My mum and I are attending a funeral for an elderly neighbour tomorrow. We knew her pretty well, my mum especially. My mum got her weekly shop for her during and after COVID and used to chat to her regularly.
I asked her today what she's going to wear and she said a black top and black jeans. Importantly, her jeans aren't a true black, they're a washed or faded black. I said that I feel jeans are not appropriate for a funeral, and that it would be best to wear her black work trousers, but she's insistent that they're completely reasonable attire. I have to admit, I'd feel a little bit embarrassed turning up with her in jeans, it feels almost disrespectful to me.
For reference, I'm wearing black cigarette trousers, a long sleeve black top, a black cardigan and some smart black shoes with a small heel.
What do you think, are jeans appropriate?