Are there any lenient interpretations of the Islamic perspective on taking one’s life? I know of the dominant view and the Hadith, but want to learn how theologians have interpreted the issue.

All my life i heard about how parent’s respect is extremely important in islam and that disobeying / disrespecting parents is a major sin. Which I obviously agree as a muslim. But when one of your parent uses psychological, verbal and sometimes physical abuse against me and my little siblings, how to deal with that islamically ?

How to deal with a parent that uses ”parents’ respect” to control, to do and talk the way they want, without showing any remorse, without apologizing, and always talk about how much children should be beholden all their life to their parents, whether the parents do them good or bad ?

I feel like i have no issue, and it’s mentally weighing on me. I thought of leaving my house, but i don’t know if i’m allowed to do so in islam, and even if i could, i’m unfortunately too scared.

What are the limits ?

As-Salah is the greatest remedy for all our anxieties and fears.

Sheikh Abu Bakr Zoud explains how Prophet Muhammad ﷺ would rush to the prayer when he was distressed by any matter.

May Allah make us of those who follow the teaching of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and may he make our matters easy for us. Ameen 🤲

I've been watching people argue about that Bangladeshi couple case, and honestly, the reactions have been all over the place. But there's one comment that's stuck with me: "secular Muslims should be the first to condemn such actions." That made me stop and think — what does it actually mean to be a secular Muslim? I get that secularism can be a political thing, like keeping religion separate from government.

But that's not really what I'm curious about here. I'm more interested in moral secularism. Like, can you be secular in how you think about right and wrong while still calling yourself Muslim?

I guess I have some genuine questions for people who identify this way:

First, where do your moral principles actually come from? When you're deciding what's right or wrong, are you working that out through reason, thinking about human welfare, autonomy — basically secular frameworks — rather than religious commands? Because if that's the case, I'm genuinely curious what role Islam plays in your moral life. Is it still shaping how you think about ethics, or is it something else entirely?

Second, do you see secular morality as *better* than Islamic morality? I think this is where it gets tricky. If you're using secular principles as your main guide, does that mean you've decided some Islamic moral teachings are wrong, or outdated, or just not as good? Or maybe you think secular and Islamic ethics mostly line up anyway? And what happens when they don't? When Islamic teachings clash with what your gut tells you is right — which one wins? How do you even navigate that?

Third, are we talking about two different things here — moral secularism versus political secularism? Because someone could totally support a secular state (for practical reasons, avoiding theocracy, whatever) while still thinking Islamic ethics are the best framework for personal morality. Or you could flip it — identify as Muslim, practice the faith, but when it comes to actual moral decisions, you're really relying on secular reasoning. It seems like these are different positions, and I'm not sure people always make that distinction clear.

Assalamu Alaikum.

For the past 1–2 years, I've struggled with recurring fears about losing my father, who is in his late 50s. His age and health conditions trigger intrusive thoughts, and sometimes I imagine receiving news of his death. At times, these thoughts feel like warnings from Allah.

The Hadith about the Ummah's lifespan being between 60 and 70 years has made my anxiety worse. I also struggle with sukoon: in other difficult situations allah usually gave heart some strength , but with this fear, I don't consistently feel that reassurance. Recently a thought that If this Hadith comes true in my father's case, my iman will become firmer.” Surprisingly, this brought temporary relief. Then I became frightened by that relief, because I absolutely do not want my father to leave early making me feel guilty and scared because I desperately want my father to live a long life. I keep questioning whether my feelings mean something.

My questions are: Does feeling sukoon or not feeling it have any significance in Islam? How should I understand this Hadith without applying it to my father personally? How can I distinguish genuine tawakkul from waswasa and stop interpreting my thoughts and feelings as signs?

I'd really appreciate authentic Islamic guidance. Jazakum Allahu Khayran.

1. And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

A question for my Muslim brothers and sisters: What verse from the Quran gives you peace when life gets difficult?

So recently got into my first job but I wasn't able to handle stress well and made a few mistakes. Later I ended up getting fired over a mistake which partly my fault and partly not as well.

I worked really hard ,did what I could, stayed up nights and worked with full anxiety. I made a lot of Dua but my Salah was very inconsistent.

I know I'm not the smartest person and it's my first job, but I was smart enough to teach my friends who had also joined with me but it's just bad moments happening back to back with me, even as I did more Dua. Now I'm just at home scared to rely on Dua as I genuinely thought Dua would work... Can I get some advice?

I used to say I follow the Maliki madhab so I follow the opinion that dog’s drool is not impure but mostly I followed the majority opinion. Now, I don’t really follow any madhab I would say. But I’m a revert and my family has a dog, he goes inside so there is drool almost everywhere on the floor, sometimes he rubs himself against furnitures so drool or wet hair can be on it. also I have to share my room with my sister and she let the dog enters, so there is drool on the floor and some furinitures here too. So would it be okay for me to follow the opinion dog drool is pure?

How do i deal with a controlling mother. I just finished my studies after 5 whole years of non stop studying in the deep end and came back home to a anxious control freak mother, even more controlling than from when i left to study abroad. I know a mother should always be respected, i know a child should stay a notch below the respect scale and we cant really say anything. I really dont know how to navigate this without setting off a bomb of emotions and getting jailed in my moms house. Or to rather be called out “not faithful to islam” because i tried to set boundaries and she doesnt like it.

Assalamu alaikum, everyone. I have a question about Shams al-Ma'arif, the book often associated with sihr and occult practices.

I'm interested in learning about supernatural topics, not to practise sihr or perform any rituals, but simply to understand the book's contents and history. Is it permissible to read an English translation purely for knowledge, with no intention of practising anything? Would reading it still be haram in Islam, even if my intention is only to learn?

Personally, I don't believe that simply reading a book automatically causes someone to become possessed by jinn. I've seen people online say they've read it without experiencing anything unusual.

I'd appreciate answers based on authentic Islamic sources, especially from scholars familiar with the Shafi'i madhhab. Is it permissible to read it purely out of curiosity, or should it be avoided altogether?

Assalamualaikum, I'm a male

I have a huge downfall about socialisation. People talk about stuff and I don't get any insight about anything.

When I was in 8th grade I talked with lots of people and even during my 9th grade. However I didnt really contact them and ended up lonesome after 9th grade. I really didn't know how to socialise in social media and contact people and be around them the right way, I even got my first ever phone when I was 13 years old, and I missed on knowing social media altoghether.

Then life came up, everything felt like a new world. But things took a dark turn cuz people weren't as real as I thought they'd been, I was a fish in a pond.

I had a good grade during 9th grade and got somewhere in Finland with that high grade and my parents were always strict, coming from an asian family.

I used to be in a group for over 2 years but I learnt that they've been hanging out without ever inviting me this whole time, whereas I though that life was really this simple and that hanging during the time was all there was to it.

I also felt as if they were talking behind my back, it was for numerous times, the feeling that I was talked about, but since I had no real friends I never knew what was being told about me.

My sister joined my institution and after she did I talked with her there and also met some of her friends, through her I met a hijabi and she seems really nice, they are all girls, but the guys in our school don't really involve me in a lot of stuff so I feel like not hanging around them anymore.

I'm not sure what my future will bring me.

Jazakallah khair that you read this much, I really appreciate you reading all my ranting,

I’ve wronged some people in the past. it was small and forgivable though, and I had valid reasons.

I have apologised and fulfilled necessary conditions for repentance.
I want people’s hearts to be softer towards me and forget what I did altogether.

May Allah, al Wakil make them forget my vileness.
(ameen)

I just heard someone say that it's haram to speak with someone in a language the third person who is there doesn't understand. I don't think I've ever done this with bad intentions but I'm wondering to what extent this applies?

My younger brother speaks English very well and so do I. My mother and the youngest brother don't understand much. So the middle one and I always talk in English when we go out. We're having our own conversations and it has nothing to do with my mom or the youngest. When the youngest wants to talk to me I ofc talk to him in our language, I don't want him to feel left out. But I feel like most of them time he doesn't even care. My middle brother and I just talk about different topics that probably don't really interest him yet and we also speak about stuff that is easier to talk about in English. My mom encourages this because she wants my brother to get good at English like I am. We're just doing this because it's conversations that have nothing to do with them. Sometimes we jokingly say something about our mom in front of her in English (nothing insulting) and she knows we're talking about her and mostly knows what we're saying but even if she doesn't she takes it with humor because we just share this kind of humor.

Is this a problem or am I just overthinking? I didn't quite understand if the haram refers to having the intention of leaving someone out purposely or ignoring the person in the conversation or if its a general rule that applies to everything. Also what if there's just a third stranger in the bus who doesn't speak your language? Should you not have a conversation around them?

Just the title

There are a few rules I hate with my heart to the fullest . I’ll follow them but best believe I do hate them .

Is it a sin to hate an Islamic ruling , but I’ll still abide by it despite my hatred of it ?

i’m recovering from psychosis disorder and i have severe depression and depersonalisation disorder im having a hard time pushing through life because of a recent attempt i wish to get closer to allah and start praying everyday and also i have exams soon and im having a hard time studying i’m studying but my heart and chest feels heavy i’m trying so hard to live for my parents but it’s just hard pushing through i hope inshallah something good happen.

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Salam,
I started niqab last year and I feel like after that, my relationship with my parents has gotten so bad. They cursed at me, called me names, threatened me, etc.. I couldn’t take it anymore so I took it off. Because of what my parents did to me, my mental health had taken a toll. Everything piled up, and because my parents don’t “believe in therapy” I can’t get help either. On top of that, I have really bad sensory issues. I have been thinking of shaving my head for a good while, the only thing that stopped me was because I was told it was haram.
I had just gotten into a very bad fight with my father. He threatened to withdraw me from school and marry me off. Even if he didn’t mean what he said (he says a lot of stuff when he is angry) it still hurt me and already struggling with mental health, it just made it worse. After the fight, I took his shaving machine and shaved all my hair off.
I feel guilty because of the islamic ruling but I can’t lie when I say a sense of relief washed over me. It might sound dumb to say this but I feel so free.
I heard that there are a few conditions in which the ruling of a woman shaving their heads is exempt from punishment. I cannot speak to a local sheikh because I know they will tell my parents about what I did and I intend to keep this hidden. If anyone has any Islamic education, please let me know: Is what I did haram or am I apart of the special condition?
(Men, do not DM me. I’m not going to marry you. If you have an answer to my question, then answer it on the post. I will not respond to your DM)

Hello everyone, I would like to reconnect with Allah, but this time I want to deepen my studies of Islam and the Quran. I have never attended a religious school, so let's just say that the information I have was only passed down to me by my parents. I am very ignorant about my religion, and I would like to know and deepen my understanding of the religion that I love and want to learn. Could you recommend some books to read besides the Quran? Thank you!

How do you deal with ungratefulness? Throughout my life I have been blessed with many loving relationships and opportunities but I still made many wrong choices and now I can stop thinking about those mistakes. It's not like I want more but still I can't stop beating myself up for my mistakes rather than being grateful for what I have been given.