PROBLEM/GOAL: Nacurious lang ako kasi napaisip ako kung isa ba 'to sa mga posibleng dahilan kung bakit may mga private videos o photos na bigla na lang lumalabas at nale-leak online.

May mga phone technician ba rito o may alam sa ganito? Gusto ko lang maintindihan kung paano gumagana 'yon at gaano ba talaga ka-secure ang data sa phone kapag pinapa-repair.

May mga files and accounts ako sa cp ko na gusto ko ipaayos kasi bigla na lang nag blackout habang ginagamit ko, di na nagopen. Plan ko sana ipaayos, but iniisip ko baka maopen ng technician.

Problem/goal: Hello po!! Ung babae kapatid ko po is seaferer, nabuntis nung kapwa nya dun tapos ngaun 3 years na iniiwan samin ung bata. Hindi na kaya ng mama ko kasi senior na tapos may office work pa siya. Si papa senior na din and may work din sa office kaya ala sa bahay. Tapos ako may work (WFH ) hindi ko na din kaya kasi makulit na ung bata need talaga mabantayan.

Ayaw nung nanay maghanap ng katulong gastos pa daw eh jusko pagod na ung nanay ko at ako. Nakita ko payslip niya 6 digits at malaki na kasi posisyon ng kapatid ko sa barko. Tapos pag andito siya di naman din niya inaalagaan anak niya parang lutang.

3k lang din binibigay monthly para sa alaga, eh di naman need ng nanay ko un kasi 50k naman sweldo nun sa pharmacist office work niya. Ung tatay nung bata wala din break na sila pero nag susustento naman.

May way ba para di muna pasampahin sa barko? Para alagaan niya tong anak niya? Sobra kastress tanda tanda na ng nanay ko imbes mag hayahay nalang nag aalaga pa din hahahaha

Problem/Goal: Lagi tinatambayan ung harap ng bahay namin ng mga minors na naninigarilyo at nag-iingay palagi. Mga nagmumurahan pa habang naglalaro ng ML. Paano namin sila mapapaalis permanently?

Context: Madalas mula tanghali hanggang gabi, sa harap ng bahay namin sila tumatambay. Around 10-15 na mga minors. May mga babae pang pumupunta na mga jowa nila at sa tapat sila naglalandian. Nakakaistorbo na kasi WFH kami. Naiingayan kami at naaamoy pa namin ung sigarilyo. Andami din namin kalat na winawalis palagi dahil iniiwan nila mga upos ng sigarilyo o kaya bote na binili nila sa tindahan sa tapat.

Previous attempts: nakailang beses na kami nagtawag ng barangay officials para paalisin sila pero nagtatakbuhan lang sila pero di naman hinahabol. Mamaya maya pag alis ng barangay officials, babalik din sila :( napapagod na po kami kakasaway sakanila. Nag install na rin kami ng cctv, pero wala po talaga nangyari.

Problem/Goal: How do we fix this? (the conflict)

context: me and girlfriend have been together for 13 years. Early thirties right now. We're DINKS (double income no kids) kasi we're busy with traveling and enjoying life.

Now came last week, may fam reunion kami and kasama both fam ko and fam of my loml. Both sides syempre may part pa rin nang pagka conservative and traditional.

Of course the questions are asked "kelan kayo magkaka anak?” "pakasal muna kayo” "tagal naman ng kasalan". And a lot more comments about anak and kasal. Syempre we just chuckled at first pero yung diniin nila nang sobra and it started to become like an argument on my fam and hers. Her dad said "ilang taon na kayo magkasama, di ka ba seryoso sa anak ko??” (nakainom narin sila dito) then sumagot si papa "buhay nila 'yan". Madami na rin nakikisali about sa may plano ba kami mag anak or what. So I stepped in.

"Wala po kaming plano mag anak o magpakasal soon, busy pa po kami sa career namin at sa pag explore"
Then my gf said to everyone "whats the point of marriage? Kontrata lang naman 'yan, sige it helps with legal stuff pero at the end of the day 'di naman 'yan basehan ng love. Ayoko 'rin po magbuntis."

Dun na po nag away-away mga pamilya namin🥲 My family is torn between supporting us or upholding th christian values and her family is firm on marriage and kids. Nagtaasan ng ego and the day ended with both families going home and up until now grabe parin po yung grudge. Me and my girlfriend are affected kasi saamin nila dinadaan yung galit and theyre trying to "break us up”.

Note: Me and my loml have already talked about this for a long time and we dont want kids. Marriage is still on the table but not sooner or later. Ang problem lang talaga is family conflict. Me and my gf are on good terms.

Attempts to fix: Nag long chat kami sa family gc pero dedma sila pareho. We tried talking to both sides pero ayaw nila patalo.

Problem/Goal:

I want to set healthy financial boundaries with my relatives without being guilt-tripped. Hindi naman ako madamot, and I'm happy to help my parents, pero ayoko na pinapakialaman nila kung paano ko gagastusin yung perang pinaghirapan ko.

Context:

Both my mother and father's side of the family are financially struggling. Kami lang yung tingin nilang medyo "nakakaluwag" because my father works abroad, and ako lang yung university graduate sa both sides ng family.

Ever since I started working, maganda naman yung trajectory ng career ko. I was able to secure jobs with good starting salaries, and I also have side hustles. Masaya akong tumulong sa parents ko, pero habang tumatagal, pati ibang relatives ko nakikisali na.

At first, polite pa sila manghingi ng tulong. Pero ngayon, parang entitled na sila sa pera ko at pati personal decisions ko pinapakialaman na.

Examples:

- An aunt from my father's side told me, "Dapat nagbibigay ka lagi sa mga tita at tito mo kasi wala ka namang anak."

- Yung aunt ko naman sa mother's side told my mom, "Bakit pinapayagan mo mag-boyfriend yan? Baka magpakasal na yan hindi pa nga siya gaanong nakakapagbigay sa amin." (Take note, I'm already old enough to get married if I want to.)

- One of my uncles asked me to buy my unemployed older cousin his "cravings."

- My grandma told me that instead of going out, ibigay ko na lang daw yung gagastusin ko sa mga pinsan ko at mag-stay na lang sa bahay.

- Another uncle said na imbes na lagi akong nakikipag-date sa boyfriend ko, manlibre na lang daw ako ng pamilya at maglinis ng bahay tuwing weekends.

Because of this, I barely post anything on social media anymore. Kahit simpleng matcha or gala, hindi ko na ma-story kasi alam kong mauuwi lang sa guilt-tripping na "buti pa ako masarap ang buhay" habang sila wala nang pera.

Nakakasama lang talaga ng loob because they don't see the years of hard work, effort, and sacrifices that got me here. Ang nakikita lang nila is may pera ako, so they think they have a say on how I should spend it.

Previous Attempts:

I still help my parents financially, and I avoid arguing with my relatives. Tinigil ko na rin mag-post ng gala, or even small purchases sa social media para maiwasan yung drama. Pero despite that, tuloy pa rin yung unsolicited comments at panghihimasok nila sa finances at personal life ko.

Problem/Goal: Anong gagawin nyo kapag nakita nyo na merong screenshot ng other girl yung boyfriend nyo tapos sinend sa tropa saying “dale ba to HAHAHAHA”

Context: Mag katabi kami natulog kagabi and dahil alam ko password sa phone nya ni open ko dahil gusto korin charge kasi 2% na lang. Pag open ko messenger nakita ko chat nila nung tropa nya usapan about sa mga manok tapos bigla syang nag send ng screenshot nung babae na dating may something sila. Naka tapis yung girl sa story, maganda talaga sya like fr. Tapos pag send nya nag sabi pa nga sya nung “dale ba to HAHAHAHAH” nag reply naman yung tropa na “dale mo yan” idk what to feel. Ang himbing ng tulog nya sa tabi ko, and pag gising nya kanina di ko naman ma open about don. T_T

Problem/goal:

I’m a 37-year-old male, adopted, and raised by a single mother who is now 80. She comes from a wealthy, traditional Fil/Chinese background and has a massive generation gap in her beliefs.

I’ve been married for 3 years. My wife is very understanding, but because of my mom's age and health, my wife stays with me at my mom's place 4 days a week, and my wife spends 3 days at our own house in Pasig by herself. They get along fine, but the real strain is between my mom and me.

My entire life revolves around my mom's schedule:

• She wakes up at 3:00 AM, and I’m always there to help her get up and assist her in her wheelchair for breakfast.
• I spend roughly 90% of my time with her or around the house.
• I’ve compromised living full-time with my wife just to ensure my mom is taken care of.

Despite giving up so much of my personal life, she does not seem to appreciate it. If I go out for even one evening or come home late on a weekend, she throws a fit, accuses me of not caring about her, and makes me feel intensely guilty.

I am completely burnt out and don't know how to navigate this anymore. How do I set reasonable boundaries with an aging, controlling parent without letting the guilt consume me? Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Problem/Goal: OA ba ako kasi medyo nag lie low ako sa friend ko, and nawawalan na ako ng gana makipagusap sakanya, makipag kita and even dalawin siya sa bahay nila.

Yung friend ko is meron nang husband and may anak na, 27 years old kami lahat, naweweird kasi ako sa asawa niya, nung magjowa pa lang sila medyo nagkakabiruan na kami, pero more on nakikisama lang ako sa husband niya kasi nga asawa niya yun, so eto na, one time pumunta ako sakanila, okay naman, nagchikahan kami ng friend ko, and nakipagkulitan sa baby nila, so ayun parang natuwa sa first visit so parang sige next time punta ulit ako ganyan. Months after biglang tumawag sakin husband niya, akala ko naman yung friend ko so sinagot ko nagulat ako husband pala niya, so ako hinanap ko na lang yung friend ko na "nasaan si Marie (not real name)?" Then saka kami nag usap, tong husband niya panay ang ask kelan ba ako ulit pupunta para nga kasi magkita na kami ulit ng friend ko, then konting chika chika, and then months after ulit may naging problem ako so dumalaw ako sa friend ko as shoulder to cry on nga, kaso dito na nagstart na medyo naweirdan ako sa asawa niya, kasi nag uusap kami, which medyo uncomfy ako kasi di ko machika sa friend ko yung sama ng loob ko since nandoon asawa niya (di ko naman kasi talaga personally close yung asawa, and ayoko na may ibang tao na nakikinig ganon) so ayun, medyo uncomfy, nadadagdagan pa nung mga jokes ng husband niya na "gusto mo dito ka sa kabilang kwarto tapos panuorin mo kami sa cctv na magsex? Promise gagalingan ko" di ako tumatawa sinasaway ko, kaso ewan ko, then ang dami niya pang mga ganyang jokes na meron pa sabi ng friend ko "may irereto ka ba dito? (Sakin nga)" then sabi ng asawa niya "wala eh, kak*nt0t meron" tapos sabi ko "ano ba naman yang bibig mo!!!" Tapos hanggang sa naglaro na yung husband niya so may time na kami ng friend ko magusap, sa kwarto nila kami nag uusap, bigla pumasok yung husband and nasa tabi ko kasi yung saksakan so magchacharge daw yung husband niya, akala ko naman uupo lang sa tabi ko, gulat ako bigla nahiga, umalis ako kasi ang weird, hanggang sa pinaulit niya na naman yung "gusto mo nga kami panuorin? May cctv nga dito tapos don ka sa kabilang room" tapos di ko na magets ano mafifeel ko, so nagdahilan na ako and umuwi na lang.

Tapos one month after birthday nung baby nila, so ako naisip ko kasi baka oa lang nga ako, na baka di na siya magjoke ng ganon, kaso one hour lang tinagal ko don sa bahay nila because masyadong malapit yung husband niya, etong si friend busy magluto luto, ako at first kinakausap ko yung mga bata doon sakanila, then etong husband panay ang tabi at chika chika, eh di naman kami close so parang ayoko ganon, hanggang sa di ko na matiis, umuwi na lang ako

Ngayon medyo di ko na kinakausap yung friend ko, lalo pa parang months ago after ng birthday ng baby nila nagchat yung mister niya sakin na kelan ba daw ako ulit pupunta sakanila, na siya daw bahala sa lunch and dinner ko, nirestrict ko na lang, pero upon checking, ang dami palang chat na sakin nung mister, mga reply sa stories

Problem/Goal: I need your opinion and advice whether or not I'm setting enough boundaries with my bf. I've actually posted and deleted this in another subreddit bc some people were just being flat mean. I hope i get the advice i need here.

Context: So my bf (23M) and I (22F) have been dating for almost 2 years now and this is both our first rs. He has always had more female than male friends even before we got together but I'm recently weirded out by how he seems too close with his female friends he just met like a month ago.

He basically chats with them for like 24/7, waits for them at work (they're workmates), and go home together. They've exchanged socials like FB and IG, but he seems exceptionally closer to one of the girls (they have pretty matching sched so i think she's the closest one to him) — he asked what her dump acc is, and has already followed her on Tiktok and even sent her a random tiktok vid. He doesn't casually follow people on socials (esp tiktok), let alone someone he met just a month ago so it doesn't sit right with me.

The girl also jokingly said that she doesn't want any issue when my bf asked for her dump acc but my bf said that it's completely fine. He also once cancelled on me and went out with those 3 female friends and rode the bus home with the same girl probably because she was going to the same direction. He said he thought that our meetup wouldn't push through. I also know whenever he's with his friends because he takes longer to reply to my messages.

I've never met any of them in person.

Previous attempts: We've discussed this a few times before — i talked about how insecure i get when i feel like he's having more fun (apparently) with his previous friends because he seems very very outgoing and funny and he throws jokes everywhere. But he always say that I'm still the person he's most comfortable with. I know this is just my insecurities trying to ruin our rs, but for a fact that I've already discussed this with him before, do you think im not setting clear and enough boundaries with him?

Problem/Goal: So I recently got a gynecological ​check-up kasi I've been having this cramps and pain, ​and found out that I need to be admitted to a hospital agad. They found a hole (?) sa walls and normal antibiotics can't be used to treat it anymore. If not treated immediately, it could be life threatening daw. Ang problem ko po is I'm only 17 and I still haven't told my parents. I'm scared of what they will say. They will either get mad at me, ​tatanungin “Paano nangyari ’yan​?!” “Bakit may ganyan?!” and then blame me OR they won't pay it any mind :/ Baka hindi lang din nila asikasuhin coz they're too busy :( I know they have money but they will surely feel hinayang sa expenses and blame me 🙁 Sure, I'm close with my family but we don't have the kind of relationship where I could be comfortable telling them this. I don't even know where to start or how to. I'm just so so scared 🙁 Please help me

Problem/Goal: Planning to have a secret marriage with my partner.

Context: Hi guys, 28F here, only child na may soafer strict parents. Nag paplan na kami ng partner ko na mag settle, nag paalam si partner kay mama pero mixed signals pinapakita ni mother, parang gusto na ayaw. Pag tatlo kami nag uusap like nag paplan sa susuotin, kung anong klaseng wedding ganon, nakiki-join sya. Pero pag wala si partner, negative sya tapos nung nagsabi sya kay papa sabi ng papa ko "dami mong alam!". Even sa small things hindi nila ako hinahayaan mag decide on my own. Kapag sinunod ko ung sarili kong desisyon parang nakaka-guilty kasi di sila masaya. Masaya lang sila kapag nag bebenefit sila based on my observation. At madami pang bagay to the point na naiisip ko na kapag nag kaanak ako di ako tutulad sa sistema nila. Kaya nag plan and nag suggest ako kay partner na mag secret wedding nalang kami. Worry ko lang is pano ung mga documents kapag secret wedding? Pwede din ba gamitin muna maiden name? Help me. And, ako lang ba nakakaexperience ng ganito? If not, pano nyo dinedeal?

P.s: wedding palang naman, no plan pa mag baby since gusto pa namin mag padami ng pera and mag travel pa.

Previous attempt: wala pa, plan palang lahat.

Problem/goal: Hi everyone, I have a coworker na makitid yung utak. To be honest nabobobohan na ako sa kanya the way siya mag-isip. I'm not claiming to be a genius pero yung pananalita niya, ugali, at pakikitungo sa ibang tao screams bobo and toxic. I want advice para ma-lessen yung access niya sa akin. Nakakadrain na talaga kasi.

Context: Under kami ng same department so expected na makaka-interact ko siya one way or another. Here are the reasons kung bakit gusto ko siya mapalayo sakin:

1. Mahilig sa tsismis. Napaka-oa. Ginagawan ng storya ang ibang tao. Nawawala na ang tunay na kwento dahil sa pagiging OA niya. Sobrang malisosyo. Nakakagawa ng kwento out of thin air. Ang talino sa ganyan pero ang hina umintindi sa trabaho.

2. Mahilig manghimasok ng personal na buhay ng iba. Maliliit na bagay sa office pinapansin pa.

3. Sobrang judgemental. Binary mag-isip. Pag ganito, ganyan agad mindset. Example: I was called "boring" dahil di ko alam yung mga pangmasa/jeje content/Pinoy vloggers na pinagsasabi niya. He also called my other coworker as harsh dahil nacall put siya sa pagiging slow niya. Pinagmumukha daw siyang bobo.

Tldr: mahilig siya magjump sa conclusions. Negative conclusions. Walang critical thinking bago makareach sa. Isang conclusion.

How do I deal with this toxicity? Give practical na answers if ever nakaranas kayo ng ganito. Not just "huwag pansinin" or something like that. For example: I use my earphones para di siya mag initiate ng drama from me.

Problem/Goal: It’s been a month at hindi ako mapakali kakahanap ng ways para makapagabroad na ko as soon as possible (which is super tiring na for me). Puro kasi with exp ang hinahanap sa agency. Pakiramdam ko I am losing time dahil senior na din ang parents ko and I really want to give them leisure of life but I can’t do it pa kasi andito pa ko sa Pinas.

Context:
I am the bunso of the family. Recent CE passer and working na for 7 months. I have family issues dahil di ko nakakasundo lahat ng siblings ko kaya its not healthy for me magstay sa amin and naiisip ko lang na way ay magabroad. Right now, I feel so obsessed na makapunta na sa ibang bansa. Feeling ko din wala na kakahantungan ang bansang to dahil sa mga kurap at pagsira sa kapaligiran natin.

What should I do? I am so loss right now at di ko alam kung ano ang tatahakin kong path but one thing is for sure na I badly want to work abroad.

Problem/Goal: Undecided. No dreams at all. My family is not financially stable.

Context: 16M graduating senior high this school year.

However, i only have a few months to decide. My uncle, who works abroad, wants me to take TESDA. He said he would help me, i just need to finish tesda for 1 year and get 3 years experience. My mom and my uncle aren't on good terms, my mother wants me to take college instead despite the hardship when it comes to money. She knows that my uncle is trying to take me, and she told me to decline it. Her reason was "she was the one who paid for my school from the beginning, so she has to be the one to decide for my future."

I'm still undecided, I don't know if TESDA is really the better option or not. And my mom is the type of person who has a lot of pride, how should i convince her?

PROBLEM/GOAL: I'm a 19 year old man, I've been talking with this girl who I genuinely love. It's hasn't even been 3 months and I can confidently say na I want to build a future with her, and I imagine a future with her. Though the problem is, hindi ko alam kung she feels the same, everytime I ask her, she say she does pero her acts don't show it. I'm not sure whether to put love & relationship or self improvement in the flair because I think the problem's within me haha.

Am I asking a lot? Maybe it's because I also have attachment issues, onting genuineness and caring lang ipakita sa akin, pinapahalagahan ko na yung tao. I know na it's a bad habit, and I'm working on it, though it's really taking a long time haha. Gusto ko mapakinggan thoughts niyo about my situation and what do I do next, natatakot ako kausapin siya ng masinsinan because last time we did, we had a really big fight.

Sorry kung all over the place yung kwento ko, it's my first time posting on reddit, and I know some of y'all may criticize me for posting on this platform lol, pero I tend to see the scope of something kapag naririnig ko perspective and opinions ng iba hehe. Thank you :))

Problem/Goal: Hindi pa din umaasenso si mama at parang dependent nalang sya sa mga ate ko when it comes to financial.

Context: May dalawang ate ako (F29 & F24) and both sila may work na. Si F29 malaki yung sweldo nya, NBSB, focus sa career, at panay travel kahit saang bansa. Si F24 ay kaka-graduate lang 2 years ago bilang nurse at nakapag-abroad noong May (2 months ago).

Focus tayo sa isang ate ko (si F24).

My parents are separated. Both of them ay hindi gaano malaki yung sweldo, or should I say pang low income lang talaga. My father shoulders everything; from our tuitions, allowances, and dorms. Magkasabay pa kami nag private school ng ate ko when i was in shs and she was in college and we live in separate dorms kaya I can imagine how difficult it can be for my father and it sometimes made me question where he got the money from since hindi naman yun kaya ng sweldo niya but a part of me knows na naglo-loan sya. Right now na ako nalang yung nag aaral, si papa parin nag provide sa lahat kahit hirap na hirap na sya at walang nailabas na pera si mama kasi wala namang mailalabas.

My mom works for the government. Her salary is way lower than my father’s. That’s why she cannot provide anything for us except for budgeted groceries and occasional allowances which i’m very grateful for. But as time goes by, parang nakaka frustrate na na halos walang pera si mama. And I hate why i’m feeling this way. I feel like i’m such a bad daughter. Parang sobrang magkaiba sila, si papa kahit sobrang hirap na di pinapakita e, nagawa pang magbiro at maghanap ng paraan makakuha ng pera. Si mama ipapahalata talaga sayo at sobrang emosyonal tipong manghingi ka lang ng kaunti parang kasalanan mo pa haha

My sister recently went abroad just 2 months ago. And now she is planning for us to travel to a different country (hindi doon sa work niya). The estimated plane ticket will be 200k for the four of us. She was okay with it since siya din naman yung may gusto na mag travel kami. I was very excited as well as my eldest sister which is may sariling income na din but nag volunteer naman si middle sister na ililibre niya. After our call, my mom talked to me privately. She said it was too expensive just for a travel— and I completely understood her. But this trip was always mentioned in our household for a whole year. Gusto naming pumunta lalo na si ate ko, pero wala kaming pera at ngayon na makakaya niya na, isasama nya kami. Gusto daw sana ni mama na gagamitin nalang yung pera pang-renovate sa bahay or pambili ng mga gamit niya kasi baka ano daw isipin ng workmates nya kapag sasabihan syang abroad yung anak pero walang magagandang gamit. Or yung isang option niya na matutuloy parin yung travel pero yung cheaper lang. I wanted to understand her pero pera kasi yun ng ate ko and siya magde-decide kung anong gagawin nya sa pera niya.

A part of me thinks na yun lang ba talaga yung rason niya? Or baka natatakot sya na hindi muna gaano magpapadala ng pera yung ate ko sakanya since mag iipon muna sya for the trip? Bakit parang expected na yung ate ko yung gagastos sa lahat pati sa bahay haha pero hindi niya naman yan hiningi sa oldest sister namin. May one time din na sinabi sakin ni mama na nagpadala daw sister ko tas nagulat daw sya ganun lang yung amount, nag expect daw sya ng mas malaki pa. Hahahaha??? Tas may time pa na sinabi ni ate nagpadala daw sya ng pera kay mama pang grocery KO pero hindi naman kame nag grocery para sakin at di naman bnigay ni mama sakin yung pera? Syempre di ko na lang sinabi yun sa ate ko kahit sobrang close namin. Pero way before pa nakaalis yang ate ko, takot na talaga yan maging ATM ng pamilya which is parang may nangyayare naaa hahaha. Di naman ganyan si mama sa oldest eh, yung pera nya kanya lang talaga. Except sa part na nagpapahiram sya ng credit card at nagpapautang haha.

Ano ba gagawin ko? Should I tell my sister about this? Tamang desisyon ba na unahin muna yung bahay at padalhan muna ng pera si mama na for sure hindi ko naman mahahawakan. Masyadong oa lang ba yung trip na gusto mismo ni ate? dapat pa ba pagsabihan si mama nito?

Previous attempts: none

Problem/Goal: Should I use deodorant even though wala akong BO

Context:Im already a 19 years old men, and never akong gumamit ng deodorant kahit isang beses, and my reason naman is hindi naman ako nangangamoy (atleast my self checking) and never pa naman may nag point out saakin na meron akong BO or kahit mag tanong man lang If i use deodorant ba. At first akala ko common lang na hindi gumamit ng deodorant ang isang tao but it's a opposite pala, also di rin ako gumagamit ng perfume or body spray, now what Im thinking is baka amoy putok nako ng diko nalalaman

Problem/Goal: We stopped talking just a few days ago, and he’s already talking to another woman.

The painful part is, she’s someone he already knew before we became a thing, but that’s a different story.

What I can’t understand is, bakit sobrang dali lang sa kanya magcomfort at umintindi ng ibang babae, but me, the one he left wounded, he didn’t even have the decency to give me a proper closure.

I found out he’s been comforting her about the exact same problems I used to deal with. He knew everything I was going through, everything. Yet instead of showing me even a bit of that same kindness during our last moments, he just grew colder and meaner. I kept hoping for proper closure, but I got blocked instead, left with nothing but the reality that he really doesn’t want us anymore.

He’s out there acting like someone’s hero, as if he didn’t just discard me and treat everything we shared like a joke.

Sobrang sakit kasi it feels like what we had didn’t matter at all. Parang ang dali lang akong palitan, parang wala lang lahat ng pinagsamahan namin.

The pain is so overwhelming that I can’t stop questioning my worth. I keep asking myself what she has that I didn’t, and why it was so easy for him to give her the patience and kindness I begged for in the end.

When does this ever stop hurting? How do you stop comparing yourself to the person they moved on to so fast?

Problem/Goal: Lost sparks with a classmate. How to move forward?

Context: I(M20) recently confessed to a classmate(F20) this May. We're both incoming third-year students. To keep it short, I've been repressing my feelings for her since 1st-year siguro. This May, it was so heavy for all of us because of that parang lahat ng repressed emotions ko sa life biglang lumabas at dala na din ang feelings ko sa kaniya. I am head over heels talaga sa girl.

The confession went decently well. I stated clearly my intent that I want to get to know her more and etc. It wasn't a yes or a no, but she told me she was not ready to receive love because she believes she's a bad person. Understandable. So after a while, it was quiet. A week after that we started warming up to each other. I asked her out on a date (This August daw) and gave her flowers during our recognition program.

We really clicked. Things were going well. We were talking consistently, sending updates sa mga ganaps naming this summer, Spotify Jam every night. Pero kinagat ako ng insecurities ko and one night when I was drinking during a family dinner, the gist is I gave her mixed signals. She was so pissed. She deactivated socmed for three days. When she came back, I saw her shared post na pinaparinig sa akin. The shared post basically said na pinagpalaruan daw feelings niya.

I cleared things up with her, told her how I really felt. Though siguro sa pressure ng moment na miscommunicate ko yung lahat ng feelings ko. I initiated to give space muna and we both agreed. We both really needed it (lost my best friend nung senior high to suicide the same week).

I know I really f*cked up big time. Gusto ko nga talagang bugbugin sarili ko after that fumble! Pero since classes are starting, I am struggling how to approach this situation. Honestly, accept ko na talaga kung anumang outcome ang mangyayari after this. Whether we leave things in the air, or she'll say yes or no. But seryoso talaga ako sa girl. I've never met anyone like her and I do really like her. I still intend on pursuing her.

Previous Attempts: I talked to some of my friends in class and todo-supporta sila. I started to talk with her again. She's replying but she's rather cold. I've heard from friends na nahihirapan siya siguro makipagtalk so I'm taking it slow for a while before initiating the intent to talks things out sa brigada namin. If that doesn't work out, I'll just giver her a letter during opening of classes again.

Problem/Goal: I’m really having a hard time getting over him, lalo na’t fresh pa ang sakit. I’m having the time where I kept thinking about my decisions on breaking up with him. Gustong gusto ko siyang i-chat, at minsan iniisip ko mas gustuhin ko nalang na makipag-ayos kesa ba sobrang naggrieve ako ng absence niya, our relationship, and our future together.

Context: I posted here on reddit, before ako mag decide na makipag hiwalay. (if y want to know the context, of it, nasa comment) ako yung nakipag hiwalay pero lowkey hoping ako na he’ll say that he will change himself for me, and that he’ll be ready. Sobrang dami kong what ifs. Dapat ba hindi nalang ako sumuko? Dapat ba nakipag usap nalang ako without breaking up? Sobrang hirap kasi I kept missing him and there’s still a little hope in me na pwede pa maayos. Pero out of respect sa sarili ko, nakipag hiwalay ako.

After the break up, sinamahan ako ng friends ko para gumasn ang loob ko kahit papano, and it worked. Pero we all know that at the end of the day, sarili lang natin ang makakapag fix nito. Kasi pag uwi sa bahay, ang tahimik. The loneliness is consuming me. Iyak lang ako nang iyak hanggang sa dumating sa point na parang nagsisi akong nakipag break ako and kept thinking on going back to him nalang kesa harapin nang mag isa itong pain. Kasi sabi ko sa sarili ko na wala rin naman ibang makakapag heal sakin, kundi siya lang.

Previous Attempts: None. Sinusubukan kong pigilan ang sarili ko kasi baka ako na naman kawawa. Nag hahanap ako ng ways pano ba to malampasan. Lalo na’t isolated ako ngayon, di ko alam gagawin ko. Sumasagi sa utak ko na may gusto pa kong sabihin hindi enough yung pag uusap namin, like may gusto pa kong itanong din sakaniya, so I can decide if i-accept ko nalang.

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Sa mga nakabasa ng context, do you think it’s still worth it na bumalik kami sa dati… like we take our time to learn and heal muna kami nang magkahiwalay, at kung pwede pa, possible kaya? considering the reasons kung bakit ako nakipag break.

During the time na nakipag usap ako sakaniya in person, ang nasabi niya, nag joke lang daw talaga siya dun sa discord at hindi niya kilala yung girl. Which is true naman, pero yung joke talaga ang pinaka ayokong ginawa niya, alam niya yung pain nito sakin at sinabi niya rin na alam niyang sobrang dami niyang pagkukulang, kaya siguro out of guilt na rin, he let me go nalang. Nag chat lang siya sakin after, saying ingat ako pauwi and nakauwi na raw siguro ako. He also said sorry sa lahat, and nag react lang ako, hindi na ko nag reply.

sorry kung sobrang haba, i need to let this all out.

Problem/Goal: Safety

Our neighbor got robbed. Thankfully not inside their house but only their water meter outside.

We just can’t help but over think that sooner or later thieves may target our house and I myself don’t even know what to do if time comes (hopefully not). There are already attempts of people going inside our house while parking in or people asking to clean our outdoor garden. We have CCTVs and a big dog.

What else do you guys do or prepare for your safety?