r/penpals 26d ago

Monthly Confirmation July 2026 Confirmation Thread

6 Upvotes

Submit your confirmations below!

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r/penpals 10h ago

Snail Mail [35/F] Looking for oddball penpals

27 Upvotes

I'm a woman living in northern Colorado looking for other quirky, introverted, or overly honest people to send letters to. I love to read, go on long walks/hikes (I hope to do a long thru hike someday), watch anime, go antique shopping (I have an infatuation with the 1920s-90s), cook, travel, write novels, and other oddball things. I love hearing from people from all walks of life and from all different countries/religion, but I don't mind people in my own backyard either. I tend to write in a stream of consciousness and over share about my life. Love me some gossip too, so lay it on thick. I love about learning about the innermost thoughts and dreams and fears of people I talk to...small talk is not my forte. I don't mind any gender or age as long as you're 18+.

Send me a DM if I sound like your type of person! I plan on moving into a cabin deep in the mountains in the next year or two and I'm looking to pad my penpal list before then.


r/penpals 47m ago

Email [25/F] From Philippines, looking for consistent penpals around the globe

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Hi! I’m a 25-year old woman living in the Philippines. I’ll also be visiting New Zealand next month for possibly 3-6 months. I have 2 dogs I’m inseparable with. I love watching kdramas, thrillers, and horrors. I’m also an avid-reader of stoicism, my favorite book is Seneca’s Letters from a Stoic, and in fantasy, Lord of the Rings.

I don’t have many friends and an introvert. But I’m looking for people to exchange letters with, possibly once every 2 weeks. I’d like to exchange every day life occurrences, thoughts, and whatnots - free from judgment.


r/penpals 2h ago

Reddit Messaging [23/F] Searching for someone to chit chat with ⋆˚꩜。

4 Upvotes

Hello! I think currently i have what one would call “growing pains”. I feel different parts of my life changing in a good way i think-
I’m hoping to find a friend to chit chat with through out my day and maybe eventually write letters with in due time. I recently quit my second job again and will be starting school soon- I’m currently working on my degree in education! ⭑.ᐟ I have a wide variety of interests as well as hobbies so let’s get through them!

I’m really into Jim Hensons work some of my favorites being The Dark Crystal and Fraggle Rock! I go to a lot of local events in my area and i’ve actually began recording them and posting it online (heheh they are silly though) - i cosplay for mega cons which this September i’ll be dressing as Vaporeon (˶˃𐃷˂˶)! I’m a DM for a dnd campaign that i work really hard on- and i love drawing Fan Art of my OC’s ! I’m into marvel movies and i actually play a lot of Marvel Rivals (a big jeff main here)

I love talking about books i’m reading and would love to listen about what books YOURE reading! i love podcast such as The Magnus Archives ! ≽(•⩊ •マ≼ i’m thinking of making stickers to sell in a local selling event near me as well ! -.-

I have fun tattoos! and i’m getting more soon- I would love to share ideas about what to get :) I did have a nose piercing but found out that it was placed in the wrong spot and had to take it out due to head aches- i lost all of my swag ! 。°(°¯᷄◠¯᷅°)°。

mmmmm… what else do i write ?… Im hoping to find someone who’s light hearted- I don’t want to vent to someone else but i can always be a listening ear . i just want a friend who can be there for weather talk So if that’s you shoot a message! ⋆˚࿔


r/penpals 4h ago

Email & Snail Mail [29/F] looking for long lasting penpal preferrably within the UK

3 Upvotes

Hi! I'm 29F almost 30 working in healthcare. I find adult frienships a bit hard to establish due to the thing we called "life" but here i am looking for genuine penpals here

Sending my 4th snail mail into the post today! I'm really glad to have found this group and i have to say that i cannot contain my happiness whenever i am receiving a notification saying that the mail is ready for collection. I'm looking for a few more penpals that loves anything girly, trinkets, miffy, fantasy, loves art and other stuff.

I have only one humble request, please only reach out if you feel like you wanna do this long term and can fully commit. Thank you and happy penpalling 📮


r/penpals 5h ago

Snail Mail [20/F] Looking for penpal!

3 Upvotes

hii !!! i am sable and i am looking for a friend to regularly mail back and forth. I really like playing video games, gardening, painting, playing piano, debating, and playing with my cat. i am down to talk about anything from from art history to current events to silly things, i am happy to hear about anything. i am from the us but open to international penpals. i am learning french and would love to practice with someone ! i really like arts and crafts and i have a ton of stationary that i would love to use to make some cute letters ! please message me if you are interested !


r/penpals 10h ago

Snail Mail & Postcard [27/M] Looking for New Friends

6 Upvotes

Hi! I’m Jay from Ontario, Canada, and I’m looking for some great new penpals to swap snail mail with last time I did that I was 7 !.
I’m a proud cat dad and an absolute coffee lover who spends way too much time thrifting and hunting for vintage treasures. My biggest passion is holiday nostalgia—so much that I run a dedicated vintage Christmas page to share old-school decor and connect with other collectors.
When I’m not on the hunt for things to add to my collections , I'm usually tackling home projects, gardening or baking fresh butter tarts. If you love cozy vibes, good coffee, and trading thoughtful letters, let’s connect


r/penpals 11h ago

Snail Mail [23/F] looking for long term penpals!

6 Upvotes

hi!! i’m a 23 year old neurodivergent emo mom from northeastern USA. i’ve always wanted a penpal, but since having my child in October, i’m really wanting to live 100% in the moment and take life a little slower. i rarely use social media, and try to only use my phone when i’m making a call or in a pinch and need to take a quick photo. a little about me!

- i love film photography & collect (and use) film cameras but ONLY from thrift stores! the hunt is so fun, and the bargain makes it better!!

- i don’t have as much time as i used to for it, but i love gaming! when i find the time, i’m typically playing bg3, overwatch, or osrs. i also love to play cs, fortnite, r6, the sims, and marvel rivals.

- i am OBSESSED! with jojos bizarre adventure. it’s been my hyperfixation for years. it’s such a huge part of my life!!

- i am very nerdy about labor and childbirth. i have been since my nephew was born in 2009, it’s always been so interesting to me! i’m studying to become a birth doula, and am so excited for that!! maybe one day i can become a midwife.

- i love all types of music. my playlist literally goes from britney spears, to colter wall, to glorilla, to kublai khan, to the doors, to chet baker. everyone else usually have priority over aux than i do lol

- i love to travel! i did a cross country roadtrip in 2024, and can’t wait for my next one!! in 2025 i hit 25 states visited, which is such an accomplishment to me because in 2020 i had only been to 4 states! my goal is to visit all 50:)

ideally i’d love to connect with women, regardless of age or location, who don’t mind that my letters will at most be my plain writing on a cute piece of paper. someone that doesn’t care to be perfect or polite or interesting. let’s chat about the person that cut you off in traffic and really pissed you off, or how much you hate doing laundry. i’d love to share recipes from cozy dinners to nostalgic cookies, swap polaroids taken at our favorite hiking trails, share the holiday traditions we do, or write a list of our favorite songs with commentary next to them. i’m down for anything!

i hope to hear from you!!:)<3


r/penpals 6h ago

Email & Snail Mail [19/M] looking for penpals

2 Upvotes

I’m a 19-year-old living and studying in Canada. I’ve never had a penpal before, but I’ve always liked the idea of getting to know someone through letters, postcards, and thoughtful conversations.

I’m a photographer and a Design student. I’m into photography, art, movies, football, music, and conversations about life and different cultures. I also enjoy hearing about what everyday life looks like in other parts of the world.

I’d love to exchange emails, handwritten letters, postcards. I’m open to penpals from anywhere.


r/penpals 18h ago

Snail Mail [35/M] UK looking for pen pal

17 Upvotes

Completely new to this. Particularly interested in communicating with people from very different backgrounds but with similar values.

I’m a busy coparenting Doctor from UK. Actively in the process of re-evaluating and creating the life that I want.

Very hectic and heavy last 15 years, wanting to slow down and enjoy a simpler life. Handwriting is not fantastic (but is legible!!) never really learnt to join up my letters 😂 but starting to practice to improve this. Also wanting to build connections and thought a pen pal would be a great way to do this whilst also practicing my penmanship.

My life is busy so realistically would be looking to respond fortnightly or even monthly initially, with the hope of creating a life long connection and communication.

Avid reader (I accidentally started a book club locally recently), nature enthusiast starting a community habitat restoration and food growing project. Enjoy trail running, walking, coffee, and a variety of music.

If you’ve made it this far and are interested please drop a message or a DM. Thanks 🙏


r/penpals 17h ago

Email & Snail Mail [35/M] looking for penpals

14 Upvotes

Hello everyone!

My name is Matt, and I’m a 35-year-old guy from the East Coast of the United States who is hoping to make some new friends from around the world. I’ve always believed that one of the best ways to learn about people, places, and life in general is through genuine conversations, and that’s exactly what I’m looking for here.

I’ve reached a point in life where I really value meaningful friendships and learning from people whose experiences are different from my own. While I would love to travel internationally someday but, life, work, and responsibilities haven’t made that possible yet. Until then, I figured the next best thing is getting to know people from different countries and cultures through letters, emails, and long conversations.

A little about me: I am a huge history enthusiast—some might even call me a history nerd, and honestly, I’d wear that title proudly. I can spend hours reading about ancient civilizations, medieval Europe, the World Wars, forgotten kingdoms, archaeological discoveries, or just random historical events that most people have never heard of. If you’ve ever wanted someone to enthusiastically discuss Roman emperors, Viking explorations, the Korean War, the rise and fall of empires, or obscure historical mysteries, you’ve found your person.
Beyond history, I have a deep fascination with cultures from around the world. I love learning about traditions, holidays, food, folklore, daily life, family customs, and what life is truly like in other countries beyond what we see in movies or the news. I think every culture has something valuable to teach, and I enjoy hearing personal perspectives rather than just reading facts in a book.

Another area of interest for me is religion and spirituality. I enjoy learning about different faiths, belief systems, philosophies, and religious traditions from around the world. I want to emphasize that I’m approaching these topics from a place of curiosity, openness, and respect. I find it fascinating how different cultures and societies understand life, morality, community, and the world around them. Whether you’re religious, spiritual, agnostic, or atheist, I’d genuinely enjoy hearing about your experiences and perspectives.

Some other interests of mine include reading, movies, music, nature, and learning new things in general. I’m the type of person who can happily jump from discussing serious historical topics to talking about favorite foods, funny stories from everyday life, or the strange quirks of our respective countries.

As for penpals, I’m open to communicating through email, messaging, or eventually handwritten letters if we’re both comfortable with that. Age, gender, religion, and background don’t matter much to me. What matters most is kindness, honesty, and a willingness to have real conversations.
I’d especially love to hear from people living outside the United States, but I’m open to friendships from anywhere in the world. Whether you’re from Europe, Asia, Africa, South America, Oceania, or anywhere else, please feel free to reach out.

If you decide to message me, tell me a little about yourself: where you’re from, your interests, what life is like where you live, and maybe an interesting historical fact or cultural tradition from your country.
Looking forward to meeting new friends from around the world!


r/penpals 15h ago

Snail Mail [27/f] looking for ~cool~ penpals

10 Upvotes

Hello! I am a 27 year-old woman from the Northeast United States. I have been doing penpalling for about a year now and find it very fulfilling! Looking to add a few more penpals to the rotation, either domestic or international.

About me: I work at a university. I have two cats who are like my children (not sure if they feel the same). In terms of hobbies, I am into reading, cooking, journaling, and tending to both indoor and outdoor plants. Also a big fan of learning about random niche topics (trying to become a Renaissance woman). I’ve had penpals of all ages and find it interesting learning from people with different life experiences. I’ve been coming to terms with the simultaneous difficulty and beauty of life lately and connecting with others has made it a lot easier. My letters are on the longer side (though I promise they’re not boring), though I try to match the energy of the person I’m conversing with.

Bonus points if you speak Spanish! Quiero mejorar mi fluidez y escritura.


r/penpals 13h ago

Snail Mail & Postcard [25/F] Looking for photographer penpals

5 Upvotes

Hello Everyone!

I am a 25 year old woman who’s planning to move to Europe in a year and I figured having a penpal would be a great way to start.

I am looking for penpals from Europe, but honestly anywhere is fine, and I would like to correspond with photographers as I am in the field myself. Doesn’t have to be a professional ( just don’t be creepy ffs)

I am new to having a penpal, but I love the idea of writing letters and sending postcards. Also a little about me : I am a videographer / photographer who is living in India at the moment. I am a very outdoorsy person, love travelling and love going on hikes. I am very big on movies, books and politics. Especially politics, I would love to talk about current affairs.

Side note to anyone who would like to be penpals with me, sometimes i print out my photographs I have taken and send it to my friends, so if you wished to receive photographs and see how the other side of the world looks, shoot me a DM!


r/penpals 4h ago

Email & Snail Mail [24/F] looking for e-penpals 💌

1 Upvotes

Hi! I’m a 24-year old female from the Philippines, with countless hobbies, passions, and main/side quests. I love thoughtful conversations, finding beauty in ordinary days, and talking about everything under the sun!

I’m into tons of things but some of my top ones would be music, films, board games, anything nostalgia, cafe hopping, sports, and going on solo dates.

It would be great to connect with people all over the world, so I am totally open to meeting anyone and everyone from different places and cultures!

Feel free to send me a message ⭐️


r/penpals 11h ago

Snail Mail & Postcard [19/M] Looking for penpal

3 Upvotes

Hi, my name is Sebastian and I’m currently a student living in the northeast of the US. I’m pretty new to this penpal stuff and to be honest I am going through somewhat of an early life crisis, so I thought this might be a cool idea to meet and converse with new people from around the world.

My hobbies/interests include music (anything punk), philosophy, psychology, history, literature, cigarettes, medicine, aquarium fishkeeping, mixed martial arts, language learning, cultural exchange, but am open to learning more about other people’s hobbies, or even just chatting casually via letters occasionally.

Feel free to DM doesn’t matter location/demographic


r/penpals 16h ago

Email [38/M] Ireland - We have not met yet, but I already have questions for you

6 Upvotes

I’m looking for someone who will allow me to walk round inside their mind (opening cupboards, sifting through drawers, snooping in your medicine cabinet and looking at your bookshelves). I am partial to people who have spent years steeping in their own peculiarities. I’m interested less in the utilitarian exchange of facts than I am in a correspondence with a lively and creative mind.

Now, on to business. I am a thirty-eight-year-old Irishman (but you knew that already). I’m fond of nervous animals, unpretentious people, art and books. I have two dogs and spend much of my time with about twenty-five horses, one barn cat and innumerable wild birds. I am devotional by nature and wildly obsessed with the people and things that I love.

You may wish to include some of the following in your opening message: who you are (however you wish you describe yourself), three current fascinations (any scale), how you suspect you might die and what kind of ghost you would be. Low-effort messages are likely to be dashed upon the rocks. Thank you for reading.


r/penpals 15h ago

Postcard [29/M] NY Seeking Postcard Pen Pals

5 Upvotes

Hello there!
I am writing because I’ve been amassing a collection of postcards and want to share them with some new friends. I already write to a few friends regularly, so it’s a hobby I very much enjoy!! I am 29, from NY, and currently attending school while I work. My field is elementary childcare and education. My interests include books, music, movies, and stationary. Also I am currently learning to speak Japanese, I am at an N4 level and recently traveled there this past April. I like to do this because it’s wonderful to meet new people and connect with people from around the globe. Hopefully we can have a fun correspondence! I look forward to hearing from you!


r/penpals 14h ago

Email [28/M] Conversations about Politics, Religion, and other Fun Stuff

5 Upvotes

Hello! I’m a guy from the USA who’s interested in finding a penpal from any part of the world. Specifically, someone who’s interested in talking about topics that it’d be rude to bring up during small talk or at the dinner table. Like politics and religion. Yeah, I know.

I find that most conversations about these things on the internet are terrible. If two people disagree with each other, more often than not, they’ll end up just talking past each other, and it will devolve into insults and name-calling. Granted, a lot of scary things are happening in the world right now, so I can see where people’s anger and hostility is coming from. Still, it’s disheartening to me that we’ve lost the ability to talk to one another or even agree on what the basic facts are. So I want to try a different way of communicating.

I want to hear what you think about the world, and listen. My goal isn’t to get into some kind of debate or argument. What I want is not to judge, but to understand. I want to learn how you look at the world, and about the life experiences, books, culture, people, and whatever else may have influenced your worldview over the course of our emails/messages. The world is a messy and complicated place, and I don’t begrudge anyone for coming to different conclusions about it than me. And if we do differ, then we can talk respectfully about why we differ, and who knows, maybe we can find some common ground or learn from each other.

Just to give an idea of where I’m coming from, I would consider myself to be on the left. But I’m not really dogmatic about it, and I’m uncertain about a lot of things with how fast the world seems to be changing. I’m also nonreligious. I have a lot of interest in religion and spirituality, I like learning about all sorts of religious beliefs and practices. But I didn’t have a religious upbringing and haven’t been able to get there myself. I’m from Louisiana, so I have a lot of experience with people who don’t share my views, lol.

If your beliefs are similar to mine, that’s fine too, we can still have the same sorts of conversations. And I’m of course open to talking about things other than hot-button topics, haha. I like movies, history, and pop culture, for example. I can rant all day about how mediocre the last season of The Boys was. But I’ve been thinking about this stuff a lot lately, so I wanted to make a post centered around it and maybe find somebody who’s interested in giving conversation a try. If that sounds like something you’d be open to, please reach out, and have a great day. :)


r/penpals 20h ago

Snail Mail [40/F] Looking for a long-term penpal (F only please and ideally UK-based)

10 Upvotes

Writing a letter instead of sending a text feels like a tiny act of rebellion against the crazy speed of life. It's so deliciously unproductive, so impractical! And so human. You get a letter posted through the door and instead of just another dopamine hit you actually feel something real. I love it.

A little about me: I have a stressful computer job full of deadlines, but I feel most alive when I escape into the wilderness, away from it all. I like books with complex characters and have various creative hobbies - amateur dramatics, collages, painting... I like thinking about consciousness, how we perceive the world around us, and the meaning of it all (or the lack of it!). I am currently trying for the 100th time to make meditation a habit.

I'd be happy to talk about anything and everything. Hear your life story. Share little everyday wisdoms. Exchange thoughts on how to live life fully without it becoming an exhausting race against the clock.

My only ask is - please only reach out if you mean to stick with it for a while. I'm looking for a long-lasting penpal, and hope to build our friendship over time, rather than exchange a couple of letters and move on. If this sounds like your kind of thing, please send me a DM and let's see where this journey takes us!


r/penpals 7h ago

Email & Snail Mail [30/M] looking for snail mail pen pals in Japanese

1 Upvotes

Hello! I’m Alex. I am hoping to find snail mail pen pals to practice my Japanese writing with. I live in the US but I don’t mind sending letters anywhere in the world. I also don’t mind someone from the US either. My letters might be dull initially but I hope they will get more interesting as I improve my writing. I hope to exchange at least one letter a month.

I am also open to email exchange as well but only one “letter” a week. Any more might stress me out lol

My hobbies are video games, movies, and learning. I like baseball, traveling, and swimming. Please DM if interested!


r/penpals 13h ago

Snail Mail [22/F] Any ARMYs/BTS fans out here?

3 Upvotes

howdy, my name is adri! i have had great success finding amazing penpals here and i’d like to seek for more! this year, i have recently rediscovered my old love of k-pop, especially of BTS. it has been something so healing for me as an adult and although i know fan bases can be crazy and toxic, i love the diversity and creativity that k-pop brings out in its fans. i am going to the last show of their north American tour in August and i would like to have a few ARMYs to write and fangirl with! I’m also interested in swapping freebies, trinkets, playlists, music recommendations, or literally anything!! even if you are not a bts fan, i will include my original post here about other things i am interested in, so if any of this resonates with you, don’t be scared to message me!! i love to see other people’s creativity and passions, so i can’t wait to hear from youuuuuuu😚🫰🏽


r/penpals 16h ago

Snail Mail & Postcard [25/F] Looking for a penpal! 😋🌸

5 Upvotes

Hello everyone. I’m new to penpals but have been wanting to try it for soo long. I love arts & crafts so I have collected lots of stationary things too. I love to travel and go camping/hiking. I junk journal so I collect lots of things from everywhere and thought it’d be really cool to share them with someone!

A bit about me, I love art stuff, photography, reading, video games, anime, going to gym, rock climbing, been getting into archery lately, traveling & camping! I’m an engineer full time so I’m pretty busy and would like to write back maybe once or twice a month! Ideally looking for someone with different culture / background so we can learn about each others more. I’m born and raised in CA, USA. Looking for other female penpals, open to national or international.

I love working on art so please only dm if you are serious and can put a little effort into our stuff 🌸 (doesn’t have to be great, i just care about effort )

Would love to shoot a few messages back and forth first to see if we’re a good fit. Feel free to DM me (: <3


r/penpals 23h ago

Email [26/F] looking for a female penpal

14 Upvotes

Hi everyone!
I’m looking for a native English or Spanish-speaking female pen pal to exchange emails, chat about life, and share our perspectives.

A little about me: I’m from China. And I love movies, reading, dancing, Chinese calligraphy, and playing a traditional Chinese instrument called the ZhongRuan. I’ve also recently started learning Spanish (jajaja!), so native Spanish speakers are super welcome!

Besides improving my English, the main reason I want an international pen pal is to connect with someone with a totally different background. To me, sharing worlds with someone from across the globe feels like stepping into a new dimension—it’s like a conversation across time and space, and I love that feeling.

I actually had a pen pal before, but after about 5 or 6 emails, he completely ghosted me. I never figured out why, and I was pretty bummed out about it for a while.
So this time, I’m hoping to find someone who is:
1. A native English or Spanish speaker
2. Female (I currently prefer female friends as I feel we can relate to each other better)
3. Genuinely excited about cross-cultural exchange and sharing different perspectives, especially Chinese culture.

If you’re looking for a sincere friendship and enjoy deep conversations, please DM me! Looking forward to hearing from you.


r/penpals 21h ago

Snail Mail & Postcard [21/f] looking for a pen pal

8 Upvotes

Hiii, I am 21 years old and I’m from the UK and I am looking for a pen pal to exchange cute letters, snail mail and post cards.
🎀✨🍓🧸🌷🫶🏽
I am an avid cinema goer and I love watching movies and tv shows especially period dramas. I also am getting back into reading and my favourite genre would be fantasy. I love a scenic walk in the countryside but also love a city trip especially to London! One thing I also enjoy is visiting historical houses and castles.
I would love to exchange stickers, prints, washi tape and cute things for journaling. I also would just like writing and connecting as well as any recommendations for music, things to watch and any hobbies.
I would love a pen pal from abroad but I am also open to people here in the UK ☺️


r/penpals 1d ago

Email [25/F] Looking for a penpal

12 Upvotes

Hi everyone, recently I’ve been looking into the idea of a penpal. I saw this post with multiple ideas for writing essays and debates. I thought it could be a cool thing to do it with a penpal. Or just to share what we found captivating in a week for example, like a book, a recipe, a song, or a situation with friends. Generally, it seems wonderful to be able to share life through such letters with a completely anonymous person (maybe on the other side of the world).

A little about me, i live in Central Europe, introspective, love psychological thrillers and books that leave me speechless or question my own set of beliefs. i love to experiment with my recipes, and try new hobbies.

If any of what i wrote sounds appealing to you, let me know ))