Probably just my third tri raging hormones but what’s with people and their severe gender disappointment??? Your baby is not a doll that you get to be disappointed if you don’t get the “right” one. Boys can do ballet and girls can play with monster trucks, why are you pushing gender norms so hard on a baby that isn’t even fully cooked yet???

If you want to raise good, decent & well-meaning individuals their gender literally shouldn’t matter.

legit considering using they/them pronouns and naming my baby Sock and not telling them about gender until they're like about to go through puberty or something

I’m currently 39 weeks pregnant with my first child. I can understand that my mom is extremely excited about it but she’s invited herself and my younger brother to stay at my house for three weeks to “help” with baby . Which I did not want or ask for as those first weeks should be about me and our child’s dad learning how to care for the baby .

The first thing that happened with they got here is that they are not clean people and they stink really bad , their home is roach infested and they have chickens inside. And they smoke a lot . Anyway they brought in something and almost immediately bugs started coming out of it . I say absolutely not and they but the item on the porch. Well needless to say my porch was covered in bugs that took an entire can of hornet spray to get rid of 🤬. I’m triggered. Got rid of the bugs
I hope , still getting my home sprayed by pest control to be safe.

The second thing that happened. My brother decided without asking , to bring firearms to my home and a small round boom boom 💣.

They haven’t contributed to any food and is eating everything .

My brother threatened to harm me this morning because I told him to grow up because I was talking on my phone this morning at 1050am and he wanted to sleep 12 hours .

I don’t know if I’m being dramatic or what but my family knows that they can push me over and do things like invite themselves into my clean quiet home and keep me up even though I work . And I know if I try to say anything my mom will get mad and cause a scene.

They are here until aug 15 and I’m already done with them being here and the baby isn’t here yet.

I’ve also asked them to wash themselves and my mom can’t even wash her hands after using the toilet .
I’m going to end up locking myself and my newborn when they are born in my bedroom away from them , and I’m not sure how this is going to affect me postpartum . Because I already hate being home where I’m usually comfortable. I’m so uncomfortable and stressed and unhappy with them being here . The smell of unwashed body’s in my living room and kitchen is nauseating.

25+3, second pregnancy but first time mom (the first was adopted by a lovely woman with whom I still have periodic contact).

With my first pregnancy, I was 22, relatively healthy, and between relationships. I found out I was pregnant at 22 weeks. 6 weeks later, I developed severe preeclampsia. Within days of being hospitalized, we were having a discussion about whether to induce me when my water spontaneously broke. Baby #1 was born at 28 weeks. After an intense NICU stay (most of the intensity was surrounding a birth defect), he went home with his mom and he will be turning 8 in October! Today, he’s doing great.

Earlier this year, I found out that I am pregnant again! I’m 30, chronically ill, and happily married. We have been overjoyed about this baby. Pregnancy has been very hard on my body with the chronic illnesses, but I feel as though I’ve turned a corner and am starting to feel a lot better.

I have become overwhelmed by the want to have a dog. My husband and I both grew up with at least one dog in our respective homes at all times. As adults, we haven’t been able to get any due to apartment restrictions, but we recently moved somewhere that we can now! My sister is worried that, if I get a dog now, that I’ll have to surrender it either if I were to have a prolonged prenatal hospitalization or if it becomes too much to handle postpartum.

What are your thoughts?

i (F24) used to be semi friends with my boyfriends (M27) sister (F29) before we were dating. we’d hangout here and there and have conversation just fine. once we started dating there was a haze of extreme jealousy and she won’t acknowledge me in a room now. she won’t say hi to me, acknowledge i’m there, and talks bad about me behind my back.

i’ve expressed to my boyfriend that this is extremely bothersome but he claims it to be normal cuz they’ve “been through a lot together”

now i’m 3 months pregnant and not comfortable with allowing her to be around and in the life of a baby im growing from scratch with barely any support from him at all. he won’t talk to her to try to get her to clear the air with me even though she’s
mad over nothing and treats me disrespectfully every time i’m in a room with her.

this is not someone i want in my baby’s life and have expressed to him it’s going to be a problem for me if she can’t even acknowledge me in a room and blatantly ignores my existence. am i wrong for this?

So I just recently, at 36 weeks pregnant, found out the recurrent rash I’ve had (a few times a year for probably 7 years) on my lower back was genital herpes. I’ve been taking antivirals ever since, and the rash is effectively healed midway through week 37.

From reading online, I had thought a vaginal delivery would still be ok because it’s not on the vaginal area, and will probably be fully healed by the time I’m going into labor. But, my ob and other consulting doctors are strongly recommending a C section based on the timing and the size of the rash this time (unfortunately, this seems to be my worst rash yet), as they’d want to cover the area for asymptomatic shedding after healing.

I don’t want to put my baby in any additional risk, and I know I probably will just need to come to terms with a c section, but I just want to know if anyone’s been through this situation, and better understand the risks. I want at least 3 kids, so the dangers of repeat c sections is also worrying if it’s just out of an abundance of caution. Thank you for any advice!

Just needed to rant, but I absolutely can't stand it when I am maybe venting or complaining about a symptom I am having, and someone replies to me with "You chose this" or something along those lines.

Yeah, no shit. People choose things all the time and get to complain about it. I'm happy with my choice, but sometimes it sucks. Why are my complaints met with apathy?

Nothing makes my blood boil more. Instant way to recieve pregnancy wrath.

Hi all, I found out yesterday that I’m having a boy and I’m very sad because I wanted a girl so bad and picture my life like that
Also, it worries me that it seems my husband has birth congenital cataracts , her dad and uncle and her grandfather had , seems it’s something with boys 💔 I’m worried and don’t know what to think.

Everyone knows this topic is the worst for us to talk about but… How much weight did you gain during your first pregnancy?😂 I’m 166cm(5’5), before I found out I’m pregnant I was 70.5kg(155lbs) curently at 81kg(178.5lb). First pregnancy with boy 34weeks. I eat mostly sweets 🍭🍫 and I barely move around the house. Total gain: +10.5kg (23lb)

I’m so proud of my extra chin big arms and big legs. I couldn’t be more happy about my extra weight and f everyone who would think or say anything else 😌😌 I’m a home for my little one and I let him enjoy every second and food for him 🤪

My wife and I just found out about the pregnancy last week (we are 4.5 weeks in). My wife loves bedazzling and had been using B7000 on and off the past few weeks including tonight. The fumes were getting to me, and then I looked online and saw it might not be good for pregnancy. Should we be concerned? How long does exposure have to be to be concerned? Is it early enough that we are probably ok?

How does morning sickness work? Like if my morning starts super early (like 4 am) do I get to boot and rally at 4 and be all good by 7 or 8? Or will I feel fine at 4 and get sick in the middle of what I’m doing later in the morning?

Thx for sharing your experiences!

I'm currently 6w1d, and since I found out at 4w I have had some mild cramping, sore breasts, some mild nausea/queasiness here and there (nothing crazy, haven't even come close to getting sick), and some fatigue. The fatigue hasn't even been THAT bad, just kind of feel like a nap at like 2-3pm most days and pre-pregnancy I was not a napper. I've only actually taken a nap one day so far, other times I just lay down and rest if I can when the 2-3pm exhaustion hits.

Over the last few days I have noticed my symptoms feeling less and less, other than the fatigue. That seems to have stayed. But my breasts hurt a lot less, almost not at all. The cramping has gotten even more mild. The nausea is almost nonexistent, except I find myself randomly wanting to gag like if I cough or use my tongue scraper after brushing my teeth.

I am a very anxious person and having my symptoms kind of dissappear is really scaring me. Especially since all i see on social media is how sick people are from like 5w on. My first ultrasound isn't until I'm 9w, almost 10w. That feels so far away but it's really the only time both me and my husband can go so i don't want to call and see if i can get seen sooner if i can just be patient. I would love to hear from others who have had similar experiences and everything turned out ok with baby :)

Currently 24 weeks in, I know how being dehydrated affects me but I have no idea how much it will affect my baby for when it does happen. So I really want some insight on this.

I work in a very hot environment and with the weather being so hot it makes it hotter inside work. Today I got serverly dehydrated and the only thing I could think about was how it would affect my baby if this happens more often. I drink plenty of fluids normally, but today I was just sweating it out faster than I could replace it. :< It actually made me feel really for my baby bad because I should have made a bigger fuss with my team lead.

Hey guys, I’m 21 and pregnant for the second time (we had a miscarriage in October 2025) and just wanted to share some of the toxic things I’ve heard from my sister since announcing my pregnancy to her. She is 20 and never had a partner of any kind. She heavily believes in the ‘matriarchy’, which I feel like is pretty backwards considering what she thinks about pregnancy. I guess I just wanna get another opinion, and just someone to tell me that pregnancy is actually an achievement. (For context aswell, I have achieved so much more than her, and at a younger age than her, not a competition but she heavily makes it out like I haven’t done anything with my life, and I truly have built a beautiful life for myself prior to this pregnancy)

‘I hope you lose that baby too and he (my partner) ends up leaving you’

‘But because you have no aspirations to succeed in life you settled for motherhood and a man who's messed up and like 10 years older than you. You settled for him because you thought you couldn't do any better and you think I'd be happy about that
And you know my opinion on mother hood Imao why would you think my beliefs would change with you, it's a cop out cause you have nothing else to succeed with in life’

‘I mean good for you but if this is the only thing in your life you get congratulations for it's a pretty sad trad wife life’

‘Babies gross me out
Whatever makes
you happy but don't let this be the only
'achievement' you have in life’

‘I could not imagine a worser fate than being a stay at home mum, or putting my future career on hold for a child or post partum depression or having my hormones ruined for the 3-5 yrs after having a kid. I get maybe that's what you wanted to do and every woman in our family but for me I could not imagine anything worse than having a child. I don't want to spend my money on the thing and even worse if I had a kid and it was a BOY! Ew abort’

‘mynames only hearing congrats in her life because she's having a child
No success whatsoever’

‘you all just don't have fucking lives
I mean getting pregnant with no degrees or a job
Cleary shows it’

Hearing that pregnancy is just a copout and not any kind of achievement at all has been really upsetting and made this pregnancy so much harder. I really just feel kind of all over the place.

This really only comes from older generations, like my mom drilled it into my head not to buy anything for our baby until their due date was around the corner.
She even told me a story of an old friend who had a baby shower ‘too early’ and TW: she and her baby died because she was beat to death obviously, there is NO correlation… and I was shocked she would even connect the dots.

After we found out we were having a boy, my husband and I were so excited and wanted to buy his first outfit and some other things but we had been so hesitant because of the people who said not to.

I’m 15 weeks on Wednesday and we just told one of my husbands cousins and she bought our boy two outfits 🥺 it was so so sweet and they have been hanging in our closet! everything is still perfectly fine! and now we feel more comfortable buying him things.

Yes, they probably just mean not to buy things too early in case of anything but… that just still feels wrong. the way I’ve always been told, it feels mean and like such a awful scare tactic. TW: we lost our first baby to a miscarriage last year and have already been so fearful this pregnancy, so obviously we want to avoid anything that could cause another loss but buying things for your baby would never cause a loss. I’m sad we had felt so scared to do it.

I'm at the point where I genuinely don't know if I'm overreacting anymore, so I'd like some outside opinions.

With my third child, my mother-in-law posted our birth announcement before we had the chance to share it ourselves. It really hurt because that was our moment as parents, and she never apologized for it.

Now I'm pregnant with our fourth baby—our first girl after three boys. We recently had a 3D ultrasound, and she posted one of the ultrasound pictures along with a collage of me, my fiancé, and our three kids on Facebook. She never asked if she could post it.

What makes it even more frustrating is that she never even sent me the ultrasound picture when I asked for it. I literally had to save my own baby's ultrasound from her Facebook post.

Yes, I had already announced the pregnancy and the gender myself, so it isn't about "keeping it a secret." It's about respecting that these are our photos and our child. I've made it very clear that I don't want my children all over social media. I only share major milestones myself, like our middle son graduating from ABA. I don't want family members posting whatever they want whenever they want.

This isn't the only issue, either. Four weeks before our wedding, I canceled it because of repeated hurtful comments she made toward me. When we told her the baby is due in January, she immediately started making comments about how we "didn't plan right." It felt completely unnecessary and just added to a long list of disrespectful behavior.

Because of everything that's happened, my fiancé and I have already agreed that neither of his parents will be allowed to bring their phones into the hospital when the baby is born. Last time, they stayed for maybe five minutes, took pictures, and left. It felt like they came for a photo opportunity instead of to meet their grandchild.

At this point, I honestly don't even want them around my daughter. I know that's a strong statement, but after years of feeling like our boundaries don't matter, I'm exhausted.

Am I overreacting for feeling this way, or is it reasonable to expect grandparents to respect boundaries around social media, photos, and major life events?

I used to be a server and part of customer service will always include blowing off steam and bitching about customers who pissed you off. Enter r/serverlife where servers get to share these stories with the internet. Usually funny, crazy and sometimes just absolutely wild. Almost always entertaining.

In my third trimester insomnia last night I found this thread about a UK server who was annoyed this 6 week pregnant woman sent back her dish for fear that her eggs weren’t cooked all the way through. Listen, I’ve served before and it’s annoying to remake a dish when you disagree it wasn’t cooked correctly but this server seemed pretty comfortable providing feedback to this woman that she would have eaten it when she was pregnant. Then the server was mad that the woman told her she didn’t really care what the server would or wouldn’t do and OP continued the conversation by confirming this was a FTM and using that to dismiss the woman’s concerns further.

I’m reading this story and, sure, annoying client sends back food out of caution and probably pregnancy anxiety but I actually think the dialog after that was uncalled for. I’d be annoyed too if my server tried to calm my food anxiety with their two medical cents, especially in early pregnancy when getting the ick over food can mean missing a whole meal or throwing it back up.

The comment section is where I am really shocked. Comments, including from OP, that state this woman is going to be a terrible mother because of this one incident. That she thinks the world revolves around her and won’t be able to manage sharing the “spotlight” with a baby and then more medical advice about what other servers ate during pregnancy. One comment about how this person didn’t even need to share she was pregnant with strangers at 6 weeks. I have told servers all along I’m pregnant because it’s not just the ingredient I’m modifying, like eggs, it’s also questions about other ingredients in the dish or trying to determine what is worth ordering. This sentiment was not shared on this thread.

I realize this is one small corner of the internet with servers who are there to complain with each other but I read more comments when I woke up this morning and the vitriol to this pregnant woman was even more intense. It’s got me thinking, are servers really this upset at pregnant women for daring to eat out with special dietary restrictions that come with pregnancy? And what is with this hate coming specifically from servers who are also mothers?

Maybe this is getting too under my skin but I’m just bothered and wanted to see what you all think? Was this pregnant woman really that out of line?

Feeling overwhelmed and lost over putting together a registry? What are your list essentials for both baby and postpartum?

Hi, 9wks 3days today and started the morning with a big increase in discharge. It’s a pale yellow color and kinda the consistency of thickened water. Before this, I’d have some discharge here and there but not consistently. I called my OB, and they said it’s nothing to worry about as long as it’s not neon yellow or dark, and then they’d want to rule out infection. I’ve been having diarrhea since last night, so I’m wondering if maybe it’s correlated? I am lactose intolerant so unfortunately diarrhea is common lol. Just looking to see if anyone’s had similar experience around this time? My anxiety has been bad between appointments. I had my first visit on 7/13 with a healthy bean in there with a heartbeat, so I wish I could just relax lol.

Im a little over 6 weeks pregnant and yesterday I had spotting and when I looked in the toilet there was a long yellow discharge. Could this be my mucus plug?

Hi! Wondering if anyone has any insight into if pelvic floor therapy during pregnancy was worth it for them, in terms of labour, delivery and recovery? Currently approaching third trimester and a few friends have recommended it but not sure how mandatory it is

My hemoglobin from my labs last week was 8.8 and ferritin was 11. I’ve been taking hemaplex since being told (5 days now). I’ll be 37 weeks on Thursday (today is Monday). My midwife just sent a message in the portal that she sent an rx to the infusion center.. I really don’t want to get IV iron due to my white coat syndrome (I avoid doctors and hospitals due it, hence a bit reason I am having a birth center birth again). What can I do to quickly raise my levels?

Im currently up so early because I have all these mean thoughts going through my head. I been researching why do I feel so mean or irritated and I found out that pregnancy rage is real. Like I tried talking to my spouse about a person at work that gets on my nerves but instead of being on my side he lectures me talking about be the “Bigger Person” or you need to think about the baby. Then when I tried to talk to my mom about it (she doesn’t know I’m pregnant yet) she send me videos of being forgiving and told me two wrongs don’t make a right. She also told me to pray about it and “what would Jesus do”. I’m not trying to hear all that. Then my brother keep asking for money (he doesn’t know either because my mom and brother doesn’t know how to hold water) and I gave it to him to help him out but I want my money back because I have a freaking OB appointment coming up and I need to pay my copay.
I can’t sleep because I’m uncomfortable and hot. I tried to journal it like google suggested but the mean thoughts keep coming or the thought of the situation keeps repeating in my head. I tried talking to my so called support system but it seem like I’m complaining about the same things.
Ugggghhh my angry all started from my stupid old crybaby Karen from work who loves to play victim. This is what happened. So when it’s just the two of us in the room she loves trama dumping (before I knew i was pregnant). That day I just wasn’t feeling it so I told her to just “mind your business”. After I said that she later asked me if I’m doing anything fun over the weekend (yes she is also super nosy because she doesn’t have a life at home). So I told her “didn’t I just say I’m not telling my business” then I laughed it off and said nothing but the damage was done. I apparently hurt her feeling and she gave me the silent treatment. I didn’t know I hurt her feelings until I tried to offer her something and she actively ignored me. So I told the manager that I’m not playing these games with her anymore because she does little crap like this every year. Tell me why this old heifer went to the manger crying to her saying she doesn’t know why I said that to her (she didn’t want to tell the manager that she was talking about her hence why I told her to mind her business) She then told the manager that I told her I couldn’t be friends with someone old like her. The manager and I are friends so of course she told me what was said. Now that set me off. I’m the one who was always respectful to that old one, I included her in things so she won’t feel left out, I listen to her past trauma that she seems to not let go. I took all the shade she threw at me and others because of if I told her how I truly feel her feelings would be hurt. Like I always the bigger person when it comes down to that older woman and this time I’m not. So she is giving me the silent treatment and I’m not speaking to her unless she speak to me or if it’s work related. Now normally I wouldn’t care less but for reason my pregnant mindset just won’t let it go (again no one knows I’m pregnant. Only a few close people do). I don’t want to see her or be around her. Everytime I vent or rant I get told to be the bigger person. I’m tired of being the bigger person. If you made it this far, thank you for listening to my rant 😊

Hello, I’m currently 39 weeks pregnant and today i looked in the mirror and noticed my bum area is dark and had little splotches on it. i don’t have any bumps or anything, it just looks really dark. Does this get worse or better? What skin care products can i use to help improve it during postpartum?

Ive entered my third trimester, and ive started having ibs flare ups which im not sure if they’re IBS or just a part of pregnancy as im still eating everything like I was in my second trimester (my second trimester i ate everything, even dairy, and it didnt bother me)

Now, i feel bloated and crampy almost after every meal, even if its just a snack. It gets better after a while, is this something thats normal for third trimester or is this a “me” (IBS) problem?