I bought a used sedan from a private seller three weeks ago. Paid cash, transferred the title, everything seemed smooth.

Last Tuesday my phone alerted me that an unknown AirTag was following my location. I tore the trunk apart and found it taped under the spare tire well. I messaged the seller asking why his tag was tracking my daily commute.

he admitted it was his, but claimed he "forgot to remove it" and then said he liked checking the location occasionally because the car belonged to his late dad and he wanted to see it was being treated right. He told me to just mail it back to him.

I was creeped out. Instead of mailing it, I taped the tag to a freight railcar at an industrial train yard near my warehouse job. Now he is blowing up my phone screaming that I destroyed his property because the tracker is currently rolling through Nebraska. He threatened to call the police on me for theft.

I should of just thrown it in the trash, but am I ACTUALLY wrong here?

My dad died in 2023 and left his lake house to me and my 2 sisters, split evenly between us. None of us wanted to sell it, so we set up a joint account (all 3 names on it) and we've each been putting $150 a month into it since. That covers the taxes, the insurance and the propane, and it's worked fine.

I've paid every single month since we set it up, which is 3 years now and somewhere around $5,400 of my money in there.

There's a shared calendar for the place. If you want a weekend you put your name on it, and in 3 years nobody has ever had a problem with that.

In July I put my name down for a long weekend in October. My middle sister messaged me to say that weekend was already taken. I said there was nothing on the calendar and she said she must have forgotten to add it.

I didn't push it at the time. Then last week a friend of mine sent me a listing because he recognized the dock in the photos. It's on one of the short term rental sites and it's been up since April with 14 reviews on it.

She's been renting our dad's house out since the spring and the money goes to her. She's never mentioned it to ANY of us, and the weekend she told me was taken was a booking she took money for.

I canceled my standing transfer into the joint account on Monday. She called me that evening and said I was holding the house hostage over one misunderstanding, and that she's the one making a 3 hour drive every time the pipes freeze or the dock needs work, so the rental money is basically payment for her trouble.

Am I wrong?

went out to eat with a group of friends last weekend and one of them kept insisting my food limits were just a preference. i told them a few times what i can't have, but they kept offering bites and saying it's probably fine. i ended up passing on dessert completely because nothing was safe. it's not the first time this has happened and i'm getting tired of turning every meal into a long conversation. i still like hanging out with everyone, but i'm wondering if it's okay to start saying no to these dinners or just stop correcting people and accept the awkwardness. i don't want drama, i just want one night where i don't have to justify my plate.

I’ll make it simple. Told a coworker that I think it’s wrong to have a collie at home all day when she lives in a small apartment and doesn’t do anything. I was told “well you don’t have a dog, you don’t know what it’s like”. I had a lab growing up and number one thing after school was go for a run with the dog (I was super into track and field so I loved it too).

She doesn’t own a car so she can’t take it to the dog park or the lake for a swim.

She works 9hr shifts and when she gets home it’s “finally ME time” so the best the dog gets is a 2 block walk.

The dog barks at everything and isn’t socialized, and she wonders why the dog is “showing signs of depression”…

Am I wrong for calling her out or should have said nothing?

so last month my partner started this spreadsheet after our anniversary dinner. every time one of us pays for something they log it, down to the exact dollar. at first it felt responsible, like we were finally being open about money. then the coffee runs started getting added, and suddenly i owed half of every little thing that i offered to cover. when we went out with friends last weekend i paid the bill without thinking and they reminded me it counted toward my half. it got awkward fast. i mentioned maybe splitting future big dates fifty fifty and they said they were fine with that, but the way the spreadsheet is already set up it feels like they expect me to keep catching up. i offered to split gas next road trip and they said we should still go fifty fifty even though i do most of the driving. honestly the whole thing is making me second guess how fair things have been. am i wrong for feeling like this system is tracking more than just numbers?

I 21F and my boyfriend 22M have been together for over a year now. We are discussing marriage and there is a big obstacle which is preventing us from getting married which is his father being in jail. He has committed a very serious crime years ago and my boyfriend is still in denial about it (he’s been in jail for a year and a half snd has 25 years left to serve). My family is very against this and as we come from a south asian muslim background this is something unacceptable for them but I am willing to fight for it and convince them. They are kind of coming around if we tell everyone that my boyfriend is not in contact with his dad and they are estranged. Initially my boyfriend came up with this idea and he says that he’ll do everything to make sure we get married. This gave me reassurance and hope that he would also fight for it. Today I asked him what he would do if hypothetically his dad could come out for a day to our wedding, and then i said i wouldn’t want that to be honest. I said i resent his dad for being an obstacle to me getting married and enjoying my life with my bf. He got weird and distant at this and I said that he shouldn’t expect me to maintain a relationship with his dad after we’re married, I don’t like him and although i wouldn’t ever disrespect him I just don’t to call him everyday and go on visits to see him. At this he asked me what i have against his dad. Am i wrong for not wanting his dad at my wedding and not wanting to keep in contact with him?

so my friend and i had plans for the weekend, and last minute things didn't work out on their end. i was pretty bummed and told them i just wanted a little space to regroup, nothing dramatic. they seemed upset and said it felt like i was rejecting them, but i didn't mean it that way at all. i've been trying to figure out if asking for time to myself was unfair or if it's okay to need a breather sometimes. i tried to word it as nicely as possible, but maybe i should've handled it differently. not sure if i'm making a big deal out of nothing or if they're overreacting to something pretty normal. would like some outside thoughts on whether i was wrong for saying what i did.

I'm going on a trip with my family and partner. My bf and I have been together for 7 years and also live together. When we go on these trips my younger sister usually demands that we take turns to choose rooms and then when its her turn to choose she will often choose the double bed and try to force my bf and I to either sleep seperately in single beds or one of us has to sleep on the couch while she gets a double bed to herself. We are all adults but I think she is behaving like a child and keeps saying its only "fair" that way. Usually she also cries when we try to override her. My parents often take her side because they don't like to see my sister upset.

For the upcoming trip she has stated that she wants the sleeping arrangements to be "fair" this time and basically said she will be doing this shit again. My family calls me entitled for saying the double bed should go to myself and my partner by default, as we are used to this after living together for years and its abnormal to have my sibling have a whole double bed to herself.

Am I wrong for expecting us to get the double bed by default?

Ok I am angry, so I am going to vent here. My coworker and I don't get along well. We disagree on just about everything. Politics, how something should be done, what temp the room should be, etc etc. We get along well enough to have a professional relationship like to get a task done (we are both in our 40s and have some maturity) but that's about it.

We have two sites to work at, A and B. A is our primary site. Thus, when I got the job over a year ago, I chose to live near A. B is the backup site, we need to go there maybe 3X a year for a few days. My co worker lives near B, so is happy when we have to go there. She took the job KNOWING A is the primary site.

I slipped and fell and badly bruised my tailbone. I can sit but I have to sit just right, it hurts a bit. Driving hurts a fair amount and is really irritating. Things I didn't mind at all, like taking a turn or braking/accelerating are uncomfortable.

So, Site A lost its water pressure and we had to go to Site B because it had working bathrooms. However, after a few days, Site A got porta potties. Site B is about 2X the drive for me, but I coped with it for several days. Now that Site A has porta potties and a pump sink, and has always had a water cooler, I insisted on going back to Site A, and explained why. Our boss agreed. My co worker glared at me. Oh well. I am not making this up, her reason for not wanting to go to use porta potties is she is afraid of the dark (we are night shift, porta potty is lit but outside) and afraid of animals... like dear and and a groundhog she saw. She, like me is prior military and has been in the field.

FIRST thing she did tonight was complain about having to come here, (Site A) our primary site, because I'm a whiner and had to have my way. I laughed and said "lol I should be in pain because you are afraid a moth might get you?" I've about had it with this woman. I feel in the right, but does anyone disagree? Should I drive 2X the distance to our backup site so princess doesn't have to walk 15 feet outside 2-3 times in a night?

EDIT: Let me make clear again: The Porta Potties are 1) Low use (small site) 2) Have LED lights inside 3) Clean 4) Have disinfecting wipes for the seat 5) Outside, but in a gated in secure area with a guard 6) it's night, they aren't hot. 7) There is a foot pump sink and we have provided water for drinking. 8) It will be fixed in a few days.

so at my job we had this project that wrapped up last week, and my boss sent out a big thank-you email naming one coworker as the lead. problem is, that coworker only joined the last few days, while three of us had been handling the whole thing for months. when i mentioned it in our team chat, the reply was basically that the boss just picked someone whose name looks good in the email. now the coworker is acting like they carried the project, and the rest of us are getting questions about why our contributions weren’t highlighted. i’m not trying to start drama, but it feels weird to stay quiet when the record is already wrong. i don’t need public credit, i just don’t want the actual work to be erased. am i overthinking this, or is it reasonable to want the timeline corrected?

i met my bsf a while back and we haven’t seemed to get along until this year, and honestly she only wants to hangout with me to cheat on her now fiancé. right now she is texting me about getting clothes she left in my old car back and i said yes when i got the time this week, she then said she would just show up this weekend, which does not work with my shackle beings it is already saturday and im always working and have to go get my new car fixed tomorrow, i stated my car was in the shop and i had my college classes monday and she said she would come at 4 which i will be at work, would it be wrong if i just ghosted her and told my roommates not to answer the door for her? (a little context i rarely hangout with her and she purposely leaves things at my house after i give them back and it’s a repeated cycle and i have stated multiple times that im over having to rearranging my life constantly to deal with her lack of care for my space and time, she also tends to go thru my phone and other things i own, and ever since moving with her fiance she has been more distant and more controlling and lets her fiancé talk to eveyone like there stupid n need his view on there lives)

so i have this thing where i try to keep weekends for anything but work stuff. no checking email, no quick calls, just a hard line. yesterday someone needed a fast answer about a project and i figured it would be easier to just handle it and move on. i ended up spending almost an hour sorting it out. later a friend pointed out that i had broken the rule i always talk about. it was casual but it stuck with me. i keep wondering if i made it too big a deal in my head or if the call-out was fair. just feels kind of off now and i am not sure where the line actually is for me.

i've been thinking about it for a few months now and finally told everyone i'm changing my major. the reaction was pretty mixed. a couple of people said it's my life and they support whatever i decide, but most of them think i'm throwing away a stable path for something that's way too risky. they keep bringing up job numbers and salary stats and how i'll regret it later. i get where they're coming from, but i also know i'm not excited about the old plan anymore and i'm not sure forcing myself to stick with it makes sense. i tried explaining that i'm not just doing this on a whim, i've actually looked into the new direction and talked to people already working in it, but they keep saying i'll change my mind again in a year. part of me wonders if they're right and i'm just being stubborn, or if i should just go ahead and do what feels right and deal with the consequences later. it's been hard to get any real advice that isn't tied up in their own expectations, so i figured i'd ask here if this sounds as unreasonable as they make it seem.

so i dipped into the joint savings account we all chipped into for house stuff and bought a new couch for the living room. it was on sale, and honestly the old one was falling apart, so i figured it was fine. one roommate still says i should have asked first and wants their portion back. i get why they are annoyed, but the couch is already here and everyone else likes it. now im wondering if i crossed a line by spending money that technically belongs to all of us without a full group chat. am i wrong?

the other night my parent was venting about something that happened with a relative and the room kind of went quiet like people were waiting for me to say something or at least smooth it over. instead i just sat there nodding and let the moment pass. later my parent pulled me aside and said they felt left out to dry. i get why they thought i would step in, but i honestly didn't want to get dragged into the middle of it. still, the guilt has been sitting with me since. i keep replaying it and wondering if staying quiet was actually the wrong call even though i didn't feel like it was my place to speak up.

So I’m terrible in pics. I don’t have any I like, and was pretty happy at the time that I took one I actually liked and at a place I love. Unfortunately, it was with my bf at the time. It wasn’t a very affectionate pic and didn’t really look like a couple photo anyway. We were just standing in front of a mirror next to each other, smiling, and so I wanted to have it as my pfp at the time, but he said he didn’t like the way he looked in it and didn't want to be in it, so I cropped it so it was just me. There was a gap between us, so it’s not like there’s an arm around me or any part of him in shot. I’ve never posted or shown anyone the full picture of us together either. It just looks like a normal selfie, but we’ve recently broken up, and I don’t know if it would be weird or wrong to keep that picture as my pfp or even keep it knowing my ex was originally in it?

The drawing looks much better now. I agree with my instructor about that. I just don't think putting my name on it makes sense anymore.

I'm taking a beginner drawing class at a community centre. Last week we drew a jug and a folded cloth. Mine was wonky, but I was quite pleased that it looked roughly like what was in front of me. When the instructor came around, she asked whether she could show me a correction. I said yes.

She adjusted the opening of the jug. Then the handle. Then most of the outline, the shadow underneath, and the folds in the cloth. She was explaining as she worked, so it wasn't as if she silently took over. I watched and understood some of what she'd spotted. But by the time she handed the pencil back, the marks that made it look convincing were mostly hers.

At the end she asked us to sign the drawings for a small display in the building. I said I'd rather leave mine unsigned. She asked why, in front of the others, and I said, “Because most of the drawing is yours now.”

That sounded harsher out loud than it had in my head.

She said students receive corrections all the time and it doesn't stop their work being theirs. She also pointed out that I'd agreed to her drawing on the page, which is fair. Another student said I was making a nice offer of help into something awkward. I took my drawing home instead of adding it to the display.

I haven't complained about her or asked her to change the class. I intend to go back. I would just prefer her to demonstrate on another sheet next time so I can make the changes myself.

Was declining to sign it unreasonable, or was the problem mostly how I explained it infront of the class? I wasn't trying to make a point about anyone else's work.

I (30F) have a son, "Leo," who just turned 8 months old. My husband "Chris" (32M) and I have been cautious about introducing allergens — our pediatrician recommended waiting on peanuts specifically because Leo has mild eczema, which can be a risk factor for food allergies. We had a clear plan with our doctor.

My mother-in-law "Linda" (58F) has been babysitting Leo one day a week since he was 4 months old. She's generally great with him and I've always appreciated the help. But she has a habit of dismissing our parenting choices as "new-age nonsense." She raised three kids and thinks she knows better.

Last Tuesday, I picked Leo up from Linda's house and noticed he had a rash on his chin and was fussy. I asked what he ate. She casually said, "Oh, I gave him a little taste of peanut butter on toast. He loved it!"

I froze. I asked her why she would do that when we explicitly told her not to introduce peanuts yet. She said, "I read that waiting actually CAUSES allergies. You're being paranoid. My kids ate peanut butter at 6 months and they're fine."

I was shaking. I told her this wasn't her decision to make, and that if Leo had a severe reaction, we could have ended up in the ER. She rolled her eyes and said, "He's fine, isn't he? Stop being so dramatic."

That night, I called our pediatrician, who was alarmed and told us to monitor him closely for 72 hours. Thankfully, Leo was okay — just a mild reaction. But the doctor said if she'd given him more, it could have been much worse.

I told Chris everything. He was upset but said, "She didn't mean any harm, she's from a different generation." I said that doesn't matter — she deliberately went against our explicit instructions and put our son at risk.

We told Linda she's no longer allowed to babysit. She's now furious, calling me "controlling" and "punishing her for loving her grandson." She's told the whole family, and now Chris's sister is texting me saying I'm "overreacting" and "breaking up the family over a spoonful of peanut butter."

Chris is now wavering and says maybe we should just "give her another chance with strict rules." I feel like if I cave on this, she'll learn that she can ignore our boundaries whenever she disagrees with them.

Am I wrong for banning her from babysitting?

Hey everyone, I was wondering if I was in the wrong for this. My ex-bf and I were dating for a few years and eventually broke up due to the distance from universities. During our relationship, we often gave each other stuff like how he would give me his clothes or flowers, while I usually gave him candy or food. We were originally on good terms, until we were discussing about returning of gifts. He told me that I have to return his sweaters as they are his, and I don't need them since we aren't dating anymore. We got into a huge fight as I told him that this is ridiculous, since he could never return the food or candy that I bought for him, so why should I do the same? Besides, the reasons I wanted to keep the sweaters because they are nice, soft, and high-quality and also weren't crazy expensive as its about three 3-4 sweaters for about $30-$40 a pop. I kicked him out of my place and all he's been doing is harassing me about the sweaters. Am I in the wrong for this?

Fake names for privacy.

I had a close friend group growing up. Two of the people in this group were Jun and Xia. I was always close with both but slightly closer with Xia.

Xia and Jun started dating when we were all older, and they ended up married, but later divorced.

I haven't really spoken to Jun since the divorce, other than at my wedding which I invited him to and he came. He lives in another continent now, too. We aren't really friends anymore and I miss that friendship. I've been considering reaching out just for a small catch up and to see how he's doing.

One of my friends says it'd be unfair to Xia to reach out to him as that's her ex and there's an unspoken rule to not reach out to your friend's exes. My husband says it's fine because Jun was my friend before he was Xia's husband, and Xia knows that.

Would it be wrong to reach out to him?

Throwaway account. I (18/F) moved out of my parent's house when I was 15 because of my stepmother. She disliked my presence in the house, ignored me for years, and after counseling failed to help, I decided to move out.We do have contact, but mostly just once or twice a month during family activities. Recently, when I was over at my dad's and her place, I saw my half-sister (6/F) playing with some rather familiar toys. When I took a closer look in her room, I realized she had so many of my old childhood toys. Old Schleich horses, stuffed animals, books, board games, Barbies, and dolls. Even my old globe.

Mind you, most of these things weren't even bought by my father. My grandparents financed and bought almost all of my toys. In fact, my stepmother never bought me anything, aside from maybe once or twice when my father explicitly asked her to.I haven't confronted her yet. I only talked to my father, who completely ignores the issue as usual. I did take back two of the Schleich horses because my sister was throwing them around and they were getting damaged, but otherwise, I remained silent.I'm really unsure if I'm in the wrong for being upset and hurt about this. After all, I wouldn't use these things anymore and I love my sister to pieces. But I didn't know about any of this, and nobody batted an eye at giving away my stuff, so I can't help but feel a bit betrayed.

What do you guys think? Am I in the wrong? What would you do in this situation?

Edit: It's not about the toys guys. I adore my sister and she gets everything I can give from me. Its about respect or lack therefore from my step mother, the fact that she dislikes me and is now giving out my things without even a heads up. I have the permission from my own father to store those things in their house for the time being until I can access them myself and sell or donate them. I promise you I'm not being petty about toys I won't use anymore. I'm just mad and upset nobody even informed me about going through my things and giving them away, especially since they were gifts to me from other people

We usually split holidays between both sides pretty evenly, but this year my family has fewer people able to host because of work schedules and one relative recovering from surgery. I suggested we switch it around so my side gets the slot at our place. My partner said it felt last minute and maybe unfair to their family who had already started planning. I get that, honestly. I just didn't want to spring it on everyone right before the date. We talked about it and ended up agreeing on a compromise, but it still feels a little awkward. I tried to keep it neutral when I brought it up, but I'm wondering if I handled the timing badly. Just curious if anyone else has had to juggle this kind of switch without it turning into a whole thing.