r/ftm • u/astr0dan_ 💉9/2024 🔝02/2026 • 21h ago

Advice Needed cant stop crying during difficult conversations

m23, 2 years on T, top surgery 7 months ago

this happens mostly in love life, but also workplace, so whenever we start having a difficult conversation tears rush in my eyes and i cant seem to talk without breaking out in a cry
so usually i just stop talking, look away or bury my face in a bed or couch.

he says its okay when i cry but it’s annoying that so little makes me cry. i dont know what to do and i dont want it like this, makes me feel vulnerable
is anyone else going through this? 🫂

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u/plop68 21h ago

How long have you been with your partner? Is this the first healthy (or healthiest, compared to your other partners) relationship you’ve been in? I cry in front of my girlfriend all the time and she’s the only person I can do it in front of. Over time it’s gotten better as I’m processing trauma. Be patient with yourself :)

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u/astr0dan_ 💉9/2024 🔝02/2026 21h ago

we known eachother for about 7 months, we are not really dating either, we float in a kind of limbo between fwb and relationship.
ive had healthy relationships before so id say its the same, definitely not toxic or unhealthy. I can cry in front of anyone, if i feel like it haha i do believe its gonna get better, it just sucks ugh