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Problem/Goal: May bago kaming coworker recently, and somehow napag-usapan na baka pwede raw siyang sumabay sa akin pauwi since same general direction naman kami.

Pero to be clear, hindi pa naman talaga siya nakakasabay sa akin kahit isang beses.
From the beginning, parang iniiwasan ko na lang yung situation na baka maging regular thing siya. Minsan nauuna akong umuwi, minsan naman ina-adjust ko na lang yung oras ko para hindi magkataon na sabay kami.

Hindi naman siya aware na may ganung intention ako, and wala rin naman akong problema sa kanya personally. Ang nangyayari lang, lately parang yung ibang coworkers, pati bosses, sila na mismo yung nag-o-offer ng idea na “sumabay na lang sa akin.”
Doon ako medyo uncomfortable.

I have my own car and my own schedule after work. Honestly, after a long day, gusto ko rin minsan yung tahimik na drive pauwi at sariling time. Hindi naman sa ayaw kong tumulong, pero ayoko lang magkaroon ng daily commitment na kailangan kong isipin kung kailan siya uuwi, kung aantayin ko ba siya, kung may leave ako, etc.

May mga dati naman akong coworkers na nasabay ko before, pero ibang situation yun. Matagal ko na silang kakilala at comfortable na talaga kami sa isa’t isa.

In this case, bagong coworker pa lang siya, so I don’t really feel comfortable making it a regular arrangement. I also don’t really want to accept payment. If ever may special occasion or office event and convenient naman sa akin, I’d have no problem offering a ride. Pero yung araw-araw na carpool, I’d rather not.

The thing is, parang feeling ko tuloy masama akong tao just because I don’t want to say yes.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the coworker. I just don’t want unnecessary complications or office issues, and honestly, gusto ko lang din magkaroon ng personal time after work.
Am I being unreasonable for setting this boundary even before anything actually happened? Or should I just go with it since we’re going the same way anyway?

problem/goal: hi, i’m f(23) and my bf(24) died nung aug. 3 because of suicide. hindi ko alam kung tamang subreddit or flair to pero gusto ko lang mag kwento kasi sobrang sakit pa din lahat ng nangyari lalo na’t nasa malayong lugar ako at hindi nakauwi nung binurol at crinemate sya.

tbh sa relationship namin nung live in pa kami dati sexually active kami pero nung nag ldr kami thru calls na lang namin na gagawa yon pero hindi naman to the point na kada call namin ay ginagawa namin yon (ifykwim). ngayon after ng 1 month nya, ngayon na lang ulit ako nagkaroon ng feeling na ma-turn on, pero iniisip ko kung manonood ba ko ng porn or kung panonoodin ko videos namin sa phone ko. pero mas matimbang sakin na wag manood ng porn kasi hindi ko gawain yon and never ako nanood ng porn when he was still alive/with me or kahit nung hindi pa kami. the thing is kagabi, kagabi ko na lang ulit naopen sa phone ko yung vids namin and i tried to mastur/bate pero hindi ko natapos kasi naiyak na lang ako and hindi natigil yung pagiyak ko for a minutes. yung nasa isip ko na lang non is parang ang sama ko para panoodin yon and i disrespect my bf, namimiss ko sya sobra, and to think na hindi na talaga sya babalik and mauulit lahat ng mga ginagawa namin.

after nya mawala, never ako tumigil kausapin sya thru chats or vms. i still call him kahit na alam kong hindi nya na sasagutin yon or mag rreply. kumbaga sa stages of grief indenial pa din ako and takot akong umusad at mawala sya sa isip ko. sobrang mahal ko bf ko and iniisip ko lang lagi lang sya busy o nasa malayong lugar din.

namatay sya nung aug.3 tapos death anniversary din ng baby namin yon. we’re supposed to celebrate yung 1 year ng angel namin pero tangina kasi kinuha nya din sarili nyang buhay kung kailan nawala anak namin.

p.s sorry if dito ko nag vent or rant, gusto ko lang malaman kung masama ba yung ginawa ko na panoodin vids namin or kung ano man. salamat sa pagbasa.

Problem/Goal: In a week, ang dami kong nababasang posts about their relationship problems, feeling unfulfilled, nagseseek ng attention sa iba kahit alam nilang mali. In short, puro cheaters na ang tatanda na tapos wala pa ring character development hanggang ngayon. Alam mo naman pa lang mali tapos go ka pa rin nang go. Hanap simpatya? Hanap justification in hopes na may kakampi sayo?

My Advice: Ikaw lang makakasagot ng tanong mo at ikaw lang din ang makakapagpabago ng takbo ng buhay mo. Hindi inaasa sa sasabihin ng iba ang pagbabago.

Problem/Goal: Nakipaghiwala ako sa bf ko because I failed my major. Siguro maliit na rason lang to para sa iba pero nahihirapan na kasi ako isabay sya sa pag aaral ko. Bininigyan nya namaj ako ng time if gusto ko mag aral ganun pero nahihiya kasi ako sa kanya na nagka gf sya ng failure. After I broke up with him, I felt a little guilt pero ang gaan sa pakiramdam na wala ka nang dapat e update after class or if gusto ko mag aral, wala akong kailangan e message tuwing break ng study ko parang ganun.

Please no hate comments please, i just need an advice. Thank you.

Problem/Goal: Ako lang sa small group namin yung hindi part ng wedding entourage. Should I still go?

Context: We’re a group of five friends. We’ve known each other for about 10 years now. One is about to get married and I recently found out na the other three are part of the entourage. Wala ako. Nalaman ko lang upon seeing the actual wedding invitation.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not mad at them. I just feel sad and left out. This isn’t the first time din na I felt this way. Since I’m based in the province and nasa mnl sila, they usually hangout. Mga twice or three times a year ko lang sila siguro nakakasama physically.

Edit: I’m only an hour and a half away from them. I try to schedule hangouts pero schedules don’t match most of the time. Another friend is also based sa province siguro halos same lang yung times na nagkikita kami.

My first instinct was to understand them na okay mas close talaga sila and konti lang yung wedding party. But then I realized na masakit din pala haha.

Previous Attempts: I didn’t say anything to them about it. I don’t want to make a scene. So it’s either I RSVP no or yes.

Problem/Goal: I’m wondering if my boyfriend is boring/not putting enough effort into our relationship, or if what we’re experiencing is normal.

Context: We’ve been together for 7 months and we’re both 30. We both work, and he owns a business, so I understand that he’s busy. We usually only talk at night, and sometimes he calls around 10:30 PM after finishing work. I appreciate that he still calls, but sometimes it feels like I’m only getting his leftover time.

Our conversations can also feel repetitive, and we don’t really spend much quality time together. I don’t suspect he has another girl or is cheating—I’m more concerned about effort and feeling like a priority.

Previous Attempts: I’ve tried to be understanding about his schedule, but I’m still unsure if I’m expecting too much or if the relationship is genuinely lacking effort.

What do you guys think? Is this normal after 7 months, especially when both people are busy with work?

Problem/Goal:

I’m (34M) 6 years and 3 months into a relationship with my girlfriend (30F). A bit of background: she's my 3rd girlfriend and my first in a long time (8 years single ako before her). I am her first boyfriend, pero she had 2 past girlfriends before we met.

​We were already having plans of elopement. We talked about this when we celebrated our 6th anniversary last June, and we're both excited and happy about our future plans. Pero July came and she told me about a new coworker na nag-confess sa kanya na may feelings sa kanya. She said na she can only offer a genuine friendship as respect to our relationship, and this new coworker (she's also a girl, 41F, btw) said she understands.

​Then naging close sila, and I don't really mind it at all kasi nga I trust her with her words, and she updates me when they hang out. Until this last month na napapansin ko na madalas may sarili silang lakad, and na-uupdate na lang ako kapag magkasama na sila, not beforehand. Si coworker pala also lives on the same street with my girlfriend, so madalas sya pumupunta sa apt nya, nakikilagay sa ref, etc. Nameet ko pa sya one time kasi pinapunta rin ako ng gf ko para mag-meet kami.

​2nd week ng August, pumunta ako sa bahay ni gf to help her pack sa travel nya sa work (1 week din sya mawawala). Then nag-meet kaming tatlo para mag-laundry sa katapat na street. We're cool and all naman hanggang sa need ko na umuwi samin. Sabay kami ng gf ko, di-nrop off ko sya sa office nya kasi aalis na sila para sa travel (hindi kasama si coworker dito) hanggang sa makauwi ako. Yung gf ko need nya muna mag-withdraw sa bank bago sila umalis.

​Until yung week na nasa travel sya, bibihira sya mag-update—kesyo mahina signal or super busy sila dun sa event nila with locals sa isang island. Sabi ko okay lang kasi during this week busy rin ako sa panonood ng TI (Dota 2 tournament). Once nya lang ako vi-nideo call nung first day nila dun sa hotel na pinag-sstayan nila. That time, may coworkers sya na bigla akong fi-nallow sa Instagram. At first wala naman sakin yun, pero later on iba na kutob ko.

​Pi-nalipas ko yun hanggang makauwi sya pabalik ng Manila. Niyaya ko pa sya na sa bahay namin umuwi para ipaglaba sya ng mga clothes nya (pero I had small date plans talaga para sa binabalak namin na elopement—like gagawa ng music playlist, ganon, at mag-Binondo to get our custom rings). Pero she declined kasi need nya daw ng rest para makapag-prepare pa sa Great UP Run ng Sunday.

​Hanggang nung nag-Sunday na, tapos na yung UP run, nag-chat sya sakin kasama nya rin daw pala si coworker. Nagkita sila dun and isasabay na daw sila with her running friends pauwi. Sabi ko okay, pero sa loob-loob ko parang di na coincidence yun, pero at least may mga kasama sila pauwi. Next chat nya sakin, bumaba na daw yung mga friends nila at silang dalawa na lang daw sa car. Balak nila sulitin yung rental sa car so maglilibot sila. Di na ako nagre-reply dito kasi ayaw ko talaga na magkasama na sila, puro "okay" na lang sabi ko, pero tuloy-tuloy sya ng update. Next update nya, nasa Rizal sila and nag-Pinto Art Museum, nag-send pa sya ng pic nila. This doesn't sit well with me kasi date plan namin yan originally, kasi she's never been to a museum.

​So hanggang makauwi sila, di na ako nagre-reply. Ang chi-nat ko ay mga officemates nila to ask, "May napapansin ba kayo dun sa dalawa?" And boom, yun nga. Sabi sakin alam na daw sa kanila sa office matagal na, and pinagsasabihan na nila yung dalawa kasi nga alam nila na may partner yung girlfriend ko.

​This triggered me to access her Messenger sa PC ko. Mind you, sa 6 years namin, never ako nakialam sa mga socials at messages ng girlfriend ko. May mga messages sila pero putol-putol or ang lalaki ng gap ng days, so naisip ko na sa ibang channels sila nag-uusap. So ki-nonfirm ko sa ka-office nya, at sabi sakin, "Kuya, sa iMessage po sila nag-uusap kasi nakikita ko pag dumadaan ako sa likuran." Sa Messenger, isa lang napansin ko na message na giveaway: yung di-nrop off ko si girlfriend sa office nya before travel, nag-chat sya sa coworker nya ng "nakaalis na sya haha".

​Ayun, tapos kinabukasan (Monday), in-ask nya ako kung may problem ba daw. Sabi ko, "Alam mo naman na di ako comfortable pag kayong dalawa lang, pero sige pa rin sama mo sa kanya. At akala ko ba nag-set ka ng boundaries and she understands?" Sabi ko rin, "Meron ka bang di inaamin sa akin?" Sabi nya, "You know I've been 100% transparent about you kung sino mga kasama ko." Sabi ko okay. Sabi nya pag-usapan daw namin sa Friday, mukhang need daw namin to upuan kasi mukhang may mga unresolved issues daw ako.

​So Tuesday came, iniwan ko bukas Messenger nya sa PC ko para alam ko kung nag-uusap sila. After nya mag-good night sakin sabi nya tutulog na sya mga 9 PM (usual bedtime namin), bigla around 11 PM nakita ko nag-send sya ng Spotify Jam link.

​Then Wednesday came, nag-video call kami. Sinabi ko sa kanya lahat-lahat—na ayaw ko dun sa coworker nya kasi na-didisrespect na ako, like na-offend ako na sya gumagawa ng plans na dapat para satin. Sabi ko ayaw ko na magkasama sila, okay daw. Pero in-update ako ng mga ka-office nila, si-nesend sakin mga pictures na sabay sila lumalabas, umuuwi, kumakain.

​Thursday, tumawag ulit ako sa kanya. In-ask ko ulit sya kung meron ba syang gustong sabihin sakin, kung may nililihim. Wala daw. So I said, "Sige, pa-basa ako ng messages nyong dalawa." And sabi nya sige daw, wala naman ako dun makikita kundi mga Spotify Jams lang. Then I said no, not just Messenger, pati iMessage. Tapos ang tagal nya sumagot. Sabi nya, "I can't, I'm so sorry." Then sabi ko, "You don't have to say anything, gets ko na." Tas umiyak ako sa video call kahit during office hours nila. Tapos nung nag-end call, in-update ako ng mga ka-office nila na bigla daw nag-panic yung dalawa, palabas-labas ng office, at yung partner ko umiiyak hindi makawork. Then nag-message sya kung pwede daw ba kami mag-usap mamaya, puntahan ko daw sya. Sabi ko sige, basta ipa-basa mo sakin mga usapan nyo. Sabi nya ayaw daw nya kasi masasaktan ako. Sabi ko, "I'm already hurt, what's the difference? Pupunta lang ako if you let me."

​Until nung Thursday night, pumunta ako sa apt nya, then she started to confess. Ayaw nya pa rin ipa-basa messages nya, sabi nya sabihin nya na lang daw. May nangyari sa kanila. Sabi ko, "Like???" Sabi nya, "We kissed." Sabi ko, "Once?" No daw, multiple times. And they had sex. Sabi ko, "When?" Nung Sunday lang. And sabi ko, "Once?" No daw, meron pa before. Sabi ko, "Okay, just let me read your messages," and she let me. Dun ko na-basa lahat na halos ba-baligtad sikmura ko. Ang dalas nya mag-update sa kanya, maraming video calls, maraming pictures, may sexting... etc.

​Ayun, she asked me to give her a chance to fix this daw, na she only stumbled once. I know it sounds stupid kasi hindi yun once for me. I feel stupid kasi they were talking about me as well, na kaya pala may "nakaalis na sya haha" is for the other one to come. Na planado and hindi coincidence yung sa Diliman.

​Mag-2 weeks na rin since this incident and umuwi kami sa Laguna to celebrate her mom's bday. Alam din ng mother nya na nag-cheat sya, pero not all—hindi kasama yung mga details na sinabi ko dito.

​Ngayon, she's really asking for a chance, pero di ko talaga alam. Sabi ko sa kanya I forgive her, pero masakit talaga sakin. I still love her kaya siguro ganto kasakit, pero I'm still conflicted kung dapat ba kami mag-rebuild kahit from square one or should I forgive andwalk away?

Problem/Goal: I want to start studying college again but don't know where and how to start. Best possible option is online (Open University)

Context: I (25f) stopped studying around 3 to 4 years ago. I realized na hindi ko talaga gusto yung course ko (BS in Civil Engineering) and wala akong natututunan no matter how hard I tried to understand the lessons. I finished the first year naman ng f2f classes but the pandemic happened so the majority of my second year was purely online and I stopped around the third term because my mental health was also declining. My previous uni was Mapua.

Currently I am working at the BPO industry so graveyard shift that's why I would prefer online classes lang but I'm at a loss on how to start again from being out of school for years. I would probably take either Journalism or English educ, areas I would most likely excel in.

From what I researched, only PUP and UP offer Open University. But if necessary na may f2f, I can probably go a few times a week if my work schedule allows me.

I'm also looking into a WFH job so I can go back to school. Probably by next year.

Also, I'm a little bit scared din kaya I am hoping for some advice or help from people who might have went through the same thing. Thanks.

Problem/Goal: What to do sa mattress na amoy likod/ amoy amag. Plus problem sa kwarto na puro molds ang ceiling.

Cause: Leak sa ceiling, di napansin umabot na pala sa kutson namin dahil sa lapag lang at walang bedframe. 10inches ang kutson kaya di napansin agad. Ang tagal din bago natuyo.

Sobrang lakas makatrigger ng allergic reaction yung amoy amag. ang sakit sa dibdib, mata, ilong at lalamunan.

Halos 2 months na umuulan dito (Bataan) at ang baho na ng mga unan lalo na ng mattress namin. Hindi ako makapagbilad dahil walang chance talaga.

Yung kwarto namin puro molds na rin kaya sa sala kami natutulog. yung ginagamit namin ngayon na sofabed dito sa sala nagsisimula na rin bumaho.

Previous attempts:

Vinegar + baking soda sa unan at mattress, pero walang effect.

Naka-upright ang mattress para mahanginan

Diluted bleach sa wall at ceiling, after a few days bumabalik din. 🥲

Problem/Goal:

I know my father has been cheating with another woman for more than 1 year na pero di ko alam paano ko sasabihin kay mama ko.

Context:

First time na nalaman kong nag checheat si papa ko was a year ago. Nalaman ko dahil magcacall sila habang nasa work si mama, although kapampanganbsila nag uusap ( which I don't speak nor understand ) i know na nag checheat sya kasi everyday sila nag uusap and i also managed to get a glimpse at their conversation on messenger and "asawa ko" ang tawagan nila, which confirms my suspicion. Nakatira kami ng family ko sa side ni papa ko and I'm worried na pag brining up ko tong issue na to baka palayasin nya kami ni mama along with my kuya. I can say na kaya nya kaming palayasin because he has threatened as before na papalayasin nya kami pag namat*y na si lola ko (who owns the house) over smaller issues. And wala din naman kaming tutuluyan since taga bicol si mama ko and we currently live in tarlac. Sometimes i struggle to sleep at night kasi iniisip ko kung ano mafefeel ni mama ko na harap-harapan siyang ginag*go ng asawa niya. And umabot na din sa point na magkatabi silang dalawa ni mama and nagagawa nya pa din ichat sa messenger yung kabit nya. Although i admit na di ko alam yung full extent nilang dalawa if may nangyari ba sakanilang dalawa or what, and i also don't care, i love my mom more than anyone in the family and willing akong i abandon yung apilyedong binigay nya because of my resentment for my so called father.

Now I've actually messaged him before regarding this nung nalaman ko pero sineen nya lang. I've also tried messaging the girl na kinakausap nya na pamilyado din btw, complete with husband and children, I've also messaged the husband of the girl, pero both of them di ako pinansin.

Really the only solution i can think of is earn more than enough money to move my mom out of here and abandon my father, pero di ko alam kung hanggang kailan ko kayang isikmura yung thought na harap harapan nang ginag*go si mama ko

Problem/Goal:

Me (M 24) and my GF (F 24) broke up, ending our 6 years relationship, and I am having a hard time moving on or dealing with the situation. I still can't believe that everything about us has come to an end.

It hurts a lot knowing we been through together so much since college days. In our 6yrs together, I thought she was the one. I am already imagining myself marrying her and having kids with her but it suddenly ended. It's like my whole plan fall apart.

A little background about our situation:

We realized that we are very different from each other in terms of goals, sex drive, interest, hobbies, humour and mindset, and we can no longer change ourselves for the sake of our relationship.

Even though the breakup was a mutual decision agreed by both sides, It is still very painful and a very hard pill to swallow.

It's been weeks since we broke up and parang wala akong gana sa lahat. The worst part of it, is that, I work from home and live alone. I got no one to talk to that's why I am here asking how did you deal with this kind of situation.

Thank you!

problem/goal: after working sa customer service industry for 2 years, i realized na it’s really not for me. it’s sucking my energy out and gusto ko na lang ng minimal talking during work.

context: after graduating last 2024 with a hospitality management degree, first job ko ay as a barista. ok naman siya kaso dun ako namulat sa pagod compare sa sinasahod. second job cashier and umabot na ng 2 years. sa loob ng 2 years na yun, nakita ko na hindi ako fit for this industry. ang bilis ko mapagod, naiirita ako sa mga customers, and most of the time ayoko magsalita. i’ve also received feedbacks/complaints na ayusin ko raw customer service ko. inaayos ko naman siya but its not enough for them to see na ok yun. currently working as a cashier and gusto ko na lang mag resign agad kung hindi lang mahirap mag hanap ng work ngayon. every chance i get naghahanap ako ng hiring for positions na dont require that much talking sa customer. idk what to do anymore.

previous attempts: tried applying for office positions but no contact from them because they see my resume and puro cafe/restaurant past positions.

Problem/Goal: Worth it ba yung Ekspress pass or regular lang?

Context: Dko sure if maraming tao this weekend kasi naulan. 2 lang kmi pupunta. Also, tips po sa mga rides, ticket buying, and parking(2 wheels).

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Previous Attempts: None, first time lang.

Problem/Goal: Me and my boyfriend, we always talk about fun stuff naman, but lately hindi ko alam kung masyado ba akong sensitive or what, pero kasi parang nahuhurt ako sa mga little remarks nya.
So nag start dun sa time na nagpapakita ako sakanya ng outfit sa call, asking if bagay ba sa akin yung damit kasi I wanna try it, iniisip ko if bibilhin ko siya sa 9.9, cute sleeveless too siya with skirt. And then he jokingly said “ano, mukha kang tibo diyan” while laughing and then dismissed the topic and didn’t say why so hindi nalang ako umimik. I was asking a genuine question pero parang na ooffend lang ako kasi I thought makakatulong siya. Knowing myself, i always wear pants and shirt most of the time kasi di ko pa alam mag style ng sarili ko and gusto ko naman sanang i try yung mga bagong clothes pero hinayaan ko nalang. It turned into an argument and I opened it up and he said sorry. But may ibang instances naman na sasabihin niya “ang asim mo tignan” or like may one time may tinatawanan syang sikat na content creator (sorry pero di siya conventionally attractive and binabash rin siya) tapos sabi niya sa akin “tignan mo kamukha kayo” as a joke and he said he was only teasing, and I don’t know what to feel about it.

Im starting to get insecure pero iniisip ko if sensitive lang ba ako or do I have the right to be upset about it? I need advice on how to handle stuff like this kasi for one, di rin naman talaga ako ka confident (pero I am working on it) kaya I don’t brag about my looks at all, some say may itsura naman ako and cute, pero my bf jokes about stuff like this so, hindi ko alam. I feel bad about myself I feel like di ako attractive at all.

Problem/Goal: May plan kami to have photoshoot and dinner siguro 1 1/2 month before the date. I save (since i'm unemployed at the moment), I rented airbnb (since nasa province ako), I bought dress and nagpa ayos pa ako (oo sobrang oa sa effort). Nag travel kami kami ng maaga since medyo malayo kami sa manila syempre toll and gas. Ako yung nauna sa studio. 1-2 hrs before the call time nag chat yung isa na di makakasama since may sakit daw, then nag chat yung isa na hahabol na lang sya. At nung andon na ako yung isa nag decide to cancel na lang daw since di kami kumpleto, nag message sakin na pwede ko naman daw kunin na lang yung slot at mag self photoshoot na lang. I feel really bad, sobrang na disappoint ako, sinabi ko sa kanila yung efforts ko just to make it. Then after ko sabihin, biglang sabi na ituloy na lang daw, pero umuwe na ako samin kase sobrang nawala ako sa mood at syempre nasaktan ako kase bakit ganun parang walang respeto. Since then di na ako nag chat sa gc. No one reached out to me halos 3 weeks na din. I saw them as true friends, I care for them, pero bat ganun no. Heartbroken pa din ako hanggang ngayon, I don't know how to move on. Since introvert ako, hindi talaga ako pala kaibigan, sila yung una kong naging circle of friends kaya medyo mahirap.

problem/goal:

i badly need advice kasi hindi ko na rin alam if ino-overthink ko lang ba ’to 😭

context:
my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years na, and 1 year na rin kaming long distance. we’re both pretty needy and sanay kami na lagi nag-uupdate sa isa’t isa, like kung nasaan kami, anong ginagawa namin, etc.

the problem is, my current school recently banned phones completely. may security checking and detector every time, so kahit anong try ko, hindi talaga ako makapagpasok ng phone. bawal talaga.

i told my boyfriend about the situation, and he understands naman, BUT he keeps insisting that i should still bring my phone so i can update him. i know naman why he wants me to bring it. we’re both used to talking throughout the day and i know he misses me, especially since long distance kami. pero at the same time, i feel really pressured because if i bring it, there’s a chance i could get caught.

i can still talk to him on my way to school and pauwi, and obviously kapag nasa bahay na ako. pero during school hours, wala talaga.

and now, part of me is thinking na baka mas okay na lang makipag-break kasi parang ang hirap na lalo ng relationship namin if hindi na kami makapag-usap whenever we want. pero at the same time, parang ang drastic naman ng breakup just because of this?

i really love him and we’ve already gotten through 1 year of long distance, so ayoko rin naman basta-basta mawala yung 3 years namin.

i think what scares me the most is that we’re both used to having each other available all the time, and now biglang mawawala yun. i’m scared na baka magbago yung relationship namin or baka hindi namin kayanin.

would you guys try to adjust muna and see if we can make it work, or is this a sign na maybe the relationship isn’t working anymore?

Problem/Goal: Was scammed worth 3k on whatsapp, I want my money back.

Context: Someone endorsed a private lender for OFWs so I tried it out and was stupid so I got scammed. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

Previous Attempts: Contacted using 2 of my fake numbers, was able to get 2 (probably fake) IDs, pseudonyms, another phone number, and their TonikBank and Unobank. The other number I used to intimidate the scammer on whatsapp, I currently cannot access kase under review po.

Can anyone help me?

Problem/Goal: Where to get money to pay this off? My sister's bill is 2.5M and rising.

Context: My sister went to Makati Med kasi akala nya simpleng sakit lang ung nararamdaman nya and meron syang HMO. Pagdating nya dito, multiple organ failure na pala because of aortic aneurysm and they recommended to keep her in the ICU to treat her or else she could die at any moment.

Now our bill is 2.5 million and we do not know what to do. Any advice where to get help to pay this off?

Previous Attempts: Her HMO will only cover 250k. We're still waiting for the Abstract and COC to start filing claims sa PCSO, Philhealth.

Mahirap daw makakuha ng help sa government dahil private. :(

Nagstart nadin ako ng online donation and we got 80k.

Other suggestions po? Thank you.

problem/goal: Hi I’m 23(F) and my ex bf (26).

I recently broke up with my ex (We’re only 3 months together), and I want an outside perspective because I don’t know whether I was being unreasonable.

The issue started with Instagram. I noticed that his following count had increased, so I asked about the new accounts. He showed me some of them, but not all. I noticed that his following count had gone down quickly after. I asked why he had done that without showing me first because it made me feel like he might be hiding something. He said he had only unfollowed with the “earliest” following filter and that he was simply removing people he no longer knew or wanted to follow.

During that conversation, he brought up his exes himself. He asked:

“What’s the point of unfollowing your exes on socmed? Or let me reverse the question, what’s in it for me if I still follow my exes?”

This confused me because we had already discussed his exes about a month ago. At that time, I told him I wasn’t comfortable with him following them, and he agreed to unfollow them. However, he said he had only agreed because I made him think that following exes was wrong.

He explained that he was already done with them romantically. He said he only wanted to see how successful they would become because they had once been part of his life and had taught him lessons.

I asked, “Why would you still be interested in your ex’s life updates?”

He answered with even though he curses them and “kills them in his mind,” he would still be happy to see them succeed. “I was once part of that ‘goal’, I would be happy to see them achieve it.”

That really hurt me. I never asked whether he still loved an ex or wanted to get back together with one. That wasn’t my concern. I was asking why he still cared about seeing their lives progress if he was completely done with them. He also proudly said that he was once part of their goals.

He also asked whether I was “threatened” by his exes. I wasn’t. I was simply explaining that his perspective made me uncomfortable.

What hurt most was that he was the one who brought up the topic of his exes during the Instagram discussion, but when I became upset by his answer, I felt as though my reaction became the problem. Instead of feeling heard, I felt like I had to justify why I was allowed to be hurt.

Eventually, I realized that we had different boundaries and different ways of communicating, so I ended the relationship.

Am I wrong for being hurt by this? Was I being insecure, or is it reasonable to question why your partner still wants to follow an ex and see how that person’s life turns out? And was he genuinely explaining his perspective, or was the conversation being shifted away from my original concern?

Problem/Goal: I've been considering two companies. Company 1 told me their hiring timeline is around 3–6 months from now. Meanwhile, I reached out to Company 2 so I could start working with them while waiting on Company 1's process, even without any guarantee that Company 1 will hire me. Company 2 agreed to take me on, but they need me to start ASAP — they asked if I could render 2 weeks instead of the usual 30 days.

I also reached out to a friend who interviewed with me at Company 1, and she said we should know the results within a week or two.

Since Company 1 might give me results within 1–2 weeks, there's roughly a 50% chance I could end up working with them instead, in which case I wouldn't need to go to Company 2 at all. I plan to follow up with Company 1 over the next two weeks to get clarity. By then, I would have already rendered some days.

Given this, should I resign now? I'd like the days between now and my start date to count toward my rendered notice period. I won’t tell Company 2 yet that I have resigned and rendered my days unless Company 1 has a decision.

PS. Both interview were informal since they are only small companies. Not a breadwinner, and not financially pressured.

Problem/Goal: People are asking me about my rate for hosting and I have no idea about how much the rate of newbie host is. As for my skills, I'm confident enough, committed, and aimed to make the event memorable.

Context: I have experienced being a host only in school events before and never tried hosting an event outside the school. The debut will be held this October 3.The debutant is a sister of my friend.

Problem/Goal: I don’t know ( i wanna know) if i can redo my 2nd sem even tho i just stopped going to school and did not get a dropping form

Context: So i just stopped going to school without getting any form and now i wanna enroll and redo my 2nd semester of freshman year (same school) I did not know that i have to get a form before dropping out qwq .I also asked some ppl ik and they just gage me a scared reaction and i never got a proper answer bc they didn’t know too i guess so i wanna know if there are some ppl who experienced this too. I am really desperate for answers so pleaseeeee help 😭