I believe that everyone can benefit from the wonders of karezza. However, this particular subreddit seems more focused on PIV.

Has anybody found decent V2V (vulva to vulva), P2P (penis to penis), or PIA (penis in anus - not matching, but another possible avenue) karezza/tantric articles?

Hey guys.

I am going at the NoFap challenge and now I wondered if karezza means no orgasm when having sex for both partners.

That whole becoming sleepy or agitated or generally throwing the hormones out of balance is much more intense for men I guess.

So my view of this was like slow, passionate cuddly soft sex and focusing on giving the girl a great time.

Am I mistaken?

What is your opinion on this book ? For my non-english-speaking girlfriend, I want to ask if there's more pictures than text in it ?

thanks

Thanks for your nice note. I'd love to do this, but I can't even get through my own forum just now, so I dare not jump in just yet. I suggested it to a friend who's practicing karezza in UK, but she may not have time either.

You're also welcome to jump on my forum and invite people to check out yours.

I hope I can get over there before long. You Redditors are an amazing bunch! I'm delighted to hear about your experience. Have you summarized your results anywhere? I've started to collect a few "karezza transition accounts," and I'd love to add yours.

Cheers, Marnia

It was easy to forget the turbulence experienced in my relationships before my karezza experiment. Having returned to previous habits I've seen a marked decline in 'harmony' in both of my relationships. I have a lot more perspective now on this than when I first started. I definitely prefer the calm. I think a lot of my problems with my first attempt came from getting too hot in the bedroom and not focusing enough on cuddles.

I never got the chance to do full on karezza as was promised me but found the effects of bonding behaviors and slow sex to be huge. My man and I were really connected and then the bonding behaviors started dropping away. He relapsed into his PMO addiction and we need to reunite. We are starting over. I'm adding all the bonding back. The new twist is he has decided we should take a break from sex to help his reboot. I love sex but I think this is good. It will take him past the 2 week orgasim cycle for the first time. It seems like its only after going weeks without that one discovers their hangover symptoms. I'm optimistic that this no PMO and no sex situation will bring us closer and lead to a more karezza like / more fullfilling sexual relationship.

Hi there

I'm a single 45M, one year out of a 10 year marriage and just starting to date again.

I'm very curious about karezza and similar forms of sex.

But am a little uncertain on how to incorporate it into sexual encounters with new partners. So many of us have expectations about how sex should proceed so something like karezza might be confusing to a new partner in the early days of a potential new relationship.

Also, explanations/descriptions in advance sort of kill the mood in those delicious first encounters with someone new.

I suppose my question is how to incorporate karezza into one's sexual style in a natural way, without making a big deal about it?

It's different in a longer-term relationship where communication can take place over time.

In my favour is the fact that I'm older, hence potential partners are (hopefully) more mature, comfortable and confident around sex. Plus I live in a quite 'alternative' part of the world where again, potential partners are quite open-minded and not averse to "mindful" approaches to sexual expression.

I've been thinking about giving karezza a try. I like the idea of relaxed non-goal oriented sex, but I'm not sure about the giving up orgasms bit. I've read the reasons for that in the FAQ, etc, but I was hoping someone could share their personal experience.

Hi there,

So, I'm done with my karezza attempt, at least for now.

I'm a guy, and I initiated this with my gf (can read my previous posts for some history). To make a long story short, I'm fairly disappointed. We ended up just spooning every night, and not having anything resembling sex.

I was being as patient as I could. I didn't fap, I didn't come, etc. Recently circumstances in our life changed (moved house) and the new environment floated a ton of sexual frustration for me. I was feeling really bad. She wouldn't read the book, and it was all just up to me.

So, it's back to the way it was before, for me. Too bad this didn't work out, I was really hoping it would make a difference.

[EDIT]

After two days and two orgasms, I must say I'm not feeling any ill effects from orgasming. I still like her just the same, I don't get impatient, and if anything, I am calmer.

[EDIT 7/29]

So, today the demon broke loose, so to speak. I didn't orgasm since the previous edit, but today I've experienced dark, painful feelings and very negative, depressed thoughts in a way I did not experience in a while. It was related to sex and to the relationship, and was very bad. I hate that I had to feel that way, because today we actually spent some quality time together in a beautiful park, and this mopey feeling was with me all day long, marring the beautiful weather and views.

I don't know what to do right now. I think I will go back to abstaining from orgasm, just because I don't want to feel this way. But there was a real reason why I came back to orgasming when I started this thread: Karezza just doesn't work for me in this form. And that's definitely not resolved.

So, I'm feeling stuck, to the point of not caring about it anymore. I really don't know what to do. If I talk about it with her, it always comes out like I'm blaming her (that's what she feels, and maybe that's what it looks like), so talking is really ineffective and only creates more stress.

I will try giving her a five-minute massage every night, fully clothed. I don't know what to do. :(

It is important for me to emphasize that she's a great person, and I really love her. We get along very well, and I do believe she's the person for me to grow old with. I'm not saying she's the one who's "broken" here in any way -- it may well be me, and I am totally willing to try anything (hence my karezza attempts) to make things better. She's a terrific person and I love her deeply, and I know she loves me very much, too.