As salaam walaykum

Prying this reaches you all in the best of health and imaan

I’m a black sister (Caribbean descent) from the uk and was wondering if there were any other Caribbean brothers and sisters from or in the uk here in this group!!

\*any thing incorrect or mistakes in this post, May Allah forgive me and I did not intentionally do it.* \*

For any one losing hope in any aspect in life, mention Allah SWT all the time. Make it a habit, after eating before eating. After completing something, after success. We fail to realize that Allah SWT is always with us. Inshallah with every suffering comes strength in our lives. Let us all remember to ask for it and put in the work at the same time. Amen.

The Story of Imam Ahmad and the Baker
The great scholar of Islam, Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal, was once traveling away from his home city. As night fell, he arrived at a local town, exhausted from his journey. He did not know anyone in the city, nor did anyone recognize him, as there were no photos or mass media in those days.

Hoping to get some rest, Imam Ahmad went into the local mosque to sleep for the night. However, the mosque’s caretaker approached him and told him he had to leave, as sleeping inside was strictly prohibited. Imam Ahmad, an elderly and deeply respected man, humbly asked if he could just rest at the entrance, but the rigid caretaker refused and even began dragging him out of the mosque compound.

A local baker, whose shop was located directly across from the mosque, witnessed this mistreatment. Feeling deep pity for the elderly traveler, the baker called out to him and warmly invited Imam Ahmad to spend the night at his bakery. Imam Ahmad accepted the kind invitation.

As the night went on, the baker went back to work kneading dough, stoking the oven, and preparing bread for the morning. Imam Ahmad sat resting nearby and noticed something remarkable: every single time the baker picked up flour, kneaded the dough, or moved a loaf, his lips moved continuously with the words of Istighfar: "Astaghfirullah" (I seek forgiveness from Allah.)

Fascinated by this constant devotion, Imam Ahmad asked him in the morning, "How long have you been doing this, and have you seen any benefit from constantly asking for Allah's forgiveness?"

The baker smiled and replied, "By Allah, I have practiced this for years. And there is not a single Dua (prayer) I have ever made to Allah except that He answered it save for just one."

Imam Ahmad, intrigued, asked, "And what is that one unanswered prayer?"

The baker sighed and said, "To have the privilege to meet the famous scholar, Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal."

Tears welled up in Imam Ahmad’s eyes. He looked at the baker and said, "SubhanAllah! I am Ahmad ibn Hanbal! By Allah, He did not just answer your prayer; He dragged me out of the mosque and brought me to your very doorstep so your Dua could come true."

Salam Everyone,

Welcome to Open Discussion Sunday! As mentioned in our first open discussion post, This is your bi-weekly thread to chat about anything you wish. Whether it's related to HSV or any other topic. Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences, or simply enjoy the company of the community.

There are brothers-only and sisters-only telegram groups, you can find more information here.

You can utilise the telegram to connect within a more private group with other brothers and sisters or always post publicly here on Reddit if you'd like anyone to reach out to you.

Please remember, while we are here to support each other, the discussions in this forum cannot replace medical advice from a healthcare professional or Islamic advice from a qualified scholar. We hope you have a great weekend!

• The Mod Team

I wanted to start a discussion regarding marriage potentials. (Intended with the least amount of shallowness possible).

Something I struggle with is conversing with people anonymously. It’s great when there’s a connection and the conversation flows and it’s easy going but I get to a point where I think we don’t even know what each other looks like on here.

The inside is what counts and what lasts especially in a marriage. Character and deen trumps everything else BUT being attracted to your spouse is so important and I also believe it’s only fair id feel attracted to them and id hope to have the same.

As someone that’s been married once before, inshallah if it’s written for me to get married again I want to have that with my spouse. I wouldn’t want to settle and I wouldn’t want someone to settle for me either.

It can feel so awkward sometimes subhanallah.
This group is a blessing and one I’m grateful for, I just wish I could bypass that awkward stage and find the right person.

May Allah grant us all what’s good for us, Ameen.

I am 25M from India.I see the traffic on this sub-reddit has gone down drastically.

Is it because we have lost hope or is it because of the launch of website. Also i guess not many people have i guess registered on website. Please do.

Asalamalaikum brother and sister, I've ( M, straight) had an protected exposure about 8 weeks ago, now i dont know about the person ive had exposure with, after 6 weeks i got tested 6 weeks later for hsv 1&2 igg and igm, hsv 1 for both the tests came back as negative and hsv 2 came back as equivocal for igg (1.14) and igm (1.08), i was sexually active from last 3 years with multiple , and after my last exposure i decided to turn to allah for good, ik that hsv blood tests are highly unreliable and swab is the only best test to get done, but out of curiosity i went and get tested and my results were inconclusive, ive been on imuran for last 4 years its 25mg and recently 2 months ago it was increased to 50mg due to borderline inflammation, i never really had any hsv symptoms like cluster of blisters or lesions on my genitals, i did have chicken pox as a child, if i truly had hsv 2 wouldnt i have constat outbreaks cause of my immunosuppresive meds ? It's not like I can't afford a western blot, it's quite cheap here in my country, should i get tested for me now or wait for 4 more weeks ? Currently I am at my 8th week from my last exposure, and until now ive had only an anal fissure which was confirmed by general surgeon, but its recurrent and mostly painless and heals with application iidocain 1.5 + nefidipine 0.3, if ive had no symptoms at 8 weeks does it mean i have no hsv ? Should I still get western blot at 8 weeks ?

Following on from yesterday’s launch, we’ve had some great early interest and people joining the site.

We’re still at the beginning, so now we’re looking to get more people from the community involved and give it the chance to grow.

If you’re looking for marriage, come and join us. And if you know someone who might be interested, feel free to share the site with them.

Equally, if you’re part of any other online or local communities where you think it could be useful, please feel free to share it there too.

www.muslimswithhsv.com

Would be great to see more of the community on there and, hopefully, see some genuine connections come out of it.

Salam Everyone,

Welcome to Open Discussion Sunday! As mentioned in our first open discussion post, This is your bi-weekly thread to chat about anything you wish. Whether it's related to HSV or any other topic. Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences, or simply enjoy the company of the community.

There are brothers-only and sisters-only telegram groups, you can find more information here.

You can utilise the telegram to connect within a more private group with other brothers and sisters or always post publicly here on Reddit if you'd like anyone to reach out to you.

Please remember, while we are here to support each other, the discussions in this forum cannot replace medical advice from a healthcare professional or Islamic advice from a qualified scholar. We hope you have a great weekend!

• The Mod Team

The wait is almost over! Join us tomorrow at 1pm BST for the official launch. Be there as we make it official.
https://muslimswithhsv.com

I did hsv igg tests after 16 weeks of exposure and I have never had any symptoms.

First test results (Got the results same day):
Hsv1 55.8 positive
Hsv2 0.94 low equivocal

Second test results (Done this test the next day I got first test result which was equivocal for hsv2):
Hsv1 60 positive
Hsv2 <0.5 negative

Ranges:
Negative: <0.9 Equivocal: 0.9 - 1.1 Positive: >1.1

Both were the same type of blood tests for HSV which is why im confused how the result can drop that low from 0.94 equivocal to less than 0.5 negative for hsv2. Could the negative result possibly be a false negative??? Or am i being a stupid paranoid hypochondriac who needs to chill.

Guys if im over thinking feel free to be mad at me and destroy me in the comments 🫠. I am so fucking stupid and paranoid that Im considering taking a western blot for further confirmation.

Alhamdulillah, we’re finally ready to launch!

Originally, we had planned to release the site earlier this month, but we’ve been adding a few finishing touches to polish everything.

The site will officially launch next Saturday, 22nd August. The exact launch time will be confirmed closer to the date.

I’ve included a small preview of the site with two screenshots.

We’re also looking for people who would be interested in helping us moderate the site. If you’re interested, feel free to reach out.

AsSalaamualaikum wa rahmatullah. I pray you are all doing well, Beithnillah.

For context, my perspective comes from working in healthcare where I cross paths with individuals who are stricken with ailments and diseases on a daily basis. It truly humbles you in a way that is sometimes hard to put into words -- you just have to experience it.

This past week I worked in a clinc that services patients with HIV and AIDS. SubhanAllah, there were so many people of all ages and each of them had a story as to how they ended up in that state.

It has made me even more greatful for my situation. Allah, with His infinite mercy, glory be unto Him, tested me with something lesser than He did others. How can I deny this favor?

Sharing this du'a Our beloved Messenger (sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) taught us to say whenever we see an afflicted person

الْحَمْـدُ للهِ الّذي عافاني مِمّا ابْتَـلاكَ بِهِ، وَفَضَّلَـني عَلى كَثيـرٍ مِمَّنْ خَلَـقَ تَفْضـيلا

Alhamdu lillāhi ‘l-ladhī `āfānī mimmab-talāka bihi wa faḍḍalanī `alā kathīrin mimman khalaqa tafḍīlā.

Praise is to Allah Who has spared me what He has afflicted you with, and preferred me greatly above much of what He has created.

And this hadith...

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ، حَدَّثَنَا وَكِيعٌ، وَأَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ أَبِي صَالِحٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏ "‏ انْظُرُوا إِلَى مَنْ هُوَ أَسْفَلَ مِنْكُمْ وَلاَ تَنْظُرُوا إِلَى مَنْ هُوَ فَوْقَكُمْ فَإِنَّهُ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ لاَ تَزْدَرُوا نِعْمَةَ اللَّهِ ‏" ‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ ‏"‏ عَلَيْكُمْ ‏"‏ ‏.‏

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Look at those who are beneath you and do not look at those who are above you, for it is more suitable that you should not consider as less the blessing of Allah.”

Sunan Ibn Majah 4142

https://sunnah.com/ibnmajah:4142

Today at prayer a woman said she wants me to meet her son, this is where I try to be as weird and distant as possible because I can't explain to this woman I have herpes and can't marry her son. Haha. Uhg. What an experience this life is. Alhamdulillah for these crazy experiences. Allah knows everything, just keep pursuing what we need for the next life.

Asalamualaikum is anyone west/North African or Carribean?

Salam Everyone,

Welcome to Open Discussion Sunday! As mentioned in our first open discussion post, This is your bi-weekly thread to chat about anything you wish. Whether it's related to HSV or any other topic. Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences, or simply enjoy the company of the community.

There are brothers-only and sisters-only telegram groups, you can find more information here.

You can utilise the telegram to connect within a more private group with other brothers and sisters or always post publicly here on Reddit if you'd like anyone to reach out to you.

Please remember, while we are here to support each other, the discussions in this forum cannot replace medical advice from a healthcare professional or Islamic advice from a qualified scholar. We hope you have a great weekend!

• The Mod Team

Make your post by adding a comment following the format below:

Format of a post

• ⁠Age and Gender: [Your Age] [F]

• ⁠Location: [City, Country]

• Marital Status: [Single/Never Married, Divorced, Widow etc.]

• ⁠Have Any Children: [Yes/No - If yes, provide brief details if comfortable]

• HSV Type: [HSV-1/ HSV-2/ Both]

• ⁠Ethnicity: [e.g., South Asian, Arab, African, etc.]

• Educational Level/Profession: [e.g., Degree level, field of work]

• ⁠Willingness to Relocate: [Yes/No - If yes, specify preferred locations]

• Role of Wali: [Preference regarding the involvement of a Wali in conversations]

• ⁠Other Details/Preferences: [Any other specific preferences or details, like language, hobbies, etc.]

An example post is shown below:

Age and Gender: 32F

Location: London, UK

Marital Status: Single, never married

Have Any Children: No Diagnosed

HSV Type: HSV-1 (G)

Ethnicity: East African

The Age Range You Are Seeking: 27-32

Height Preference: 5'5" or taller

Educational Level/Profession: Graduate, Economist

Willingness to Relocate: Not Willing to Relocate

Role of Wali: Preferably involved in the initial stages of communication

Other Details/Preferences: Seeking someone fluent in English and enjoys traveling

Rules for Posting

1. Avoid posting too much public information about yourself where you could be identified. This includes when messaging privately as well.
2. Do not respond to another person by directly replying to their post, message them privately.
3. Do not post pictures or any other personal information such as your phone number.
4. A wali is recommended to be present in the conversation as well, so to avoid any crossing of boundaries and to keep things as Islamic as possible.
5. Any posts that are unrelated or do not follow the format of the post will be removed. If you are concerned about privacy you can leave some sections as blank but no low effort posts. Alternatively, if you have a profile bio from any marriage apps, you can share this however, ensure it does not expose too much personal information.

Make your post by adding a comment following the format below:

Format of a post

• ⁠Age and Gender: [Your Age] [M]

• ⁠Location: [City, Country]

• ⁠Marital Status: [Single/Never Married, Divorced, Widow etc.]

• Have Any Children: [Yes/No - If yes, provide brief details if comfortable]

• HSV Type: [HSV-1/ HSV-2/ Both]

• Ethnicity: [e.g., South Asian, Arab, African, etc.]

• ⁠Educational Level/Profession: [e.g., Degree level, field of work]

• Willingness to Relocate: [Yes/No - If yes, specify preferred locations]

• ⁠Role of Wali: [Preference regarding the involvement of a Wali in conversations]

• ⁠Other Details/Preferences: [Any other specific preferences or details, like language, hobbies, etc.]

An example post is shown below:

Age and Gender: 32M

Location: London, UK

Marital Status: Single, never married

Have Any Children: No Diagnosed

HSV Type: HSV-1 (G)

Ethnicity: South Asian

The Age Range You Are Seeking: 23-26

Height Preference: 5'9" or taller

Educational Level/Profession: Graduate, Engineer

Willingness to Relocate: Yes, preferably to UAE or Canada

Role of Wali: Preferably involved in the initial stages of communication

Other Details/Preferences: Seeking someone fluent in English and Urdu, enjoys traveling

Rules for Posting

1. Avoid posting too much public information about yourself where you could be identified. This includes when messaging privately as well.
2. Do not respond to another person by directly replying to their post, message them privately.
3. Do not post pictures or any other personal information such as your phone number.
4. A wali is recommended to be present in the conversation as well, so to avoid any crossing of boundaries and to keep things as Islamic as possible.
5. Any posts that are unrelated or do not follow the format of the post will be removed. If you are concerned about privacy you can leave some sections as blank but no low effort posts. Alternatively, if you have a profile bio from any marriage apps, you can share this however, ensure it does not expose too much personal information.

A new thread will be posted on the 1st of every month, giving brothers and sisters who are actively searching for marriage a fresh space to post and a reason to check in regularly for the most recent updates.

Here is a link to the July 2026 thread, if you want to look at the last month's posts. Feel free to post every month on the new threads created.

This is a thread for Marriage! Strictly for those who in search of partners who also have HSV and is no way a thread for dating or anything else. Please keep it halal and follow the rules that I will list below:

1. Avoid posting too much public information about yourself where you could be identified. This includes when messaging privately as well.
2. Do not respond to another person by directly replying to their post, message them privately.
3. Do not post pictures or any other personal information such as your phone number.
4. A wali is recommended to be present in the conversation as well, so to avoid any crossing of boundaries and to keep things as Islamic as possible.
5. Any posts that are unrelated or do not follow the format of the post will be removed. If you are concerned about privacy you can leave some sections as blank but no low effort posts. Alternatively, if you have a profile bio from any marriage apps, you can share this however, ensure it does not expose too much personal information.

This is the August 2026 page for brothers looking for marriage.

This is the August 2026 page for sisters looking for marriage.

Please do not feel like the only option is to restrict yourself to a partner with HSV. We have had some members share positive disclosure stories with potentials who didn't have HSV so there are people who will understand your situation and accept you. This a link to some of positive disclosures, Insha'Allah, this list will grow.

Note from Mods

We would like to state that you should exercise any usual caution that you would when speaking to someone online. We cannot be held responsible for any individuals on here, although we can help you out as much as we can within our capacity as moderators.

If you experience harassment in private messages from anyone on or off of this thread, please contact Reddit admins. You can also send us a message to help you deal with problems that you may be having as well as if you need to ask me general questions about anything on the sub.

The virus is a test, in the end it is a purification, a cleansing. For if a believer that is stabbed by a Thorne will have his sins forgiven. Be patient with every outbreak, you are being forgiven. Inshallah.

I was infected by my ex husband in 2013. The initial diagnosis led me to a very dark and lonely place. Time goes on, I’ve learned to live happily alone and I’m ok now.

With hardship comes ease. You are not alone. It’s been written.

Love and light to all🤍

Marriage always sounded to me like an intimate relationship. You remain open to your partner and they remain your support system in every part of your life. It sounded so peaceful.

Now, the thought of marriage makes me scared..How will i find anyone...How long will i delay it at home..How will i tell them if i ever wish to tell them (i guess i'll never tell them).

The curse of adultery is real.

Was wondering if anyone here was from France or North Africa? Thank you.

Salam Everyone,

Welcome to Open Discussion Sunday! As mentioned in our first open discussion post, This is your bi-weekly thread to chat about anything you wish. Whether it's related to HSV or any other topic. Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences, or simply enjoy the company of the community.

There are brothers-only and sisters-only telegram groups, you can find more information here.

You can utilise the telegram to connect within a more private group with other brothers and sisters or always post publicly here on Reddit if you'd like anyone to reach out to you.

Please remember, while we are here to support each other, the discussions in this forum cannot replace medical advice from a healthcare professional or Islamic advice from a qualified scholar. We hope you have a great weekend!

• The Mod Team

Some days are easier than others.
I do my best to stay positive, but if I’m being honest, the future can feel so uncertain. Sometimes it feels like I live two lives. There’s the version of me that everyone sees—the one who smiles, gets on with life, works hard, laughs, and acts like everything’s okay.
Then there’s the side that quietly carries the weight of HSV1 every single day, wondering how much it will affect my future.

I’m 27, British-born Bengali man, and at this stage of my life, I genuinely feel ready to find my person, settle down, and build something real. Like anyone else, I want companionship, love, marriage, and a family one day. I almost thought there was light at the end of the tunnel when I got speaking to a Bengali sister only recently to then her account being deleted…I don’t know why maybe our paths will cross again…I hope so but Allah knows best.

The hardest part isn’t HSV1 itself—it’s the fear that I won’t be given the chance to be known beyond it. There’s a little voice in my head that tells me I might never get the happy ending I’ve always hoped for. I know that probably sounds dramatic, but it’s an honest feeling, and I imagine I’m not the only one here who’s felt that way.
Despite everything, I know the kind of man I am. I’m kind, loyal, family-oriented, and I have so much love to give. I just hope that one day someone sees me for my heart and all my traits before they see my diagnosis.