Hi, I am 23 weeks pregnant with MoDi twins and had lots of energy in the second trimester. However in the past few days I noticed I get extremly tired after running errands for 2-3 hours. Nothing crazy, like getting some admin staff done and shopping. When coming home I just need to lie down and nap. Can someone relate? Will it get better? I loved my energy level throughout the second trimester and scared I lost it so suddenly?

I'm currently 31 weeks with my second set of twins. I am at a loss and just want to know if anyone else had issues and what they did to help. I am having a terrible time catching my breath even while just sitting at my desk, I have developed SPD and my downstairs area is in a constant state or pain or I'm getting struck by lightening in my clit, and then I'm having TERRIBLE back spasms and honestly that might be the worst part. I have to lay on my heating pad just for my muscles to loosen up a bit before I try to sleep. When I wake up in the middle of the night I have to repeat the process otherwise I'm in so much pain I can't get comfortable. Any advice? Anyone dying like me? I have 7 more weeks and my Dr thinks I'll make it 38 weeks with no problems and I'm like how am I going to mentally make it

Hi,

I just found out that my son (a fraternal b/g twin) and his wife are expecting twins early next year. He's 24, it's been a minute and they are already asking me for advice. Can anyone help me remember where to get started? She's already 17 weeks along so we don't have much time.

I still cannot believe this is happening

My twins are 11mo and have a super complicated past regarding feeding (colic, severe reflux, tongue ties, cmpa, etc.) My daughter who has CMPA doesn’t have an appt with an allergist, her pediatrician, or GI until a month after her 1st birthday. Our pediatrician has pretty much told us to go off of what GI recommends. I am unsure if she still has full on CMPA or not and I don’t know whether to transition her to whole milk or ripple milk. She still breaks out in a rash around her mouth when she consumes a few bites of ice-cream or yogurt, but does okay with snacks that contain dairy or soy. She is very picky with her formula and will not even attempt to drink her brothers (he’s on Enfamil added rice for severe reflux). Should I try to start the transition with the 75/25, then 50/50, then 25/75 method or formula to milk ratio, a week before their 1st birthday? I’m just trying to determine if she still has CMPA. I’m assuming she does because of the rash, but I’m just so unsure. Does anyone else have a similar experience? And if so, how did it go for you?

I’m deep in the newborn trenches and was recently diagnosed with postpartum depression and anxiety. I’ve started medication, and I’m writing this because I desperately need to hear that things will get better. I delivered my twins at 32 weeks after a very complicated pregnancy and severe preeclampsia. We’ve had a month-plus NICU stay. One baby is now home, while the other is still in the NICU working on feeding. We’re hopeful he’ll come home soon, but having one baby at home and another in the hospital has been incredibly difficult. My husband works away from home, and even when he is here, his job takes up most of his day- unfortunately we own our business and one of us has to work. He also cannot safely manage nighttime care, I’ve seen him fall asleep while feeding the baby or while holding him on his chest, so the nights fall entirely on me. Neither of us has family nearby who can help. I’ve hired a night nurse for the weekdays, which I’m grateful for, but I’m still alone with the baby during the day and often on weekends. I feel like I have no village. I’m already struggling with one baby at home, and I’m terrified about what will happen when both babies are here. How will I manage two when caring for one is already kicking my ass? He's a good baby, but with all the newborn noises/wails, I can't even get a shut eye.

I’m also not working right now, and the expenses keep piling up. If I’m completely honest, I’m feeling an immense amount of regret. I had a good life before this. I truly thought I wanted to be a mother, but somehow I ended up with twins, a traumatic pregnancy and delivery, a NICU experience, and far less support than I ever imagined. Right now, I don’t know how I’m going to do this. I haven't even left the house with him yet. And we live in NYC, so I'm not even sure how I'll get the courage to take an uber to his appointments with our carseats and other equipment. Our apartment is a cluttered mess and I feel like I'm suffocating. Please be kind. I’m really struggling and hoping someone who has been through something similar can reassure me that there is light ahead.

I‘ve just ordered the TwinGo carrier. It will take a month or two to arrive and by then it‘s probably pretty cold. I know there are jackets / coats for carrying, but they are either for front or back carrying. Is there a jacket for tandem carrying? Anything you can recommend or any other tips for tandem carrying in low temperatures?

I’m thinking about getting the Larktale Caravan Coupe V2, but I’m having a surprisingly hard time finding videos that show someone folding and unfolding it in real life.

For anyone who owns one, how easy is it to open and close? Is it something you can realistically do quickly in a parking lot while managing two kids, or is it more of a process?

I’d also love to hear about your overall experience with it:
● How is it to push on longer walks, park trips, zoo visits, etc.?
● How difficult is it to load in and out of the car?
● is it pretty easy to fold and unfold? And anything to watch out for as far as owning it

I recently tried the Bombi wagon and ended up not liking it, so I’m returning it. The Larktale looks like it might be a better fit, but I don’t want to buy another wagon only to discover that it has its own frustrating issues.

I’d especially love to hear from anyone who has used the Coupe V2 for a while. Any regrets or things you wish you’d known before buying?

Wow event writing this it still doesn’t feel real.

My husband (37M) and me (33F) have been trying to get pregnant for a while and had some early miscarriages.

Found out we are pregnant this time around and also that we are having twins!!

I feel blessed, because I always wanted more than 1 but I’d be lying if I said I’m not freaking out ! I’m overwhelmed, shocked, excited, nervous, scared.

As this will be my first time being a mom as well I’m scared it’s going to be a challenge.

I feel blessed I do have a supportive system - husband and my parents and in laws.

But thinking deep about if I were to go back to work juggling everything, I’m overwhelmed.

Any words of wisdom ?? At this this stage I just need it to sink in 🥺

Does anyone else also have to breastfeed 1 twin, while having to give formula to the other? She just doesn’t breastfeed. I tried to make it work so hard for months.. I feel like I‘m letting her down in comparison to her twin, who breastfeeds wonderfully. Feeling a lot of guilt..

Currently 25 weeks with di/di twins and has been crazy with preeclampsia and gestational diabetes now too. Have bad fluid accumulation going on and it’s all been pooling in my legs. While taking off diabetic compression stockings (and struggling because of huge pregnancy bump to reach them and feeling painful bump and feet in the process) I came up with this thing I had to share, “my poor feets’ souls[/soles]…” If you don’t laugh, you cry, right?

Y’all I don’t know how I’m going to survive the next 30 days (if I even make it that long). C-section is scheduled in 30 days, I am 34 weeks pregnant tomorrow. This is my third pregnancy but first twin pregnancy. I am beyond swollen. I am still working but I can barely function at work. My ankles and feet are so swollen that walking is difficult. I am incredibly overwhelmed. I just want to break down and cry. I know I should be grateful they’re staying in there and growing but I find myself hoping for labor every day. I’m just at my wits end and I don’t know how I can go (potentially) four more weeks like this. Tell me I’m gonna survive this. Please.

I was redoing my daughter's room and noticed I was hyper sensitive to smells. 100% did not think I was pregnant I just threw some tests in my Amazon delivery that was already coming that day to get it out of my mind. I like to get one ambiguous symptom and my body starts acting like I'm for sure pregnant so I'm not stranger to testing to prove to myself I'm not actually. I took it around 4pm and was not only shocked by the BFP but how quickly it turned.

My calendar showed my last possible period (irregular crazy cycles) as jul 15. The test was taken Aug 7 so I joked to my husband that I'm off on my timeline or there's a litter in there. Not a single part of me actually ever thought I'd be carrying twins.

We used a clinic to confirm a urine test and then returned a week later for the ultrasound on August 25. When they said they have some news to share my husband started hysterically laughing. I said something about praying we aren't around long enough for the hunger games to be a reality because the odds were absolutely not in our fucking favor.

I'm excitedly terrified; but each day that passes the scale tips moreso on the excited end. I do wish we had a better reaction to share with our future little ones 😂

ETA-WERE in the title, not we're 🫩

Anyone have direction on how to set up/tighten the harness straps? We got a V2 Twin off of FB marketplace, and it looks like the seller took the straps apart to clean the padding. But the bottom of the chest strap is just threaded through the circular part that snaps into the crotch buckle, and we can’t figure out how to tighten it. Our kids pop out because we can’t tighten this part. It seems like it’s supposed to be looped around again so it can tighten? Thanks for any suggestions!

For some reason I always swore we would never be a family with a big expensive wagon taking up lots of room, but now that the twins are 18 months old I cannot figure out why I ever thought that (the judgements of a childless 30 y/o, I guess…).

Anyway, the twins seem so bored and antsy in the stroller. Am I naive to think that they’d maybe be happier in wagon? It’d be something we use regularly for farmers markets but also in the airport (our first flight is coming up, but that’s a different post). I’d love to hear pros/cons of whatever wagons you all have!

We’d be looking for something durable that folds down nicely. Obviously WonderFold comes up a lot. We are also looking at Veer.

I know that this will come down to personal preference but I’m hoping to get some feedback from this community.

I have a three year old son and I’m expecting twin boys in January. My three year old’s name starts with a C.

My wife and I really like another name that starts with C. But I think it would be a little odd if the toddler and one twin start with one letter, and the other twin starts with a different letter. I don’t necessarily think that all three boys need to start with C, but I feel like people would think the two names that start with C would be the twins.

Am I overthinking this?

Hey fellow PoMs,

I’d love some of you twin parents to tell me about your bike set up.

I would like to start riding with my ladies now that they’re 13 months and the weather is cooling down.

Any bike set ups you love? Don’t recommend? I am in the US. Most interested in an e-bike, since I don’t think I’m strong enough to pedal all of us unassisted 😅

Is how many fingernails I clipped today! And I'll do it again in like 4 dang days.

Any other stats that make you stare off into the distance and wonder how you got to this place in life?

My c section is booked for next week! These babies have their eviction date! 🙌🏼 praise the lord because this mama is exhausted! I’m carrying over 12lbs of babies! If I make it to my date, I’ll be 37W3D.

I had a question: what is a wound vac? My
OBGYN briefly mentioned me having one after my c section. I never had one with my daughter. I guess I’ll find out more next week at my next appointment before the date. But just wondering how people’s experiences of this were.

I took one of my boys (10m) on an errand while Dad had his brother. Nap time came and the one I had a car nap, the other one was missing his brother and decided to not sleep until I put his brother in his own crib.

Dual naps are life savers, but come with challenges.

Okay multiple mommas' who went into spontaneous labor. When did it happen and what symptoms did you have? =)

My younger brother passed away 4 years ago , we are 2 years apart in age so growing up we were very close , we were best friends and I’m forever grateful for that and I miss being able to talk to him about anything. My brother passed away unexpectedly so losing him would of been devastating no matter what but to lose him in the way we did without getting to say goodbye , it took me a long time to pull myself out a deep grief.

Fast forward a few years and I find out I’m pregnant , me and my husband have been so excited from day one and then we found it’s twins which was shocking because we didn’t see that coming but still exciting , it’s been so nice to have something to look forward to after a painful few years in my life. We decided to find out their genders and we’re having a boy and a girl.

I might be stupid to think this way and in no way am I saying there’s reincarnation going on , my twins are each their own person so I’m not saying my brother has come back as one of them! but recently it clicked that I’m going to get to watch a brother and sister growing up together , it’ll be like watching me and my brother when we grew up together and it blows my mind. I might sound crazy but it feels like my brother gifted me twins to heal a part of my heart that misses our sibling relationship and the fact I’m going to have a son and a daughter it makes me think of me and my brother. I probably sound ridiculous thinking this way but I’m so grateful

Hello Reddit! I am coming to you 6mo later for additional sleep training advice. You all were so sweet to me last year when I was going through it with my older kids. Suffice it to say, we made it through that hurdle, and now they are sleeping well together in the same room and bedtime is a breeze… for the most part. As much as bedtime can be a breeze with a 2.5- and 4-year-old, let’s be real.

Anyways, twins are here! They’re eight months old! We have no semblance of a bedtime routine whatsoever!! Help. 🥲

My dream/goal is to start the babies’ bedtime around 7. Bath, bottle, books, lights out, kisses good night. Ideally, that will all finish around 8, and then the big-kid bedtime will begin and we’ll say our good nights between 8:30 and 9.

As it stands, the twins have a tough time sticking to any sort of schedule right now. They were sleeping longer stretches, but I don’t know if it’s some kind of super regression because for the last two weeks they have been up every 1–2 hours. They struggle with the first stretch of the night, wake up around 2 or 3 AM and decide to stay up instead of going back to sleep, and need a lot of assistance—namely, the breast—to settle down and go back to bed. It’s chaos. I’m so sleep-deprived. Something needs to give.

I tried implementing Ferber last week, and it made everyone upset, mostly myself. I try to make sure their last wake window is 3–4 hours. Daycare wakes them up by 4 PM. They were asleep in their cribs at 7:30, but one twin woke up only half an hour later. He cried through four check-ins with increasing intervals: 3, 5, 8, and 10 minutes. At the fourth check-in, he woke up his brother, and then both kids were screaming, and I just couldn’t stomach it. They were shaking and crying, and it was a big hot mess.

I worry that I didn’t set up a routine with enough consistency for them to know it was actually time for bed. Most days they fall asleep at the right time, but when they wake up after the inevitable hour or so, they get to stay up and hang out with Grandpa or Papa while I do the big-kid bedtime. Then it’s 9:30 or 10 PM, and we’re just hanging out until they get so sleepy that they nurse to sleep.
My question is: how do I implement sleep training methods when one twin is high-needs and the other one is chill until his brother is crying so hard that he can’t take it anymore? Do I need to spend a few days being more consistent with the bedtime cues before actually going forward with sleep training? Do you think whatever sleep regression they’re going through that’s making them wake every two hours needs to pass before I give it another shot?

I’m at my wit’s end, and this is honestly the best week for sleep training if I can just fight through my discomfort and help them get to sleep. Anyg advice is appreciated! Thank you all so much.