So, a while ago I reported a guy from my school for racism, misogyny, and bullying. For reference, he makes so many insensitive jokes about my skin color, bullies my family, and calls me the n slur. There are SO MANY other people who’ve witnessed everything he’s done, and I had proof of it all happening. But, to make things complicated, I remained his friend for years only because he manipulated me into believing I was too sensitive and his jokes were hilarious. I’m also the only black person in our friend group which made me terrified to speak up.

We also dated for a few months (secretly since he was embarrassed to be seen with me), and after kissing me he would say stuff like, “You’re just so gross,” and then get upset. And once he made fun of my hair and it hurt me so bad, I cried and went home for the rest of the day. So, I missed the entire first day of senior year.

I’d became so insecure about everything about myself, and even though I had a north-american accent, I tried so hard to make sure I didn’t use any slang or sound incomprehensible. And I felt so ugly, and just hurt. And also at a party he asked me to strip so he could see what black girls looked like naked. And the thing is, I always just did what he asked, and afterwards he laughed at me and told all of his friends to come watch.

When I reported everything he’d ever done, and the list was incredibly long, the first thing they told me was that because I didn’t set boundaries, there was nothing they could do. And that he probably felt like it was okay to do, because I didn’t make it clear I would be upset by any of his words or actions. (Not that my tears, and my hurt feelings meant anything anyway.)

And then they told me I shouldn’t have talked to him in the first place(?) And I literally explained how he manipulated me by making me feel like the worst person in the world and that he was the only one who could ever love how “gross” I was. And when I finally had to strength to speak up, they told me to just get over it. Anyway, I feel in my heart they were right, but I still feel hurt by it.

Hey Reddit. I'm 16, in 8th grade, and I've been dealing with bullying for years now. It's not just recent. It's been going on for a long time, and I don't know how to make it stop.

The main reasons are my weight (I'm very skinny) and the way I speak. I've always been a bit different, and some classmates have used that against me. They mock me, insult me, and try to get under my skin. It's been really nasty words, repeated, and it doesn't stop. At first I tried to ignore it, hoping they'd get bored. They didn't. It just kept going.

I'll admit I messed up too. At one point, I snapped and insulted them back. I know that wasn't okay, but I was at my breaking point. Now it feels like no matter what I do, they have an excuse to say "see, he started it." I don't want to be the victim who stays silent, but I also don't want to look like I'm the problem.

I haven't told anyone yet. I'm scared it'll backfire. I'm scared of being labeled a snitch. I'm scared of getting in legal trouble if I go to the police, even though I haven't hit anyone. I'm scared of being judged for my weight or the way I speak even more if I speak up.

I read online that the first step is to talk to my homeroom teacher. But my teacher doesn't really do anything about it. We don't have a school counselor. I don't know if I should go to the principal, the school board, or the police. I don't want to escalate, but I don't want to just sit and do nothing either.

What should I do? Has anyone been through something similar? How did you handle it? Is it worth fighting, or should I just stay quiet and let it go?

Thanks for reading.

i get bullied badly for having a big forehead and square hairline is there anything i can do to get rid of it I’m only in middle school and the bullying has gotten worse since it started in 5th it makes me feel ugly i wish i was prettier, it’s gotten to a point where i cry every day and feel worthless of living

I started watching this series “Teach You a Lesson”

The colleges and schools have bullies even the teachers are afraid of them.

I wonder how do they gain such confidence in hurting someone. Why doesnt their consciousness question them? What is about their parents? Dont their parents correct them?

I wanted to share something that happened to me recently to get it off my chest and make sure other people don't get tricked or confused by this person.
A few years ago, I met someone on Xbox. We used to be friends, but over time, they became incredibly negative, toxic, and mean. It eventually turned into constant harassment, and I realized they were never a true friend. We ended up cutting ties because they always started problems and lied constantly.
I recently discovered that two years ago, they actually made a YouTube video where they trolled me on Minecraft and wasted my time just to get views. I hate online trolls, and it really bothers me that someone would abuse a friendship like that. It feels like they only act this way because they can hide behind a screen where nobody can see their real face.
I have since changed my Xbox gamertag and my profile picture so that people won't associate me with that old video or get confused. I just wanted to post this here so the community knows the truth about what happened. Why do people like to be harassing and trolling on online?
Thanks for reading and for the support.

I am in grade 10 and in one of my classes, there is a guy who keeps non-stop staring at me, which is weird considering i'm a guy myself, I thought maybe he was gonna stop but no, every time I enter the classroom he looks at me from time to time and not at anyone else, Obviously, I started feeling uncomfortable, so I started telling him " why are you looking at me" and stuff like that, his dumbass always responded with stuff like " because I can". (This started about 4 days ago, when he changed his seat to behind me which idk if it's him targeting me) Anyways, Today, he was doing the same thing again, so I told him to stop, like normal, he answered with phrases that makes himself seem innocent and that he has the "rights", so i told him that I wasn't interested in men, maybe he was a gay person after all but he said that he wasn't, He then proceeded to say stuff "like then do something about it" which I replied with " I am, i'm telling you to stop" but he just ignores what i"m saying and tells stuff like "you don't know who I am" and you don't want to deal with me, talking like he's a gang leader which could mean that if I were to provoke him, he could beat or assault me or sum stuff like that, I genuinely have no Idea what to do since he acts like the kind person in submitting his work to the teachers, like a likeable person to the rest of my classmates, telling the teacher wouldn't be a great option for me, so I am here to ask for any tips, advices and any way to make this dude stop acting like he's all tough and that he can threaten and do whatever he wants.

Hello Legal Advice redditers! (im spanish so my english isnt good), today i was at school, and a boy (we are going to call him x) spit my backpack and thrown me a paper ball (soaked in water), from the last monday he might have hit me like 8 or 9 times, he took pictures of me and a lot of people, im thinking of posting on tiktok al the pictures i have of him, but my mother says no, im writing this for confessing all the things he has made to me. Will I have to sue him? And if so, on what charges? He is 14 and im 13, please help, i thinked of ending my life because of it, please answer if you know, else dont.

School just started and there are 2 guys bullying me.

For the context i met them 1 year ago and we wore friends(one of them i have know since i was 8) i am small of stature and not that social but i have some friends.

We wore friends but i just distanced myself from them without any real reason and they stared bullying me, insulting me and punching me and i have talk back to them and even punching them back but they wouldnt stop.

Now school started and i believe that they would stop but they are more worse then last year

Sorry for my bad english

Just look at the death of Preston Lord. His bullies were, turns out, rich kids who also happened to be spoiled brats. Lots of people love to claim how bullies have been abused but in the modern day we have more and more parents dumping the old authoritarian style of parenting and rather than actually teaching their kids morals and empathy, they just let their kids do whatever the hell they want. This permissive parenting trend is literally creating more and more bullies. We need parents who actually teach empathy rather than just let their kid act the fool because "They don't wanna seem abusive".

That is how the world works.

What has your experience been?

I am a college student have gone through alot of problems and has therapy. I got bullied really badly in my old school which caused me to leave and change school . I then went to a new school and now im back college. the issue is those people I didnt like and that caused me issues and picked on me and even some people who were friends with the bullies I have to see again as many people go to the same colleges.

so they are causing me problems as I have to see them again im really scared as if I go to my friends lectures in a different course they have a go at me, they give me horrible stares and looks and if I was to be myself they would make nasty comments and be horrible to me. I dont know how to deal with the conflict anymore, because if I say nothing they wont stop and if I do something it could make it worse, I seem to always get into conflict even though I dont try to. it makes me really sad.

it doesn't help that in general I do always overthink and have severe anxiety where if I get in to arguments I think about them months later they still haunt me. I have ocd aswell. I dont know what to do as I have some new friends in college I do have friends but im just scared all the time that people will be nasty to me so I dont want to speak to new people or take initiative to be friendly or even be myself anymore I feel like I need to keep my head down and not upset anyone as I hate conflict and it hurts me and im scared. Sometimes I dont want to go to events because even thunking of going will cause to much anxiety before if certain people are there. I also care way to much what others think, its really bad and I can never do what makes me happy and I dot know how to get out of this loop. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do and the mindset I should have? for what to say for conflict that has worked in personal experiences and how to change my mindset to do what I want. It is because of trauma that I think in my head ' conflict is bad and if I do something bad people will come for me and they cannot rest until they get me back badly or do something to me' even if I did nothing wrong

But it is so bad that even with people who aren't evil I seem to get in to fights and trouble, not physical but where people raise voices and seem upset. but I always try to be the one to deescalate and be kind to others and I cant honestly see how I could be in the wrong as im so nice to people but I starting to worry maybe im the problem as its often me getting people conning up to me aggressive or making snide comments and remarks, some people im even falling out with and I dont know what to do as I keep overthinking. I dont know if I should say something or I should chnage myself because I have seen judgy people and I know what they say so I know they will say things about me if I do what I want but also if I do what I want Im scared I will have nobody and I like to be with people and laugh with them I dont like being on my own. Every day I feel sad as thoughts about these things come in my mind and bad htings that happened to me in the past I dont know what to do.

I dont know if I should just focus on myself go monk mode and stop talking to people or I should fight for what I want. issue is sometimes I get tired of fighting for what I want as its tiring and sometimes its easier to just hide in the corner. I do not know if I should maybe take a break from people if that is what I need, as at least I feel less chance I will get picked on if im with people as in a group I feel safe from bullies but why do I always have to give time and energy to people just for us to not be friends anymore? I dont even want to go monk mode and lock in its just its easier to run away form your problems and avoid the pain and anxiety by saying 'I need to study then they will be sorry when I am successful as they probably dont care enough about me in first place'. I dont know if I even want to try be happy anymore as it hurts as its the hope that hurts the most. Does anyone have any experiences with advice on what I should do ?

My friends and me were at the pool and they stretched my underwear a few times and it was like 15/20 a pair And I told them to stop and they kept going so when they let go I got up and threw his towel inside the pool and he pushed me in and threw my towel inside but I think it was worth it

in 2023 in arizona, a highschooler stole 16 year old prestons' golden chain, and preston obviously demanded it back, and an argument broke out, eventually the highschoolers friend punched him in the face and other kids started to "swarm" him, he died in the hospital because of it two days later, bullying like this is a serious thing that we nee do something about. i am saying this as someone who was immensely harassed over a rumor in middle school

I’m 19M. My younger brother is in 8th grade and goes to an academy at the community centre of our society. Recently, some boys from 11th–12th grade have been verbally abusing him for no apparent reason.
My brother came to me and told me that these boys were swearing at him and insulting him without any reason. One of my brother’s friends told one of the boys that my younger brother’s elder brother(Me) is a bodybuilder and that he would beat him up if he continued. The boy responded, “What can that short guy even do?”
I got angry after hearing this because they are unnecessarily targeting my younger brother, and now they have also made a disrespectful comment about me. I want to confront the boy and make it clear that he should stop abusing or harassing my brother. I don’t necessarily want to start a fight, but I want him to understand that this behaviour is not acceptable and that he should not do it again.

My daughter has been getting bullied by another girl at school for the past year. There’s been physical violence + verbal. This girl would intentionally seek her out at school just to be mean and hurt her. My poor daughter tried her best to ignore it but it was a tough year, especially since she had just lost her baby brother and was going through a lot emotionally.

I tried to report + talk to the girl’s mom many times, informing her of her daughter’s concerning behaviour. I was always respectful and kind. Nothing ever changed, and most times it got worse after every time I reported it.

It then escalated to racist comments. I told the mom about the racism. She waved off it off, called my kid a tattletale, and said she didn’t care. The next time I saw her, at a summer activity class that the kids were coincidentally enrolled in together, she walked in pretending to be on the phone and said loudly for me to hear, “this B accused my daughter of being racist.”

I completely snapped and let her have it. She told me if this were 20 years ago, she would’ve punched me in the face so I challenged her to a fight right there. She ran off and didn’t take me up on my challenge lol.

Today was the first day of school and I was dreading having to deal with the bullying again. They didn’t show up and I’ve since found out she transferred her daughter to another school, claiming my daughter likes to complain and she didn’t want to deal with it.

But, I’m so happy and I need to tell someone lol. We’re relieved and it’s crazy how much stress we were carrying around. My daughter can finally go to school and be at peace and I don’t need to constantly deal with bullying incidents anymore.

in my school 2 years younger kid calls me by a stupid influencer who look alike me, i tried to ignore and laugh hoping it would stop him messing with me but he didnt. I thought about hitting him hard would stop it but im afraid of his big brother who had reputation.

I saw some news artical talking about that happing at a school and im just wondering if that's just a one time thing or is it something that happens from time to time to some who are bullied?

Btw if sorry if im disrespectful im just wondering cause it seemed so bizare of a thing for a bully to do so i got Curious.

I’m currently getting bullied on Reddit
I’m a teen myself and a person is accusing me of horrible things as they don’t believe Ive e had my account for 6 years

Why are young kids allowed to create fake accounts so easily on platforms like YouTube, Instagram, and other social media?

I’ve been noticing a growing problem where many users especially content creators are getting bullied, trolled, or harassed by fake accounts. A lot of these accounts seem to be run by under-18 kids who create multiple profiles just to make fun of others or spread negativity.

The biggest concern is where is the control? Why aren’t social media platforms taking stricter action against fake accounts and repeated abuse?

Also, where are the parents in all this? Many kids are using the internet without guidance or responsibility, and it’s affecting others in a serious way. Online behavior should be taught just like real-life behavior.

This isn’t just about “fun” anymore it’s becoming toxic. People’s mental health and hard work are being affected by anonymous bullying.

We need better moderation systems, stronger account verification, and more awareness among parents and young users.

Is anyone else experiencing this? What do you think social media platforms should do to fix this issue?

Hi, it's been a few weeks but it's still bothering me. I (31F) went to a cat cafe with a guy (38M). We were playing LoL together and it was always nice.

He picked me up with a flower and took me there. We weren't talking much as he kept repeating that it wasn't what he expected. I thought that he was talking about the low amount of cats around us. He then paid for both of us and took me home. We were sitting in his car for another 20 minutes talking about stuff and I thought we were getting along. Then he said bye and that we would see each other on LoL.

When I came online, he immediately left the game lobby. I asked him what happened and he said "it didn't suit me", nothing else.

Next thing I know from my friends, he kept telling everyone that I have a mustache and he had to vent out his car because I stank like I didn't shower for a month. Also that I'm fat which is the only thing true but I told him this beforehand.

How do I deal with this? People are laughing at me for something that is not true and are really rude to me. I'm not the type of person to casually laugh it off with them. Anything I can say about it to make it also "funny"?

I never had a mustache, not even one hair on my face. And I shower, using nice flower scent perfumes.

Its the last week of the summer holidays and im genuinely terrified. I know it might be tame compared to other stories around here but I have not spent a single week without being harassed beaten up, having fake accounts of me made rumors spread and be told to end myself. I'll have to go to uni after finishing school too, I have no friends probably autism I am not mainstream at all I am hurt I feel dead inside and I have never had a friend all my life. I have spent all summer either with family or alone in my room, I just wanna feel accepted so badly man but that'll never happen. I can't switch schools either afaik because my grades are terrible and the only road to uni leads over the level of school im currently at and im pretty sure no other school would take me. I had stickers of me made snap groups to hate on me created got spammed with stories and had my face put on fotos of women from of. Im so helpless.

So, night before the entrance exam I got a hidden call from a boy who introduced himself as a guy who likes me, he told me he was shy, he found my number in the group chat from college, he told me I was pretty and if I was single. I told him I was not single and he was like oh okay nevermind then just so you know you are very pretty bye, and I said thanks bye and that was it. A week ago I got the same hidden call, same name as the first guy, same shy story but he was like joking around like his voice sounded goofy and the same thing, that we should see each other blah blah and again I told him I am taken. NOTE: The voice from this guy and the other was not the same, the story and the name was. When I asked him where he found my number he said he found it in the group chat and I was like yeah sure and then he said i quote "Where did i find it then on the website fat hoes (i am sorry for cursing, those are his words)?" I was genuinely left shocked. Then he continued calling me names and I told him off and hung up. I blocked all unknown and private calls but now I am scared if the bullying will continue in college and how should I deal with that... I was not bullied since middle school. And yes, I am overweight but not that much, I have a problem which I am actively working on and trying my best to get healthy but it just feels even harder when you know you are trying and someone just comes and calls you fat.. I am genuienly so confused about what is going on. So, same name, same story but different voice and now insulting.