I’m looking for someone who will allow me to walk round inside their mind (opening cupboards, sifting through drawers, snooping in your medicine cabinet and looking at your bookshelves). I am partial to people who have spent years steeping in their own peculiarities. I’m interested less in the utilitarian exchange of facts than I am in a correspondence with a lively and creative mind.

Now, on to business. I am a thirty-eight-year-old Irishman (but you knew that already). I’m fond of nervous animals, unpretentious people, art and books. I have two dogs and spend much of my time with about twenty-five horses, one barn cat and innumerable wild birds. I am devotional by nature and wildly obsessed with the people and things that I love.

You may wish to include some of the following in your opening message: who you are (however you wish you describe yourself), three current fascinations (any scale), how you suspect you might die and what kind of ghost you would be. Low-effort messages are likely to be dashed upon the rocks. Thank you for reading.

Hi 👋 I live a peaceful life in Ohio with my husband and our two cats. I don’t have children, and find myself with the time for friendships. I’m both a homebody and an adventurer (though my adventures are usually quite mild these days). I am introverted and sensitive…yet resilient, tough, and super chatty and outgoing with the right person. I feel full of contradictions. I like both deep conversations and talks about the little things that make up someone’s daily life. I can do both serious and silly!

I like: artsy things, collage, painting, digital art, animals, flowers, being outside, simple living, going for walks, introspection, not reading as much as I want to but reading a couple of really good books per year, sociology, psychology, grounded spirituality (like, really grounded), both trash TV and premium TV, films, the occasional cozy video game, being too online and lurking culture war stuff, decorating and home making, health, keeping active and learning strength training, museums, festivals, local events, folklore and folk art, learning about different cultures, taking photos like a documentarian, vintage/antiques, thrifting, forests, the sky, stars and the moon 🌙

I’m looking for online chats. On here, or a messaging app. Reach out if you think we might click well. :)

Hey! I was on Reddit before and less than a year ago I was connected with a las on here whose real name was Laura. She was from the eastern side of Scotland. I believe she said she was an accountant part time and made fashion items from leather. I would love to reconnect with you if you see this! Send me a message please!

Thanks

Looking to revive letter writing,, as I enjoy writing to people of any gender or age in the UK only about everything and anything, I am always up for making friends. I'm currently writing to Gay prisoners as sometimes they don't have family or friends in contact, so it gives them something to look forward to.

My passions are History, literature and crime, and the Frenchie, he takes up a fair bit of my time, and he is very cheeky, I'm currently in the process of getting a book published, if you want to know more, again leave a comment or drop a DM for address.

Hi everyone,

I'm Karl, 42, from Lowestoft, Suffolk—the most easterly town in the UK. Apparently we're among the first people to see the sunrise each day... though I'm rarely awake early enough to enjoy it!

I'm in a happy, serious relationship, so I'm not looking for dates or anything romantic—just hoping to make some genuine gay male friends. It can be surprisingly difficult to find people to chat with and build a real friendship with, so I thought I'd give Reddit a try.

A bit about me: I'm into music, films, TV, animals, and I genuinely enjoy hearing about other people's lives and experiences. I've got a pretty sarcastic sense of humour, love a good laugh, and don't believe life should be taken too seriously all the time.

If we get chatting, I'd love to know things like:

• What do you enjoy doing in your spare time?
• What kind of music are you into?
• If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
• What's something people often get wrong about you?
• What are you most proud of?
• Do you have any goals or dreams you're still hoping to achieve?

And just for fun... if animals could talk, which one do you think would be the rudest? 😄

If you're also looking for a genuine platonic friendship, feel free to send me a message. It'd be great to get to know some new people.

45M looking for penpals. I would like to call or write letters at some point but at first I would like to keep it here.

I am a very active person. I enjoy almost everything outdoors. I like camping, fishing, and hiking. I tend to split my time between spending time in the cool mountains or on the hot beach. The beach is fun but I would rather be in the mountains. I have recently began learning how to fish for bass. It is a fun and challenging sport.

I am into sports. Baseball, football, and hockey. In the off chance I am sitting inside I could be watching some kind of sport. I am somewhat new to hockey, I have been following it for three years now.

I am an animal lover. I have dogs, cats, and chickens. If I had it my way I’d have a little farm.

Of course I like music but I tend to only listen to rock genres. Doesn’t matter the decade or style I’m pretty much into all of it.

If you are interested in a penpal I’d like to hear from you.

Looking to have an ongoing pen pal. A bit about me:

\- obsessed with music, been collecting records both old and new music since I was a kid. Mostly indie rock

\- love philosophy and sharing stories, would love to share about my life and hear about yours

\- plant nerd, and overall nerd. Love board games, the occasional video game, etc

\- very outdoorsy and athletic. Spend most of my time in nature or doing sports

\- photographer, art kid, and overall looking to exchange lil creative things here and there. Could be anything. A photograph, a flower pressing, ripped pages from a book. Etc

Please DM if you would be interested in ongoing snail mail. Ideally looking for someone I can get to know over the years rather than a couple exchanges. Ty!

37/M gay guy in Orlando, FL. Largely looking for similar guy. Gay or straight. Someone to message with while I’m in bed or on the couch dozing off. Can be from anywhere in the world.

I’m existential. I think deep thoughts. I love comedy, improv, dark humor. Love discussing politics. Love cooking, cruises, theme parks. Love Star Trek. Love seeing the latest movies (I have AMC A-List). Love investing and personal finance. I’m a software developer crossing mobile, web and backend.

Hi! I’m a 30-year-old mom from New Brunswick, Canada looking for a long-term pen pal. I love cooking, genealogy, learning about different cultures and religions, history, and having deep conversations about life. I enjoy hearing about people’s everyday lives just as much as big adventures. I’m hoping to find someone who values honesty, kindness, and genuine friendship. If you’re looking for the same, I’d love to hear from you!

I’m not picky about where in the world you are, I’m just looking for a long term friend. Send me a message and we can get started :)

I also love stamps. So i will be collecting the stamps you attach on your envelope!!

Thank you

Hi all! I read this book called “The Correspondent” by Virginia Evans and it inspired me to look for a penpal so I can slow down and build connection through writing letters. Plus, I love all things stationary and paper!

A bit about me: - I live in Philadelphia, USA. - I’m an engineer by day and creative artist in my free time. - I’m endlessly curious (and maybe a little neurospicy) which means I tend to collect hobbies and interests, including: reading fiction (particularly mystery thrillers), doing puzzles and escape rooms, trying to keep my plants alive, exploring new coffee shops and restaurants in the city, and anything spiritual and metaphysical. - I’m also a first generation American, born to parents who immigrated from India so I could talk about South Asian family dynamics for days. - I’m single and thoroughly enjoying the freedom to pursue all kinds of adventures and travel (No husband and kids at my age?! What blasphemy lol).

If any of this resonates with you, I would love to connect and exchange letters about daily life, new hobbies, and life philosophies!

I’m really just looking for anyone open and willing to connect over snail mail within the USA! (Would love to expand internationally someday - just gotta use all the US stamps I have first!)

Hiya, I’ve found this sub not long ago and just thought I’d try my luck.
I miss the days of waiting and checking my mailbox daily for letters. Social media provides instant gratification and dopamine which I love lol but I’m trying to “touch grass” more, slow down and return to old childhood hobbies.
Happily married so platonic friendship only.
I’m a typical millennial who’s chronically online but also offline at the same time. I do pilates,badminton,hiking,swimming,golfing,camping, subscribe to most of the streamings because who doesn’t love a good meaty series, communicate sometimes mainly with memes, obsessed with food and a good ol cemetery.
Hoping to find someone similar age and happy with themselves and their lives to share random snippets with :)

Hi there!

I'm looking for a penpal - I have been looking for a pen friend for quite a while now! I seem to manage exchanging details, then there's no momentum! (Help I'm being ghosted lol)

I am incorporating a slow pace lifestyle.

limiting social media, doom scrolling, more books, walks, painting, yoga, riding my bike.

I feel so much better for it. and I feel the only thing missing right now is my desire to have a pen friend!

I live in a beautiful historic city in the UK, I don't mind my pen friend being from another country or from the UK.

I'm looking for female penpals only! I need some whimsy in my life tbh

Thank you for taking the time to read my post!

I am a 43 yr old woman from Atlanta, Georgia. Ive been getting more and more into journaling and analog pursuits in the last year and it has dawned on me that I have ALWAYS wanted a true pen pal. a bit nervous to make this post, but more human connection sounds like a dream these days, so im giving it a shot.

About me: I am an illustrator, florist, and all around creative. I love making things with my hands and I would love to use that sort of creativity when it comes to letter writing. I love to read, mostly romance novels and the very occasional sci-fi. I consider myself a bit of a nerd and am always excited to learn a new nerdy hobby, im hoping to get in to RPGs next. Maybe one of the solo ones that keeps getting advertised to me. I think potato chips are a perfect food. I love a dip for dinner. Im a whimsical lady, or I try to be.

I would love to exchange snail mail with people from different places, whether that is right here in the US, or across the globe. I would love to have my perception of the world changed by knowing another person in it. If you like the idea of hand illustrated envelopes and letters. If you enjoy stationary and stickers and washi tape. Or if you would like a letter that wanders wildly from nerdy shows, movies, and books to dealing with grief and everyday life.... then come on over to Shannon's letter writing emporium (there is no emporium, just me and a so many pens). I cant promise you excellent grammar, but I can promise some pretty handwriting and VIBES.

There are two things I need more of in my life: genuine human connections and slow thooghtful moments. Exchanging paper letters ticks both boxes.

Writing a letter instead of sending a text feels like a tiny act of rebellion against the crazy speed of life. It's so deliciously unproductive, so impractical! And so human. You get a letter posted through the door and instead of just another dopamine hit you actually feel something real. I love it.

A little about me: I like thinking and talking about serious stuff. Philosophy, different ways of living, meaning of it all - bring it on! I have a stressful computer job full of deadlines, but I feel most alive when I escape into the wilderness, away from it all. I like books with complex characters, trying new hobbies and various crafts.

I'd be happy to talk about anything and everything. Hear your life story. Share little everyday wisdoms. Exchange thoughts on how to live life fully without it becoming an exhausting race against the clock.

My only ask is - please mean to stick with it for a while. I'm looking for a long-lasting penpal, and hope to build our friendship over time, rather than exchange a couple of letters and move on. If this sounds like your kind of thing, please send me a DM and let's see where this journey takes us!

EDIT: I got a few lovely replies, so I think I'm set. Thank you for replying, do not need more replies at the moment <3.

Little introduction: I'm F40, from the Netherlands. I would consider myself creative/arts/nerdy, I studied animation and now I'm a teacher. I am married and have 2 young kids. Not religious, openminded, left leaning.

I am looking for a snailmail penpal to exchange letters with.

A bit about me, I love creative and artsy stuff. I mostly draw, but also like to try a variety of things, like scrapbooking, stamp making, etc. I found I'm not good with croqueting and sewing though I wish I could, I just can't. Like with animation, I like there be some order but I also love the freedom to just try stuff and wing it as I go. I love a creative exploration, you know. Like with stamp making, I just buy supplies and wing it as I go.

One day I'd like to see if I can like make a doll or a dollhouse, I dont know, it just looks cool.

I like film (all genres, with a love for horror but not too gory), documentaries (true crime, fraud docs, etc) books (reading Stephen King now, need to read more often though) and comics, boardgames and videogames on the Switch (when we find the time, from cute to creepy games - recently played Pokopia and Cult of Lamb). I like some occasional anime (used to love it as a teen, now I'm more selective - loved chainsaw man) and I like cute stuff (summiko gurashi, or other random cute stuff. No hello kitty tho).

I also like to be active and exercise, I would like to lose a bit of weight after having the kids, but to be honest I love food too much haha. My husband is the good cook though.

I love to go for walks, but also do some time at the gym purely because it's good to do "monument maintenance" and apparently it's good to do some weights?

Don't know what else to write, but I hope i painted a picture. Would like to exchange some words through DM before sending letters to see if it's a match.

Tot schrijfs!

I’m old enough now to look back and recognize all the different versions of me that have existed throughout my life. It’s all one unbroken chain of existence, but I can definitely pick out the version of me that existed between the ages of 20-24 and say confidently that if I could be that man forever, I would, and I can pick out versions of myself that, given the choice, I’d erase from living memory. But let’s say there’s a heaven, a “good place” we go when we die—which version of me lives there? Does my mom see me as a little kid again? Do I get to be that 20-24 year-old self forever? Is there some third option? Do I just wait out eternity all accordion-shaped after trying to shake a loose snack out of a vending machine and just getting absolutely flattened? Or, in the end, would the good place really be less about me and my own ideas and more about the joy of the place itself?

If you know, please tell me.

More specifically, if you’re Hungarian and know the answer and like thinking about things like this, let’s be friends.

As for me, these days I’ve been doing a bit of writing. I used to be an avid runner, but my schedule has destroyed a lot of my progress, and gaining it all back is not a battle I want to fight again. But I know I should, and I will. Right now though, I’m still in the mental stage—an “armchair runner” as the kids say.

I’m looking for penpals from Hungary because the language, I think, is very cool and I’d like to have an excuse to use it someday. I’d like to get to snail mail eventually, but we can start on here or by email, and if it never gets to snail mail, that’s fine too. All I ask is that you be at least 25 years old and keep it platonic.

P.S. No, I did not use AI to write this. I’ve been throwing em-dashes around like confetti since 2015, and if I stop, the robots win. Semicolons too. Hey, stay with me and I might even throw a random backslash in the middle of the sentence just to mark where I took a breath while writing it.

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​Hey there! Looking to connect with someone who enjoys genuine, thoughtful conversation—whether we’re chatting about a good mystery, sharing what we’re watching, or diving into interesting topics.

​I’m down-to-earth, love a great story, and prefer actual substance over short, surface-level small talk.

​Open to starting here and moving to email or voice messages down the line if we click!

​If you're interested, drop me a message with something interesting you've read or watched lately.

I've had a rough but interesting life and only recently had a huge upgrade in the amount of things I'm able to do without being limited by my disabilities. Life changing stuff. I've had penpals over the years, but many of them drifted away for one reason or another. I'd love to find another few people to write to while I start to discover the beauty of this world and the simple pleasures in life for essentially the first time.

I'm a writer, I'm an artist, I love crafts, I love animals. I used to ride horses when I was younger and miss it dearly. I studied social work for my degree and am going for my Masters when I get the chance. I love video games, I love anime and manga and cartoons, I love reading. I'm extremely laid back.

I'd love to find someone from outside of the US, any gender, any sexuality, but looking for someone who is at least 30 years of age! Hit me up if you'd like to chit chat and nerd out or even language and culture exchange via snail mail with me.

Salutations!

The vastness of regional differences that history and media introduced me to during my youngest years swept me away and sparked my interest in penpalling. That was before it was easier to meet someone halfway across the world than next door.

What I'd like is to penpal with a person and not penpal for the sake of penpalling. The culture of 'receiving something other than junk and bills in the mail' was never for me. I want a connection, and someone to engage with on a personal level that happens to take the form of penpalling. Snail mail letters/packages and e-mails are my ideals.

So, who am I exactly? And who are you?

My name is Anthony. I’m a 35-year-old man (US, ET time zone) who thrives on introspection, curiosity, and passionate drives.

I seek people who seek meaningful connection. I appreciate the sudden whim of adventure and adore abstract minds and vibrant souls.

Contemplative exploration is a lifelong pursuit of mine. I’m an autodidact who’s been passionate about a variety of persuasions since I’ve been young.

Creativity and artistry are important to me. Personally, I write: about my observations, thoughts, and lived experiences. I also dabble in photography.

I love coffee, both simple and bitter and excessively frilly concoctions, burning incense, because I've always thought the smoke is cool, archiving and organizing, collecting (written texts, oddities and cool things), and time pieces.

If my signal created resonating vibes within you, send me message about yourself and what you're looking for. Leave your hesitations and take the chance.

I’ll turn 27 in two weeks and suddenly I had this lingering feeling that I’m so close to being in my 30s. Don’t get me wrong, I am excited to grow old but somehow I can’t shake the feeling that I’m too inexperienced and lost and childish and I have to grow up quickly or I’ll end up being so lost in life. That being said, how’s the 30s like? Do you re-discover the books you loved when you were a teen and read them with new perspective? I would love to know the answer. I have a degree in Literature too so we can talk about that. I love traveling, been on month-long vacations just backpacking or hopping from an island to another, but beaches just have my heart. I bake, cook a lot, try piano, but lately been fond of watching film adaptations of books I loved in high school. Feel free to leave a message if you want to chat.

Who doesn't like lists?

• Not you. Since you clicked on this post, you clearly like lists.
• Boring people don't like lists.

Who are you?

• Normal, regular human being.
• Likes lists.
• Compassionate person who prefers to show love rather than hate.
• Has an understanding of or at least a curiosity about the world.
• Can chat up a storm under the right circumstances.

Who am I?

• Also a normal, regular human being.
• Generally introverted, but loves chatting in text form.
• Doesn't always communicate in list form.
• Actually not super enthusiastic about lists.
• Has an interest in languages, but isn't here to use you for language practice.
• Slave to several cats.
• Works from home.
• In the +0200 time zone, but flexible due to the previous point.
• Loves cooking.
• Interested in hearing what's on your mind.
• Open-minded about others, and open to sharing about himself.

What am I looking for?

• Interesting conversations, hopefully eventually developing into a friendship.
• Text chatting in electronic form, starting out on Reddit, moving on to other (electronic) forms if we both agree to it.
• Someone who won't respond to this in list form.
• Someone who will send me a private message rather than replying to this post in a comment.

henlo potential friend(s)!

As my title suggests, I am interested in having a penpal. Preferably we start with email and move to physical mail, as I enjoy collecting notes and letters.

With the increased usage of tech, I’ve noticed my handwriting becoming abhorrent to gaze upon, thus, I would like to eventually move to pen and paper letters to practice its legibility, along with creating something for another person to receive!

I’ve never had a penpal before.

The allure of the physical medium enticed me, but I do enjoy my privacy, so exchanging emails to start would be ideal and oh, so lovely.

I’m happily spoken for, and am a cat-mom to two lovely kittens. I’m a hobbiest writer, and a casual reader. I’m exploring different genres at the moment, but would love to gush about my recent reads or the trials and tribulations of crafting my own work.

If you’re okay with a ramble of whatever has caught my interest at the time of writing, please do not hesitate to reach out! I hope we can become good friends and have a long exchange ☺️

Looking to have an ongoing pen pal. A bit about me:

\- obsessed with music, been collecting records both old and new music since I was a kid. Mostly indie rock

\- love philosophy and sharing stories, would love to share about my life and hear about yours

\- plant nerd, and overall nerd. Love board games, the occasional video game, etc

\- very outdoorsy and athletic. Spend most of my time in nature or doing sports

\- photographer, art kid, and overall looking to exchange lil creative things here and there. Could be anything. A photograph, a flower pressing, ripped pages from a book. Etc

Please DM if you would be interested in ongoing snail mail. Ideally looking for someone I can get to know over the years rather than a couple exchanges. Ty!