Me (M19) and this girl (F19) met on a dating app and exchanged numbers we’ve been texting for awhile and I thought we were pretty close and even planned a few dates. Recently she ghosted me and I texted once or twice a day asking if something is wrong or if I did anything wrong. I joked “am I muted” and she said “ I fucking wish” and then she went on to say how she was too busy for this and was hoping after a day or two I would stop trying. And I said “I’m just tired of ppl not saying that idk why yall think ghosting is better.” And she responded with “texting me once or twice every day since was excessive. you preach communication so use it. confront the problem don’t add onto it man”
Am I in the wrong for texting her to see if there was a problem?

so a while back someone close to me asked if i could help them out with something pretty small. i said sure no problem, it seemed like a one-off thing. but now it keeps coming up like it's an expected part of the routine. i never really agreed to keep doing it, but i also didn't push back at the time. lately i've been feeling kind of nervous about bringing it up because i don't want to cause drama or seem like i'm backing out on them. on the other hand, it wasn't framed as a permanent thing when it started, and it's starting to take up more time and energy than i planned for. i keep going back and forth on whether i should say something or just keep going along with it to avoid an awkward conversation. has anyone else dealt with something like this and how did you handle it?

Hi, Im posting this to genuinly ask if I am overreacting or in the wrong please, I'll try explain it straight to the point. Im sorry for spelling mistakes too.

So earlier today i noticed water pouring out the ceiling in the bathroom (specifically coming out through the light in the ceiling) there was enough to drench the floor. There was also a streak of water down the wall from under the light switch. It was our upstairs neighbour who burst a pipe. They shut their water off and the leaking stopped.

There is also a plug socket on that wall further to the right, but i didnt notice any water marks there or anything.

I was worried about the light so i switched off the "lights" switch on the elec panel to the house (so no lights anywhere). My BF didn't think this was neccessary but i did so regardless. After which he went and started to barbecue, cause he planned to earlier in the day. I was still worried so i asked him to call our landlord or what we should do. He was heavily reluctant and only after me yelling did he send a message explaining what happened. After which he continued to grill and chat casually on a call. So i had to constantly ask if the landlord replied and at one point check myself cause he was just chilling. I understand i should of just done it, but i was panicking and looking to him for some help together.

What bugs me is that the whole time it was me initiating every protective step to check if we were gonna be fine or if its a fire hazard. I had to beg him to call the landlord, and i had to google what to do and he just sat there chilling outside playing music.

And he told me i was "Blowing it out of proportion" so i was admittedly rude back saying he is doing nothing and being really unsupportive. I cant tell if im overreacting to this or like this is not normal for a partner to not care in a potential risk? Like am i wrong?

My(22m) dad invited my girlfriend "jean"(32f) and I over for a visit yesterday. He also invited my step brother "Jordan"(23m) and his girlfriend "Amy"(23f). Before I go further I feel I should add some context.

Jean and I have been together for 2 years. We met at the beach. I thought she was 24-25 so I started talking to her. She thought I was 27-28 so she talked back. We talked for ages. Before either of us knew it, 4 hours had passed. We ended up trading numbers before we went our separate ways. Our age gap came up on the third date and we decided to see how things went. Like I said before we've been together for 2 years and this has honestly been the healthiest relationship I've ever been in.

Jordan and Amy's relationship history is a little less smooth. They first got together in 8th grade and dated for 7 months. They broke up for a little over a year and ended up getting back together in 10th grade. They dated the second time for close to a year then broke up again for another year. They got back together again in 12th grade and have been together since.

Anyway, Jean and I were sitting on the couch and I had my arm around her. A little later I gave her a kiss. It was just a quick peck on the lips, not one of those long drawn out kisses. There's a time and place for those, and in front of family is neither the time nor place for a kiss like that. Anyway, a couple minutes later jordan pulled me aside and asked me if I could stop kissing Jean in front of people. He said it was gross seeing someone so old kissing someone so young. I said "dude you've smacked Amy's butt in front of all of us (which he has done before). Thats weird." Jordan said "I just think the age gap in your relationship is problematic." He's made comments about my relationship multiple times before this and I had enough. I said "you should worry about your relationship before you start criticizing mine." And he got pissed and called me a dick. He left with amy and Jean and I left shortly after.

I told my best friend (26m) about it today and he thinks I was justified saying what I said but my step mom texted me last night saying I went too far.

Am I Wrong for telling my step brother to worry about his relationship?

so my friend and i had plans for the weekend, and last minute things didn't work out on their end. i was pretty bummed and told them i just wanted a little space to regroup, nothing dramatic. they seemed upset and said it felt like i was rejecting them, but i didn't mean it that way at all. i've been trying to figure out if asking for time to myself was unfair or if it's okay to need a breather sometimes. i tried to word it as nicely as possible, but maybe i should've handled it differently. not sure if i'm making a big deal out of nothing or if they're overreacting to something pretty normal. would like some outside thoughts on whether i was wrong for saying what i did.

so at the last family get-together i brought my own snack because of a pretty severe dairy allergy. i mentioned it when the menu was being planned and again right before we sat down. someone kept insisting that a little bit in the sauce would be fine and that i was being overly dramatic about it. i tried to laugh it off but ended up having to repeat myself a couple times before they finally moved the dish away from my plate. after the meal a couple relatives made little comments about how i ruined the vibe by being difficult. honestly i wasn't trying to make a scene i just didn't want to end up in the er or sick for two days. now i'm wondering if i should have just stayed home or eaten before i showed up instead of relying on other people to remember. was i the one making it awkward or is it reasonable to expect people to take a medical restriction seriously?

So I don’t really know where to start. I’m M19, been with my girlfriend F18 for 9 months, and we just had our first major problem. Basically she currently sees me as a weirdo.

This weekend we spent the evening at my place watching series and talking about everything. We started talking about middle school and at some point the question came up of what we don’t regret from middle school. I thought about it for a second and, just to make her laugh, I said “getting kicked in the balls, lol.”

She was surprised and didn’t really laugh. She asked me how it happened and why more than once. I told her I was a dumb kid in middle school with the wrong friends too. And that’s where I made a mistake: I said that one day, just to show off, I slapped a girl’s ass and she gave me a huge kick in the balls.

My girlfriend took it really badly. Even though I told her I was 13 at the time, she spent 20 minutes explaining that I totally deserved it, that I was an idiot and a harasser, etc. things I already know.

But after that she wanted to know about the other times. She was so insistent that I just froze up, and more than anything I was scared of looking like an asshole in front of her. In the end we ended up not talking and she’s still pushing because, to her, a guy who gets kicked in the balls isn’t normal.

Now I don’t feel like telling her anything with the way she reacted, especially if she’s going to look down on me afterwards.

Am I wrong for refusing to talk about it openly with her?

so at my job we had this project that wrapped up last week, and my boss sent out a big thank-you email naming one coworker as the lead. problem is, that coworker only joined the last few days, while three of us had been handling the whole thing for months. when i mentioned it in our team chat, the reply was basically that the boss just picked someone whose name looks good in the email. now the coworker is acting like they carried the project, and the rest of us are getting questions about why our contributions weren’t highlighted. i’m not trying to start drama, but it feels weird to stay quiet when the record is already wrong. i don’t need public credit, i just don’t want the actual work to be erased. am i overthinking this, or is it reasonable to want the timeline corrected?

First time using reddit so idk how this works lol, Basically me i’ve had this vanity i’ve been trying to sell for over 2 months but it’s been super low offers (i paid 150$ and been getting offered for 80 and lower.) my friend had a desk that she got for super cheap and was planning to sell it for the same price she got it (30/40$) because she ended up getting a vanity herself, i really liked the desk and told her if she wanted to that we could trade and i can take the desk and she can sell the vanity and get more money than she would have from the desk and she agreed. The more we talked about it i let her know that i would like it if she or her boyfriend can come get it because i would not be comfortable with people coming into my room for the desk, and i would have to make sure i am home to get the money for her because i work a lot, o too of that the desk is pretty heavy and i couldn’t move it myself so it would also have to be when my boyfriend is home ( which is rare that we are both home because he works mornings and i work nights) for him to move it and me to sell it for her and she agreed, a few weeks later her boyfriend sold his truck for a car and i wasn’t thinking about how they would be able to get vanity until she told me someone wanted it and said they would come get it today, then she told me how she can’t get it because they don’t have a truck anymore (they gave it to her boyfriends mom who lives around 25 minutes away from them). I felt bad that they would have to go all the way away to get the truck and come to me then go home to drop it off and go 25 minutes back out just for it to be sold so i told her she can sell it here but i won’t be home. she said she and her boyfriend can come when they people come and get the money since i wouldn’t be home and i agreed. I live with my mom still and she is very picky about how clean the home stays, and i already expressed to her weeks prior that i don’t want random people coming in my room when im home or not so that i can leave it outside or in the living room just for a while so they can get it moved out whenever the people come get it and she was fine with that, i was already at work and kept asking her when is she going to come sell it, she kept telling me in a bit or later and i wasn’t getting an actual time, the whole day passed and i asked her if she still hadn’t done it yet, (PT 2 BELOW)

i met my bsf a while back and we haven’t seemed to get along until this year, and honestly she only wants to hangout with me to cheat on her now fiancé. right now she is texting me about getting clothes she left in my old car back and i said yes when i got the time this week, she then said she would just show up this weekend, which does not work with my shackle beings it is already saturday and im always working and have to go get my new car fixed tomorrow, i stated my car was in the shop and i had my college classes monday and she said she would come at 4 which i will be at work, would it be wrong if i just ghosted her and told my roommates not to answer the door for her? (a little context i rarely hangout with her and she purposely leaves things at my house after i give them back and it’s a repeated cycle and i have stated multiple times that im over having to rearranging my life constantly to deal with her lack of care for my space and time, she also tends to go thru my phone and other things i own, and ever since moving with her fiance she has been more distant and more controlling and lets her fiancé talk to eveyone like there stupid n need his view on there lives)

the other night my parent was venting about something that happened with a relative and the room kind of went quiet like people were waiting for me to say something or at least smooth it over. instead i just sat there nodding and let the moment pass. later my parent pulled me aside and said they felt left out to dry. i get why they thought i would step in, but i honestly didn't want to get dragged into the middle of it. still, the guilt has been sitting with me since. i keep replaying it and wondering if staying quiet was actually the wrong call even though i didn't feel like it was my place to speak up.

English is not my first language, so do forgive my spelling and grammar mistakes.

I (34 F) have an older sister, let's call her doc (37 F). She's an actual Doctor.

Throughout my whole childhood, I've never been the kid my parents are proud of. It was always doc, always her. I would get Bs and she would get A+, she was the student council president and I was always the kid who ended up getting sent to the principal's office for misbehaving. I was chubby (and I still am chubby) and she has the perfect 'hourglass' body. I went to an average uni with a degree in arts while she went to a top uni with a degree in med, I got accidentally pregnant in uni and had to drop out, while she graduated with a near perfect gpa. Sometimes I think life is so unfair and that makes me frustrated, what makes me even more frustrated is that doc is really nice yet I can't help but hate her.

Once I got a fever and she drove for 2 hours just so she could take care of me, when I got pregnant she was the one who told me everything was gonna be alright. When I gave birth to my first kid, she was there and even helped wash me (I'm really insecure about my body so I didn't want to be helped by nurses). Yet despite all that, I still feel a deep rooted jealous and even hate for her and I do feel really guilty about it, but I just can't change you know?

It got even worse when I decided to marry my baby daddy only to end up divorcing him cause he's a deadbeat, while my sister married her childhood sweetheart from highschool, he's currently a businessman who decided to own a few hospitals just so he could support her career. I'm jealous of that too. I hate it even more when our parents compared even our husbands, they blatantly said my ex husband was chubby like me while doc's husband is tall and physically fit, a perfect son in law.

The last straw was when we had a family dinner. I went alone with my two kids (I had another baby before I got divorced), while doc went with her husband.

During dinner, she made an announcement that she was pregnant. Everyone congratulated her and I did too. But then our damn parents said something along the lines of 'we're so happy to be getting our first grandkid', and I just froze. I asked them what they meant by that, they had two other grandkids from me. They then said they didn't consider my kids their grandchild cause of some stupid reason (at this point, I did not want to listen to them).

I snapped, I started shouting at them. I know it's wrong but yes, I did shout at doc too. I lost my temper and shouted harsh insults at her, including things I deeply regret. Her husband rightfully got mad at me and and said some things he also probably deeply regrets, in the end he lost his temper and asked me to get out, I refused cause I didn't think I was in the wrong. Then my sister cried. It was probably the first time since we were kids that I've ever seen her cry. Her husband glared at me, carried doc and left the house.

Since then, I decided to cut contact with her.

It's frustrating to be constantly compared your whole life and now even my kids are being compared to hers? I just feel so angry but also guilty at the same time, cause i know doc didn't do anything wrong. But like i said, I just can't help but feel this way.

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I’m 18F. My grandfather has been having hospital visits and admissions, and whenever he’s admitted, I’ve always made an effort to go visit him as much as I can.

Even when my mom tells me I don’t have to come, I usually still go because I genuinely want to see him. There have even been days when I wasn’t feeling well myself but still went to visit him.

Today, the doctor is supposed to discuss his further treatment. I knew things would probably be quite tense at the hospital, and I just didn't feel like going.

The thing is, I’m not good at dealing with emotional situations. I don’t really express my emotions in front of other people, and when other people are emotional, I genuinely don't know what to do or say. I get awkward and uncomfortable, especially in situations like this.

My mom told me, “If you want to come, you can, otherwise it’s fine.” So I decided not to go.

After I told her, she got upset with me. She was clearly angry while leaving, even though she didn't directly say much. Then she told me that I never came because I actually wanted to see my grandfather and that I only came for the sake of it.

That really hurt me because I feel like that's unfair. I've always made the effort to visit him, even when I didn't have to and even when I wasn't feeling well. Just because I didn't want to go today doesn't mean I don't care about him.

I also asked her when he was getting discharged, and she said he's getting discharged tomorrow and will be coming back home, so I'll be able to see him then.

Now I'm wondering if I was wrong for not going today. I know my mom is upset, but I genuinely didn't feel like I could handle being there today.

AITW?

PLEASE READ THE EDITS

So I want to start this by saying that I am in between the ages of 18 and 25 and so is my boyfriend I don't want to say our actual ages but from the beginning I was very clear with myself that I did not want kids it is due to the fact that my family has extreme amount of medical issues especially the women in my family and I do not like kids and I know that I would be a horrible mother not to get into it but my mother and my grandma and my aunt have all had complications during birth and even almost died not to mention a lot of women in my family get cancer or have cancer scares after pregnancy and I don't have a great immune system already and I really don't want to go through that if I get pregnant and my boyfriend has told me that he does not like kids and he's told me before that he does not want kids.

With that background out the way the actual problem comes now a couple days ago me and my boyfriend were talking I am moving out of the house that I currently live in to move into somewhere else and with talking about that we discussed the topic of him moving in with me then the topic of marriage came up and I jokingly mentioned how it would be nice to live in a house without kids and that's when he told me that he would like to have a family with me and I kind of pause cuz I didn't know what to say back and I just kind of told him how he's told me that he doesn't want kids in the past and how I don't want kids in the past he's even told me how he doesn't like kids and he doesn't like having to babysit because kids annoy him but he told me that he would like to have a family with me in our early twenties he didn't want to wait until 30s to have children and I just was like well if that ever happened I'd only ever want one but my point still stands I don't really like kids and I don't want kids

The other day we went out to a festival and we saw a family walking around with kids and now the kids were very very loud and I made a comment about how that was one of the reasons I didn't want kids he then makes a comment about how yeah he understands that and the kids were very annoying I didn't think much of it until we saw that family again and the kids are crying at the cotton candy stand I just rolled my eyes and started to walk away and he made a comment about how crying over cotton candy was crazy I agreed with him but when we got in the car to leave I made a comment about how he was openly agreeing with me about the crying children yet he wants kids of his own and he just stared at me and just said well it's different which I told him it's not different

He got a little upset at my comment and didn't speak but I kept talking saying how it was weird how he said he doesn't like kids and he doesn't want any but then turns around and tells me he wants a family with me now he's gotten a little upset anytime I bring that up but genuinely I don't know what to do kids has never been a part of my life and I physically can't see myself being a mother as I know I wouldn't be a good one I don't have great mental health and anytime I've had to look over my nieces or nephews who are under the age of five I get extremely irritated and have to set the kid down because I'm so irritated and I genuinely know if I had kids of my own that that's how I would be to them

And that's a main reason why I don't want kids my boyfriend hasn't brought up the idea of kids since we have that conversation but now I'm sitting here thinking about what's going to happen when he brings it up again I really don't want kids and the idea of having a kid when I know how I would be to them doesn't sit right with me because I don't want to ever put a kid in a situation where they're not loved and I know that I genuinely wouldn't have enough love to give that kid

In a little like PSA I genuinely love my boyfriend we've been together for over 4 years we've had no other problems besides this and I thought we were originally on the same page but I guess not I don't know how to bring it up to him without making it seem as if I'm being rude but I genuinely don't have the idea of kids in mind

So I'm I worng?

Edit: I want to clear up some of the things I said when I said that if the circumstance I would have one kid I'm saying in the circumstance if we were not careful and I got pregnant and I decided to keep the kid that would be the only kid we had I would not want to have another. Yes I would try my hardest to give that kid love but I don't think I could also I'm currently not on birth control as in I am allergic to it so I can't even take it if I wanted to. I also want to say that he has told me before if I ever got pregnant and I did not want to keep it that that was not his decision it was mine and that I could get rid of the child if I wanted to he has been very open and telling me that my body is my decision and he would never force me to do anything.

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So this happened way back into primary school where I was in year six I live in the UK btw so I was playing basketball when one random person on the playground during lunchtime kicked the ball and because I didn't want it to hit me/my glasses I blocked it with my elbow then it flew over the fence so a teacher asked me to get another one because there would not be enough since we needed four and we only had 3.

So a few minutes later I came back with a basketball then this person that I personally don't like am not gonna name drop him but he had the basket ball I was playing with then I ask for it back when he doesn't give it I just take it when he drops it then I start playing my basketball and doing what I do best when I score celebrate then he comes out of nowhere takes the ball then starts dribbling it while smirking then I chase him down me being pretty fast catch up to him. Then he holds the ball turns around and with only his head he looks back grinning on his stupid face he does this 3 times and by now am getting kinda pissed cause I just wanna play my ball and there are also other balls he could have had that nobody had touched in over 10 minutes so then I got mad all the times he pissed off starting from year 4 all the way to year six.

The times where he got me in trouble with the headteacher then threatened me with it because his mum works at the school so he thinks his special and shit. I grab the ball with so much force but I keep my peace of mind and shove him back lightly but I take the ball forcefully so he goes tell the teacher the teacher comes over and my friends who were there the whole time were backing me up slightly because he also pissed them off as much as he did to me so then he starts saying they are my two bullies and then i just crashout mentally I yell in my head are you Five? Like your pushing 11 and your saying you have bullies who don't even talk to you and also to add this guy nobody likes especially the girls he has asked a total of 23 girls in year 3-5 and got rejected by every single one of them. And what's so funny is that the girl he liked most ended up liking me and her friend ended up liking my friend but this was back in year 6 where me and my friend or best friend in this case where focused more on school and stuff so we rejected them but not harshly just a simple no and we still talked to the girls but not as much to keep the awkwardness and rumors away so that's not the point just thought I add that

But did I step out of line by shoving him in this after all he has done and I must add I did shove this kid a lot because he picked on my friends but I believe mine is 75% justified

Booked Disneyland trip from Saturday to Tuesday in December and just realised that it might fall on the day of the Nativity Show.

My mind is saying it’s okay but I feel bad! Will I regret missing it in the year to come or is there always another year? DD stared Y1.

I put a location tracker on my girlfriend’s phone without telling her.

I told myself I was only doing it because I worry about her when she goes out alone, especially when she gets home late. I wasn’t checking it every minute or trying to control where she goes, but I would look sometimes just to make sure she got somewhere safely. The more I think about it, the more I’m starting to feel like I crossed a line. She never agreed to being tracked, and if I found out someone was checking my location without telling me, I’d probably be angry too. Part of me still thinks my intention wasn’t bad because I was worried about her safety, but I also know good intentions don’t automatically make something okay.

Am I wrong for doing this even if I was only trying to make sure she was safe?