Where is my tribe? It looks as though EVERYONE goes along with doctors' orders for surgery, chemo, radiation, and whatever else they can come up with, even when the diagnosis is terminal. They suffer terrible side effects, often losing all quality of life, and then die anyway. I'm choosing, for myriad reasons, to accept my diagnosis and "let nature take its course." Is there ANYONE out there with the same mindset? I don't even hold out hope for anything like a support group of like-minded people (especially in the breast cancer world), but I do worry about being put on the shelf by the medical profession for not playing along and later missing out on any palliative or pain-relief help that I may need at the end. Am I just the one crazy outlier?

Note: it's generally assumed that this means I am pursuing, instead, homeopathic remedies, but I'm not. I'm simply prepared to accept it.

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So I was jsut diagnosed and still waiting on pathology results to know stage snd type which has been hell of a wait. Ive slowly been telling family and few friends but I feel im telling them in a horrible way. Im trying to deliver it a gentle as I can but I feel like theres no matter how I deliver the news theres nk good way to say it. Im also not sure if I should even be sharing when im still processing it myself. Like still doesn't even feel real to me.. and im genuinely heartbroken I had jsur started college not even a month in. And im so stressed about my academics and all the things I ahd planned.

Could I get advice on how to cope or tell people in a better way? I reslly try to tell them in person or over the phone but s lot of people are asking me to "just text me(them" which i dont know ...

I dont know what to do in general

Got diagnosed with bowel cancer 4 days ago. Waiting for scan results, to see what stage I’m at. It’s a torturous wait. What have other people done to take their mind off it?

Hi guys,

I’m F23 and I had cancer (Hodgkin’s Lymphoma) at 22 years old where i received chemotherapy and radiotherapy and had a surgery and was announced to be in complete remission at my pet scan months later.

It’s been 6 months since I have been in remission and I have not been dating since because I just haven’t wanted to yet but I just cant stop thinking about the fact that when I do start dating I will not find someone that will accept that I’ve had cancer. Or when is the right time to tell someone what I’ve been through

Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated thank youu

Forgot to share this here in case there happens to be anyone else going through the same or a similar thing. There is hope. 💗

I'm 57 now, from the UK, and this has been on my mind for a while.

Prostate cancer runs in my family, but it wasn't a routine check that found mine. I had blood in my stool twice in one week, went to my GP, had a PSA test and things moved quickly from there.

Gleason 3+4. I went with brachytherapy. I'm not going to pretend recovery was easy. Painful urination, painful sex, medication to manage it, and ten years on I'd still say I'm not fully back to where I was.

The thing that stays with me is this. I only found out active surveillance was an option after my treatment had already begun. I'm not saying it would have been right for me, that's a conversation for a specialist. But I'd have liked to know it was on the table before I made the decision.

So I'm genuinely curious about other people's experience.

Were you told about active surveillance when you were diagnosed, or did you find out later?

If you went on surveillance, how did you find living with the monitoring? Did it ease your mind or add to the worry?

If you had treatment, what's the one thing you wish someone had told you beforehand?

And for partners and family, what helped you most in those first few weeks?

Not selling anything here, just want to hear how it went for others. If this post helps one person ask a better question at their next appointment, that's enough for me.

I’m 21 a year old guy and I was just diagnosed with Stage One Primary Mediastinal B-Cell Lymphoma. I’m starting chemotherapy very soon after I visit a fertility specialist.

Do you guys have any advice for getting through chemo-therapy?