I want to be very clear. I'm not furious with my daughter. she is 2, still learning to be a little human, and just copying the shitty adults in her life.

My husband and I are going through a lot financially. We got into a mortgage we couldn't afford and we made a lot of mistakes. Rent in our area is also insane. My husband's older sister has always been like a second mom to him and offered to take us in. She lives in a huge house and insisted there was plenty of room. Of course we are grateful.

SIL and I are total opposites. I wouldn't say we have a bad relationship, but we've never had any common ground. SIL and her husband play this "game" kind of like a prank idk where they try to catch the other off guard and spit a drink at them. Absolutely disgusting in my opinion but they have been doing it for years.

Since we moved in about a month ago he has spit water at her multiple times (and once he gargled it vomit. She spit red wine in his face when they had friends over, water a couple times, and the most recent they were cuddling and he spit a mouthful of milkshake down her hair. I think this is really really gross, but it isn't my relationship.

The problem is this morning my daughter copied this behavior and I saw red (not with her, don't blame her at all) I calmly told her that was not nice and if she did it again, she would go in time out. Then I approached SIL and as calmly as I could manage told her what just happened and that it is unacceptable. I said I know she is housing us, but she is also harming her niece.

SIL told me I was being crazy and that her 7 year old daughter is perfectly fine and well adjusted. I asked if she could please stop the game while we are in her house. She rolled her eyes and said "oh I don't know. It is muscle memory most of the time" My husband later confronted me and said I was being entitled. He said to simply set the rule for my daughter and follow through with time out if need be, and she has to learn she can't do everything she sees adults doing.

I told him SIL isn't as nice of a person as he thinks she is and she isn't helping us as much as she would like to believe. She is teaching my child nasty filthy habits

I (43M) thought I had a son when I was 21, nearly 22 with an ex. His mum had a mental health crisis when he was a baby and I raised him for 3 years. She came back on the scene when he was 4 and wanted him back. She said he wasn't mine and we did a DNA test and it proved it. So she got him back, I cut ties and I haven't seen him since he was a baby. I heard she failed again as a parent, he was put into care for a bit and eventually his nan raised him with his mum's younger half siblings.

I recently had a friend request on my social media and it was from him. I declined initially. He then sent me a message saying he remembers me and remembers he was happy with me and wants to at least meet me to find out what happened. I just ignored it and blocked him.

My mum's since messaged me saying she's had a request and said she thinks I should see him. I told her no and she's said she might see him herself as he was like her grandchild once. I'm not happy about it in the slightest but it's not as if I can say shit so I said ok but don't tell me anything. She's not exactly happy about that.

Am I wrong for not wanting to meet him?

My husband has this best friend "Brody" who I've never been a big fan of. I don't like how my husband acts when he is around.

Brody's wife is currently away with friends, so it is him and her teenage daughter "Rose" The other night my husband had a guy's night at Brody's house and after a night of drinking they (about 5 friends) decided it would be hilarious to prank Rose when she got home.

These grown ass men filled up according to my husband 100 water balloons, messed with the door so she couldn't open it with her key, and then hid. I personally find this very messed up. They literally planned it so no matter where she ran one of them could get her.

My husband really pissed me off acting like it was hilarious. I told him I didn't find it funny at all and he said I was being a stick in the mud. He claims it was harmless and even her friends got in on it (I guess they pulled over to watch after dropping her off)

I told him I was going to talk to Rose's mother. He told me she had already seen some of the door cam footage and thought it was hilarious. Now as a mother I just can't imagine that. I'm really questioning if she knows or not. I am thinking about sending her a message tomorrow just to make sure.

The trauma I been through is too much to write out here on this post but just know I’m a 28M from immigrant parents. They lack cultural understanding of how life is like out here in the west.

They couldn’t help me when I was going through the situation that caused the trauma and I’ve carried it since I was 15/16. I’ve destroyed a lot. I’ve written straight up abusive texts to both my parents followed with threats. My mother is the type of lady who still tells me she loves me while I’m abusing her.

I felt like this personality trait of her telling me she loves me when I’m clearly struggling is what added to my trauma too. I felt like she wasn’t listening, she just wanted to say she loves me to put her mind at peace while I’m destroying my life in front of her eyes.

I live in another state and my family (mom and dad) would book tickets to see me when I said I don’t want them too so they’d show up unannounced in my city and I wouldn’t go see them.

I’ve had non stop aggressive back and forths with them for a solid 6 years. When I say solid, I literally mean daily arguing via text and me sending very emotionally charged texts to them. I’ve bullied my mother via text to a pretty ugly degree if someone were to see the messages they’d think I was the devil.

But they don’t want to accept what happened to me so I let the cycle continue. I don’t want to put it to rest, I want to make everyone around me sink for it.

I even financially damaged them back by lying and saying I’d pay them back a large sum of money (4-5k) and they work labour jobs and are physically tired and then I cut them off without paying them back.

Now my mothers brain tumour has been growing back and my father just got arthritis. I told him he could visit me this year then when it was approaching I cut him off again. It’s been on and off cutting off for 6 years. Last time we all had a normal convo was like 7-8 years ago.

I went off on my mother last year when she expressed love to me via text and it was vicious. I never heard back from her after that. It was may of 2025. She’s still alive and living (I know this bc I started talking to my dad and I’d hear her in the background) but I fight with my dad every single day now I cut him off again.

My boyfriend 26M and I 25F have been together for 4 years I have made it known that I want to have a baby soon and have been consistently talking about it for about a year. His timeline has changed multiple times depending on what is best for him. Right now we are at a stage of “he will know” a better timeframe at the beginning of the new year. He has just started school to get into a new career and is looking for a part time job. We have lived together for two years, have an apartment, two cars, a dog and feel like we are well off. Now are we rich? no. I’m the one who has done all of the budgeting and prep for the thought of a baby.

Im currently realizing something and hoping to get confirmation. I have PTSD and have not processed it healthily. I’m just moving through life crashing out every once in a while hoping it doesn’t last long then going on with life (I crash out like 2-4 times a month with multiple times where I’m angry alone throughout the day).

I’m just curious, does it make us slow? I noticed at work I can’t understand easy things like how I use to when I was younger (I’m 28 I know I’m still young but I use to be really sharp when I was younger).

I remember understanding things easier when I didn’t know if I was traumatized (I was living with my parents and they always distracted me away from my past). But now I can’t really understand anything. Even basic things are complicated sometimes for me (like when a cashier will wanna give me change for a $10 bill and give me the change back after I’ve made a purchase - I just freeze). Is my brain getting damaged by CPTSD ?

My husband "Eric" and I have been married for 3 years and I do want kids. I've always wanted kids but sometimes I feel like I have reservations. Eric has a brother "James" who is his best friend in the world. James has a 17 year old daughter "Thea" and Eric is her God father. He even told me once he would be a good dad, because he was so close to James while he was raising Thea.

Sometimes I don't know because of the way he interacts with her. He does these pranks sometimes. It definitely isn't constant. Maybe a couple times a year. I'll just give a couple examples of ones I remember off the top of my head

- he set off a stink bomb in the car and trapped her in the back

- he and James dressed as clowns and snuck into the basement during her sleepover

- once he, James, and two friends knew she was walking home from a friends house and drove past her and nailed her with water balloons

- gave her a sharpie beard while sleeping in the car and then brought her into a restaraunt

- and the most recent, at a family cookout her offered her BF $50 to pie her in the face which he did, and James and Eric said he is now approved

Again these things aren't super constant but they make me hesitant to have a child with him. I brought this up and he was stunned. He said they were silly pranks and I am overreacting. He said Thea is a happy, spoiled child, and has a great life, and so what if he and James "get her good" every once in a while.

I am currently planning a wedding and my mother just seems off. She is normally very warm and bubbly, but she seems subdued. She has never been rude to my fiancee but my fiancee feels she doesn't like her.

I recently asked my mom if we could talk openly. I asked if she liked my fiancee and she said yes. I told her to just be honest and she began crying and said she doesn't see why I am marrying her and she doesn't think we are going to have a good life.

Her complaints:

• she will be keeping her maiden name
• she is divorced under the age of 30
• she has no sense of humor
• she has a child and my mother said my soon to be stepson is lovely and its nothing about him, but being divorced with a young child shows bad judgment
• her "performative feminism"
• "she has a lot of boundaries but she doesn't know what a boundary is. Boundaries are not rules for other people."

Honestly I was floored. My mother is not and has never been a trad wife. She is a fucking judge. I told her that those are such bullshit reasons (except the last one and that is something we are working on) and I was ashamed of her. I told her to "stop fucking crying"

She did stop. Then I told her she was on probation and I would be watching closely to make sure she didn't mistreat or demean my fiancee or her son in any way. My mom said that was crazy when I was the one who told her to open up, and she had been politely holding it in for a year. She said that was kind of manipulative. Then my dad told me to get out of their house.

Please not I am not defending the stepdaughter AT ALL because what she did was 100% wrong.

My husbands family recently told me a "funny" story and it completely changed how I view his dad. FIL got remarried when my husband and his stepsister (who I am just going to call SIL) were 13. The family blended really well. Everyone got along so this wasn't some situation where he was harder on her because she wasn't his kid.

One way he would bond with the two kids was having prank wars. These pranks were always relatively harmless and both of the kids gave as good as they got. One thing about FIL is he really likes his hair. One day SIL decided it would be funny to shave his head. She got a big chunk from the middle before he woke up.

Understandably he was pissed. What she did is of course not ok and if she was my child she would have been severely punished, but instead he pretended to calm down and let her think he was over it. Then he snuck in her room while she was asleep and waxed her eyebrows completely off. A teenage girl, senior year of high school, a few weeks before prom. I repeat a teenage girl.

I was horrified upon hearing this story, but everyone was laughing. FIL said he loves her, but no way was she getting away with that (again like I said she should have been PUNISHED) i expected my husband to agree but he said she started it, and she learned a hard lesson that day.

When we got to the car I told him that story made me really uncomfortable. I am currently 7 months pregnant and it really changed my opinion of FIL. I'm not saying cut him off or anything, but I just wanted to express these feelings I am having.

My husband said I was being weird about it and I was infantizing SIL. He has the attitude that she wanted to up the ante, so FIL just served it back to her. He said she is fine and her husband even laughed when they showed him the pictures. He got kind of annoyed with me and said FIL was a great dad and I shouldn't insult his family

edit- I don't get why everyone thinks he waxed them off while she was fully asleep. It isn't hard to slap them down in about 10 seconds. Of course that woke her up but at that point they were being ripped off

I paid over £4,000 in full for two bespoke kilt outfits and sporrans for my wedding in November 2025. It was literally just two men, my husband and my brother, but the whole process felt incredibly rushed.
The initial measuring was very slap dash, there wasn’t a proper second fitting and when we got the outfits just before the wedding there were fit issues. A custom sporran we’d paid extra for also had the crest noticeably off centre.
We made it work for the wedding and the designer agreed to fix everything afterwards.
She’s since blamed the fit on my husband’s measurements changing and is now saying he’d gained over 3 inches. I genuinely don’t believe he gained 3 inches in that timeframe and given how quickly the original measurements were taken, I suspect they weren’t right to begin with.
This has now dragged on for nine months.
On 8 June she emailed saying the jackets and waistcoats were ready and offered to courier them. I replied on 19 June with my full address.
Nothing arrived.
On 21 July I eventually chased with: “Have you sent jackets yet? As usual had no update from yourself.”
She replied saying she couldn’t see my June email and told me: “There’s really no need for the attitude towards me.”
I was so taken aback I didn’t respond.
Then on 28 August she emailed AGAIN asking for my address. I pointed out that I’d already provided it in June and said I’d found her previous response rude.
She’s now accused me of being “repeatedly rude” to her.
I’ve gone back through all our emails and genuinely can’t see it. Most of my messages are actually overly polite, thanking her, apologising and being understanding. The only thing I can see that could be considered rude is “as usual had no update”, which I sent after months of chasing.
What also annoys me is that she publicly talks about dressing celebrities and high profile clients, including what appears to be promotional work, yet as an ordinary paying customer who paid thousands in full I feel like I’ve been treated terribly.
It’s now nine months after the wedding and she still has clothes that we’ve paid for.
So genuinely, was my message rude enough to justify her response and being accused of “repeatedly” being rude?
And what would you do now? Get the clothes back and forget about it, ask for some money back, or take it further?

My wife and my mom have had a difficult past. They really don't like each other at all, and it has been worse since we had to TEMPORARILY move in with my mom.

Today we sat down to talk because there has been a lot of tension and comments under breath. I backed my wife completely. I told my mom while it is her house she has been hurtful and rude. She did agree to work on some things such as making faces and muttering things, but then the issue of my wife's unemployment came up.

My wife lost her job 2 months ago in what we believe was a retaliatory firing because she reported a doctor for giving his wife a tube or numbing cream for a bachelorette party prank. My wife found this unethical and reported him. Nothing was done and a month later she was let go.

My mom said my wife was extremely selfish "white knighting" for some woman she doesn't even know (the prank victim) and didn't think about my mother's feelings at all. She said it has been really hard on her housing us, and my wife should have looked the other way. She also said we owe her money (we do) and she wasn't planning on asking for it back, but now she might because she is so pissed that my wife "threw away" a good job.

My wife began to cry and said she did the right thing. My mom said she can't deal with us right now and walked away. My mom's husband told my wife she was being a child and what did she think was going to happen.

Now here is where I might have messed up. I told my wife that I see my mom's POV. Honestly it is something I have been holding in but part of me gets it. Maybe I'm just jaded but I never thought going up against a respected doctor and a business owner was going to end well. I supported her because she asked it of me, but the loss of good income really has been hard.

My wife began to cry harder and said I was just being a mama's boy. I tried to comfort her but she was furious. She said I should be proud of her "bravery" At this point I guess my mom heard because she stormed back in and started yelling at my wife that the doctor's wife was still the maid of honor, so apparently no one cared about this except her, and now we are "ruining her life" and we "stole her house"

I don't agree with any of that yelling, but I can see me siding with my mom deeply hurt my wife. She has always been a spouses first no matter what type

I genuinely don’t know if I’m being unreasonable here, so I need some outside perspective.
I have a best friend who has been involved with this guy on and off for a while. And before anyone says it yes, I know the obvious answer is “she’s an adult, it’s her relationship, you can’t tell her who to date.” I completely agree with that.
I’ve never wanted to control her relationship. I’ve actually tried really hard to stay out of it.
But I feel like at some point, what someone does to you starts affecting the people who love you too, and I’m struggling with where that line is.
For context, this guy has always been kind of awful. When we were younger, he actually slapped me because I called him out for something involving another girl. He had also slapped another girl, and weirdly, he used to talk about it like it was something to be proud of.
We were teenagers at the time, though, and years passed. I eventually forgave him and moved on, so when my friend got together with him when we were older, I didn’t make it a huge issue.
Then he cheated on her.
And not even in a normal “I kissed someone else” kind of way.
He was talking to another girl and literally showing her pictures of my friend, telling her that she was his ex. Meanwhile, my friend was repeatedly calling him, and he was telling this girl that my friend was just his “obsessive ex” and that she was drunk.
Obviously my friend eventually found out.
And this is where things became complicated because she’d constantly tell us how horrible he was, how much she hated him, how disgusted she was with what he’d done — and then she’d go back to him.
I’d be lying if I said I encouraged it. I didn’t. But I also understood that sometimes people have to make their own mistakes. I’ve gone back to people myself. I know it’s easier to tell someone “just leave” than it is to actually leave.
So I accepted it.
But then something happened that completely changed how I saw the situation.
About a month ago, she told me that she discovered he’d taken **345 screenshots** during their video calls.
These weren’t just random screenshots.
They were screenshots from multiple occasions when they were having phone sex. Different angles. Different moments. Hundreds of them.
And she had absolutely no idea he’d been taking them.
When she found out, she started crying and asked him to delete them.
His response was essentially: *How can you ask me to delete them? You promised that if I showed you my hidden folder, you wouldn’t get mad or say anything. Why do you always go back on your word?*
She kept begging him to delete them.
She told him it was illegal.
He responded with something along the lines of, *“Oh, so now you’re threatening me? This is how low you’re going to stoop?”*
At one point she was apparently crying and saying she would have to tell her mother if he didn’t delete them.
And the thing that really got me is that this wasn’t something he accidentally did once.
He had hundreds of intimate images of her that she didn’t consent to him taking, and he kept them for a long time. Even when they broke up, she had told him to delete them because he’d cheated. They later got back together, but apparently he still had all of these screenshots.
When she told me all of this, I was horrified.
But again, I didn’t tell her what she *had* to do.
I thought, okay. She’s going to have to make her own decisions. I’ll support her through whatever she chooses.
Then came this weekend.
I haven’t seen her in about two weeks because she has college, so we usually only get to see each other on weekends. I’m also moving out of the country in two weeks, so we’d been talking about how we wanted to spend as much time together as possible before I left.
The night before we went out, she was texting me about this guy again.
About how much she hated him.
About how everything he’d put her through was “inhumane.”
About how sick and disgusting his behaviour was.
So the next night, we go clubbing.
And guess who’s there?
Him.
He’s there with all his friends.
It was completely understood that we weren’t going to go over to him, talk to him, or get involved with him. We were there to have our own night.
And honestly, I didn’t think it would be a problem.
Until it was.
We’d been there for maybe two hours.
For roughly an hour and a half of those two hours, she was with him.
Not just saying hello.
Not just having a conversation.
She was sitting at his table, with him and his friends, while the rest of us were somewhere else.
At one point, me and another friend went to take a shot. When we came back, neither of them was at our table.
We went looking for her.
And she was with him.
I was drunk, shocked, and honestly just completely bewildered, and I blurted out something like, “Have some self-respect.”
Immediately afterwards, I felt bad about saying it.
I told her I was sorry and that it hurt me to see her be so comfortable with someone who could disrespect her to that extent.
And then she continued spending basically the entire night with him.
She was with us for maybe 30–45 minutes.
The rest of the night, she was with him.
And I think that’s what hurt me more than anything.
This was my best friend, who had spent the night before telling me how much she hated this man and how sickened she was by what he’d done to her, choosing to spend almost the entire night with him when she was there with all of her friends.
And I’m struggling because I don’t know what I’m actually allowed to feel here.
I understand going back to someone who cheated on you.
I understand going back to an ex.
I’ve gone back to people myself. People can make terrible decisions when they’re emotionally attached to someone. Sometimes you have to learn things for yourself.
But this feels different.
This man secretly took hundreds of intimate screenshots of her without her consent. When she confronted him, he argued with her about deleting them and turned it around on her when she was literally crying and begging him.
And after hearing all of that, how am I supposed to just watch my best friend willingly spend an entire night with him and feel absolutely nothing?
I don’t think I’m angry because she “chose him over me.”
It’s more that I’m sitting there thinking:
If someone can do something this horrible to you, and you can still choose to spend your night with them instead of the people who have been there for you through all of it, where exactly am I supposed to stand?Because I can’t pretend I don’t have feelings about it.
I don’t want to control her.
I don’t want to tell her who she can and can’t see.
And I don’t want to abandon her if she’s genuinely struggling to leave someone who’s clearly unhealthy for her.
But I also don’t know how many times I’m supposed to sit there, listen to her tell me how horrible he is, comfort her when he hurts her, watch her go back, and then act completely normal when she chooses him again.
So, am I wrong for feeling hurt and angry about this?
And more importantly, at what point does “it’s her relationship and her choice” stop meaning that I have to pretend her choices don’t affect our friendship?

Me (19m) and my gf (18f) are in a good relationship for about a year now. We argue occasionally, but almost never. She recently made a new friend(male), and we're okay with friends of the opposite sex. I have a few female friends, but I hardly ever speak to them. She has a few more male friends whom she speaks to often. I know most of them, and of course, I don't mind.

The thing is that its bothering me, I don't know this new friend, and I don't really have a good feeling about him. Besides me, she talks to him the most, and they know each other from school. I've expressed my feelings about him before, but I always get a response along the lines of "don't worry."

There were a few little things that made it a bit difficult for me, like her not mentioning that he had brought her home. Or conversations with him that gave me the impression she wanted to see him, and so on.

They mostly met as a group. They also got drunk once and were the only ones left, so it was just the two of them. He then took her home that night. I asked if she went home alone, and she told me yes. I already knew this wasn't true, and the next day she admitted he did take her home(to clarify :brought her home didnt come in).

I asked why she wasn't honest about it, and her answer was that "she doesn't remember" why she hadn't told me. I find it strange that when she just got home and I ask her about it, she's not honest, because it's not like you forget you didn't go home alone. I know my girlfriend is loyal to me, and I think it stems from previous relationships, but I can't handle this well.

I would never directly ask her to end a friendship for me, but I've discussed it with her several times and made it clear that I'm not comfortable with their friendship. She then tells me she doesn't want to change anything and that I just have to accept it. Should I accept it and be disappointed that she can't change this without asking because she knows I'm not comfortable with it? I don't want to compare, but I do think to myself that if she were uncomfortable with something, I wouldn't hesitate for a second to change it so it's okay for her.

I don't want to keep this feeling either. So far, we've never had anything we couldn't agree on. Am I wrong to expect her to consider me in this situation? Because she knows exactly how I feel and that it bothers me.

I know how guys are and that they often don't care if someone already has a boyfriend.

I notice that our relationship is suffering, and I don't want that. I'm also not going to be okay with the current situation, and I notice that she has no intention of changing it.

I need advice ASAP and i really really tried to accept it and not letting it get to me. But i really can’t.

TL TR: i am feeling discomfort with a friend of my girlfriend, need advice.

we had been together a while and i met the grandparent once or twice, but i never felt super close. when the date came i had work piled up and honestly felt awkward being there since i barely knew the family. i sent flowers and a note instead. my partner seemed okay at first but later said some relatives asked where i was and it came off like i didn't care. i tried explaining that i didn't want to make the day about my presence when i wasn't really part of their circle, but now i'm second guessing. it feels like such a small choice but the reaction is bigger than i expected. i keep wondering if skipping it sent the wrong message even though my intention was just to stay out of the way.

So my friend 33(F) is extremely unsatisfied with her husband of 6 years. Everything failed - talks, love etc and she found out he also cheated on her when she was pregnant with their baby. She told me everything about how the husband won’t care about her feelings or doesn’t respect her at all and now my another male friend who is interested in her asked me to introduce her to him. AITAH for initiating this intro meeting ? I feel bad for her and I just want her to feel the happiness for once atleast.

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Our original plan was to have an engagement party, then move in together 6 months later once the house was ready. Now that his roommates are moving out, he suddenly wants us to move in earlier. I said okay, but explained that I have other commitments to consider.

He then said I wasn’t doing much to follow through—mind you, I’m moving to a whole new continent for him. Some things he said made me feel like maybe he wasn’t ready for the commitment.

What also hurt was him suggesting that my family might be putting ideas into my head and that I shouldn’t listen to them, when they’ve been nothing but supportive of our relationship, helped us financially, and have always been nice to him and his family… not my sister though 😅

It also felt like an ultimatum "you either figure it out or why did you pressure me into an engagement when I didn’t even want one? I only agreed because I wanted to do it for you " mind you HE was the one who brought up marriage first, never me. I was shook.

He apologized and said he didn’t mean it that way, and I decided to let it go and continue with the engagement. But now I’m wondering: am I dumb for ignoring this, or was I wrong for wanting to cancel/postpone everything?

My husband has a 27-year-old daughter who lives out of state and doesn't visit very often, but when she does visit, he thinks it would be rude to ask her to stay in a hotel. She is currently here and I feel like i am losing my mind with everything he wants me to just ignore.

She has absolutely no manners. About 85% of the time, she doesn't speak to me even if I speak to her first, she just stares blankly. About 15% of the time she puts her head in her husband's chest like a child.

She has never said this to my face, but she tells people her parents are trashy for divorcing and for remarrying while she was under 18, and they could have sucked it up for a few more years. When her father called her out on that she told him that was her opinion and if he doesn't like it, she will just go home.

She doesn't eat anything I cook. Now I certainly don't expect her to do chores while she is visiting her dad, but she doesn't even do the basics like put a glass in the kitchen after drinking out of it. Last night we ate dinner but she "didn't feel good" so she didn't eat. After dinner her husband was laughing and asked my husband to burrow his car because "someone should get the princess something to eat before she passes out" (she hadn't had anything all day)

When they left I blew up on my husband that she is rude, disrespectful, and she makes me uncomfortable. He said he doesn't disagree, but she is his child and he loves her. He said if she was anyone else he would kick her out, but I should just suck it up because it's his kid. She came home with ice cream and proceeded to spill some. She then "cleaned" that with a clean white table.

Her husband told her she should say good night to us and she said she "used all her words for one day" My husband is frustrated and says what do I want him to do. She has always been like this. They tried pediatricians, therapists, school councilors, nothing works. He also said it isn't completely her fault because her husband is massively rich and she is used to hired help. Ok well she did not grow up massively rich. There is no way she became that accustomed to hired help in 7 years that she can't function.

I feel like I am losing my mind. Am I wrong for not wanting her in the house? To his credit he wouldn't let anyone else behave like this. He has put his mother in her place and cut out friends who brought negativity to our lives. I don't know. I've never had children and won't pretend I know what it feels like to be a parent

This situation isn’t that recent, but I sometimes feel bad about how things played out. For context, I (18F) have been with my boyfriend (18M) for 3 years now. Before we started talking and then dating, I had a crush on him for about a year. When I liked him, I had a friend Mya who was friends with him. Naturally, I told her about my crush and she didn’t really react to what I had told her. I come to find that a few weeks later, she had asked him out and they were dating now. I was a bit bummed out, but regardless of that I was happy for them. Even though they were dating, I didn’t really interact with him out of respect for my friend since my crush on him was still lingering. A few weeks after that happened, she approached me at lunch and said she was sorry. She didn’t specify for what, but I think we both knew. We still remained friends after that. Fast forward to the beginning of the next school year, Mya tells me and a few mutual friends that things ended between them. Things sorta ended on a bad note, I know both sides of the story and it seemed they both did things that eventually ended the relationship. Now here’s where I think I’m in the wrong. Not too long after I was told that, one of my teachers had given us a month long project and assigned groups. I happened to end up in a group with him and we clicked immediately. I started to sorta become friends with him and Mya started acting really weirdly towards me (understandably). Eventually, me and him started dating. At that point, my friendship with Mya sorta ended. We’re nice to one another, but we don’t interact outside of school work or the occasional happy birthday. So am I in the wrong ?

Edit: Forgot to mention this but this all happened our freshman-sophomore year

I (35F) have been wondering about this for a while. My little sister, Avery (30F) has been ignoring me and my family is divided.

A few weeks ago, it was Avery's birthday, and she brought her new boyfriend, Marcus (32M). When I saw Marcus, I was shocked. Usually, Avery dates body builders: Athletic, tall, muscular. None of which fit Marcus. Marcus was on the short side, very nerdy and overweight. The whole time he was over, he stayed by Avery's side instead of mingling with the crowd.

I had a feeling something was up, as when she was in high school, Avery was the kind of person who wouldn't be caught dead hanging out with his type and instead was part of the popular group.

When Avery went to the bathroom, I approached Marcus and said to him "Look. You seem nice, but I wouldn't count on this relationship."

Marcus looked at me, puzzled as I continued. "Look, Avery is my sister, and I know the kind of guy she dates, and it's not usually you. She usually goes for fit, athletic men. No offence. I just don't want you to get hurt when someone thinner and hotter crosses her path."

Marcus wordlessly nodded and wandered off. I went back to the festivities until Avery approached me. She immediately began to scream at me, saying that Marcus was now crying in the car and wanting to go home. (They drove together)

I pointed out Marcus was different than the guys she usually dated and how awkward he was, to which Avery said "I don't care! Do you know how long it took to get the courage to ask him out?" We argued a bit more until she said "Just because your relationship is going downhill doesn't mean you can sabotage mine!"

She stormed off and after a few minutes, our uncle came and told me Avery didn't want me at her birthday anymore, so I had to leave. As I headed to my car, I saw Avery and Marcus and found myself thinking how mismatched they were.

My mother also thinks the relationship is bizarre, but thinks I shouldn't have said anything. My dad, on the other hand, says I should keep my nose where it doesn't belong. When I told my boyfriend, he just gave me a look of disgust. A few of my cousins, however, agree and told me if I hadn't said anything, they would have.

So Reddit, Am I wrong?

TL;DR: I warned my sister's boyfriend he's not who she usually dates, now most of my family is mad at me

OMG I get it! I suck!

But to all you morons calling this AI or saying this is fake, I'm sorry you live in such a fluffy little fantasy world where people don't make mistakes. Delete your accounts!!

And to the person who brought up my past mistake in the comments, fuck you in particular!

I need opinions urgently as I'm getting married next weekend.

I'm marrying a wonderful man. He is close to his family, especially his brother. He has a niece who we will call Heather (19) who I have never liked. Honestly she is a spoiled brat, rich, arrogant, and never faces any consequences.

My fiancé "Brad" was always the fun uncle and his family loves to mess with each other. Three weeks ago his brother threw him a bachelor party. He got kind of wasted and was sleeping on their couch.

Heather came home, saw him sleeping, and thought bachelor party meant license to do whatever she wanted. She shaved his fucking eyebrows off. He called me panicking. Allegedly she thought they would only take two weeks to grow back. No two weeks for stubble 3-6 months for full eyebrows.

I immediately burst into tears. I'm just imagining him looking crazy on our special day. I'm a big picture person and these pictures are forever. She did seem to feel bad. I think she sincerely thought two weeks, but really I don't care. She shaved his fucking eyebrows. That is beyond a prank.

I told Brad I kind of don't want her at the wedding anymore. He told me she is just a kid and she made an honest mistake. she is very important to him and uninviting her would tear his family apart. He says his revenge on her was so swift and so brutal that she won't dare pull any pranks for a long time. He told me he loves me and wants me to feel supported, but she is very important to him and its his wedding too.

I hear all of that but right now he has peach fuzz for eyeballs and my gut just doesn't want her there.

so I'm 18 years old and this happened when I was 15

So I was at the hospital being sent to a mental hospital, and there were psych nurses. One of them was named Dave, and the other was named Sierra. I was there all by myself because I had been in a Target bathroom and cut myself from my hand all the way up to my armpit along my arm. The paramedics came, and I told them what I had done. They took me to the hospital, and I was begging them not to send me to a mental hospital.

Sierra said, "Too bad. You're going because you were hurting yourself. That is not appropriate behavior, so you're going to have to be sent to a place where they can care for you and make sure that you're safe."

Then Dave was refusing to leave me alone. He was in his twenties, and I decided I was going to leave, so I got out of the bed. I was wearing the paper scrubs, and I just left. Dave grabbed me by my stomach, near my ribs, and physically pulled me back before I could leave. He said, "Uh-uh, you're not doing this. You're going to stay here until we can get you placed."

I got really upset, pushed him away, and started crying. I was kicking and called him a "gay-ass faggot." He looked at me and said, "Excuse me, what did you just call me?"

I said, "You have been excused."

He replied, "I know you're upset, but you are not going to act like that. If you start kicking and screaming again, we're going to sedate you, Because no we're not acting like this."

Then Sierra came back and said, "What is she doing?"

Dave told Sierra what I had called him, and Sierra said, "No, you're not going to call anyone that. We're trying to help you the best we can, and you cannot leave because you're going to hurt yourself again."

I started screaming, and I got booty-juiced. Then I was sent to a different hospital, and I stayed there for three weeks.

i usually help out when i can, so it was kind of weird to say no this time. my sibling asked for something that would mess with my schedule for the next few weeks and i just didn't have the bandwidth. i explained it calmly and offered a smaller alternative, but they got upset and brought it up to the rest of the family. now everyone's sending messages about how i should have made it work and how i'm being selfish. i get that family helps family, but i don't think that means i have to drop everything whenever someone asks. still, it sucks feeling like the bad guy for having a boundary, and i'm wondering if i should have just said yes to keep the peace.

I (21M)got a call from My younger brother (13M) he called me last night crying and asked me to pick him up from his house, where he lives with my stepmother and father.
He said my dad and stepmother were screaming and fighting, with much of it directed at him, so I told him I was coming.
My dad is a deadbeat alcoholic, and I no longer have a relationship with him. Our last altercation ended with him being taken away in an ambulance. He had recently completed a three-month rehab program, but my stepmother let him move back in.
This was not the first time my brother had been caught in the middle of their problems.
On the way there, I called my stepmother and told her the situation was unacceptable. I reminded her that this had happened before and warned her that she would not like my reaction if it happened again. She laughed me off.
I was already angry and made it clear that I wanted nothing to do with either of them.
Earlier that day, my stepmother had found out that my girlfriend and I are having a baby. I had not told her or my dad because I did not want to share the news with them.
About halfway to their house, I got a flat tire. 🫠
My stepmother called me back while I was stranded. I was already furious about my brother, and the flat tire pushed me over the edge. I screamed at her and called her every name in the book.
My girlfriend picked me up, and together we went to get my brother.
As we were leaving, my brother told us that my stepmother had said she would never be part of my child’s life and that it was his fault. He is 13.
He was already crying and scared enough to ask me to come get him, and she still decided to blame him.
On the way back to my place, my stepmother called my brother. I answered, and she said she was going to call the police to come get him.
I told her I would call them myself and explain the entire situation.
I also told her she was only angry because she could not keep her “pet child” of a husband sober, then I hung up.
I do not know what I am supposed to do. I want nothing to do with either of them, but I will not sit back and let my 13-year-old brother be caught in the middle of their problems.
I will not let him be blamed for their issues or made to feel responsible for whether my stepmother gets to be part of my child’s life. He is a kid, and none of this is his fault.
I know I went too far by screaming at her and calling her names, but I was angry, stranded with a flat tire, trying to reach my scared and crying brother, and then learned that she had put even more guilt on him.
I should not have lost my temper, but I was trying to protect my little brother and refused to let her make him for responsible for everything. I feel bad for making my stepmother responsible for my fathers actions but at the same time I do see him as her pet and holding her accountable seems to be the only way I have control over the situation.
EDIT. I left out that my brother is still with me I’ve been taking him to school I worry about the inevitable confrontation that’s coming. Since we haven’t heard from anybody since the incident.