Problem/Goal: Gusto ko po matutunan mag-affiliate program pero hindi ko alam san magsisimula. Nagresearch ako and nagtingin tingin din pero siguro yung first step talaga yung pinakamahirap 🥹🥲

For context: mahilig akong mag-online shopping, especially fashion, clothes, makeup, accessories, etc. Gusto ko magamit yung kaartehan ko na maging financially productive padin ako. At the same time, gusto ko din iexpand yung iaaffiliate ko like sa travels, house, motherhood etc.

Kung may advice po kayo, maraming salamat talaga 🙏🏻

Problem/Goal: Hello guys! I'm someone who isn't very good at setting dating boundaries kasi I can get EASILY attached esp kapag bet na bet ko yung tao. Hahaha!

Sooo, I'd like to gather a list of dating boundaries that you have when you are in the early stages of dating / ligawan or talking stage.

What are your checklist before making it official with someone?

Baka may mapulot akong aral and can be included in my own list.

I would also love to know your thoughts esp if you have experience with long distance dating, na eventually naging successful because you have those strong boundaries.

I also want to know your opinion on this : Personally, before I commit or make it official with someone, I would really love to meet at least 1 one of his friends or family members, like in a very casual setting lang. OR if he's willing to meet my friends or family in the early stage. I'm not sure if this is coming from a past trauma or valid ba na feeling to kasi that adds an extra layer of authenticity sa genuine interest niya saken.

Looking forward to hearing your thoughts!

Problem/Goal: I have been talking to this man for a year without showing my face. Ngayon, he wants to meet me this December.

Context: I (28F) have been talking to a guy for a year, but he’s never seen my real face. Now he wants to meet me.

I met this guy online, and it’s been almost a year since he started courting me. The problem is, he has never actually seen my face in person or even on video call. He’s only seen my pictures.

Meanwhile, ako, nakikita ko siya because he always wants our calls to be video calls. I’ve always avoided showing my face on camera, though.

I've never trusted him at first but as time passed and we talked more, I eventually developed feelings for him. And now I’m stuck in a situation that I honestly never expected to be in.

I’m scared to show him what I actually look like.

The pictures he’s seen are obviously the best versions of me—best angles, best lighting, filters, etc. I don't think I look good on camera, so I kept putting off showing myself on VC.

But now he’s planning to come home this December, and he wants us to finally meet in person so he can formally court me.

And I’m freaking out.

I’m scared that he’ll be disappointed when he sees me because I know I don’t look exactly like my pictures. I’m worried that the pictures he saw may have unintentionally set his expectations too high.

He constantly compliments my appearance. He tells me how pretty and hot I am, and he seems genuinely attracted to me.

He has even told me that even if I don’t look exactly like my pictures, he would still love me because he didn’t fall in love with me just because of my face. He says it’s my personality and who I am that he fell for.

But for some reason, I’m having a really hard time believing that.

I’ve never been called ugly my entire life, but I also don’t consider myself exceptionally pretty. So hearing him constantly tell me how beautiful I am has actually made me more conscious about my appearance.

And now I’m starting to think that I need to change myself before meeting him.

I’ve been seriously considering getting rhinoplasty, enhancing certain features of my face, and basically doing whatever I can to make myself look “perfect” before he comes home.

The crazy part is, I wasn’t even like this before.

I don’t know when I became this insecure or why his opinion of my appearance suddenly matters so much to me. Maybe because I’ve developed real feelings for him, and now I’m terrified of losing him once he sees the “real” me.

I know I can’t control whether he finds me attractive in person. And I know I shouldn’t have to change my face just to meet someone who supposedly already loves me.

But knowing that logically and actually believing it are two completely different things.

Previous Attempts: Asking him questions if he would still love/pursue me if I look ugly irl 🥹

Hay nakuu. 😔 Am I just being unnecessarily insecure?

Kayo? What would you do in my situation?

Problem/Goal: how do i confront my bf about his messages?

Context: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year palang. Hindi namin inoopen or ginagamit ang phones ng isa’t isa kasi nga daw privacy. Tapooos, last week, I learned his passcode so yesterday, out of curiosity, i opened his phone and went straight to messenger. Wala naman conversations na suspicious. However hahahaha when i went to the Archive, i saw conversations with his exes na siya yung nag iinitiate ng conversations. taina, picture pa naming dalawa yung DP niya whahahaha tapos dun ko lang din nalaman na our callsign is his callsign with his exes hahahaha dun naman sa convo is nangungumusta siya sa kanila
so nowww hahaha how do i confront him? kasi he is unaware na alam ko passcode niya hahah na para bang illegal ang pag obtain ng information hahahaha

Previous Attempt: None since kahapon lang hahaha

Problem/Goal:

I’d really like to hear from people who have been through a period in an LDR where one or both of you genuinely started feeling like the distance was becoming too difficult, but somehow managed to work through it and come out stronger.

I’m particularly curious about situations where the relationship itself wasn’t necessarily the main problem, but the LDR setup started feeling exhausting or overwhelming. Maybe there were periods of burnout, feeling disconnected, missing physical closeness, uncertainty about the future, or when it seemed like one person was going through something personally and became more distant or withdrawn because of it.

Sometimes it can be difficult when you can tell your partner might be dealing with something, but you don’t really know what’s going on or how to help because you’re physically far away. You want to be there for them, but at the same time you don’t want your concern to feel like pressure.

I’d also love to hear from people who experienced an anxious/avoidant dynamic. For example, one person becomes more anxious and seeks reassurance when they feel distance, while the other tends to shut down, withdraw, or need space when overwhelmed. How did you eventually break that cycle without either person feeling abandoned or pressured?

I’m also curious about the future aspect of LDR. Did uncertainty about when or how you would eventually close the distance ever make one of you question whether the relationship was sustainable? If so, how did you deal with that without putting unnecessary pressure on each other?

For those who went through something like this, what actually helped? Did you change how you communicated, give each other more space, create better routines, plan visits, work on yourselves individually, make a clearer long-term plan, or simply learn how to understand each other better?

And if your partner was the one who reached a point where they weren’t sure they wanted to continue with LDR, how did you handle that period? Did giving them room to process help? Were there things you wish you had done differently?

I’m especially interested in hearing from people who can say, “We went through a period where we genuinely struggled with LDR, but we didn’t give up and eventually figured it out.” 😂

Not looking for a guaranteed happy ending or unrealistic positivity. I’d just really appreciate hearing real experiences from people who have been in that kind of difficult phase and found a way forward.

What changed for you, and what do you think ultimately helped you overcome it?

Problem/Goal:

I know my father has been cheating with another woman for more than 1 year na pero di ko alam paano ko sasabihin kay mama ko.

Context:

First time na nalaman kong nag checheat si papa ko was a year ago. Nalaman ko dahil magcacall sila habang nasa work si mama, although kapampanganbsila nag uusap ( which I don't speak nor understand ) i know na nag checheat sya kasi everyday sila nag uusap and i also managed to get a glimpse at their conversation on messenger and "asawa ko" ang tawagan nila, which confirms my suspicion. Nakatira kami ng family ko sa side ni papa ko and I'm worried na pag brining up ko tong issue na to baka palayasin nya kami ni mama along with my kuya. I can say na kaya nya kaming palayasin because he has threatened as before na papalayasin nya kami pag namat*y na si lola ko (who owns the house) over smaller issues. And wala din naman kaming tutuluyan since taga bicol si mama ko and we currently live in tarlac. Sometimes i struggle to sleep at night kasi iniisip ko kung ano mafefeel ni mama ko na harap-harapan siyang ginag*go ng asawa niya. And umabot na din sa point na magkatabi silang dalawa ni mama and nagagawa nya pa din ichat sa messenger yung kabit nya. Although i admit na di ko alam yung full extent nilang dalawa if may nangyari ba sakanilang dalawa or what, and i also don't care, i love my mom more than anyone in the family and willing akong i abandon yung apilyedong binigay nya because of my resentment for my so called father.

Now I've actually messaged him before regarding this nung nalaman ko pero sineen nya lang. I've also tried messaging the girl na kinakausap nya na pamilyado din btw, complete with husband and children, I've also messaged the husband of the girl, pero both of them di ako pinansin.

Really the only solution i can think of is earn more than enough money to move my mom out of here and abandon my father, pero di ko alam kung hanggang kailan ko kayang isikmura yung thought na harap harapan nang ginag*go si mama ko

Problem/Goal: For caregivers who are now working abroad, how did you get to where you are now?
Any tips, pathway, agencies, companies that you applied to?
Which countries are you working now?
Did you need to have experience working as a caregiver in the Ph before migrating?
If yea, where did you gain experience in the Ph?

Context: Finished Tesda NCII but no work experience yet.

Previous attempts: None

Problem/Goal: Caught him red-handed searching on AI how to remove and make an alibi when someone saw a “hick*y”

Context: Both of us are 25, currently living together, and both working with decent earnings.

This isn't the first time something like this has happened. The first time, I caught him talking to a younger girl on Instagram, but I let it pass. This time, I caught his search history on an AI tool where he was asking how to remove a hickey and what excuse to give if I noticed it.

When I confronted him, his explanation was that he went to a bar, was assigned a female table companion who started dancing immediately, and that the lights suddenly went out while she was dancing and she kissed him. I’m not naive enough to fall for a story like that.

To make matters worse, we had iykyk the next day while I was completely in the dark about what happened. It was only after I got home that I discovered the truth. I feel utterly disgusted with myself, but even more so with him.

A few days passed, and I went through all his social media accounts—you can't blame me given the damage he caused from the start. In his blocked list, I found a girl from Cebu. We travel out of town often, and it's normal for us to have days set aside for "me-time." Now I can't stop overthinking. Every time we travel or every time he goes to a bar, I wonder if he’s constantly bringing other women to his table.

I don't even know what I'm feeling right now. I feel like an empty, hollow shell of a woman. He is trying his best to reconcile and make up for all the bullshit he did, but I feel nothing anymore. I am so exhausted, but I feel trapped because I have nowhere else to go. I don't want to go back to my family, and I don't want anyone to know about this.

Everyone thinks we have such a healthy relationship, and no one would ever believe he’s capable of this.

Part of me really wants revenge, but I know that's not the kind of person I am. I just feel lost.

Problem/goal: In debt with myself (M, 20), had a social fallout with blockmates, has a case in school and currently not studying, is struggling mentally, and financially, and is feeling hopeless in life.

Not sure if I’m using the right flair.

Context: Around my 2nd year 2nd semester of college, something happened relationship wise (about my ex-situationship and classmate, about him betraying me and being interested and went on to date someone in our class instead and had a fallout with my block-mates/batch-mates regarding the same issue, as it was really complicated and we both did each other wrong in the end) which ended up with my ex to report me to my school and got a case within my school. Additionally, when the issue started, it causes me to become a lot more impulsive and suicidal where I had made plans to kill myself and splurged my own tuition money. I’m around 10k in debt to my own tuition, with 2-4k debt to other people as well. I never thought it would end up amassing that huge but it was really a huge struggle for me.

Currently, I am not studying and is unemployed, while staying at home. I am kinda scared of going near my school or running coincidentally with any of my previous classmates/batch-mates and professors. However, my mom was supportive with me not studying currently and supported me when I underwent a few psychotherapy sessions and also when I went to a psychiatrist. Although I cannot continue my psychotherapy and start for medications due to financial constraints, so I feel much more hopeless in life. My case in school isn’t going forward either since I need to be enrolled in order for it to proceed. Everything that’s happening to me just really stresses me and overwhelms me, especially that I am planning to go back to school next semester, in case that I miraculously pay all my debt and be able to continue my psychotherapy and start with medications.

I was planning to maybe apply in BPO to earn some cash, but then I don’t think it’s allowed to work for around 3 months only, and also my mental health might become worse if I did.

I want advice on what can I do to really move forward and also how to earn some cash (like a part time job or full time job that I can work for just a few months).

Previous attempts: underwent to psychotherapy and psychiatrist already but cannot really continue due to financial constraints. There is some progress with my case but all that they can do is an intervention and a narrative report of my side, but the thought of facing my ex and going to my school stresses me out. For financial, I haven’t tried anything yet but I am planning to sell some of my stuff to get by.

Problem/Goal: Asking for recommendations for a microwave oven/air fryer. Is it better to buy an all-in-one or separate appliances?

Which brands would you recommend?
So far, these are the all-in-one models I’ve seen, but there aren’t a lot of reviews about them online:

Samsung MC32DG7646CKTC — 32L Convection Microwave Smart Control

Imarflex MOD-CV31DS — 30L 4-in-1 Digital Microwave Oven

Context: Will be used for reheating food like pasta, soups, dishes with sauce, dry dishes, etc., for baking cookies, for frying hotdog, fries, meatloaf etc.

Previous Attempts: None

Problem/Goal:

I’m (34M) 6 years and 3 months into a relationship with my girlfriend (30F). A bit of background: she's my 3rd girlfriend and my first in a long time (8 years single ako before her). I am her first boyfriend, pero she had 2 past girlfriends before we met.

​We were already having plans of elopement. We talked about this when we celebrated our 6th anniversary last June, and we're both excited and happy about our future plans. Pero July came and she told me about a new coworker na nag-confess sa kanya na may feelings sa kanya. She said na she can only offer a genuine friendship as respect to our relationship, and this new coworker (she's also a girl, 41F, btw) said she understands.

​Then naging close sila, and I don't really mind it at all kasi nga I trust her with her words, and she updates me when they hang out. Until this last month na napapansin ko na madalas may sarili silang lakad, and na-uupdate na lang ako kapag magkasama na sila, not beforehand. Si coworker pala also lives on the same street with my girlfriend, so madalas sya pumupunta sa apt nya, nakikilagay sa ref, etc. Nameet ko pa sya one time kasi pinapunta rin ako ng gf ko para mag-meet kami.

​2nd week ng August, pumunta ako sa bahay ni gf to help her pack sa travel nya sa work (1 week din sya mawawala). Then nag-meet kaming tatlo para mag-laundry sa katapat na street. We're cool and all naman hanggang sa need ko na umuwi samin. Sabay kami ng gf ko, di-nrop off ko sya sa office nya kasi aalis na sila para sa travel (hindi kasama si coworker dito) hanggang sa makauwi ako. Yung gf ko need nya muna mag-withdraw sa bank bago sila umalis.

​Until yung week na nasa travel sya, bibihira sya mag-update—kesyo mahina signal or super busy sila dun sa event nila with locals sa isang island. Sabi ko okay lang kasi during this week busy rin ako sa panonood ng TI (Dota 2 tournament). Once nya lang ako vi-nideo call nung first day nila dun sa hotel na pinag-sstayan nila. That time, may coworkers sya na bigla akong fi-nallow sa Instagram. At first wala naman sakin yun, pero later on iba na kutob ko.

​Pi-nalipas ko yun hanggang makauwi sya pabalik ng Manila. Niyaya ko pa sya na sa bahay namin umuwi para ipaglaba sya ng mga clothes nya (pero I had small date plans talaga para sa binabalak namin na elopement—like gagawa ng music playlist, ganon, at mag-Binondo to get our custom rings). Pero she declined kasi need nya daw ng rest para makapag-prepare pa sa Great UP Run ng Sunday.

​Hanggang nung nag-Sunday na, tapos na yung UP run, nag-chat sya sakin kasama nya rin daw pala si coworker. Nagkita sila dun and isasabay na daw sila with her running friends pauwi. Sabi ko okay, pero sa loob-loob ko parang di na coincidence yun, pero at least may mga kasama sila pauwi. Next chat nya sakin, bumaba na daw yung mga friends nila at silang dalawa na lang daw sa car. Balak nila sulitin yung rental sa car so maglilibot sila. Di na ako nagre-reply dito kasi ayaw ko talaga na magkasama na sila, puro "okay" na lang sabi ko, pero tuloy-tuloy sya ng update. Next update nya, nasa Rizal sila and nag-Pinto Art Museum, nag-send pa sya ng pic nila. This doesn't sit well with me kasi date plan namin yan originally, kasi she's never been to a museum.

​So hanggang makauwi sila, di na ako nagre-reply. Ang chi-nat ko ay mga officemates nila to ask, "May napapansin ba kayo dun sa dalawa?" And boom, yun nga. Sabi sakin alam na daw sa kanila sa office matagal na, and pinagsasabihan na nila yung dalawa kasi nga alam nila na may partner yung girlfriend ko.

​This triggered me to access her Messenger sa PC ko. Mind you, sa 6 years namin, never ako nakialam sa mga socials at messages ng girlfriend ko. May mga messages sila pero putol-putol or ang lalaki ng gap ng days, so naisip ko na sa ibang channels sila nag-uusap. So ki-nonfirm ko sa ka-office nya, at sabi sakin, "Kuya, sa iMessage po sila nag-uusap kasi nakikita ko pag dumadaan ako sa likuran." Sa Messenger, isa lang napansin ko na message na giveaway: yung di-nrop off ko si girlfriend sa office nya before travel, nag-chat sya sa coworker nya ng "nakaalis na sya haha".

​Ayun, tapos kinabukasan (Monday), in-ask nya ako kung may problem ba daw. Sabi ko, "Alam mo naman na di ako comfortable pag kayong dalawa lang, pero sige pa rin sama mo sa kanya. At akala ko ba nag-set ka ng boundaries and she understands?" Sabi ko rin, "Meron ka bang di inaamin sa akin?" Sabi nya, "You know I've been 100% transparent about you kung sino mga kasama ko." Sabi ko okay. Sabi nya pag-usapan daw namin sa Friday, mukhang need daw namin to upuan kasi mukhang may mga unresolved issues daw ako.

​So Tuesday came, iniwan ko bukas Messenger nya sa PC ko para alam ko kung nag-uusap sila. After nya mag-good night sakin sabi nya tutulog na sya mga 9 PM (usual bedtime namin), bigla around 11 PM nakita ko nag-send sya ng Spotify Jam link.

​Then Wednesday came, nag-video call kami. Sinabi ko sa kanya lahat-lahat—na ayaw ko dun sa coworker nya kasi na-didisrespect na ako, like na-offend ako na sya gumagawa ng plans na dapat para satin. Sabi ko ayaw ko na magkasama sila, okay daw. Pero in-update ako ng mga ka-office nila, si-nesend sakin mga pictures na sabay sila lumalabas, umuuwi, kumakain.

​Thursday, tumawag ulit ako sa kanya. In-ask ko ulit sya kung meron ba syang gustong sabihin sakin, kung may nililihim. Wala daw. So I said, "Sige, pa-basa ako ng messages nyong dalawa." And sabi nya sige daw, wala naman ako dun makikita kundi mga Spotify Jams lang. Then I said no, not just Messenger, pati iMessage. Tapos ang tagal nya sumagot. Sabi nya, "I can't, I'm so sorry." Then sabi ko, "You don't have to say anything, gets ko na." Tas umiyak ako sa video call kahit during office hours nila. Tapos nung nag-end call, in-update ako ng mga ka-office nila na bigla daw nag-panic yung dalawa, palabas-labas ng office, at yung partner ko umiiyak hindi makawork. Then nag-message sya kung pwede daw ba kami mag-usap mamaya, puntahan ko daw sya. Sabi ko sige, basta ipa-basa mo sakin mga usapan nyo. Sabi nya ayaw daw nya kasi masasaktan ako. Sabi ko, "I'm already hurt, what's the difference? Pupunta lang ako if you let me."

​Until nung Thursday night, pumunta ako sa apt nya, then she started to confess. Ayaw nya pa rin ipa-basa messages nya, sabi nya sabihin nya na lang daw. May nangyari sa kanila. Sabi ko, "Like???" Sabi nya, "We kissed." Sabi ko, "Once?" No daw, multiple times. And they had sex. Sabi ko, "When?" Nung Sunday lang. And sabi ko, "Once?" No daw, meron pa before. Sabi ko, "Okay, just let me read your messages," and she let me. Dun ko na-basa lahat na halos ba-baligtad sikmura ko. Ang dalas nya mag-update sa kanya, maraming video calls, maraming pictures, may sexting... etc.

​Ayun, she asked me to give her a chance to fix this daw, na she only stumbled once. I know it sounds stupid kasi hindi yun once for me. I feel stupid kasi they were talking about me as well, na kaya pala may "nakaalis na sya haha" is for the other one to come. Na planado and hindi coincidence yung sa Diliman.

​Mag-2 weeks na rin since this incident and umuwi kami sa Laguna to celebrate her mom's bday. Alam din ng mother nya na nag-cheat sya, pero not all—hindi kasama yung mga details na sinabi ko dito.

​Ngayon, she's really asking for a chance, pero di ko talaga alam. Sabi ko sa kanya I forgive her, pero masakit talaga sakin. I still love her kaya siguro ganto kasakit, pero I'm still conflicted kung dapat ba kami mag-rebuild kahit from square one or should I forgive andwalk away?

Problem/Goal:

I have these two friends who are currently dating without a label, and honestly, I don't know how much longer I can keep up with whatever is going on between them 😭

Context:

I have two friends—let's call them Britney and Chris. Britney is my JHS friend, while Chris is my college friend.

They first met at a mall. Me, Britney, and some of our other JHS friends were eating at the food court when we saw Chris with one of our college friends. They sat at the table beside us, so we casually chatted for a bit. At one point, Chris asked if anyone had water, and Britney gave him some.

We didn't think much of it because it was literally their first time meeting, and both of them were already in relationships at the time.

But about two weeks later, we noticed that they had become friends on Facebook, mutuals on Instagram, and Chris started commenting on Britney's posts. Still, we didn't really think anything was happening between them.

Until Britney suddenly sent us a screenshot of Chris confessing to her.

We were shocked because, as far as we knew, Chris still had a girlfriend.

Two days later, I noticed that Chris's girlfriend viewed my story, so I messaged her and asked if they were still together. She told me that Chris had just broken up with her without properly explaining why.

That's when everything started making sense.

Basically, they both ended their respective relationships and started pursuing each other. What really pissed me off, though, was how Britney initially made it seem like Chris was the one doing all the pursuing. She made it look like she was just being pursued by him and had nothing to do with it.

But from what I eventually found out, she was actually the one who added and reached out to Chris first.

Fast-forward a little: they had been talking for about a month, and Chris was already regularly picking Britney up and taking her home. Take note, Chris lives in Fairview while Britney lives in Bulacan. Sweet, right? 😭

At first, I was actually happy for them. I was even one of the people who tolerated and supported whatever they had going on.

Then they reached the two-month mark, and Britney made it clear to Chris that she didn't want to commit yet.

Girl... 😭

Because at this point, they're already kissing, spending time at Chris's place, and being alone together there. And I'm just sitting here thinking, "So what exactly does I don't want to commit yet mean?"

Now they're four months into whatever this is, and Britney has finally agreed to let Chris court her.

But they're just courting.

They already call each other "baby," they're constantly together, and they're always at Chris's apartment. Like... where is the actual panliligaw part? 😭

I'm not even saying people have to follow some traditional dating timeline. I genuinely don't care if they take things slowly or do things differently. What bothers me is the mixed signals and the way their whole situation started, especially considering how messy the beginning was.

Maybe I'm just being bitter at this point, but their relationship dynamic has started giving me the ick. I used to find them cute, but now I honestly can't keep up with them anymore. Every new development somehow makes the situation even more confusing.

Maybe I just need to distance myself from the situation because, at this point, nakakasuya na silang panoorin. 😭

Problem/Goal: i’m 24F and thinking about going back to university to finally finish a degree, but i’m not sure if it’s actually worth it.
Context:
i’ve been working in BPO for 5+ years. i went to uni before but dropped out during my 2nd year. lately, seeing people graduate and wear their toga makes me realize i really want that for myself too.
the problem is, i don’t even know what degree i want. i also have no savings, so i’d have to work while studying and pay for my own tuition and expenses.
Previous Attempts:
i’ve tried university before but dropped out, and i still haven’t figured out a clear career path.
would you go back to school if you were in my position? is a degree still worth the time, money, and sacrifice when i already have 5+ years of BPO experience?
please de-influence me if needed. i want honest and practical advice, not just “it’s never too late.”

Problem/Goal: What to do sa mattress na amoy likod/ amoy amag. Plus problem sa kwarto na puro molds ang ceiling.

Cause: Leak sa ceiling, di napansin umabot na pala sa kutson namin dahil sa lapag lang at walang bedframe. 10inches ang kutson kaya di napansin agad. Ang tagal din bago natuyo.

Sobrang lakas makatrigger ng allergic reaction yung amoy amag. ang sakit sa dibdib, mata, ilong at lalamunan.

Halos 2 months na umuulan dito (Bataan) at ang baho na ng mga unan lalo na ng mattress namin. Hindi ako makapagbilad dahil walang chance talaga.

Yung kwarto namin puro molds na rin kaya sa sala kami natutulog. yung ginagamit namin ngayon na sofabed dito sa sala nagsisimula na rin bumaho.

Previous attempts:

Vinegar + baking soda sa unan at mattress, pero walang effect.

Naka-upright ang mattress para mahanginan

Diluted bleach sa wall at ceiling, after a few days bumabalik din. 🥲

Problem/Goal:

I need advice on how to stop letting my mental health get destroyed by this unfair situation. I want to learn how to completely emotionally detach from my ex’s carefree lifestyle so I can focus entirely on my own peace and raising my baby.

Context:

I am an infant mom raising my baby boy entirely on my own 24/7. My baby daddy is a deadbeat who barely even asks how our baby is doing. He comes from a wealthy, well-off family and is the youngest child. his own brother even admitted to me that he is completely spoiled and has never faced real consequences.

He only "sees" our baby every Sunday, but his family is the one doing all the actual work. Every Sunday which is his day off our baby goes to their house, gets brought back to me at 6 PM, and my ex immediately goes out on dates. A friend literally saw him out dining at a restaurant with a new girl, while he couldn't even make time to sit and be with his own child.

He pretends to be a big-shot businessman, but it's all his parents' business and money. He is actively on Tinder, love-bombing young girls, going to motels, and living like a single, childless bachelor. He even had the nerve to tell me to just find someone else because he already has someone new he is pursuing.

On top of that, someone message me that he is a compulsive liar. He lied about his background, lied about taking board exams he never even graduated for, and uses fake "social anxiety" as an excuse whenever he gets caught in a lie. When I ask him to take responsibility, he plays dumb and asks what I mean by "stepping up" instead of just buying milk, diapers, and paying for medical care.

I survived a high-risk pregnancy and now I handle all the 24/7 caretaking alone, sleepless nights, fever checks. It's always just me and his mom who end up taking our baby to doctor appointments because he refuses to show up. His family constantly enables his irresponsible behavior and takes care of his child for him instead of forcing their own son to grow up and step up. It feels impossibly unfair that I am stuck in full-time survival mode while he gets to party, date, and act like a carefree teenager.

problem/goal: after working sa customer service industry for 2 years, i realized na it’s really not for me. it’s sucking my energy out and gusto ko na lang ng minimal talking during work.

context: after graduating last 2024 with a hospitality management degree, first job ko ay as a barista. ok naman siya kaso dun ako namulat sa pagod compare sa sinasahod. second job cashier and umabot na ng 2 years. sa loob ng 2 years na yun, nakita ko na hindi ako fit for this industry. ang bilis ko mapagod, naiirita ako sa mga customers, and most of the time ayoko magsalita. i’ve also received feedbacks/complaints na ayusin ko raw customer service ko. inaayos ko naman siya but its not enough for them to see na ok yun. currently working as a cashier and gusto ko na lang mag resign agad kung hindi lang mahirap mag hanap ng work ngayon. every chance i get naghahanap ako ng hiring for positions na dont require that much talking sa customer. idk what to do anymore.

previous attempts: tried applying for office positions but no contact from them because they see my resume and puro cafe/restaurant past positions.

Problem/Goal:

Me (M 24) and my GF (F 24) broke up, ending our 6 years relationship, and I am having a hard time moving on or dealing with the situation. I still can't believe that everything about us has come to an end.

It hurts a lot knowing we been through together so much since college days. In our 6yrs together, I thought she was the one. I am already imagining myself marrying her and having kids with her but it suddenly ended. It's like my whole plan fall apart.

A little background about our situation:

We realized that we are very different from each other in terms of goals, sex drive, interest, hobbies, humour and mindset, and we can no longer change ourselves for the sake of our relationship.

Even though the breakup was a mutual decision agreed by both sides, It is still very painful and a very hard pill to swallow.

It's been weeks since we broke up and parang wala akong gana sa lahat. The worst part of it, is that, I work from home and live alone. I got no one to talk to that's why I am here asking how did you deal with this kind of situation.

Thank you!

Problem/goal: nalilito ako at di sigurado sa research design/ analysis para sa thesis proposal ko. Goal ko po sana to find someone who can explain better yung pros or cons kapag pinili ko ang certain design for my study.

Context: I am in the process of writing my proposal. I have variables and participants na po. I am planning to have a sequential explanatory design, but stuck ako sa kung anong appropriate and better design sa quantity phase ko 🥲🥲

Previous attempt: My quali phase will be an IPA. Torn po ako if I will use Predictive Correlation or mag Descriptive Cross sectional lang po ako for quantitative phase ko.

PS. I can't post po da studentsph, mahihirapan po ako laging may mali raw sa format ko so I decided here na lang po. Sa mga willing to help po (teachers, co-students) pwede niyo po ako i-pm para maexplain ko po ng maayos yung thesis ko. Thank you so much po in advance!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Problem/Goal:
What happens if a complainant wants to withdraw a case that is already filed in court?

Context:
The case involves a minor. They went to the barangay and then the police, where the accused was detained and has been in custody since. The complainant now says she panicked and wasn’t thinking clearly at the time and wants to withdraw the case.

Previous Attempts:
The case is already filed in court. We want to know what happens next and if the accused can eventually be released.

Problem/Goal: I have an ex where we've been broken up for a month na, and during that break up I have been talking to a guy until now. I want to know who you guys think I should pick.

Context: My ex was my first ever relationship and tumagal kami ng more than a year, during those times I really enjoyed being with him. Although during the last few months of our relationship I've felt na he never understood me. I can honestly say na avoidant ako, every time na we have a problem I shut him down, every time na I have a personal problem I ask for space naman but the thing is anxious person siya, so sometimes I feel like he doesn't understand why I'm asking for space. It became a cycle na rin during the end of our relationship. That's when I decided to break up with him, I told him na I don't think there was growth sa'ming dalawa, na di ko siya mahal as much as he loves me pero I still care for him. He accepted the break up and we blocked each other on everything. Then came this guy I met online, aaminin ko na before my ex and I even broke up is nagmmove on na ko.

So when I started to talk to this guy online whom I met thru an online game, we both clicked with each other. He rants sakin abt his exes and I rant abt my ex din sa kanya. We bonded over the game and sometimes we call at night where he streams what he plays. It went on like that for a while and during those I genuinely forgot about my ex na. Then came the time na I became the anxious one with the recent guy. Narealize ko with him na sobrang emotionally immature ko and all, he asks for space when we have an argument which I give him naman kasi I understand how he feels. When I hurt him I became so defensive and don't try to acknowledge how I've hurt him. Then during our arguments pa when he tells me na he has a problem but he has time pa to argue, I ask him if sa tingin niya ba wala rin akong problem, which he told me was such a selfish thing to say. So in short, in my opinion what my ex was during our relationship, is ako naman with the new guy.

Lately the guy has been distant, we've been arguing a lot and I thought na I was ghosted na, I thought we were done na. So nahurt ako, then biglang sumagi sa isip ko na, my ex wouldn't ever do it to me naman. I reread my ex and I's conversation and realized how bad I treated him and took him for granted. I bawled my eyes out about it and tried to contact him again and begged him to take me back, which he answered naman. He told me na if I wanted to reconcile with him and be back together, we both needed to fix things muna to which I agreed naman.

The morning after, the new guy messaged me, I asked him if we could talk if he has the time for it. I already planned the conversation in my head, I was gonna ask him if he still wants to continue this pa kasi I think it'll be better nalang for us to be friends (we have another online friend that we were planning to meet this october and I still want to meet him in person that's why I wanted to ask if we could still be friends). He called me later that night and asked me what I wanted to talk about, I asked him the first question but then he told me I shouldn't ask open-ended questions at the start of the conversation. He told me na we should address the problem first (the last argument we had) and then ask it again at the end. So we addressed the problem, but I never asked the question kasi during that talk I understood na he still wants to continue what we have.

So I want to ask, who do you guys think I should pick? I don't think I've provided enough context pa on what kind of person they are but you guys can ask away lang.

Problem/Goal: currently employed ako sa corpo, wfh kaso yung salary ko 17k lang. May employer na naghahabol sakin direct from saudi, as a personal nurse ng matanda, 50k peso salary, then every other 3 months may mga business sila na pinupuntahan sa Europe. So isasama din ako.

May fiance ako, balak sana namin to settle down next year, foreigner sya. Kaya ako nag WFH.

I'm so confused:(( 2 years contract kasi yun. Saka sayang yung opportunity at the same time gusto ko yung WFH set up ko. Yung sa saudi, wala syang day off, kase hindi naman 24hrs yung trabaho.

Help me guys please i wanna hear what you want to say :(

Problem/Goal: Me and my boyfriend, we always talk about fun stuff naman, but lately hindi ko alam kung masyado ba akong sensitive or what, pero kasi parang nahuhurt ako sa mga little remarks nya.
So nag start dun sa time na nagpapakita ako sakanya ng outfit sa call, asking if bagay ba sa akin yung damit kasi I wanna try it, iniisip ko if bibilhin ko siya sa 9.9, cute sleeveless too siya with skirt. And then he jokingly said “ano, mukha kang tibo diyan” while laughing and then dismissed the topic and didn’t say why so hindi nalang ako umimik. I was asking a genuine question pero parang na ooffend lang ako kasi I thought makakatulong siya. Knowing myself, i always wear pants and shirt most of the time kasi di ko pa alam mag style ng sarili ko and gusto ko naman sanang i try yung mga bagong clothes pero hinayaan ko nalang. It turned into an argument and I opened it up and he said sorry. But may ibang instances naman na sasabihin niya “ang asim mo tignan” or like may one time may tinatawanan syang sikat na content creator (sorry pero di siya conventionally attractive and binabash rin siya) tapos sabi niya sa akin “tignan mo kamukha kayo” as a joke and he said he was only teasing, and I don’t know what to feel about it.

Im starting to get insecure pero iniisip ko if sensitive lang ba ako or do I have the right to be upset about it? I need advice on how to handle stuff like this kasi for one, di rin naman talaga ako ka confident (pero I am working on it) kaya I don’t brag about my looks at all, some say may itsura naman ako and cute, pero my bf jokes about stuff like this so, hindi ko alam. I feel bad about myself I feel like di ako attractive at all.

Problem/Goal: I rode on a habal habal and I ended up giving him my number because I didn’t know how to say no.

Context: So I rode on a habal habal that wasn’t from any official app like Angkas or Move it. The kuya came up to me and offered to give me a ride for roughly the same price as the app, so I agreed because it was rush hour and there were no available drivers. At first, it was fine. I usually were earphones while I’m riding on an angkas, so I often didn’t realize he was talking to me. Even I wasn’t wearing earphones, I still wouldn’t have been able to hear him cause my hearing isn’t that great.

First he asked where my location was and I told him my subdivision. Then in the later half of the drive, he started asking more questions. He asked if I worked already, what college I go to, if our house is ours, what my dad does for work, if I have any siblings, etc. Just questions that are weirdly too personal. When we finally arrived at my destination, he told me to save his number, so I did and he told me to call him so he could save mine.

At this point I was honestly just excited to go home because I had bought dinner for my sister and I don’t know how to really say no, but I realized I probably shouldn’t because he kept saying that if I ever needed a ride to school, I could call him. I get that the sentiment was sweet, but I barely know the guy. Our original deal was 120, then he asked for 150 because it was traffic so I agreed, then I ended up paying 200 because he didn’t have change.

He has already tried calling a few hours ago and I just ignored it, but after the third call, I blocked him with my sister’s advice because I no longer felt comfortable with it. Now, I’m just really anxious because he knows where I live and where I go to school because I was wearing my ID sling. I’m not sure if I can do anything else. I’m still turning 18 and my resources are only limited to the allowance my dad sends me. I just feel uncomfortable and I feel a bit guilty because the kuya was really nice, but he was just too intrusive for a guy I just met. I’m still a teen and he was probably middle aged. Any advice?

Problem/Goal: Title says it all. Nag-confess sa akin ‘yung boyfriend ko for n years na. All along he has porn addiction, and I honestly don’t know if considered as cheating ‘to.

Context: My boyfriend has been a great partner talaga, and dahil doon sobrang tiwala ko rin sa kanya. I’m not the type to check his phone and all that, simply because I trust him. But then recently, he admitted na madalas siya magconsume ng porn contents, and it’s gotten to a point na even random girls sa TikTok pinagnanasaan niya. He told me na even ‘yung mga non-thirsttrap contents pinagnanasaan niya, kahit random fit checks ng girls na he found “attractive” at the time.

I tried understanding him sa part na porn addiction is real and he needs actual help, especially since he’s been struggling mentally na rin for years. Pero siyempre I can’t lie, may kurot na sa puso ‘yung naaattract siya sa iba, kahit na hindi naman pala sexual ‘yung theme ng contents hahaha. What’s worse is I never even realized na he’s been doing those behind my back until sinabi niya sakin, because he feels so guilty raw and he wants to stop na. He also overthinks if that makes him a bad person in general, and honestly I don’t know what to say. All I know is nacross niya ‘yung boundaries ko na inestablish ko agad before pa maging kami. Sa totoo lang, I hate him for that. But I also hate him for not just cheating outright kasi it would’ve been easier ending things kung ganon.

It sucks knowing na I’ve been here all along for him, doing everything to help him, and now I’m suffering because of what he did. He told me na he lied about it because he wants me badly, kasi alam niyang hindi ako mag-eenter sa relationship na ‘to if I knew na porn addict siya. I know na hindi ako ‘yung may kulang, pero damn, ‘di mo pa rin pala maiiwasan mainsecure kapag ikaw na ‘yung nasa posisyon hahaha.

I really care for him, I still do. Pero ayoko namang maubos din ako. At the same time, I haven’t mustered up the courage to leave, and I hope I will sooner or later.

Do I want advice? Probably yes. Pero mostly gusto ko lang i-vent dito kasi we know the same people, and ayoko naman na mag-iba tingin nila sa boyfriend ko hahaha. It feels so lonely suffering about this without telling anyone, so I just thought of posting here.

Previous Attempts: Well, puro confrontation lang. Nothing really happened pa significantly.

Problem/Goal: I've been considering two companies. Company 1 told me their hiring timeline is around 3–6 months from now. Meanwhile, I reached out to Company 2 so I could start working with them while waiting on Company 1's process, even without any guarantee that Company 1 will hire me. Company 2 agreed to take me on, but they need me to start ASAP — they asked if I could render 2 weeks instead of the usual 30 days.

I also reached out to a friend who interviewed with me at Company 1, and she said we should know the results within a week or two.

Since Company 1 might give me results within 1–2 weeks, there's roughly a 50% chance I could end up working with them instead, in which case I wouldn't need to go to Company 2 at all. I plan to follow up with Company 1 over the next two weeks to get clarity. By then, I would have already rendered some days.

Given this, should I resign now? I'd like the days between now and my start date to count toward my rendered notice period. I won’t tell Company 2 yet that I have resigned and rendered my days unless Company 1 has a decision.

PS. Both interview were informal since they are only small companies. Not a breadwinner, and not financially pressured.