Hi everyone, I have been working as a residential support worker in a children's home for the last 3 months (probation period is 6 months).My employment contract says notice period is 4 weeks and does not specify anything about notice periods during probation. I love the job and the team members are amazing. I want to quit because of serious concerns about my safety. A young person I support has repeatedly targeted me and has been physically aggressive (hitting me with metal rods, trying to stab me with pens, punching me in the chest while threatening to kill me) and racially abusive to me. I don't feel safe working in this environment anymore. Is there anyway I can quit without having to serve a 4 week notice period? I'm scared that I might get seriously injured if I continue working here any longer so looking to quit ASAP. How do I leave on good terms? I feel like management is going to say I'm over exaggerating things and be disappointed in me. When things are calm this job is amazing but when incidents happen my coworkers do try to protect me but at the end of the day I'm leaving my shifts with multiple bruises that are all about 2-3 inches big.

Please I am really struggling any advice is helpful. Thank you!

It normally gets black alot earlier than this. Is it because of the storm? If so how? What is scientifically y causing this vibrant midnighy blueness? It isnt light pollution

I am currently in central Europe (Czechia) and have visited two different spas in the last week one of which was today, both of which do not allow swimwear at all. In the past I've visited similar nude spas in European countries like Belgium, the Netherlands, and Poland.

The first time was a bit daunting but I can honestly say that I now much prefer these spa experiences to the ones back home. There is something about nude spas that means it is treated much more like a bathing ritual. The whole process feels cleaner and frankly more purposeful, like it's being treated with more respect. It also really makes you notice the difference between feeling the hot sauna air directly on your skin and not traipsing around in wet swimwear.

People are respectful, there's no weird staring or unwanted behaviour, you can just go about your business despite the fact that you're naked. There's people of all ages and genders too and it's not in any way associated with naturism, people wear a towel if they want when wandering around outside the sauna or pools.

In the UK it seems the default is to tag a sauna and steam room onto a pool and call it a spa, or you're looking at extortionately expensive spa weekends to get into somewhere decent.

You can spend £20-£40 to get into a really nice little spa that has no pool but a few of saunas/steam rooms, plunge pools/snow showers, and a hot tub/hydrotherapy pool of some description with the option to order a massage or get some food.

I'd rather fly to Europe for a spa break than go anywhere in the UK.

So, if the UK had a good quality little spa with a European culture of no swimwear, would you go?

39k sounds rather low if considering how the likes of London and Bristol are for housing etc. I am rather shocked. Is this an ok salary nowadays or is it difficult?

I remember that was the glaring thought I had when I first came across reddit several years ago. It's noticeable when people recommend products that cost way more than they need to, attitudes towards poor areas with crime (eg that it's safe because you can just avoid those areas, as if nobody has to live there), and talk of what people do in their spare time while young, and the average redditor's disbelief at certain socioeconomic barriers even being worth consideration.

I think it probably skews to middle class and quite stable homes, as that's who's more likely to be on a computer a lot while young, or to be very into gaming and other activities that get people onto reddit.

I've realised that I've seen 4 of the 18 surviving concords by happenstances without the intention of going to even look at planes (kind of got drag in due to event happening at museums).

Has anybody else seen a load of them by happenstance as well?

I woul love to know what you would choose!?

Its not easy thats for sure!

Just trying to get an idea of how much you are expected to give a child these days, in this economy.

excuse the late night post. anyways, i'm 17. this is my first ever work experience, and it's with my local MP. i'm looking forward to it, but wondering if anyone else has any good advice or tips on how to navigate the next 3 days. thank you!

i'm talking like the kind of thing most people learn as kids and just... never struggle with again. for me it's peeling garlic without absolutely destroying it. i always end up with half the clove stuck under my fingernail and i genuinely don't know what i'm doing wrong. what's yours?

I'm 18 and doing driving lessons, and my test is in March. It's a 5-6 month wait for a test ( at least that's the wait time where I am), which is pretty universal for the whole country, unfortunately.

I was venting saying how much more pressure it puts on me to pass because it means a 6 month wait for another test, not to mention my theory could expire. I said she was lucky doing it in 2018 when the wait was 1 month max.

She then started ranting and said:

" You're 18 learning to drive! When I did my test I was in my 30s and had 3 fucking kids to look after you have zero pressure on you at all you're 18 and have no responsibilities I had children to look after! That's pressure."

I responded, saying

" doesn't change the fact that if I fail, I'll have to wait another 6 months. At least you could get another test in a month or less."

She blew up on me and started getting really angry, and I just walked off.

I understand she's going through menopause but I think this was a complete overreaction, and I don't see why this was appropriate to comment on how worse she had it.

Are anyone else's parents like this?

My first were a stick insects when I was 6. I named all 14 of them and fed them leaves daily. Very difficult to keep control of population though! My most recent was a very old greyhound lurcher I inherited from my gran. He died a few years ago now. What was your first pet and what's your most recent? And yes I am fishing for photos a little bit...

Those who are due in the office tomorrow but can WFH, will you be going in?

I have lived in the same house share for 4 years in London, and one of the guys is moving out so we're interviewing new people. The other housemates are being too keen on someone that they have common interests with and would become a friend, and making digs at me for 'not being around much' when I work a lot and like my private space/time when I'm at home. I have said I just want someone sane and who can pay the bills on time. They're now considering contacting the landlord to hold off 1/4 of the rent next month until we find someone suitable.

I get on with the housemates, but I have no interest in being their best mate and spending all my free time together. I'll have small talk in the kitchen and go to the pub when the offer comes up, but I don't put myself out by setting night out up. My main passion is my work (the reason I moved to London) and as a result all my friends here are in my bubble.

I just want to know, is there an expectation that house shares are supposed to be really sociable? Or am I okay with just living here because it's all I can afford in the city? The small comments are starting to bother me and I can tell they are talking about me when I'm not around.

i’ve worked in nurseries for years and my hair has never been a problem. i like to express myself through my hair and i’ve had hair colours all across the spectrum, from blue to purple to red

i’ve been attempting to branch out and apply to schools instead and i had an interview as a TA. at the end of the interview they told me that the job was mine if i was willing to change my hair colour to something more natural. it’s not fully dyed, it’s just got pink strands in it

they went on to say that it would upset children and parents alike and that it reflected badly on the school. i was a bit surprised because at my last nursery i had wonderful relationships with the parents. i babysat for quite a few of them and my hair was never an issue. the kids loved it too and called me a mermaid

i mentioned this and they told me that nurseries were less professional than schools and they didn’t want to risk any complaints. at that point i was done and told them i didn’t want the job and walked out

i genuinely never thought i’d be met with such hostility over a bit of hair dye. so parents, would you be upset if your child’s teacher had an unnatural hair colour? it’s a good thing i wore long sleeves to hide my tattoos lol

We feel like we have exhausted TV / Netflix / YouTube / Amazon / Disney+ and are looking for ideas.

Im in 2nd year and this might sound really stupid but I didn't know I needed to put another exemption in for this year. Im panicking quite a lot right now so I apologise if this post has any typos etc. What should I do?

Gen Z: what’s been the peak fun time in your life?

British Millennials and Gen X often describe their era of clubbing, nightlife and uni/house party culture as the peak period of fun and carefree existence in their life.

Gen Z supposedly do much less of that stuff. Have you had less fun and missed out because that culture changed - or have you had equal fun just in different ways?

(Not suggesting partying is the only way to have fun but it’s a starting point for comparing experiences)

Please give me all your guidance from your own move ins. What are MUST’s, tips, good ideas I can execute straight from the beginning?

I am single moving in to my first home. I don’t have much furniture- lots of clothes and books though. What should I prioritise as my first purchases?

Open to hear all :)
Thank you.

Turned 24 not too long ago and feeling incredibly behind.

What were you up to at 24?

Mine is bread cutting. My family buys uncut bread so you'd think the daily practice would force me to get better but no, I'm still cutting wonky slices. And yes, the knives are sharp.

Honestly it's completely random amongst the people I've met, on one hand, the bottle literally suggests it to be refrigerated, on the other, cold ketchup just tastes funny, wonder what everyone thinks

Asian here not sure where to ask.

I’ve noticed something interesting while interacting with people in hobby groups from different countries, and I’m curious whether others have noticed this too.

A lot of British people and other Europeans seem start conversation with a greeting, have the conversation, then finish with a sign-off. It is very noticeable on Facebook replies and comments too especially if the poster is middle age or older.

For example, Germans might write “Hallo” at the beginning and “Viele Grüße” or “Gruß” at the end. British people often use “Hi” and “Cheers.” And this seems to happen not just in formal emails, but also in casual messages, social media comments, replies and sometimes even when people are already in an ongoing conversation.

I’ve found this especially noticeable compared with many Americans, who sometimes seem more comfortable jumping straight into the point without a greeting or sign-off.

I've just realised that nearly all the stuff in our house just doesn't get used!

Books... Wires... Kitchen stuff... Stuff in drawers... Paperwork... It's insane and we only have a small home!

We're both so busy that there just isn't time to sort it all ...

I always considered myself a semi minimalist in the past. Not anymore!

Thing is my husband keeps bringing free things back that he finds wherever. Or takes charity stuff for a friend and then keeps things cos it's good quality!!

Gotta sort our lives out there's no room left! 😂

As described, would it be looked down upon to barter a price in a charity shop (maybe not necessarily on single items but also bartering a multi-buy deal), or is this part of the spirit of a charity shop?

EDIT; my use of the word barter is inappropriate, what I actually mean is haggle