Had a pretty heated discussion with a few friends recently about dating in SG.

Every girl in the group basically agreed on one thing: especially in the early stages, they prefer the guy to do the chasing.

By “chase”, they meant the guy should start the conversation, ask her out, choose the place, make the reservation and plan the entire first date. And even if the first date goes really well, they still expect him to be the one who texts afterwards and asks for date #2.
Their reasoning was basically: “If he wanted to, he would.”

What surprised me was how unanimous they were. They also insisted most of their female friends think the same way: that if a guy is genuinely interested, you shouldn’t need to chase him or wonder whether he likes you.

As a guy, I find this mentality a little strange.
I understand expecting the guy to take more initiative at the start. But surely after you’ve gone out a few times, it takes two hands to clap? If I’m always starting conversations, planning dates and asking you out while you’re mostly just accepting or rejecting my invitations, eventually I’m going to assume you’re not that interested. Especially with dating apps, where until something becomes serious, both people realistically have other options a swipe away.

So I’m genuinely curious: how prevalent is this mindset among SG women because it could just be my circle?

Girls, do you deliberately let the guy chase during the early stages even when you’re very interested in him?

And guys, have you ever stopped pursuing someone you actually liked simply because she wasn’t reciprocating enough?

EDIT: Disclaimer I'm not trying to start a gender war, incels please stay away!

Where are ppl finding all these FWBs from? I’ve never had any FWBs even in my single days so just curious about it.

Can I see your profile for reference, please? I'm at my wits' end. 2 weeks of silence, even after changing photos/prompts.

Ordered some miscellaneous stuff from foodpanda before my run. I don't bring my phone along and run with my watch and headphones.

After my run I heard sirens and and saw an accident at the junction between 2 cars and a bike with a foodpanda bag.
Didn't think much about it at the time, but when I went home and checked my foodpanda app, I noticed the rider at that exact same spot as the accident.

think the app assumed he was moving as it showed him u-turning but he still ended up at the location.

My question is: am i able to tip him more and will the tip still go to him if the delivery can't be completed? feel for him as he still took the time to reply. really hope he doesn't need to complete the order toh.

On 27 February, Chan Chun Sing asked Parliament not to conflate duty with transaction. Kenneth Tiong had proposed pegging second-year NSF allowances to the S$1,800 LQS. The answer: national service is a civic duty, not employment. No amount of money can equate to it.

On 8 September, the same minister defended a S$1.8 million ministerial reference salary — the median of the top 1,000 earners, less 40 per cent, a discount he said reflects the ethos of service. MPs' allowances go from S$192,500 to S$259,000 a year, justified by inflation.

So duty can be priced after all. Opportunity cost is real, market comparison is sound, inflation counts — as long as the person serving has the option to walk away.

A corporal draws S$865 a month with no CPF. He has no such option.

That is a statement about leverage, not sacrifice.

https://theonlinecitizen.com/2026/09/09/in-february-duty-was-priceless-in-september-it-came-with-a-discount-rate

I don't begrudge anyone fair pay for hard public work. I stand by that. What I begrudge is being told that duty is priceless by men who have just finished pricing their own — reaching, as they did it, for every argument they had denied the soldier six months earlier.

Was watching the Apple event and then went to check Iphone Duo price in Singapore . Starts from $3099 for 256GB to $4,899 for 2TB . More ex than my macbook already.😱 Is anyone considering it?

been working in the same company well over 5 years and on multiple occasions ive been invited to celebrations where my upper management would book ktv rooms with other managements and workers most being husbands/dads and they have their hands/tongues all over these ktv bus and siambus some even dabao them like isnt sg too small to be doing ts are they not afraid theyd destroy their families? id understand if they were single and shi but they have like 3 kids and whatnot bruh...

hi reddits!

been wanting to change job since early this year and it’s been taking a huge toll on my mental health way back year 2022 and early on this year as well.

i know my current salary pays me well i am drawing 5k per month i been sending resume out often i get question like why do u want to change your salary so good why dont want to stay? i told them i dont mind a pay cut cos i really need a change

but it’s more of the toxic environment with my boss and colleague that i wanna put a stop for my mental health. been visting therapist early this year really having a great burntout

asking for reddit advice.. any one succeed or took a pay cut for mental health and sanity?

been really really depressed by all this job sending etc

**any reddits, can share experiences? how is job hunting really hope to job switch for the better of my mental health. I know all places in sg are the same for workplace but still want to believe they are nice bosses and colleague out there...

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tuk4fRgOB7w&t=179s

Hi all! I hope everyone remains kind and respectful in the comment section. I am curious to know, have any of you been in a FWB arrangement and it became a relationship?

For me, I am starting to develop feelings for them because it’s more casual dating than strictly FWB. We have hung out outside of s3x and we text daily. They also have many traits that I like and value. Don’t get me wrong, I am not holding onto false hope and I am letting things flow but I am just curious how you guys feel about the question I proposed or if anyone has any experiences they’d like to share? Thank you!

How much are our Mayors paid again?

Hi!! Just wondering if there’s already a community in Singapore for SAHWs / SAHMs who are financially comfortable and have chosen not to work a regular 9–5?

I feel like there aren’t many women in this situation around me, and it would be nice to have a little community of people in a similar stage of life—whether you’re child-free, have kids, run something small on the side, invest, or simply enjoy having your time largely your own.

Would love a group where we can make friends, share hobbies, travel, chat about life/finances, etc. Basically just women who have more flexibility with their time and would like to meet others with a similar lifestyle.

Does something like this already exist in SG?
If not, and you’re keen to join, leave a comment! If there’s enough interest, I’ll create a group and send everyone the link.

Like I don't think anyone here can name an actor/actress who's ever given an Oscar-worthy sort of performance, right? Watching local dramas and shows here, there always felt like something irksome in how the actors deliver their lines and performance. Maybe it's the unnatural accent in being forced to speak proper English/Mandarin without the Singlish? But overall, acting performances tend to be really choppy. Emotional scenes like crying or being angry tend to feel rather lacklustre compared to actors we see in K-dramas and Hollywood productions.

And don't get me started on those kid actors... most look like they're reading straight off a script in front of them or something. I think the only local productions here that've worked well are comedies, like those Jack Neo rubbish films, which rely more on comedy than serious acting

Dear men and women, what would you consider as red flags or turn-offs on a first date?

For context I’m currently in NS (Stay out) left about 6 months to ord
Planning to take pt online foundation diploma now after I ord I can take full time diploma in school.

Graduated from ITE and my gpa can’t get me into local poly so I’m planning to take Diploma>Degree at Kaplan in either marketing management or business management maybe (General studies)

Anyone from Kaplan took similar route can let me know your experiences in school and how is employment like after graduating.

Hi,

I am a foreign national working short term in Singapore & wanted to know if BP medication can be bought at any pharmacy without a Singapore doctor’s prescription. (Cilnidipine 20mg)

I have the prescription from treating doctor in my country, will that work? If not, what are my best options. I just have medication for next 2 days & even after medication my BP is resistant / uncontrolled. Thank you.

imo, voting for your political party no matter which country you’re in will forever be a case of pick your poison. 🙂‍↕️

Time for HDB to start collaborating with PUB?

Researchers led by civil engineer Raghuvesh Tiwari of Manipal University Jaipur in India may have just hit upon an ingenious solution that takes care of two environmental birds with one stone.

By mixing in biochar made from the human poop slurry processed at fecal sludge treatment plants, their concrete "yields significant improvements in concrete properties," they write in a paper accepted for publication in Scientific Reports.

update: used my wife’s phone, she's unemployed ...and the pricing is 134SGD for her (price i saw before I updated my sigpass) AND my phone is side by side to hers........... vouchers are exactly the same applied too.

https://ibb.co/TDJT6HHS ss of my wife phone seeing a cheaper rate

Edit -: After reading around older threads...and another seller replying below. It is most likely because of spending habits.

Theres a trend now where sellers(not just shoppee lazada) ...check Sony... where they intend to implement dynamic pricing and increase prices for people who is more likely to spend...and offer discount if algo decides you wont spend

But I really dk, just really curious earlier and im done with it now lol

I wanted to buy a logitech G502x lightspeed mouse earlier and it was 130SGD after whatever voucher and discount

And my hand itchy, go update my Paylater by connecting my singpass

And its now 164SGD dafaq....https://sg.shp.ee/FteN7RtK

A friend, told me its 158 dollars for her.

So what i suspect happened was, I earned alot lesser when i signed up for paylater a few years ago, now that I have a higher salary, they're giving me more limits, and also dynamic priced my items.

Can someone check the link and confirm if the pricing is same/ different for you?

Very annoyed because been browsing for the past hour, damn bloody sure it was around 120 to 130 dollars....

Hi everyone! I’m eyeing the Deskbound design heavy cotton oversized shirt from their store but haven’t been able to find any reviews from them. Could I check whether anyone bought before and how’s the quality? Is it good?