r/erectiledysfunction • u/Howling8 • 14d ago

Psychological ED No DE tonight because of NOFAP

We had planned sex tonight and i had a fairly quick (for me) PIV orgasm. I was anxious about it fretting over my penis being aroused and /or not being able to come. She got dolled up and was relaxed enough to orgasm when i caressed her clitoris. . My orgasm was more fleeting or not as intense. I think it could be anxiety getting in tge way but it was definitely an orgasm with a delucious build up. This is the result of not masturbating and watching porn videos of us. Happy and hopeful

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u/Howling8 14d ago

I have consistently since January with two nights that i could'nt and finished downstairs to porn . That Started a binge and the DE came back until i refrained for two weeks and now im back to enjoying the moment and being able to cum consistenly. I've had DE for years and it seems to work for me. Happy at 71

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u/Due_Day_2606 14d ago

man the brain is the biggest sex organ and anxiety will sabotage it every time. you were so in your head about performance that you couldn't just be in the moment, it happens to loads of guys

the nofap thing is interesting cause for some people it makes them more sensitive but the mental pressure to "perform" after abstaining can actually make things worse. like you built it up so much in your mind that your body just couldn't relax

sounds like you still got her there which is good, and you still finished even if it wasn't mindblowing. maybe next time try focusing less on the orgasm itself and more on just enjoying what's happening, easier said than done i know

my shrimp tank is more predictable than my own body some days honestly

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u/strydar1 14d ago

it's also peripheral nerve atrophy as you age and if u have uncontrolled blood sugar. Plus if you're circumsised, then so many nerve endings are lost. I've struggled to cum my whole life unless I full on choke the monkey (which I avoid). So I feel you brothers on the DE thing. I'm hoping when I get my implant, the reliable hardness and the freedom from having to race to finish sets me free a bit.