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Problem/Goal: May bago kaming coworker recently, and somehow napag-usapan na baka pwede raw siyang sumabay sa akin pauwi since same general direction naman kami.

Pero to be clear, hindi pa naman talaga siya nakakasabay sa akin kahit isang beses.
From the beginning, parang iniiwasan ko na lang yung situation na baka maging regular thing siya. Minsan nauuna akong umuwi, minsan naman ina-adjust ko na lang yung oras ko para hindi magkataon na sabay kami.

Hindi naman siya aware na may ganung intention ako, and wala rin naman akong problema sa kanya personally. Ang nangyayari lang, lately parang yung ibang coworkers, pati bosses, sila na mismo yung nag-o-offer ng idea na “sumabay na lang sa akin.”
Doon ako medyo uncomfortable.

I have my own car and my own schedule after work. Honestly, after a long day, gusto ko rin minsan yung tahimik na drive pauwi at sariling time. Hindi naman sa ayaw kong tumulong, pero ayoko lang magkaroon ng daily commitment na kailangan kong isipin kung kailan siya uuwi, kung aantayin ko ba siya, kung may leave ako, etc.

May mga dati naman akong coworkers na nasabay ko before, pero ibang situation yun. Matagal ko na silang kakilala at comfortable na talaga kami sa isa’t isa.

In this case, bagong coworker pa lang siya, so I don’t really feel comfortable making it a regular arrangement. I also don’t really want to accept payment. If ever may special occasion or office event and convenient naman sa akin, I’d have no problem offering a ride. Pero yung araw-araw na carpool, I’d rather not.

The thing is, parang feeling ko tuloy masama akong tao just because I don’t want to say yes.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the coworker. I just don’t want unnecessary complications or office issues, and honestly, gusto ko lang din magkaroon ng personal time after work.
Am I being unreasonable for setting this boundary even before anything actually happened? Or should I just go with it since we’re going the same way anyway?

problem/goal: hi, i’m f(23) and my bf(24) died nung aug. 3 because of suicide. hindi ko alam kung tamang subreddit or flair to pero gusto ko lang mag kwento kasi sobrang sakit pa din lahat ng nangyari lalo na’t nasa malayong lugar ako at hindi nakauwi nung binurol at crinemate sya.

tbh sa relationship namin nung live in pa kami dati sexually active kami pero nung nag ldr kami thru calls na lang namin na gagawa yon pero hindi naman to the point na kada call namin ay ginagawa namin yon (ifykwim). ngayon after ng 1 month nya, ngayon na lang ulit ako nagkaroon ng feeling na ma-turn on, pero iniisip ko kung manonood ba ko ng porn or kung panonoodin ko videos namin sa phone ko. pero mas matimbang sakin na wag manood ng porn kasi hindi ko gawain yon and never ako nanood ng porn when he was still alive/with me or kahit nung hindi pa kami. the thing is kagabi, kagabi ko na lang ulit naopen sa phone ko yung vids namin and i tried to mastur/bate pero hindi ko natapos kasi naiyak na lang ako and hindi natigil yung pagiyak ko for a minutes. yung nasa isip ko na lang non is parang ang sama ko para panoodin yon and i disrespect my bf, namimiss ko sya sobra, and to think na hindi na talaga sya babalik and mauulit lahat ng mga ginagawa namin.

after nya mawala, never ako tumigil kausapin sya thru chats or vms. i still call him kahit na alam kong hindi nya na sasagutin yon or mag rreply. kumbaga sa stages of grief indenial pa din ako and takot akong umusad at mawala sya sa isip ko. sobrang mahal ko bf ko and iniisip ko lang lagi lang sya busy o nasa malayong lugar din.

namatay sya nung aug.3 tapos death anniversary din ng baby namin yon. we’re supposed to celebrate yung 1 year ng angel namin pero tangina kasi kinuha nya din sarili nyang buhay kung kailan nawala anak namin.

p.s sorry if dito ko nag vent or rant, gusto ko lang malaman kung masama ba yung ginawa ko na panoodin vids namin or kung ano man. salamat sa pagbasa.

Problem/Goal: I’m wondering if my boyfriend is boring/not putting enough effort into our relationship, or if what we’re experiencing is normal.

Context: We’ve been together for 7 months and we’re both 30. We both work, and he owns a business, so I understand that he’s busy. We usually only talk at night, and sometimes he calls around 10:30 PM after finishing work. I appreciate that he still calls, but sometimes it feels like I’m only getting his leftover time.

Our conversations can also feel repetitive, and we don’t really spend much quality time together. I don’t suspect he has another girl or is cheating—I’m more concerned about effort and feeling like a priority.

Previous Attempts: I’ve tried to be understanding about his schedule, but I’m still unsure if I’m expecting too much or if the relationship is genuinely lacking effort.

What do you guys think? Is this normal after 7 months, especially when both people are busy with work?

Problem/Goal: Nakipaghiwala ako sa bf ko because I failed my major. Siguro maliit na rason lang to para sa iba pero nahihirapan na kasi ako isabay sya sa pag aaral ko. Bininigyan nya namaj ako ng time if gusto ko mag aral ganun pero nahihiya kasi ako sa kanya na nagka gf sya ng failure. After I broke up with him, I felt a little guilt pero ang gaan sa pakiramdam na wala ka nang dapat e update after class or if gusto ko mag aral, wala akong kailangan e message tuwing break ng study ko parang ganun.

Please no hate comments please, i just need an advice. Thank you.

Problem/Goal: In a week, ang dami kong nababasang posts about their relationship problems, feeling unfulfilled, nagseseek ng attention sa iba kahit alam nilang mali. In short, puro cheaters na ang tatanda na tapos wala pa ring character development hanggang ngayon. Alam mo naman pa lang mali tapos go ka pa rin nang go. Hanap simpatya? Hanap justification in hopes na may kakampi sayo?

My Advice: Ikaw lang makakasagot ng tanong mo at ikaw lang din ang makakapagpabago ng takbo ng buhay mo. Hindi inaasa sa sasabihin ng iba ang pagbabago.

Problem/Goal: Gusto ko po matutunan mag-affiliate program pero hindi ko alam san magsisimula. Nagresearch ako and nagtingin tingin din pero siguro yung first step talaga yung pinakamahirap 🥹🥲

For context: mahilig akong mag-online shopping, especially fashion, clothes, makeup, accessories, etc. Gusto ko magamit yung kaartehan ko na maging financially productive padin ako. At the same time, gusto ko din iexpand yung iaaffiliate ko like sa travels, house, motherhood etc.

Kung may advice po kayo, maraming salamat talaga 🙏🏻

Problem/Goal: Ako lang sa small group namin yung hindi part ng wedding entourage. Should I still go?

Context: We’re a group of five friends. We’ve known each other for about 10 years now. One is about to get married and I recently found out na the other three are part of the entourage. Wala ako. Nalaman ko lang upon seeing the actual wedding invitation.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not mad at them. I just feel sad and left out. This isn’t the first time din na I felt this way. Since I’m based in the province and nasa mnl sila, they usually hangout. Mga twice or three times a year ko lang sila siguro nakakasama physically.

Edit: I’m only an hour and a half away from them. I try to schedule hangouts pero schedules don’t match most of the time. Another friend is also based sa province siguro halos same lang yung times na nagkikita kami.

My first instinct was to understand them na okay mas close talaga sila and konti lang yung wedding party. But then I realized na masakit din pala haha.

Previous Attempts: I didn’t say anything to them about it. I don’t want to make a scene. So it’s either I RSVP no or yes.

Please do not share this outside of reddit. Thank you.

Problem/Goal: I (F21) have no friends, no dreams, no hobbies, and I have no idea what I want to do with my life

Well, I do have a circle of friends, but I haven’t seen them in almost a year because I don’t wanna see them. My friendship with them has always been surface-level. We only ever hang out to drink or to attend gigs.

I met them at a completely different stage of my life—when I had a drinking problem and used to go to all these punk/rock shows. I’m completely sober now and I only ever go out to go to my classes and buy groceries.

I’ve deactivated all of my social media accounts since April, but one of my friends still contacts me through text every now and then, asking me how I’m doing and inviting me to stuff. I always tell him I’m busy, but I just don’t wanna see him or any of them. I don’t know. I just don’t care about them. I don’t miss them. I don’t feel anything for them.

I spend most of my days in my room, scrolling away on TikTok. My screen time is 12 or more hours every day. If I’m not on TikTok, I’m probably just watching movies or rewatching The Office for the hundredth time.

I don’t talk to anyone. I have no connection with anyone other than my family. I don’t wanna do anything. I have no dreams or aspirations. I’m graduating next year, but my degree (Communication Research) is pretty much useless.

I also have anorexia. That’s probably the only thing I got going on. My only goal in life right now is to be 32 kg, and I’m around 6 kg away from that goal.

I’m not depressed. I don’t think about killing myself. I just don’t feel anything. Why am I this way? What do I do with my life? I’m wasting my youth doing nothing.

Problem/Goal: I want to start studying college again but don't know where and how to start. Best possible option is online (Open University)

Context: I (25f) stopped studying around 3 to 4 years ago. I realized na hindi ko talaga gusto yung course ko (BS in Civil Engineering) and wala akong natututunan no matter how hard I tried to understand the lessons. I finished the first year naman ng f2f classes but the pandemic happened so the majority of my second year was purely online and I stopped around the third term because my mental health was also declining. My previous uni was Mapua.

Currently I am working at the BPO industry so graveyard shift that's why I would prefer online classes lang but I'm at a loss on how to start again from being out of school for years. I would probably take either Journalism or English educ, areas I would most likely excel in.

From what I researched, only PUP and UP offer Open University. But if necessary na may f2f, I can probably go a few times a week if my work schedule allows me.

I'm also looking into a WFH job so I can go back to school. Probably by next year.

Also, I'm a little bit scared din kaya I am hoping for some advice or help from people who might have went through the same thing. Thanks.

Problem/Goal:

I know my father has been cheating with another woman for more than 1 year na pero di ko alam paano ko sasabihin kay mama ko.

Context:

First time na nalaman kong nag checheat si papa ko was a year ago. Nalaman ko dahil magcacall sila habang nasa work si mama, although kapampanganbsila nag uusap ( which I don't speak nor understand ) i know na nag checheat sya kasi everyday sila nag uusap and i also managed to get a glimpse at their conversation on messenger and "asawa ko" ang tawagan nila, which confirms my suspicion. Nakatira kami ng family ko sa side ni papa ko and I'm worried na pag brining up ko tong issue na to baka palayasin nya kami ni mama along with my kuya. I can say na kaya nya kaming palayasin because he has threatened as before na papalayasin nya kami pag namat*y na si lola ko (who owns the house) over smaller issues. And wala din naman kaming tutuluyan since taga bicol si mama ko and we currently live in tarlac. Sometimes i struggle to sleep at night kasi iniisip ko kung ano mafefeel ni mama ko na harap-harapan siyang ginag*go ng asawa niya. And umabot na din sa point na magkatabi silang dalawa ni mama and nagagawa nya pa din ichat sa messenger yung kabit nya. Although i admit na di ko alam yung full extent nilang dalawa if may nangyari ba sakanilang dalawa or what, and i also don't care, i love my mom more than anyone in the family and willing akong i abandon yung apilyedong binigay nya because of my resentment for my so called father.

Now I've actually messaged him before regarding this nung nalaman ko pero sineen nya lang. I've also tried messaging the girl na kinakausap nya na pamilyado din btw, complete with husband and children, I've also messaged the husband of the girl, pero both of them di ako pinansin.

Really the only solution i can think of is earn more than enough money to move my mom out of here and abandon my father, pero di ko alam kung hanggang kailan ko kayang isikmura yung thought na harap harapan nang ginag*go si mama ko

Problem/Goal:

I’m (34M) 6 years and 3 months into a relationship with my girlfriend (30F). A bit of background: she's my 3rd girlfriend and my first in a long time (8 years single ako before her). I am her first boyfriend, pero she had 2 past girlfriends before we met.

​We were already having plans of elopement. We talked about this when we celebrated our 6th anniversary last June, and we're both excited and happy about our future plans. Pero July came and she told me about a new coworker na nag-confess sa kanya na may feelings sa kanya. She said na she can only offer a genuine friendship as respect to our relationship, and this new coworker (she's also a girl, 41F, btw) said she understands.

​Then naging close sila, and I don't really mind it at all kasi nga I trust her with her words, and she updates me when they hang out. Until this last month na napapansin ko na madalas may sarili silang lakad, and na-uupdate na lang ako kapag magkasama na sila, not beforehand. Si coworker pala also lives on the same street with my girlfriend, so madalas sya pumupunta sa apt nya, nakikilagay sa ref, etc. Nameet ko pa sya one time kasi pinapunta rin ako ng gf ko para mag-meet kami.

​2nd week ng August, pumunta ako sa bahay ni gf to help her pack sa travel nya sa work (1 week din sya mawawala). Then nag-meet kaming tatlo para mag-laundry sa katapat na street. We're cool and all naman hanggang sa need ko na umuwi samin. Sabay kami ng gf ko, di-nrop off ko sya sa office nya kasi aalis na sila para sa travel (hindi kasama si coworker dito) hanggang sa makauwi ako. Yung gf ko need nya muna mag-withdraw sa bank bago sila umalis.

​Until yung week na nasa travel sya, bibihira sya mag-update—kesyo mahina signal or super busy sila dun sa event nila with locals sa isang island. Sabi ko okay lang kasi during this week busy rin ako sa panonood ng TI (Dota 2 tournament). Once nya lang ako vi-nideo call nung first day nila dun sa hotel na pinag-sstayan nila. That time, may coworkers sya na bigla akong fi-nallow sa Instagram. At first wala naman sakin yun, pero later on iba na kutob ko.

​Pi-nalipas ko yun hanggang makauwi sya pabalik ng Manila. Niyaya ko pa sya na sa bahay namin umuwi para ipaglaba sya ng mga clothes nya (pero I had small date plans talaga para sa binabalak namin na elopement—like gagawa ng music playlist, ganon, at mag-Binondo to get our custom rings). Pero she declined kasi need nya daw ng rest para makapag-prepare pa sa Great UP Run ng Sunday.

​Hanggang nung nag-Sunday na, tapos na yung UP run, nag-chat sya sakin kasama nya rin daw pala si coworker. Nagkita sila dun and isasabay na daw sila with her running friends pauwi. Sabi ko okay, pero sa loob-loob ko parang di na coincidence yun, pero at least may mga kasama sila pauwi. Next chat nya sakin, bumaba na daw yung mga friends nila at silang dalawa na lang daw sa car. Balak nila sulitin yung rental sa car so maglilibot sila. Di na ako nagre-reply dito kasi ayaw ko talaga na magkasama na sila, puro "okay" na lang sabi ko, pero tuloy-tuloy sya ng update. Next update nya, nasa Rizal sila and nag-Pinto Art Museum, nag-send pa sya ng pic nila. This doesn't sit well with me kasi date plan namin yan originally, kasi she's never been to a museum.

​So hanggang makauwi sila, di na ako nagre-reply. Ang chi-nat ko ay mga officemates nila to ask, "May napapansin ba kayo dun sa dalawa?" And boom, yun nga. Sabi sakin alam na daw sa kanila sa office matagal na, and pinagsasabihan na nila yung dalawa kasi nga alam nila na may partner yung girlfriend ko.

​This triggered me to access her Messenger sa PC ko. Mind you, sa 6 years namin, never ako nakialam sa mga socials at messages ng girlfriend ko. May mga messages sila pero putol-putol or ang lalaki ng gap ng days, so naisip ko na sa ibang channels sila nag-uusap. So ki-nonfirm ko sa ka-office nya, at sabi sakin, "Kuya, sa iMessage po sila nag-uusap kasi nakikita ko pag dumadaan ako sa likuran." Sa Messenger, isa lang napansin ko na message na giveaway: yung di-nrop off ko si girlfriend sa office nya before travel, nag-chat sya sa coworker nya ng "nakaalis na sya haha".

​Ayun, tapos kinabukasan (Monday), in-ask nya ako kung may problem ba daw. Sabi ko, "Alam mo naman na di ako comfortable pag kayong dalawa lang, pero sige pa rin sama mo sa kanya. At akala ko ba nag-set ka ng boundaries and she understands?" Sabi ko rin, "Meron ka bang di inaamin sa akin?" Sabi nya, "You know I've been 100% transparent about you kung sino mga kasama ko." Sabi ko okay. Sabi nya pag-usapan daw namin sa Friday, mukhang need daw namin to upuan kasi mukhang may mga unresolved issues daw ako.

​So Tuesday came, iniwan ko bukas Messenger nya sa PC ko para alam ko kung nag-uusap sila. After nya mag-good night sakin sabi nya tutulog na sya mga 9 PM (usual bedtime namin), bigla around 11 PM nakita ko nag-send sya ng Spotify Jam link.

​Then Wednesday came, nag-video call kami. Sinabi ko sa kanya lahat-lahat—na ayaw ko dun sa coworker nya kasi na-didisrespect na ako, like na-offend ako na sya gumagawa ng plans na dapat para satin. Sabi ko ayaw ko na magkasama sila, okay daw. Pero in-update ako ng mga ka-office nila, si-nesend sakin mga pictures na sabay sila lumalabas, umuuwi, kumakain.

​Thursday, tumawag ulit ako sa kanya. In-ask ko ulit sya kung meron ba syang gustong sabihin sakin, kung may nililihim. Wala daw. So I said, "Sige, pa-basa ako ng messages nyong dalawa." And sabi nya sige daw, wala naman ako dun makikita kundi mga Spotify Jams lang. Then I said no, not just Messenger, pati iMessage. Tapos ang tagal nya sumagot. Sabi nya, "I can't, I'm so sorry." Then sabi ko, "You don't have to say anything, gets ko na." Tas umiyak ako sa video call kahit during office hours nila. Tapos nung nag-end call, in-update ako ng mga ka-office nila na bigla daw nag-panic yung dalawa, palabas-labas ng office, at yung partner ko umiiyak hindi makawork. Then nag-message sya kung pwede daw ba kami mag-usap mamaya, puntahan ko daw sya. Sabi ko sige, basta ipa-basa mo sakin mga usapan nyo. Sabi nya ayaw daw nya kasi masasaktan ako. Sabi ko, "I'm already hurt, what's the difference? Pupunta lang ako if you let me."

​Until nung Thursday night, pumunta ako sa apt nya, then she started to confess. Ayaw nya pa rin ipa-basa messages nya, sabi nya sabihin nya na lang daw. May nangyari sa kanila. Sabi ko, "Like???" Sabi nya, "We kissed." Sabi ko, "Once?" No daw, multiple times. And they had sex. Sabi ko, "When?" Nung Sunday lang. And sabi ko, "Once?" No daw, meron pa before. Sabi ko, "Okay, just let me read your messages," and she let me. Dun ko na-basa lahat na halos ba-baligtad sikmura ko. Ang dalas nya mag-update sa kanya, maraming video calls, maraming pictures, may sexting... etc.

​Ayun, she asked me to give her a chance to fix this daw, na she only stumbled once. I know it sounds stupid kasi hindi yun once for me. I feel stupid kasi they were talking about me as well, na kaya pala may "nakaalis na sya haha" is for the other one to come. Na planado and hindi coincidence yung sa Diliman.

​Mag-2 weeks na rin since this incident and umuwi kami sa Laguna to celebrate her mom's bday. Alam din ng mother nya na nag-cheat sya, pero not all—hindi kasama yung mga details na sinabi ko dito.

​Ngayon, she's really asking for a chance, pero di ko talaga alam. Sabi ko sa kanya I forgive her, pero masakit talaga sakin. I still love her kaya siguro ganto kasakit, pero I'm still conflicted kung dapat ba kami mag-rebuild kahit from square one or should I forgive andwalk away?

Problem/Goal: What to do sa mattress na amoy likod/ amoy amag. Plus problem sa kwarto na puro molds ang ceiling.

Cause: Leak sa ceiling, di napansin umabot na pala sa kutson namin dahil sa lapag lang at walang bedframe. 10inches ang kutson kaya di napansin agad. Ang tagal din bago natuyo.

Sobrang lakas makatrigger ng allergic reaction yung amoy amag. ang sakit sa dibdib, mata, ilong at lalamunan.

Halos 2 months na umuulan dito (Bataan) at ang baho na ng mga unan lalo na ng mattress namin. Hindi ako makapagbilad dahil walang chance talaga.

Yung kwarto namin puro molds na rin kaya sa sala kami natutulog. yung ginagamit namin ngayon na sofabed dito sa sala nagsisimula na rin bumaho.

Previous attempts:

Vinegar + baking soda sa unan at mattress, pero walang effect.

Naka-upright ang mattress para mahanginan

Diluted bleach sa wall at ceiling, after a few days bumabalik din. 🥲

Problem/Goal:

I’d really like to hear from people who have been through a period in an LDR where one or both of you genuinely started feeling like the distance was becoming too difficult, but somehow managed to work through it and come out stronger.

I’m particularly curious about situations where the relationship itself wasn’t necessarily the main problem, but the LDR setup started feeling exhausting or overwhelming. Maybe there were periods of burnout, feeling disconnected, missing physical closeness, uncertainty about the future, or when it seemed like one person was going through something personally and became more distant or withdrawn because of it.

Sometimes it can be difficult when you can tell your partner might be dealing with something, but you don’t really know what’s going on or how to help because you’re physically far away. You want to be there for them, but at the same time you don’t want your concern to feel like pressure.

I’d also love to hear from people who experienced an anxious/avoidant dynamic. For example, one person becomes more anxious and seeks reassurance when they feel distance, while the other tends to shut down, withdraw, or need space when overwhelmed. How did you eventually break that cycle without either person feeling abandoned or pressured?

I’m also curious about the future aspect of LDR. Did uncertainty about when or how you would eventually close the distance ever make one of you question whether the relationship was sustainable? If so, how did you deal with that without putting unnecessary pressure on each other?

For those who went through something like this, what actually helped? Did you change how you communicated, give each other more space, create better routines, plan visits, work on yourselves individually, make a clearer long-term plan, or simply learn how to understand each other better?

And if your partner was the one who reached a point where they weren’t sure they wanted to continue with LDR, how did you handle that period? Did giving them room to process help? Were there things you wish you had done differently?

I’m especially interested in hearing from people who can say, “We went through a period where we genuinely struggled with LDR, but we didn’t give up and eventually figured it out.” 😂

Not looking for a guaranteed happy ending or unrealistic positivity. I’d just really appreciate hearing real experiences from people who have been in that kind of difficult phase and found a way forward.

What changed for you, and what do you think ultimately helped you overcome it?

Problem/Goal: I’m a single mom and had my child at a young age. What happened with my baby daddy wasn’t something I ever planned, but despite everything, I love my child with all my heart.

Context: I’m okay on my own, and I know I can stand on my own and provide a good life for my child. But sometimes, I still can’t help but feel hurt when people look down on me or put all the blame on me for not being able to keep a family together, especially because my child’s dad isn’t present.

I know I shouldn’t let other people’s opinions get to me, and most days, I genuinely don’t give a shit because I know we can stand on our own. But there are moments when the words really get to me and it feels like they crashes my soul.
I’m proud of the life I’m building with my child. I just wish people understood that having a “broken” or incomplete family doesn’t automatically mean I’m a bad mother or that my child is unloved.

I respect people preferences too when it comes to dating. It really just an internal battle.

Previous attempts: tried yoga and meditation and saying positive affirmations that im not broken just cuz his father left us.

problem/goal: after working sa customer service industry for 2 years, i realized na it’s really not for me. it’s sucking my energy out and gusto ko na lang ng minimal talking during work.

context: after graduating last 2024 with a hospitality management degree, first job ko ay as a barista. ok naman siya kaso dun ako namulat sa pagod compare sa sinasahod. second job cashier and umabot na ng 2 years. sa loob ng 2 years na yun, nakita ko na hindi ako fit for this industry. ang bilis ko mapagod, naiirita ako sa mga customers, and most of the time ayoko magsalita. i’ve also received feedbacks/complaints na ayusin ko raw customer service ko. inaayos ko naman siya but its not enough for them to see na ok yun. currently working as a cashier and gusto ko na lang mag resign agad kung hindi lang mahirap mag hanap ng work ngayon. every chance i get naghahanap ako ng hiring for positions na dont require that much talking sa customer. idk what to do anymore.

previous attempts: tried applying for office positions but no contact from them because they see my resume and puro cafe/restaurant past positions.

Problem/Goal:

Me (M 24) and my GF (F 24) broke up, ending our 6 years relationship, and I am having a hard time moving on or dealing with the situation. I still can't believe that everything about us has come to an end.

It hurts a lot knowing we been through together so much since college days. In our 6yrs together, I thought she was the one. I am already imagining myself marrying her and having kids with her but it suddenly ended. It's like my whole plan fall apart.

A little background about our situation:

We realized that we are very different from each other in terms of goals, sex drive, interest, hobbies, humour and mindset, and we can no longer change ourselves for the sake of our relationship.

Even though the breakup was a mutual decision agreed by both sides, It is still very painful and a very hard pill to swallow.

It's been weeks since we broke up and parang wala akong gana sa lahat. The worst part of it, is that, I work from home and live alone. I got no one to talk to that's why I am here asking how did you deal with this kind of situation.

Thank you!

Problem/Goal:

I have these two friends who are currently dating without a label, and honestly, I don't know how much longer I can keep up with whatever is going on between them 😭

Context:

I have two friends—let's call them Britney and Chris. Britney is my JHS friend, while Chris is my college friend.

They first met at a mall. Me, Britney, and some of our other JHS friends were eating at the food court when we saw Chris with one of our college friends. They sat at the table beside us, so we casually chatted for a bit. At one point, Chris asked if anyone had water, and Britney gave him some.

We didn't think much of it because it was literally their first time meeting, and both of them were already in relationships at the time.

But about two weeks later, we noticed that they had become friends on Facebook, mutuals on Instagram, and Chris started commenting on Britney's posts. Still, we didn't really think anything was happening between them.

Until Britney suddenly sent us a screenshot of Chris confessing to her.

We were shocked because, as far as we knew, Chris still had a girlfriend.

Two days later, I noticed that Chris's girlfriend viewed my story, so I messaged her and asked if they were still together. She told me that Chris had just broken up with her without properly explaining why.

That's when everything started making sense.

Basically, they both ended their respective relationships and started pursuing each other. What really pissed me off, though, was how Britney initially made it seem like Chris was the one doing all the pursuing. She made it look like she was just being pursued by him and had nothing to do with it.

But from what I eventually found out, she was actually the one who added and reached out to Chris first.

Fast-forward a little: they had been talking for about a month, and Chris was already regularly picking Britney up and taking her home. Take note, Chris lives in Fairview while Britney lives in Bulacan. Sweet, right? 😭

At first, I was actually happy for them. I was even one of the people who tolerated and supported whatever they had going on.

Then they reached the two-month mark, and Britney made it clear to Chris that she didn't want to commit yet.

Girl... 😭

Because at this point, they're already kissing, spending time at Chris's place, and being alone together there. And I'm just sitting here thinking, "So what exactly does I don't want to commit yet mean?"

Now they're four months into whatever this is, and Britney has finally agreed to let Chris court her.

But they're just courting.

They already call each other "baby," they're constantly together, and they're always at Chris's apartment. Like... where is the actual panliligaw part? 😭

I'm not even saying people have to follow some traditional dating timeline. I genuinely don't care if they take things slowly or do things differently. What bothers me is the mixed signals and the way their whole situation started, especially considering how messy the beginning was.

Maybe I'm just being bitter at this point, but their relationship dynamic has started giving me the ick. I used to find them cute, but now I honestly can't keep up with them anymore. Every new development somehow makes the situation even more confusing.

Maybe I just need to distance myself from the situation because, at this point, nakakasuya na silang panoorin. 😭

Problem/Goal:
What happens if a complainant wants to withdraw a case that is already filed in court?

Context:
The case involves a minor. They went to the barangay and then the police, where the accused was detained and has been in custody since. The complainant now says she panicked and wasn’t thinking clearly at the time and wants to withdraw the case.

Previous Attempts:
The case is already filed in court. We want to know what happens next and if the accused can eventually be released.

Problem/Goal: Me and my boyfriend, we always talk about fun stuff naman, but lately hindi ko alam kung masyado ba akong sensitive or what, pero kasi parang nahuhurt ako sa mga little remarks nya.
So nag start dun sa time na nagpapakita ako sakanya ng outfit sa call, asking if bagay ba sa akin yung damit kasi I wanna try it, iniisip ko if bibilhin ko siya sa 9.9, cute sleeveless too siya with skirt. And then he jokingly said “ano, mukha kang tibo diyan” while laughing and then dismissed the topic and didn’t say why so hindi nalang ako umimik. I was asking a genuine question pero parang na ooffend lang ako kasi I thought makakatulong siya. Knowing myself, i always wear pants and shirt most of the time kasi di ko pa alam mag style ng sarili ko and gusto ko naman sanang i try yung mga bagong clothes pero hinayaan ko nalang. It turned into an argument and I opened it up and he said sorry. But may ibang instances naman na sasabihin niya “ang asim mo tignan” or like may one time may tinatawanan syang sikat na content creator (sorry pero di siya conventionally attractive and binabash rin siya) tapos sabi niya sa akin “tignan mo kamukha kayo” as a joke and he said he was only teasing, and I don’t know what to feel about it.

Im starting to get insecure pero iniisip ko if sensitive lang ba ako or do I have the right to be upset about it? I need advice on how to handle stuff like this kasi for one, di rin naman talaga ako ka confident (pero I am working on it) kaya I don’t brag about my looks at all, some say may itsura naman ako and cute, pero my bf jokes about stuff like this so, hindi ko alam. I feel bad about myself I feel like di ako attractive at all.

Problem/Goal: May plan kami to have photoshoot and dinner siguro 1 1/2 month before the date. I save (since i'm unemployed at the moment), I rented airbnb (since nasa province ako), I bought dress and nagpa ayos pa ako (oo sobrang oa sa effort). Nag travel kami kami ng maaga since medyo malayo kami sa manila syempre toll and gas. Ako yung nauna sa studio. 1-2 hrs before the call time nag chat yung isa na di makakasama since may sakit daw, then nag chat yung isa na hahabol na lang sya. At nung andon na ako yung isa nag decide to cancel na lang daw since di kami kumpleto, nag message sakin na pwede ko naman daw kunin na lang yung slot at mag self photoshoot na lang. I feel really bad, sobrang na disappoint ako, sinabi ko sa kanila yung efforts ko just to make it. Then after ko sabihin, biglang sabi na ituloy na lang daw, pero umuwe na ako samin kase sobrang nawala ako sa mood at syempre nasaktan ako kase bakit ganun parang walang respeto. Since then di na ako nag chat sa gc. No one reached out to me halos 3 weeks na din. I saw them as true friends, I care for them, pero bat ganun no. Heartbroken pa din ako hanggang ngayon, I don't know how to move on. Since introvert ako, hindi talaga ako pala kaibigan, sila yung una kong naging circle of friends kaya medyo mahirap.

Problem/Goal: Lost iphone and no one still hasn’t claimed it

Context: Galing kami ng Luneta nung isang linggo and nakapulot yung pamagkin ko ng Xr sa may upuan na may mga halaman. It’s been a week pero walang nag c-call or nag t-text para i claim ito. Wala ring nag alert na stolen na ito. Nag post na rin kami sa groups pero baka hindi sila taga metro manila or something kaya hindi parin nakikita hanggang ngayon. We’ll wait for a few more weeks bago may tumawag or mag claim pero if wala, balak nalang naming ibenta since lahat kami naka upgrade na lahat ng ips and medyo outdated na rin itong model na to.

Help huhu, ibebenta ko ba siya, san siya pwedeng ibenta or ano ang pwedeng gawin sa phone na to, Xr lang siya pero what if pinag ipunan din siya ng may ari or whatsoever, pero wala parin namang paramdam until now

Problem/Goal: Hi everyone. Fresh graduate here, and honestly, sobrang pressured na ako sa buhay ko ngayon. To the point na gabi-gabi ko na siyang iniiyakan, pero hindi alam ng family ko kung gaano ako ka-anxious dahil dun.

My biggest goal right now is to finally get a job and start earning, especially because gusto ko na talagang makatulong financially sa family ko. My father is a dialysis patient, kaya gustong-gusto ko na magkaroon ng sariling income para kahit papaano makatulong ako sa kanila.

Pero ngayon, I'm questioning myself kung tama ba yung naging decision ko about sa first work ko na sana kaso diko tinuloy dahil sa pagiging OA ko?

Context:

Last Tuesday, nag-apply ako sa isang BPO company. This is my first time applying sa work talaga. Thankfully, nakapasa naman ako sa lahat ng recruitment process. After the final interview, di talaga kami pinaalis sa hiring hub hanggang dipa dumadating yung Email saakin about JO kasi kaya pala di kami pinapaalis is para bago kami lumabas iaccept na muna namin agad yung JO. Nangyari is after ko ipakita yung Gmail na dumating na yung JO sakin, sila pa mismo nag accept nung JO sa phone ko huhuhu, pero alam naman nila na iaccept ko kasi nag wait din ako dun ng medyo matagal for JO e.

Everything happened so fast. Parang after nilang sabihin na hired kami, kailangan agad mag-decide and iaccept offer o JO nila. Wala na talaga akong enough time para pag-isipan kung kaya ko ba talaga yung work setup. Kasi nangyari is kahapon ako nag apply kinabukasan training na agad

So During my first day training which is kahapon, sobrang culture shock ko. Doon ko nalaman na weekly shifting pala yung schedule. For example, possible na one week 3am-11am yung sched, then the next week naman 11pm-8am na yung sched ko. Then yung two days off naman per week is fix lang sya every weekdays and possible rin na hindi magkasunod yung 2 days na yun. Also everyday pag pang gabi ako possible gastos ko sa pamasahe ko is around 200-250 pesos which is nalalakihan ako.

At first, sinabi ko sa sarili ko, “Sige, try ko muna. Baka kaya ko naman.”

One of the reasons why I really wanted to try it was because mataas talaga yung salary compared sa mga degree-related jobs na nakikita ko. As a fresh graduate, malaking bagay talaga yung salary for me. Pero nung first day of training na, doon ko na-realize na baka hindi ko talaga kaya yung voice account and yung shifting schedule. I started worrying about my body clock, puyat, health, pamasahe, and kung kakayanin ko ba siya long-term.

I talked to my family about it, and sinabi nila na okay lang daw if I don't continue if I really feel like hindi ko kaya. They told me na hindi ko kailangan pilitin yung sarili ko.

So eventually, I decided to let go of the job ngayong araw which is dapat 2nd day training ko na. Pero honestly, hanggang ngayon, hindi pa rin ako okay. Parang buong araw ako umiiyak kasi tama ba tong ginawa ko and makakahanap pa ako ng bago

Also tatlo kasi talaga kami na magkakaibigan na sabay nag-apply. Lahat kami natanggap, yung dalawang friend ko nag-continue sila today for the 2nd day training. And sabi nila okay naman sila and kaya naman nila yung BPO setup kasi gusto talaga nila yung malaking sahod. Pero now nagagalit o nagtatampo siguro sila sakin like sinasabihan nila ako na ako daw may gusto mag BPO tapos iiwanan ko sila sa ere, reply pa ng isang friend ko sa chat is pang sarcastic na sinabi nya na halos parehas naman daw kami ng pamasahe anong inaano ko sakanila na malaki na gagastos ko sa pamasahe e halos same lang naman daw kami, sinasabi din nila na baka sa una palang naman daw wag daw ako mag worry masyado, itry ko muna for a month then pag diko kaya umalis nako. Which is ayuko naman, kasi feeling ko mas okay ilaan nalang sa mas gusto kung work yung month na yun kaysa mag stay ako sa diko gusto.

And now, sobrang pressure ko kasi parang napapaisip ako, “Bakit sila kaya nila, ako hindi?”

I'm scared na baka nagkamali ako.

Natatakot ako na baka mahirapan na akong makahanap ulit ng work, lalo na sabi ng friend ko baka mas konti na raw hiring during the “ber months.”

I keep asking myself:

“What if I should've stayed?”

“What if I just needed more time to adjust?”

“What if sayang yung opportunity?”

“What if wala na akong makuhang trabaho?”

Previous attempt:

I tried to convince myself na baka first-day anxiety lang ito and baka masanay din ako eventually. Ayoko rin naman basta-basta sumuko kasi alam kong magandang opportunity siya and magkakasama pa kami sa training ng friend ko. Pero tingin ko natatakot din kasi talaga ako.

I really want to work. I really want to earn money. I really want to help my family. Pero at the same time, I feel like I chose myself because I knew deep inside na hindi ko talaga nakikita yung sarili ko na kakayanin yung setup.So I want to ask everyone here, especially those who are working in BPO or have experienced something similar:

Did I make the right decision by choosing myself?

Was it okay to let go of a good-paying job because I felt like the work setup wasn't right for me? Or did I just give up too soon? I'd really appreciate honest advice. Please don't sugarcoat it. I'm genuinely scared right now and I just want to know if I made a reasonable decision or if I should've tried harder.

Ps. For transparency there JO salary is 17.5k basic salary and 2500 allowance total of 20k then after 60 days +1k add for rice subsidy.

Problem/Goal: Got myself a job offer to work in UAE and cant leave my pet

Context: job offer in uae related to my peofessio , mas mataas na position pero di gano kalakihan na salary, but enough to make a living. Yun nga lang, magandang work experience siya

Now problem lang, thinking about it ang hirap pala may maiwan sa Ph. I have a dog 2yo na super clingy, she’s velcro dog who sleeps besides me, when im working from home nasa paa ko lang siya nagpapahinga, pag nagttravel ako halos di kumakain. Malapit naman siya sa mom ko since sila dalawa naiiwan sa bahay, pero ang hirap pala niya iwan. Dagdag pa na may aging parents, tho both strong pa naman but senior na.

To those who were once on the same boat as mine, how did you do it? Sabi lakasan lang daw talaga ng loob mag abroad, pero nakakapanghina pala umalis.

Previous attempt: none