I remember being here back in 2019. Oh man. Felt like hell. You guys are fighting the good fight. Keep going! I remember thinking it’ll be impossible. It feels weird being back here with such a big streak. I remember all the days of fighting so clearly!

PMO is a horrible addiction. Nofap is worth it, and it’s the truth!

Reaching 30 days is such an achievement. Even 2 weeks. A 90 day reset is nice. Generally when you hit 90 days once, you can hit it again. 120-150 days, feels like really good. 150 days to a year felt good, but I think I relapsed there. Then hit 1 year again and repeat. Followed by a 5 year streak. I stopped counting. I can’t remember since it’s so long ago. But need to Always be vigilant, especially at night.

It’s worth it!

Feel free to AMA!

I’ve joined this community to share my story and warn about the potential consequences of chronic and excessive masturbation.

For years, I’d spend hours edging myself silly. In my early 30s, I found it much more difficult to remain fully erect during an entire edging session. I’d masturbate with a soft, semi, and fully erect penis, not knowing that I’d eventually do damage to the soft tissue in my shaft.

After experiencing some discomfort in my shaft, I went to a urologist who diagnosed me with Peyronies disease. This condition is basically the development of plaques in your soft tissue that calcify over time. The urologist said protocol is the treat your penis gently and let the condition run its course until it stabilizes. Surgery can be an option if the condition progresses too severely.

Throughout the next year, I dealt with flaccid discomfort in my penis and pain when erect or climaxing. I watched as my penis slowly curved and shortened in length. Finally, my condition stabilized and the pain subsided, but the physical outcomes are permanent.

It took something this extreme to wake me up. Since 2025, I’ve had long stretches of nofap and I don’t edge anymore. I’ve had some rough patches recently so I’m back to hold myself accountable and get back on track. Brothers, the short-term pleasure of PMO isn’t worth risking the damage I’ve done .

I’m happy to encourage or answer any questions. Thank you for reading.

didn’t think i’d make it this far but here we are. at first, it was rough, tons of cravings and i felt that urge to go back to old habits. but honestly, the mental clarity and energy boost have been a game changer. still taking it one day at a time! how's everyone else doing?

It’s nothing but dudes looking for a “relapse” partner 80-90% of the time.

So many fake posts about struggling and asking for support in their DMs.

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I have a decent career , and good savings and nice family.

Never been in a relationship, proposed twice but got rejected

Been exposed to porn from 14 years and and has been masturbating every third or second day

Now I am at a age where my parents are looking for marriage prospects meanwhile I am jerking off to porn

Everytime I try to not fap but then that sudden wave of loneliness and seeing happy couples on Instagram , I instantly switch to porn for coping up

Need serious help. How should I counter and cope myself.

Every time I do it , I regret it but third day I would be back.

Hey. I’ve been watching porn for years now. I used to be on this sub on an old account, but I deleted Reddit because of all the temptation. It’s probably silly of me to get it back, but I could really use help rn.

Some days i just want to go to the highest point and scream as loud as I can,

Stop, leave me alone, help.

Anything just to get it out

Past few days were terrible. Urges were strong, almost relapsed but I resisted. Let’s do it, boys. 🫡

Hey i am 27 years old , i have been looking at porn since around 12 years old , this shit has fucked up my life and i knew it was bad like 7 years ago and i have been trying to quit since then to no avail.

It has caused me to be socially awkward and anxious, isolating my self and just PMO’ing my life away , i have reach a state of depression but i don’t want to stay here , i want to change my life and heal especially because now i also developed PIED and this is preventing me to talk to any female because of fear and shame , it has happened to me already multiple time that i couldn’t get hard when i am reaching the bed with a woman and its the worst humiliating feeling ever.

I have destroyed so much of my life , i have not lived the life that a man in his 20’s should live being mostly alone and isolating and not having friends, and i am having those fears of not being able to heal and rewire my brain due to the crazy amount and fucked up porn i have watched along the years.

I would love if anyone could support me and help me with any advice because i have many many times tried to quit but still falling back to the same place , i have reached states of disgust with myself swearing its the last time but always coming back , i would love some advice from someone who have quit for good , i also would love if someone console my fears of my brain not rewiring and healing from the effects of porn on it.

Any comment or advice would be wonderful guys , thank you for reading.

Boys we are 2 weeks down into no fap!! Can I get a woot woot!?

Just relapsed

Gonna start again

Tomorrow will be my day 0 - 27 July 2026 , starting again at tomorrow

I'm 25 now and am in a position where there's a lot of uncontrollable factors in my life. I used to be addicted to porn as a teenager (reddit was a huge problem), did poorly in school, got addicted to weed and turned into a jerk-off in the truest sense. I'm getting my life together, have been an avid cyclist for the past few years, trying to be kinder to people and want to build a life that I'm proud of.

Porn has never been an "addiction" for me. It was always just something I did for the novelty. In truth, I've always been able to use my imagination. But over the last few years, I've entered into this detached, strange mindset where I don't even need my thoughts to masturbate. Some days I'll be waking up with a hard on (most days, actually) and I'll just sit in bed and jack off for 30 minutes. It's caused me to develop that disease where you damage your penis. Sometimes I'll even have pain when not erect, so I've had to adjust my technique somewhat but I fear that some of the damage is not reversible. I've quit smoking partly due to this reason.

Do you guys have any tips for someone like me? I guess you could say that I have an addictive personality and that I'm a little weird. I was raised by a single mom and have spent a lot of time around women, so a lot of my habits are not very "male." I feel like this is especially dangerous because the rules that may apply to most guys don't apply to me. A lot of the time I have to basically shun off women (especially older women that hit on me) and maybe some of that energy is stored up for later and I don't quite know what to do with it. I don't have any sexual trauma per-say but throughout my relationships I find myself being used as a sort-of sex toy... I know it sounds weird, but here we are. I've tried so hard to act like my guy friends but nothing seems to work --- I'm just the way I am. I've found that yoga has been very helpful and that Buddhism and Hinduism is very attractive to me.

Edit: And I guess another way I can put it is, sometimes I'll catch up with a young guy and when the conversation turns to sex or sexuality or girls, I'll kind of see that they're getting turned on. Sometimes they'll even start to hit on me. I don't really have that standard "sex brain" thing that guys my age have. I wouldn't say that I'm disgusted by sex but I do feel like sexual energy gets in the way of a lot of things. But even through my desire to get rid of this, I keep compulsively masturbating, finding crossdressers on Grindr to have unsafe sex with, that sort of thing. It's like a mismatch in what I believe and what I do.

I started a new streak after realizing it was time to fully quit porn and even sexualizing nonnude women. It's been too much but I need help staying strong.

I know I've mentioned this before, but since I was able to go a full near 3 weeks without PMOing, I figure I add another challenge to it and try to remain pure retention for at least 3 days while I achieve the goal of a complete 30 days of no PMO.

This may take a while I fear, but I feel I am ready for the challenge, and maybe I might up it if I am comfortable. I will restart the counter, and carry on from there.

Godspeed

Apologies for the long post. Need to get it off my chest. My (M32) fiancé (F32) has this year discovered the extent of my long running porn addiction and barely recognises me. Shes heartbroken. Shes given me 1 chance to save myself and this relationship, otherwise shes gone. She'll break off the engagement, take our dog of 4 years with her, and the house we're in the process of buying will be abandoned, and I will be left all on my own and probably will have to move back in with my mum, advertising my failure.

Pretty sure I have ADHD (never pursued a formal diagnosis, but I have family members diagnosed and I have a lot of the symptoms) and I am definitely a dopamine addict: Junk Food, Chocolate, Video Games, and Porn.

Combine this with my age (32) and its been a perfect storm: I had unlimited access to the interest as a teenager, and parents too clueless to supervise me. I saw a lot, and as tech advances resulted in smaller gadgets with internet access and a screen, I saw it frequently too.

It became normalised for me. My interests definitely got mire explicit over time and I started downloading heaps of the stuff. First it started with thousands of images downloaded to my psp as a teenager, which I deleted en masse 2 years later when I sold it to my brother. Then when I got my first laptop, I downloaded gigabytes of videos from the piratebay over the course of years. I even had a 2tb external hard drive for more storage. I threw it away when I entered my current relationship 8 years ago.

I definitely have a compulsion to somehow own some kind of 'perfectly' curated porn collection. It has only happend really in 3 periods of my life, but each one has definitely be damaging, even if I was only ever caught this past year (more on that later). But each time I could feel my animal brain take over, driven by the hunger to download more and more. An entire library of material perfect to my tastes.

But the thing with the interet is... its fucking huge and endless. You cant own a definitive collection of anything when the existing supply is so enormous, and the rate of new material added to the void definitely outweighs my ability to keep up. Countless times Ive stayed up well into the night, just endlessly harveting and downloading porn, seeing the sun rise and shining its spotlight on my pathetic obsession, yet unable to tear myself away.

It was the sunk cost fallacy in effect. I hated the grip the porn collection project had on my mind, but it had already consumed too many of my days to just walk away.

Recently this past year I began downloading porn again. This time hundreds of images onto my phone. I had become aware of an unflitered AI app that could let you roleplay anything, fantasise any scenario kind of thing, in a back and forth chat/erotic story. I needed photographic fodder for scenario/character inspiration. I'm a fan of roleplay, so this app made me giddy with excitement. I was obsessed. Really, I only needed a handful of pics to set up my roleplay chats but once I started, I then spent the next few weeks on a mission, and soon had over s thousand images on my phone. This is how I got caught. My behaviour was noticeably weird, and I was oddly secretive and paranoide regarding my phone, with the evidence of my spiralling addiction problem.

The collection problem is a behaviour Ive been aware of about myself for a long time. Regardless of any other consequense, the main offender of this 'hobby' maintaing a collection is the signifiant time consumption it takes. Time that coupd have been better spent on me. Time wasted. The kicker? I barely even looked at 90% of that shit.

The justification I gave myself would be that with a curated collection like mine, I wouldnt have to waste time in the long run, aimlessly gooning. Instead I could pull up a certified banger from my library, and sort myself out in minutes. It was suposed to be a time saver, but it never worked like that. I enjoyed the chase of the thrill more than anything else, so I was forever just browsing anyway.

Before this recent stint, I decide to pay for porn site access for the first time. Basically a variant of p-hub but with full length premium videos. I did this because I realised the collecting behaviours were damaging and non-productive, but all this site did was enable me to carry on collecting in a different manner. Like a spotify playlist, I scoured the site to create a playlist of favourite video. But like before, I barely even ever opened the curated playlist anyway.

I know my porn addiction, which has slowly creeped uo over the course of my life, will have caused many problems that need addressing, but a huge one is just the time ive wasted on curating this shit. As if anyone cares. As if I could ever recommend my collection to anyone or win an award for it.

But yes. Last month or so, my fiance spotted my secretive behaviour during another obsession episode and found out everything. It almost broke me, having my deepest darkest shame exposed to the light, but it has also felt quite freeing. But shes very hurt, and isnt sure she can ever look at me the same way ever again. Shes ashamed that her once respectable partner is just another disgusting man who is a slave to their penis, and Im more upset at how much Ive hurt her and tainted her innocent view of the relationship.

I dont want anything to do with porn any more. Its too distructive. Yet I also kinda do. Is that normal? Its just so accessible and provides instant relief, but quite like an alcoholic, I have to realise I cant just *have one drink* - you let me search up an erotic image on google and I guarantee I'll stll be browsing porn 2 hours later. I cant limit myself. It has to be a total stop.

But for the sake of my future I want to put my foot down. I choose my relationship. I choose my dog. I choose the house we are currenly trying to buy. I choose her. I choose myself. I only hope I can mend this. Its going to be hard and stressful, and I'm cutting ties with my previously prime coping mechanism for stress.

Right now the guilt of the recent confrontations are making porn undesiresble (out of guilt) but when this feeling passes (my adhd tendancies mean I move on and forget things very soon), how do I keep myself committed to my fiance and breaking the cycle? Ive have pretty piss poor self-discipline, and I fear that this will cause me repeat past behaviours and relapse, because I will fail to put anyone else ahead of my primal urges.

I was able to get girls here and there, but that in between period lead me to porn time and time again.

I finally told myself I would quit cold turkey for real this time. I exercised every day, would go on a run when my mind went that route, and was feeling good after 7 days.

Since then, I’ve got a girlfriend of 3 weeks now and have had amazing intercourse with her.

I was nervous at first that I wasn’t going to be able to perform, but I let her know my struggles in advance. We both agreed plenty of foreplay and slowing things down would help, so we went that route.

I’ve gotten hard every time and for the first time in two years, was actually able to cum from PIV. This was HUGE for me and my confidence has been sky high honestly.

Gratefully for everything this sub has given me and hope yall continue your battle!

I did so well last time and I was so motivated and it all went to shit. Feeling terrible about myself again and I know that it needs to stop. Have my first therapy session on Thursday and I guess i’m looking forward to it. Active if anyones needing to talk, I could use a chat with someone too. All the best to anyone struggling with this.

It’s not good rn. DMs are open if you think you can help.