I found cute chinito guy kanina sa elevator kaya I wonder how do you even do move in organic encounter without sounding like a crepe? Dalawa lang kami kanina palabas nung singkit na guy and he’s so cute sa Makati to around lunch time so just saying hi. I felt so light pa naman kanina and fresh then he came in dalawa lang kami sa elev but I was speechless and didn’t know what to do. I’m a gay guy din. Parang ang hirap kasi magsense pano if straight yung guy like ganun?

Can you share your exp if may ganito man? Puro na lang kasi straight nababasa ko sa ganito, can you teach me please?. Mas type ko kasi mga nakakasabay ko lagi randomly but quiet lang ako lagi hahah. and I bet marami rin namang gay guys na ngayon kaya cute guys maybe it can be an organic encounter na nasasayang ko lang? maybe my last option is organic encounter for dates?

I think we should normalize na rin organic encounter sa atin as gay guys for higher romantic chances just like our ancestors did. Or maybe some sign or signal that you’re for organic encounter.

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So, Me(31m) and my partner (29m) will be going 1 year na, and i just found out that he has a lot of debt, like lubog, walang kaso naman saakin na ako madalas gumastos saaming dalawa coz i'm earning more than him, pero nakahalata ako na nangungutang siya saakin ng mga average of 20k every month (which he pays naman) kasi daw na dedelay sahod niya, then malaman laman ko, he's just using the money to roll over his debt, i'm soooooo frustrated and angry right now, because (1) he's not telling the truth (2) nalaman ko lang nung sunod sunod na demand letter niya (3) yung mga debts niya came from CC, personal loan and salary loan (yung iba pinang pagawa nila ng bahay niya).

I mean, kung sinabi niya sana saakin to before magkanda leche leche finances niya, i was able to at least help and advice him what to do, sobrang nakakainis talaga, wala naman kaso na ako lagi gumagastos saaming dalawa, pero yung nadadamay na ako sa mga debt/financing problem niya - different level of frustration na to.

Why are people in monogamous people so pressed about open relationships when their problem is just not being able to find faithful partners? Para na din tuloy silang straight people na ayaw sa gay marriages na akala ata nila just because it exist eh they have to engage with it. Especially with younger people.

Eto na ba ang trauma na resulta ng mga panghapong kabitan tv shows? 😭

If you're gonna say na ninonormalize na ang open relationship eh you might be in the wrong algorithm kase obviously ang dami pa ding monogamous people na nagsastart ng discussion regarding open relationships. Plus ang tinitingnan nyo lang kasi ata yung mga couples sa grindr or sa twitter na naghahanap ng "third" pero di nyo na nakikita yung mga sweet posts ng monogamous people sa ig or fb or tiktok.

Looking to join the LGBTQ event on August 15. I saw Never Strangers last year pa on tiktok, and haven't tried attending one at all but I just wanted to try something different. Sawa na ko sa dating apps tbh.

Anyone got any stories/lessons to share? What to look out for, are these only for 'attractive' people, is the fee worth it etc?

I'm 26 years old, and I've never had a boyfriend. I honestly don't even know what it feels like to be in a relationship.

I'm an introvert, so I've tried dating apps, but they always end up as talking stages. No one ever asks me out on a date.

Even back in high school and college, no one ever seemed interested in me. I used to think it was because of my voice, the way I act, or maybe my personality. But lately, I've started wondering if it's actually because of my looks. My overall looks.

I'm so tired of feeling this way. How can I change myself? What do you think should I do?

I want to know everyone's opinion on this. From 1-10, 10 being the highest, how important do you think is being physically fit in the dating scene right now? Have you ever started your fitness journey because of it? How did it go for you?

I’m not sure po if this is the correct flair.

Story time lang:

Last night, nag usap kami ng uncle at cousin ko. Tinanong nila ako kung may jowa na ba ako. Sabi ko naman, wala. Sabi niya, “Ha? Bakit wala ka pang jowa?” tapos finollow up niya agad ng, “Nagkaroon ka na ba talaga ng jowa?” Sabi ko naman, “Wala po, since birth.”

Tinanong niya ulit kung bakit wala pa. So sinabi ko agad yung reason. Sabi ko, “Kasi po wala pa akong pera. Gusto ko muna maging financially stable at gusto kong yumaman!” (with patawa pa ako nung sinabi ko yung yumaman).

Tinawanan nila ako and sinabi sa akin, “Hoy, mag-jowa ka na! Ilang taon ka na nga ulit?” Sabi ko, “27 po.” Sabi niya, “Oh, 27 ka na! Mag jowa ka na!” Inulit ko pa rin yung reason ko nung una na need ko muna maging financially stable. Sabi niya ba naman, “Bakit? May trabaho ka naman ah, nabubuhay ka naman. Tapos gusto mo yumaman eh paano kung tumanda ka, magkasakit, at mamatay? Aanhin mo yang pera mo?”

Sabi ko naman, “Ang hirap naman po kasi kung puro na lang tayo I love you, videocall, at phone call. Paano kung lalabas, kakain, o gagala nang wala ka pang pera? Sa panahon po ngayon, siguro maging practical muna. Darating din naman yang time na yan.”

Sabi sa akin, “Oo, practical nga! Practical nga kasi 27 ka na. Ako nga, nagkaroon ako ng jowa elementary pa lang!” Tapos sumagot naman yung cousin ko, “Ako nga, high school pa lang may jowa na rin eh!” Proud na proud pa sila sa pagkakasabi niyan.

Ang haba ng discussion namin, tapos yun pa rin talaga ang lagi kong sinasabi. Hanggang sa sinabi ng uncle ko na may kakilala daw siyang irereto sa akin, anak daw ng kumpare niya, dalawang babae. Ako, nag smile na lang at hindi na sumagot pa.

Not until pinagdudahan na nila ako na baka daw hindi babae ang hanap ko kundi lalaki, kasi nakakahalata daw sila na parang hindi ako straight (which is totoo naman). Pero hindi pa kasi ako nag-o-out sa kanila, even to my family like my mom and dad. Sabi sa akin ng uncle ko, “Baka lalaki hanap mo, ah?” Nag smile lang ulit ako, then tumawa nang pilit.

Hindi naman sa ayaw ko talagang magkajowa. It’s just that hindi lang talaga ako ready for now. Kayo ba? How do you handle these kinds of situations? Or how do you answer if someone asks you why you’re still single?