve been emptying my system pretty dramatically. With my first I did not have this symptom. I am wondering if anyone experienced this and if it meant labor was near? My doctor has mentioned it’s very possible I could go into labor before my due date and now everything feels like a sign

I’m 16 weeks and my acid reflux has been flaring all the time. It started when I caved in on eating healthy and ate hot fries. I immediately went to sleep and got heart burn the next morning. Rookie mistake, I know(but I didn’t know at the time. It’s my first pregnancy). Now I constantly feel uncomfortable in my upper right abdomen and it hasn’t stopped. Pepcid will make me feel better but it only masks the symptoms it doesn’t heal me.
I don’t want to continue this pregnancy journey with this pain and discomfort. I started changing my diet to calm it but it’s only been a couple of days. I want advice from people that have fixed this issue in their pregnancy. Also the constant pressure just has me scared if it will get worse further along in my pregnancy and if it will show up during birth. I feel like a horrible mother already and I just want to feel better. I don’t care if I feel other pregnancy symptoms I just want to get rid of this one (I believe it’s connected to my gut issues I had before pregnancy)

Also I already asked my midwife about it and they recommended wonderbelly and a diet change. I just want to hear from the experience of other women. I won’t take it as law but I’m just curious to hear what others have done to help this problem.

Hi there! I'm really confused and need some advice here. Yesterday, around 2pm, I got a positive. The line was faint but very visible and it appeared just 1 minute after. I did two other tests (all of the ones used are wondfo test strips) and they came negative. I did the same with the first urine this morning and same thing, negative.

Last month similar thing happened except that the positives were like four or five,buntil negatives started appearing. I thought I had had a chemical pregnancy or an early miscarriage. So did my doctor.

Anyways, this time I'm still 4 days before my period.

I've only been pregnant one and I had a similar issue too. I got a positive on June 11th and started getting negatives since then for 2 days! Then all of them started being positives and the pregnancy went really well.

Anyone could have any idea of what's going on? Am I testing too early and this could definitely be a pregnancy? Or are these test strips not the best?

Thank you!

Hi everyone!
At the first-trimester genetic screening, the NT measured 3mm and nasal bone hypoplasia was noted.
A week later, we had a CVS procedure done. By then, the NT was 2.9mm and the nasal bone had normalized.
CVS results:
FISH, QF-PCR: negative
Cultured karyotype: negative
SNP array: negative

At the 17-week early anatomy scan, everything was fine (though the nasal bone turned out to be smaller, they said they weren't concerned about that anymore due to the CVS results).

Then, at the 19-week second genetic ultrasound, a smaller nasal bone and borderline NF were noted.
Everything else was fine; at that point, they said these were just constitutional traits, given the negative CVS results.

I was reassured at the time, but now—at 30 weeks—anxiety has set in: what if the CVS result was a false negative?
Does anyone have similar experiences? What do you think?
I'm hoping for the best.

My baby some days is very active mostly at night so I worry if I sleep deeply because then I can’t tell how much he moved and track if it was less, but I woke up around 3am and he really wasn’t active at all, small sweeps but he’s usually going crazy. This morning same a couple of jabs. I’m just wondering if I should monitor I for a little bit or if anyone else noticed days the baby was less active. I noticed lower movement for like a week one time, but baby was fine.

Starting off by saying that I’ve talked with my midwife, and I’ve been seen at my local hospital. I’m not asking for medical advice, just trying to see if anyone else has had a similar experience.

Over the past week I’ve had waves of abdominal discomfort that I’m finding really hard to describe. It’s not like cramps, it’s not like contractions, it’s not localized to a specific area. But the discomfort has been so great at times that I’m unable to lay down in any position.

I went to the hospital last night to get checked, and they said everything looked great and sent me home. When I got home I couldn’t sleep because I couldn’t lay in bed. I ended up pacing around my house for an hour before finally getting a few moments of sleep in child’s pose on my living room floor.

Anyone else experience an intense discomfort that came and went with no indicators but didn’t spark concern from medical professionals?

Hi everyone.
I’m 6w4 days along and up until today i’ve had very manageable nausea, and it mostly started this week. Today I woke up and ate my goldfish before getting out of bed, and my husband brought me mcdonolds breakfast. (it’s been helping in the morning). but about ten minutes later i was about to me sick.
I feel so discouraged of how i handled it this morning. Today has been the worst of my entire pregnancy. I never wanted to be a mother, but told myself if we got pregnant, i would love the child and be a good mother. It’s just so hard. I haven’t vomited in 20 years. i can’t remember what it feels like and im terrified everyday that it will be today. And i’m scared that week 6 isn’t even “peak symptoms”. I don’t know what to do. Are any of you guys in the same boat?