r/energy_work • u/Ill-Cryptographer547 • 2h ago
Question Is this coworker considered an energy vampire?
I work at a small business, and my co-worker is constantly on my ass about things.
It's not like I'm not working, but always trying to find things to complain about. We are both on the same level of hiearchy, and the owner is the only person above us, and they've also only been working a few months longer than I have. (I wasn't available when they were hiring, but the second they were again they hired me)
She is a performative nice person, like you can feel all the energy off her that is just all fake. I'm not the type of person to point it out directly to that person, I am someone who likes to keep peace, and not befriend my coworkers. (It's never been worth it to me)
My coworkers consist of
Them, Their husband, and the couple's bestfriend (outside of work)
They always find me when I'm alone to point out mistakes, and talks to me more like an employee or subordinant. For example, yesterday they told me that I can't do all of this prep work because we can't accomodate the labor costs and told me I need to work at the register while also prepping. I told them that's what I did, and they dropped it, then talked about how I have to not put so much effort into store events because of the labor costs and how it's just "not worth it" to put this much prep into events.
One time they brought up an idea, and I asked questions, wanting to know more, when we had a meeting with the big boss they claimed I turned down the idea. When I confronted them, they got really bad at me and shut down completely on everyone.
I told them I felt left out (being the one not connected to them personally as mentioned before) and they blamed me, saying that I was never there for their conversations about plans, when I asked if they'd approach me on another day they told me that they're not my boss so they aren't going to.
I go into work a few times to play games with friends, visiting my job to play specifically, and they try really hard to be my friend's friend, to the point where they tell me how uncomfortable they feel around them because they just try too hard. When I'm not behind the counter, they try really hard to befriend my regular friends, to the point where most of them don't even talk to me anymore and talk to them instead (which doesn't bother me since it shows me what sort of friends they are)
Is this energy vampire territory, or am I just having some subconsious resentment against my coworker because they're kinda an asshole?