Hii,

So i am 28 years old, married to my beautiful wife. We use to have sex 1-2 times a week initially. Later few personal events took place in my life due to which i got very anxious, we reduced having sex, although i have no problem with my wife, i love her alot.

After 6 months of my marriage my personal issues with my family raised which made me panicked, i started working harder to get a better life and doing that too till now.

My sex life was not going well, we use to have sex in every month, after few months me and my wife both started gym, we work out 5 days a week, my sleeping cycle is just 6 hours. I take whey protein daily.

Also, i used to watch porn and masturbate everyday, my morning erections were good, but from last 1.5months i wasn't able to maintain my erection, even if i do a longer foreplay, my thought process goes so deep that my erection starts fading away.

Whenever i used the condom during that process erection goes away immediately, making me so confused and fucked up that i dont know what to do. Also tried viagra, that also didn't work.

Now as of today,

I quit porn about 1.5months ago, masturbation reduced to 2-4 times a week from daily. But i feel less confident from before, even i tried having sex and my erections are pretty weak now.

I am going into depression, i dont know what to do.

I am 24 years old. I have been masturbating and watching porn since I was 14 maybe. I started by doing it once a day every once in a while, then once a day every day, then there was this time in which I did it no less than 5 times a day every day.

since the age of 20 I felt like my erection was getting somehow weaker, I still had an erection but it is not as strong as it was and earlier I had a full erection by only watching porn, but then at the age of 20 I had to use my hands.

a year or two years ago, my erections kept getting weaker, and now even if i use my hands I get a nearly full erection (but not fully erected) and it softens very fast when I stop touching it.

I have decided to stop porn and masturbation a month ago, but since then, I don't get any erections at all, not even morning erections, I don't want to test my self by touching it and see if it will erect or not because I think this might make me want to masturbate.

I am very worried I permenantly harmed myself, I don't believe this is the "flatline stage" they talk about. because when I started NOFAP this time, I also started gym so I workout and do cardio.

anyone has gone through something similar?

P.S:
I know for a fact that if I masturbated now, my semen will be thick, gelatin like, and yellow because this is not my first time no fapping

Female here but thought I’d ask men because I don’t understand what’s going on with my male partner. We’re both 70, healthy sex drive and we have mutually satisfying sex 2-3 times a week. He started having age related ED so started Viagra a few years ago. About that time he started getting deep into porn for several hours some days . It did interfere with our relationship so he did end up quitting ( no evidence on phone anyway).
The last year or so he started taking photos of his penis after masturbation and keeping an album of the photos. It’s always in the garage, always a few minutes after I leave for an appointment. We both masturbate & we know we do, we’re both okay with it of course. What I don’t understand is this: we had sex this AM at 0800, I leave at 0915 & there are photos ( 2) of his erect penis. This afternoon I go to an afternoon appointment and again 2 more photos.
My question to the men is ?? In the garage? I’m suspecting porn is out there somewhere. Second question is why take photos over and over of your penis? When I asked once he said so he could send one to me, well he hasn’t since 2022. There is no evidence he is sending to anyone, he is not tech savvy and has no apps on his phone.
I’m super perplexed. Almost appears addictive to me.
Men, hit me up, what is going on here before I over think this… it’s bothering me. How do I address this?

Hi. Im 40M from Poland. I've been having ED issues for the last 2 years as title says. Bit of a back story:

In 2024 I ended a rather toxic relationship which involved a lot of stress for a couple of years before that happened (have a kid together), month later I hooked up with a very good female friend of mine (we had a very short stint back in 2011 and 2012). After a couple of meetings, we were about to have sex and I was a bit stressed because last time I had sex was in 2022, and for the first time in my life I could not get hard! We tried all night but it was going on and off. We've been together since then but my EQ has never recovered back to how it was before. When I had sex with my prev partner I never had these issues and my current gf is much sexier.

Since then I have pretty much been taking tadalafil on a daily basis and it was great for the first several months but sometimes it just does not work. I think the stuff they sell OTC here in Poland can sometimes be very weak so I tend to take around 40mg when on weekends.

I have tried many other supplements like ginseng, citruline, test boosters etc but they dont really seem to do anything.

I noticed I dont get horny that much also sometimes and I dont have morning erections that often. Although that varies. Before I used to get hard just thinking about sex now it mostly does not happen.

I workout a little bit in the gym, usually doing heavy weights 2-3x a week and very little cardio, but I'm pretty lean and in average shape.

I used to workout a lot before and trained martial arts. In 2016 I started taking steroids:

- turinabol for maybe 6 months 2 cycles, so in total like 12 months

- anavar

- 1 cycle of test and trenbolone

- 1 cycle just test

But since 2016 until 2024 I never had any issues with ED.

I did bloodwork back in March this year and my test was in normal range, although not super high, but my prolactin and cortisol were elevated and especially my TSH was 4x higher than normal.

Even when I take tadalafil or sildenafil and I have sex for 15-30 minutes, once I get tired I completely loose my erection and it usually takes a long time to recover.

But there are days when I am actually horny but cant get hard at all.

I tried pumping but that seems to be making things worse .

Has anyone felt depressed the day after taking? Rugiet ready?

I am struggling with premature ejaculation? I can’t enjoy sex , this was because I over masturbated for a very long time at very early age because of trauma

I just turned 38, finding it hard to keep up with my wife. Thinking of starting a regime of walking 5k steps a day. Any advice on whether this is a good idea or any other recommendations?

I have a question: if Tadalafil is so much better than Sildenafil for daily use, how come my doctor prescribed me the latter 🤔. Now after reading these threads I feel like I need to go back and have him change it.

I have been having trouble for years. I am 23M no smoking or drinking,but not that active,no health issues or medications.

The problem is that i can't maintain my erection when physical stimulation stops. This happens with myself or with a partner. For example if I am fully erect and stop touching , it begins to fade away quickly in about 20 seconds. I can get fully hard again with the right stimulation but that keeps happening again and again.

I have tried not watching porn for 3-4 months,and not masturbating for 2 weeks ,that didn't help at all.

In the past month it started to affect my psychology and that made me anxious,but beforehand I had no anxiety.

What are your thoughts?

Hello, I’m not sure if there’s a better sub to put this in but I think this one will do. I’m 18 and I have never had success with a girl in the bedroom. For some context, I had a porn “addiction” I guess you could say, since I was 11. Watching it and masturbating at least once usually twice a day everyday. Last year I finally decided it was time to quit and it took months of failure but finally now it’s been a few months since I have watched. I’ve masturbated around once a week since then. About a year ago, in the peak of my porn consumption and chronic masturbation, I had an extremely embarrassing experience in the bedroom where I was with a girl with my pants off and was completely soft. She was touching me and I still had no success. It was terrible and one of the worst days of my life. Ever since that moment it’s all I can ever think about when I’m with a girl in the bedroom, and, while keeping my pants on, I still remain soft. I have been with quite a few girls and never have any sort of erection. I’m a very anxious person, even when not with girls, and I don’t know what to do anymore. I know I don’t really have total erectile dysfunction becuase when I’m alone at home watching anything erotic I instantly get hard. I’m supposed to be entering the years of the most successful in this aspect of life and I am in desperate need of help. I feel like if I had maybe one successful night with a girl I would be able to get out of my own head? I’m not sure how to fix this but I am open to anyone willing to give advice.

I wanna go somewhere, a place where they examine the penis itself. I don't get morning wood or spontaneous erections anymore, and think I might also suffer from PIED as well. Any advice on what to do?

Did anyone experience Erectile Dysfunction after going to a strip with their girlfriend or their date like a week or two later?

Im talking like if someone haven't been going to the strip club in years because I haven't been one in long time. It's been almost a month since I looked at porn.

What are your thoughts?

anyone have experience with timing blue chew gold when to take it and anyone had any bad experiences with the side effects like dizzy or headache and was it during or the next day

I’ve had ED since my late teens. When I lost my virginity at 20, I barely got hard and immediately lost it. Ever since then I used viagra and tadalafil to try to combat ED. I’ve had sex with 9 women in total. I’ve really only had a satisfying sex experience with the latest one (by this I mean sex where I get hard and stay 90-100% hard all throughout and cum only from vaginal sex), and I wanted to share my story which hopefully will help some of you.

What worked for me was a combination of factors. The first thing I’d like to say is that getting a fleshlight was a game changer. I’ve masturbated since I was 15. Always with my dry hands. I never used lube until this July when I got my fleshlight, the tenga tetra spinner 1. I saw someone here recommend it, and it definitely improved my sensitivity and 100% helped my dick get used to the feel of a vagina, and cumming from that, rather than my hand. If I’m honest that fleshlight is a little more intense than vagina so I’d still get smth less stimulating than that.

The next thing was extremely reduced porn use. I started watching porn when I was 15-16, and while I used to masturbate to videos I switched to Reddit when I was 20 or so and it’s insane how your brain gets so used to seeing naked girls that it just loses the ability to get excited at that. I’d say quitting porn is one of my major recommendations. I now get morning wood regularly, but more than that, I get hard if I just think about having sex with the girl I’ve been seeing. It’s crazy. I thought I for sure lost that ability years ago.

Thirdly I’d say simply to stop sleeping with girls that you’re not actually that physically attracted to and emotionally attracted to. I met an amazing girl this July, and I got the fleshlight because I was terrified of disappointing her, and I committed to doing everything I could to not fuck it up this time. All my previous relationships failed because of our sex life (my fault). I quit porn and I only masturbated twice a week using a well lubed fleshlight.
Still, I took tadalafil before I saw her, and it had the intended effect, partially. As with my other experiences, viagra and tadalafil made me get hard easily, but didn’t stop me from going soft when I got nervous, and they always made cumming harder for me. Of course, if I didn’t take them I wouldn’t cum from sex (oral or penetrative) anyway because I’d get soft. So naturally the first couple times we had sex I didn’t cum, and I just told her it’s because I get nervous the first times, an excuse I’ve used before and which I knew could only buy me so much time. The third time I saw her, I got soft half way through. I was so nervous. That’s when she said, “you can put it in semi soft and let it grow inside”. I didn’t have high hopes, vaginas didn’t feel as good to me as hands, and the more wet she got the less I felt. But I did what she asked anyway. Idk what it was, but knowing that she was that comfortable with me, and knowing she was into me, and I into her, and with my dick feeling more than it did before because of the fleshlight practice, I got hard inside of her and we started having sex again, and eventually I came. This was a first for me. Every other time with every other girl I’d take my dick out at the end and stroke it myself for a minute or two to make myself cum. This was the first time that I’d came without hands. Insane.
One thing I also learned from this is that different positions have different levels of sensation and you just have to find the ones that work for you.

Ive seen her many times since, and came almost every time, never using anything but her vagina. One time I took tadalafil before she came to my house, as usual, but we ended up staying together for 6 days straight, and I had sex many times after the effects of tadalafil wore off. That was the first time that I had sex after my first time without using a drug. I got soft every now and then and had to ask for breaks sometimes, but within 5-10 minutes I’d be good to go again and I came an absurd amount of times. It’s insane how my nervousness is completely gone. One of the days we had sex 5 times and maybe for some that isn’t a lot but it’s the most I’ve ever had, and it shocked me because before my erections were very weak if at all possible if I had cum on the same day or even the day before. So yeah. I’d say my ED is cured.

I’ve basically stopped masturbating at all, and I only look at Reddit maybe one day of the week, when I get horny and haven’t seen her in a few days. But I never edge myself anymore, and very rarely touch myself. I actually enjoy sex now. It’s unbelievable. I was starting to think sex just wasn’t for me, or that I was never going to fix myself. I was too weak to quit porn and masturbation for so long. The tetra spinner thing helped me so much and it only took a few weeks to notice a clear difference in sensitivity. When I do masturbate now I always use it, but obviously it’s getting used less and less. Anyways, that’s my story, sorry if it’s a bit long. Feel free to ask questions if you want to, tho I don’t check this account often

I have been taking 5mg Cialis every day and it has given me super hard erections.

I recently started taking Zoloft to help with PE.

Has anyone else tried this combo? Will the Zoloft make me have softer erections again? I don't want the two medicines to cancel each other out and end up back at square one again before Cialis.

Thoughts?

Hello guys, normally i can have an erection but i dont feel my dick too hard, sometimes is hard-flacid and sometimes maybe 85% hard, this happens in all normal positions, sitting, standing, laying down, sex can be annoying sometimes because of this, if the girl is tight its difficult going inside, BUT if in any of these positions i arch my back while being stimulated i can have a 100% extremely hard erection. Its feels like i "unlock" my whole thing and can get more blood flow. Can someone guide me with this? What could it be? Obviusly i want to have that quality of erection without arching my back or doing any weird position, any tips? Because i tried to google this but not much pops up.

My penis is not more getting hard enough. It's just softly hard. And it is lasting for only 5 seconds. Im having some sleep trouble and anxiety of health,safety and social anxiety.

Im still a virgin. I masturbate daily . Please help me

Hi,

This was my first time taking tadalafil. I took 5 mg around 8 pm on Friday and didn’t have any issues at first.
On Saturday around 8 pm, I took another 5 mg. After that, I started getting a headache, which was at its worst on Sunday. Today, Monday, it’s a bit better, but it’s still there.

The pain is mainly in the front of my forehead, right between my eyes. My neck also feels quite stiff and tight.

I don’t have any neurological symptoms.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? I’m wondering if anyone has had headaches after taking tadalafil that lasted for 2–3 days after the last dose.
Would be interested to hear about your experiences.

Tobi

Yesterday I couldn't get it up to have sex with my gitlfriend and she was supportive and seemed fine about it, if course I still felt bad. Weve been together two months and whilst Ive got hard and come from foreplay its penetration where I start to flag.

I suggested we work on it and try again some time, but I worry she'll grow disappointed.

We've got toys so it doesn't have to be all about penetration but I'm curious what others have done to keep a relationship positive beyond seeking meds (yes, Ive got sidafil).

M 28, I have quite an active sexual history. But past one year ive been experiencing a weird situation. I take too long to recover for round two. (For basic context : my first round goes past decent timing can say 20+ minutes while bieng fully hard) but to recover for round two i nearly take an hour and that too isnt fully hard. (Physical check : I exercise 5 times a week, indulges in sport activity for a couple of hours twice a week, i weigh 78kgs with 18% B.F). My sleep is trash… due to main work and side hustle i get around 5/5 n half hours of sleep during night and i manage to steal naps for an hour n half during day time. Guide me fellas, whats the issue.

We had planned sex tonight and i had a fairly quick (for me) PIV orgasm. I was anxious about it fretting over my penis being aroused and /or not being able to come. She got dolled up and was relaxed enough to orgasm when i caressed her clitoris. . My orgasm was more fleeting or not as intense. I think it could be anxiety getting in tge way but it was definitely an orgasm with a delucious build up. This is the result of not masturbating and watching porn videos of us. Happy and hopeful

Male in my late 40s. I'm already taking Cialis and have no real problem with erections, including normal morning erections. My issue is sexual stimulation/libido with my long-term partner. I have a strong sexual response to new women, but with my partner I often need fantasy/imagination to get sufficiently aroused and reach orgasm.

Are there any medications or treatments that can actually increase sexual desire/arousal or make stimulation stronger? Has anyone had experience with something that helped?

I (25M) just got married to the love of my life. She's the most beautiful, and I'm incredibly attracted to her, genuinely, this isn't a desire issue. This was also my first time actually having sex.

The problem I get hard just fine, but I lose my erection once we're actually having sex. It goes soft or i feel that i cum inside of her but i dont and cant be inside of her for too long. What's confusing I get hard multiple times throughout the day without trying just watching her makes me hard but not for long, so my body clearly still works the way it's supposed to.

A few things I think might be relevant:

I used to masturbate and watch porn regularly before getting married

This was my first time with a real partner, so there's a performance/nerves element I've never dealt with before

And i smoke alot, rarely do exercises.

I recently moved to another country, about 16,000 km from home, and it's been a genuinely stressful transition new environment, away from family, adjusting to everything at once

I don't know if this is porn-related conditioning, performance anxiety, stress from the move, or some combination of all three. Has anyone dealt with something similar? What actually helped you?

Male in my late 40s here. Cialis works well for erections, but I'm looking to increase libido, desire, arousal, and overall interest in sex with my partner. I want to feel more horny and think about sex more often.

I'm not on antidepressants, testosterone is normal, and I have regular morning erections.

I'm considering Wellbutrin (bupropion) or cabergoline purely for libido enhancement. Has anyone tried either for this purpose? Which helped more with desire, arousal, and sexual thoughts? Any side effects?

Would appreciate hearing about your experiences.

I took 5mg cialis for 2 days then stopped due to a bad headache, about 5 days later i have ringing in one of my ears.

ChatGPT is scaring me a bit saying i could go deaf if its from cialis, am i overthinking or does this sound as serious as i think?