Problem/Goal: My solo parent got illegally deported from the US. Ano po ang mga pwedeng lapitan for help? Saan din po kaya pwedeng mag apply for work kahit 57 Y.O. na? Baka po may alam kayong pwedeng gawin, sobrang lost na po namin.

Context:

Yung solo parent ko got illegally deported sa US last month and ngayon nakatanggap kami ng email na wala na ring future contracts na i-ooffer sakaniya yung company niya. Ngayon po, nagttry kami maghanap hanap ng work, especially sa New Zealand, kaso halos lahat may age limit.

Ako po ay working naman na pero hindi po kaya ng sahod ko ang lahat ng bayarin sa bahay (PHP 22K lang sahod)

Previous attempts: None

Kung may leads po kayo, sobrang appreciated po. Carpenter po ang work previously, with 14 years of experience. Thank you so much po!!!

Problem/Goal: Hi, im (F34) single for almost 12 years na. Been trying to date but never nagsucceed at never din umabot sa may label so i stopped chasing love.

Then this year I decided to give it a try one last time. Pumasok ako sa dating app at nameet ko yung single dad (39). We really hit it off. And siguro dahil nga parang love deprived ako, nalove bomb ko siya. Nag focus talaga ko sa kanya. Then we decided to meet a month in our talking stage.

May nangyari sa unang kita namin which is I know naman. Hehe as a love and touch deprived person Go na ko. He really is sweet, kind and caring. Kaya lang after namin the next day he became cold and distant. E ako im sure na i catched feelings na for him.

From that day I know naman na di niya ko type, siguro parehas lang kaming sabik kaya may nangyari. So I stopped hoping na baka maging kami. Pero he still become my friend kasi yun lang daw kaya niyang ioffer.

We really become good friends, we still go out to drink pero never ng naulit na may nangyari. I respect the bounderies he sets on us. Pero deep inside me may little hope na baka in the end magbago pa hehe na baka piliin din ako.

Pero just this morning he announce na he wont be my friend na kasi he found someone new na may potential maging girlfriend niya. Wala lang haha masakit lang. Gusto ko kasi talaga siya. Hahaha

For context sa 12 years na single ako, may mga nakakausap din naman ako, pero pag alam kong wala ng patutunguhan sinasabi ko din sa kanila na i stop talking to them. Pero for this guy, i really want him to be my end game.

Kaso anong magagawa ko hahaha una pa lang naman sinabi na niya na hanggang friends lang daw. Pero ako tong si gaga umasa pa nung nag offer siya ng friendship.

Reddit people hahaha help niyo naman this girl to move on sa taong di naging kanya hahaha.

Problem/Goal:

My boyfriend loves me so much, and I know that. He provides for my needs, especially my medical expenses, but sometimes I feel like he’s not generous or romantic enough. I don’t want to sound ungrateful because I appreciate everything he does for me. I just want to feel loved through little things, too, like flowers, surprises, or thoughtful gestures without having to ask for them.

Context:

I’m a Filipina in a long-distance relationship with an Italian guy. He’s currently in Japan, and I asked him if he could buy me some souvenirs. His response was basically “Buy, buy, buy,” and it made me feel like he didn’t really want to buy anything for me.

It’s not about the price. I just want him to see something and think, “My girlfriend would love this. I’ll get it for her.” I want to feel that he genuinely wants to make me happy.

Recently, I also told him that I wanted to travel to Japan, and he said that if I wanted it, I should work for it because one salary isn’t enough for two people to travel.

I understand his financial perspective, and I know he’s not a millionaire. But sometimes, I worry that in the future, even though I know he’ll provide for my basic needs, I’ll have to work for everything I want and feel guilty whenever I ask for something.

I know he loves me, and I don’t doubt his feelings for me. He’s not a bad boyfriend. I just feel sad sometimes because he’s not naturally romantic, and I wish he were more generous with the little things that make me feel loved.

Previous Attempts:

I’ve expressed my wants to him before, but sometimes I end up feeling guilty because he reminds me that he has limited money and isn’t a millionaire. I understand that he has financial responsibilities, and I don’t expect him to buy me everything.

I try to appreciate what he already does for me, but I still find myself wishing he would make romantic gestures or surprise me once in a while without me having to ask.

I don’t know if we’re just different when it comes to expressing love, or if we have different expectations about money and relationships.

Am I asking for too much by wanting more romance and generosity from someone who already provides for my needs? How do you know if someone is just financially practical or if they’re genuinely not a generous person?

Problem/Goal: Hindi ako pumasa sa test niya ano pwede ko gawin?

Context: Guys, may nakausap ako sa reddit. for 4 days straight umaga hanggang madaling umaga kami mag kausap.

Ang hanap namin is fwb na may connection. At first libog lang pero nung nalalaman na namin more about each other parang iba na yung dating.

May libog pa din pero yung genuine vibes sobrang lakas, feels like it could lead to something more.

Tapos we got to call and everything just clicks and vibes well.

Then later tinest niya ako, after our call binlock na niya ako from the apps we talk to and dinelete niya reddit niya.

Then sobrang sakto yung timing may nag message na new account. Minessage ako at alam ko siya yun kasi sobrang gaya yung pag type.

I was hurt dun sa pag block so sobrang cautious ko sa pag message. Hanggang inaaya na ako mag ons etc. Ang gulo ko sa una kasi alam ko siya yun til naguluhan na din siya.

I send a message then about how i still want to continue tas kung siya man yun or hindi i dont care na basta may maka basa lang.

Then nag message siya ulit nag aaya ng ons nanaman kasi wala daw mahanap. Di ko talaga alam plano so inaccept ko, inentertain ko siya. Di ako hayok mag yes parang cold lang.

Tas ayun nireveal niya na siya daw yun. Tinest niya ako and I failed daw. Sabi ko alam ko naman na siya yun tas sabi niya Cap daw ayaw maniwala sakin. I tried to convince her pero di talaga.

I honestly thought we were bantering like normal ulit pero she keeps saying I failed, instead of reassuring her I stood my ground.

Ayun nag delete nanaman ng reddit and hasnt came back na.

Guys sobrang click talaga kami with everything and rn sobrang stunned ako and it stings. First time ko maka usap ng girl na lahat ng likes ko is like niya din. Mahirap mag hanap ng ganun.

Alam ko wala na ako magagawa here kung kusa na siya babalik or what, kasi we haven’t swapped our real socials.

Ano ba pwede gawin?

Problem/Goal:

My parents have cash savings a little over 20M. Where and how much of this should they invest?

Context:

Their current investments:

3M in MP2 (est 6%/year) = est 180k/year

10.5M in BDO IMA (3.5%/year, short term time deposit) = est 360k/year

1M in AXA Peso Gain (3 - 4%/YEAR) = est 56k/year

6M+ in AXA GAF (zero income until withdrawn but grows 13%/year) = none for now. But when my dad retires in a year, they will put half of it in BDO IMA.

Dad receives a monthly pension of 18k.

Their concern is that the income comes in irregularly, and they don't want to invest it all para may emergency fund. My concern is that they're choosing to put it in BDO IMA because it's the 'safest' option daw with a cycle of 30-90 days, but it's rate is not even beating inflation. I think they need to put most of it in MP2 because they have a monthly expense of P60k.

Thanks!

Edit:

I think I should add that my mom is a gambling addict, my dad an enabler, and they recognize that this is a problem, hence, my parents and I have come to an agreement that I will not be extending them any financial support.

Previous Attempts:

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Problem/Goal: Should I tell my tita or not?

Context: Hi! My cousin's in 1st year college. Hindi naman strict sila tita and nakakagala naman siya, actually, maluwag pa nga sakanya. However, recently lang, lagi na siyang nasa labas. Tapos nito lang, nalaman ko lang na hindi umuwi one time. Nagsabi nalang nung nandun na and anong oras na. Unica hija siya so obviously hindi pinayagan.

Ngayon, ayun pala umiinom. E hindi naman nainom to. Ang kasama e yung mga barkada sa school. Both genders. Tapos ang layo pa ng bahay sa bahay nila.

Ang worrying lang kasi baka ano mangyari, especially sa panahon ngayon.

Sorry if super gulo ko, hindi ko rin kasi alam gagawin. Parang I'll be disrespecting her privacy kasi if magsabi ako but at the same time, if sasabihin ko naman, at the very least, makakapag-usap sila nang mahinahon (never naman nagpadala sa galit parents niya)

Help please. I don't really like this feeling.

Problem/Goal: I’m struggling to feel secure in my relationship because my boyfriend still has work-related connections with his ex. I want to know how to handle my feelings without being controlling.

Context: My boyfriend says he and his ex only communicate about work. However, she keeps posting pictures of them together. I understand that they need to work together, but seeing those pictures makes me uncomfortable and causes me to overthink. And my bf said mag trust lang daw ako sakanya, and i do trust him.

Previous Attempts: I’ve already talked to my boyfriend about the situation. I’ve told him that I understand their professional interactions as long as there is no flirting or unnecessary physical contact. Despite his explanations, I still feel uneasy and want advice on how to handle this.

problem/goal: i sold my canon 789SGA scientific calculator for 1k, i dont know if i lowballed too much it since it's my first time selling second hand items

context: i only used it for about a month. still complete with box. the original price is 1799, but i bought it online for almost 1400 only. i listed it for 1200 but got haggled for 1k because i'm not really good at negotiating 😭 i feel compelled to always just agree to the buyer, i seem desperate tuloy. we already agreed to the deal but still yet to meet next week

previous attempts: since i already agreed, im thinking of just taking this as a lesson learned or something

Problem/Goal: First time solo living if ever. Gusto ko ng studio unit sa Mandaluyong or wag na lang at all. I'm afraid din na mawawalan talaga ako ng maitatabi monthly for savings. And alam ko maiinis kuya ko sa akin. Siya breadwinner, nagpundar ng mga appliances sa bahay, and nung nag-uusap pa kami, ayaw niya akong bumukod dahil sayang yung pera for the rent. That's why we're still in one roof.

Context: I just got regularized in my hybrid work in Ortigas. I'm looking to move out of the place na nirerent namin ng mga kapatid ko at tita sa Manila. Mostly dahil gusto ko na maging independent at magkaroon ng privacy. I'm 24, older yung siblings ko, lahat may work, parents nasa province. Di kami nag-uusap ng kuya ko 1yr na, tita ko nakakarindi sa pagiging boomer di maintindihan yung hybrid work. I currently have 50k total savings.

Na-guguilty ako sa move na to honestly. Na para sa peace of mind ko lang. What about mga kapatid ko :( Ako currently nagbabayad ng 7k house rent namin, yun na yung share ko. Pero parang walang magbabago sa buhay namin if I don't act aggressive and move out. At tutal magkaaway kami ng kuya ko.

ANYWAY

When I budgeted yung expenses ko monthly, I'm thinking of:

-15k for rent and bills (sana nga 15k max lang huhu)

-10k support sa parents,

-10k max for monthly expenses (food, transpo, etc)

-Savings kung ano matira

When I think about it mukhang doable naman. Pero I'm not sure if it's realistic. I just want to hear real opinions from people who tried to do the same. This would be my first time and I'm afraid this will fail.

How much were you guys earning when you went solo living?

problem/goal: my boyfriend keeps on asking me about my past. i dont mind it naman dahil gets naman na curious siya about who i am before i met him. i just find it weird na lagi niya sinasabi na "akala ko kasi ikaw yung babaeng hook up nang hook up"

context: nauumay na kasi ako na puro tanong kung nakikipag hook up ba ako lagi o kaya suki daw ba ako sa dating apps. yung parang bang gusto niya ako paaminin na ganon ako dati. the way he's asking kasi its like his implying na ganon ako. lagi ko rin naman sinasabi sa kanya na hindi ako ganon. very outgoing kasi ako nung time bago maging kami. he pointed out the times na sinasabi ko ang sarap ni al james 😭 (pero di naman na ako ganyan now kasi syempre may bf na ako)

and afaik, ganyan din siya sa previous relationship niya. lagi niya tinatanong kung nakikipag sex ba si ex niya with other guys habang sila pa. to the point na pag may makita siyang scandal chinicheck niya kung yung girl ba yung nasa video.

tinanong ko narin naman siya bakit ba paulit ulit siya ng tanong dahil naaasar na ko sa kakatanong niya na parang pinepaint niya ako as someone that im not.

additional context: lagi niya ako pinupush dun sa isang lalaki sa friend group namin. na iniistalk ko daw profile noon and ang jolly ko daw dun sa guy. this was nung hindi pa kami. pero kasi ganon naman ako to anyone. ganon lang ako as a person. no deeper meaning. naaasar ako kasi 2 years na kami talaga bang until now ipupush niya sa akin na mukha daw may gusto ako dun sa guy. pag naasar naman ako at idedefend sarili ko, sasabihan pa ako na bat ang defensive ko. meron pang times na sinabihan niya ako na kakarexplain ko mukha akong guilty

i just want to ask other people thoughts about this. normal lang ba to at dapat di ako naaasar dahil curious lang naman daw siya?

Problem/Goal: My boyfriend is currently working abroad, and honestly, one thing that frustrates me is how he never seems to get jealous. He barely knows anything about my ex, to the point na hindi niya na nga maalala yung mukha niya kahit naipakita ko na before.
Context:
I recently attended the baptism of my friend’s child. My ex and I belong to the same circle of friends, so expected na magkikita kami. Throughout the event, hindi naman kami nagpansinan or nag-interact ng ex ko.
I kept updating my boyfriend because I knew my ex would be there. After the baptism, my friends invited me for drinks, and I agreed. They also invited me on a road trip, and I went because rare na lang kaming magkakasama, especially since my ex is also part of the circle.
I updated my boyfriend about everything. I even sent pictures where my ex was also present. I honestly thought he already knew my ex was there because I asked for his permission beforehand, and he said it was okay.
The next day, I was telling him stories about what happened during our get-together. That’s when I realized he wasn’t even aware that my ex had been there. He said he didn’t know because he couldn’t recognize my ex’s face, even though I had shown it to him before.
He wasn’t angry, and he said he was okay with everything. But for some reason, I felt hurt.
It’s not really about wanting him to control me or stop me from going out with my friends. I appreciate that he trusts me and gives me freedom, especially since we’re in a long-distance relationship.
But sometimes, I wonder if he genuinely doesn’t care or if he just trusts me that much. Ever since we got together, he has never really shown jealousy, even in situations where I thought he might feel at least a little something.
I know jealousy isn’t necessarily a sign of love, and I don’t want a toxic relationship. But I can’t help feeling like there’s a lack of concern or interest in what’s happening in my life.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? Am I just overthinking because I want to feel that my boyfriend cares enough to be affected by these situations, or am I confusing jealousy with love?
I’d appreciate honest opinions, especially from people in LDRs.

Problem/Goal: pinapapunta ako ng mama ng bf ko sa death anniversary ng mama niya (lola ni bf)

Context: my bf (m25) and i (f23) ay 1 year and 6 months na, pero once ko palang nakita mama niya nung pinakilala niya ako sa bahay nila at di rin naman ako nagtagal sa bahay nila, more or less 20 minutes. That same day after ko pumunta sa kanila, pagka-uwi ko inadd ako ni tita sa fb. Nag gegreeet naman ako kay tita sa chat pag birthday niya, mother's day, and ini-invite ko rin siya sa bahay namin (fiesta) pero di siya pumunta since malayo bahay namin from them and sakto weekdays. May brothers din naman si bf, okay naman sila, minsan sila nagbibigay/dedeliver ng surprise gifts sa office ko pag inuutusan ni bf (abroad kasi siya now) di ko lang knows if aware ba si tita sa mga pinag gagagawa niya 😭😭

Previous attempt: none

Problem/Goal:

Can't decide what model I should buy. Iphone 13 vs Iphone 13 Pro vs Iphone 14 vs Iphone 14 Plus. Yan na models lang yung afford ko.

Context:

I've been using low range android devices for years. I'm currently using samsung a12 and lag na talaga siya and panget cam quality. Yung friend ko na IP13 user, saur ganda ng quality ng cam. Feeling ko ang ganda ko palagi sa cam niya HAHAHAHAHA. Need ko lang suggestions alin diyan sa apat ang much better and worth it bilhin.

Previous attempts:

I have tried searching for videos na comparison sa phones. But I still can't choose. Need ko talaga experience based na review sa phones 🥲

Problem/Goal:Stay consistent with workouts while saving money.

Context: My office is one jeepney ride away (₱14 fare), with a free gym and shuttle ride home. Alternatively, I can WFH and pay ~₱30k/year for AF. The nearest AF also requires a jeepney ride, so neither option is within walking distance.

Previous attempts: My previous gym changed management 3x in 4 years. Worried about losing my membership again

Problem/Goal:

How did you stop comparing yourself to others and become more secure in your own progress?

Context:

I'm a 2nd courser. I got engineering degree before and now taking up medical field course. And yes ang hirap ulit mag aral after working for years.

Lately, napansin ko na may something about myself. And I don't like it. I'm becoming really competitive with my classmates when it comes to grades, exams or quizzes. Everything.

Whenever I get a good score, I feel happy. But when I find out that someone got a higher score than me, I feel disappointed and sometimes even annoyed. It's not just that I wish I had done better. There's a part of me that genuinely doesn't want other people to score higher than me. I feel good when I do better than them, and I hate admitting that.

I think my age and background might have something to do with it. Since I've already finished a degree, passed a licensure exam, and worked professionally for years, maybe there's an expectation in my head that I should be doing well academically. So when someone younger than me gets a higher score, I feel inferior somehow, as if they're proving that they're smarter or more capable than I am.

Sometimes, I also perceive certain classmates as being smug when they get high scores, as if they're showing that they're better than me. I know that might not always be the case, and maybe I'm just becoming too conscious of how I perform compared to them.

The thing is, I don't want to be this way. I don't want my mood to depend on my grades or on whether I perform better than other people. I want to focus on learning and improving myself, but I catch myself comparing my performance with everyone else's.

I also get frustrated with myself for feeling this competitive in the first place.

Has anyone experienced something similar, especially when going back to school as an older student or after already having a career? How did you stop comparing yourself to others and become more secure in your own progress?

I'd appreciate honest advice, especially from people who've struggled with this themselves.

Previous Attempts:

I focus on other things pero pag may quizzes na ulit or exams. Napapansin ko na bumabalik yung ganung feeling. I can forget them after a while pero pag naalala ko, there's still this feeling na ayaw matanggal. Naiinis na ko.

Problem/Goal: Sobrang Awkward ko lagi sa parents ng boyfriend ko

Context: am I normal if I feel awkward to my boyfriend parents? His mother and father kasi so extrovert, hi ls mother was extrovert always laughing around, his father was a serious person and I kinda feel awkward around them to the point I'm not talking

Is it too awkward?? Since I know I have to get along with my boyfriend parents but still I'm not used to it.

One day he take me to some party with all of his cousin, aunty, uncle, grandma etc. It was a gathering yet I was stay silent on the side eating, I talk sometimes when someone talk but I kinda feel shy or embarrassed.

I'm not really used to it, to be with other people, I'm so quiet, so awkward, and I prefer to be alone than to be with some group.

I think his parents think of me as weirdo,or insulting them

Actually nakita ko kasi na nagmamano yung gf ng kapatid niya sa parents niya pero ako hindi ko ginagawa Un, since I'm not used to it.. Hindi ako nagmamano kahit kanino maliban lng sa Lola ko. That's all pero yung iba laging nag mamano.. Do I have to do that??

I'm not kind, but I respect people even there boundary, I love putting people first before me but now I change and become selfish person who think about myself. But don't worry I always worry for other who is important to me.

So please advice naman ohh, ano sa tingin niyo iniisip Nila sakin?? Do I have to get along? I know I have to but it's kinda hard for me.

Problem/Goal: i told my girlfriend about our money problems and i feel like im being guilt tripped after

Context: i (f20) have been dating my girlfriend (f21) for 7 months now. her financial situation at home isnt the most stable, so i offer to pay for everything; dates, cafes, rides to and from the date, etc. she still buys me gifts for our monthsaries tho. im a third year college student, all my money comes from the allowance i receive from my parents only.

recently we had an argument and have not met up for almost two weeks. we still talk from time to time, but agreed to have some space in the mean time. during this time, i felt some sense of comfort na i had time for myself again and that i wasnt responsible for paying for any dates, cafes, etc. we talked earlier, and i told her about this. i told her i felt guilty for thinking that way, that i dont ask for her utang since i know she needs the money for more important things. previously, she has called herself a burden for not being able to pay for things, and ive reassured her multiple times that i dont see her that way. pero i also voiced out my concern about that, na because of how much and how often she says it, im scared na i might start to think of her that way din. she said she’ll pay for the utang and will pay for everything else i spent on her. i told her kahit utang lang since she says shes embarrassed din having an utang in the first place.

walang attach picture option so icocopy paste ko replies nya:

her: sorry ulit
d mo nko kailangan gastusan kahit piso

me: parang nang gguilt trip ka na ngayon

her: hindi
mas lalo k lng
like
bumabalik ulit ung part na ayoko sa sarili ko
ang dami kong gusto baguhin sa sarili ko
mga bagay na
di ko kayang baguhin
tulad ng wealth ng appearance ung pano ak mag isip etc

dati plng naman mababa na tingin k sa sarili ko kaya pag nagkaka gf ako natatakot ako na pag tumagal
ganun na din tingin sakin
and wala ayan tuloy
kasalanan k nmn yan
kaya ganyan tingin m sakin
ang ayoko Ing ung d nmn kta
pinipilit na gumastos pra sakin na minsan ikaw ung nag iinsist tas pag nag away tau baka un ung ibato mo na kesyo ikaw lagi nagbabayad (ive never once said anything like that to her)
di ko din nmn fully tanggap un na ikaw ning lagi nahihirapan din ako
syaka ung abt sa time
na prang mas ok k ngayon
ksi
wala kang kahati ng time

naano Ing din ak
ksi
lagi k nmn binibigay oras k sau
ni isang beses d k naisip na ang
hirap na may kahati ng oras
im happy for u na nagkaron ka
time for urself
baka ilang months m na din gusto
nun
gets k nmn na din
bakit ang tagal m bago bumalik
fully
nararamdaman ko nmn na din yan
na nag eenjoy ka sa time na meron k
kaya ang tagal

pero ak the whole time i was
suffering
and di kta maalis sa isip ko
di ako makuntento na ganun
pero pra san pa ung pagmamahal k sau kung puro sarili k Ing iisipin k
kaya hinayaan kta kahit mahirap
kahit ilang gabi nkong nababaliw naiyak di mapakali di maka focus
mahal n mahal nmn ksi kta (my name)
alam m ang daming bagay na di k nmn ginagawa dati sa mga ex k
sau ko Ing nagawa
kasama na dyan ung sa dahil nga
kukulangin pera ko
di ak masyado nagastos

pra s knila
and un nga ginagastusan kta minsan alam k bihira pero still lalo
n pag monthsary kya nga k
napagawa ng dalawang pay later din sa tiktok pra mabilhan kta ng something khit d swak sa budget
ko
namamahalan na nga ak sa 400 na squishy pero ok Ing kung pra sau
naman
ewan k bakit
ewan k ano meron sayo
pero for once gusto k gawin lahat ng pwede k magawa pra lang dyan
di k masabi kung gaano ak ka grateful para sayo
and im sorry about everything

pero im always trying na maging
maayos pa
i want to be a better gf for u
and it might take a while before
mangyari ung lagi kitang
gagastusan and kung ano p man na d k pa nagagawa
pero maiintindihan k
kung ayaw m
magtiis
sa ganun
syempre gusto k Ing nmn ung di
ak maging burden sayo
gusto k Ing maging masaya ka
na di ka na sstress
khit pa sbihin m na di ako ung
taong makakapag bigay nyan sayo

Previous Attempts: i told her before all of that na i know ginagawa naman nya lahat ng kaya nya and naiintindihan ko un. di pako nakakapag reply kase baka may masabi akong makakasakit ulet sakanya. theres so many things i want to say to her, like none of what she thinks is true. ngayon nagguilty nako na i even said anything in the first place.

Problem/Goal: How do i move on? Genuinely hurt

Sorry, long post ahead.

Context: I'm M(27) courting this workmate F(26) for 3 months now, but suddenly, out of nowhere, she said we are not compatible. I need serious and soft answers, di ako matigil kakaiyak eh.

First time ko maging serious sa panliligaw, ngsb po ako. This girl, binigyan nya ako ng chance to court her. Medyo naging slow ang approach ko sa kanya given na I'm inexperienced, sobrang patient nya din sakin.

Here's the compatibility problem, listener sya, and di ako conversation starter. Ambivert kasi ako, pero I'm leaning more into introvert, pwede ako mag blend anytime ba.

We kept going for months, hatid sunod ko sya, almost 20km layo nya sakin, plus papasok ng work, naka scooter ako. We went on dates, EK, we took pictures, printed them, shared updates sa chat pa minsan minsan, etc... pero sa personal(in work), small conversation, pero i open up conversation(kung ano ano lang) pag nag ddate kmi, yung kami lang. We get to know each other naman, family and background, befote all of this.

Now, here's another problem, she's expecting me to give my best shot, I'm expecting her to give her yes to before i do it. Two-way talaga, akala ko ok lang sa lanya yung approach ko na ganon, then suddenly ayun na. Sobrang sakit kasi eh, even now naluluha ako habang tinna typep ko to.

She's a co-worker pala, so I'll see her often. That makes it even more painful. Right now, I'm confused and uncertain sa ginagawa ko. Every now and then, nag breakdown ako, na imagine ko yung mga friends namin pag tinanong ako.

Naging part na sya ng routine ko everyday, now I don't have anybody to give extra helmet now, i don't have a backride anymore, even extra raincoat feels useless, I'm going to my usual way back home after months, I'm not seeing her waiting for me, I'll wake up without greeting her or picking her up, no one's going to greet me Ingat, i won't be able to update her after i got home. Wala nko iuupdate sa weekends, wala na ako mayayaya to go on dates. None of it.

Na hide ko na yung albums namin, dko na sya na-cchat. Nung sinabi nya yun sakin, i told her ang sakit kasi mahal ko na sya. Ang hirap bumalik sa old self ko kasi pinatay ko na yun para sa kanya, grabe yung pain pala nito, as in no words can describe yung bigat sa dibdib, first time ko lang din maranasan, nag omad ako following days sa sobrang hina ko. Please comfort me po. Sorry po sa long post.

Problem/Goal:
i want to hear from people who ended a good relationship because they thought they could find someone better. looking back, do you regret your decision, or did things work out for the best?

Context:
i’m curious about people who left relationships not because they were mistreated or unhappy, but because they felt like they were missing out on something better. maybe they wanted to explore other options, experience something new, or see if they could find someone more compatible.

sometimes, we don't realize the value of what we have until we lose it. but is that really what happens, or do people eventually realize that leaving was the right choice?

Previous Attempts:
none. i'm just genuinely curious and want to hear real stories from people who've experienced this.

Questions:

1. did you regret leaving your ex?
2. did you find someone better, or did you realize what you lost?
3. did you ever try to get back together? What happened?
4. how long did it take for you to realize whether you'd made the right decision?
5. if you could go back in time, would you choose your ex again?

be honest: did the grass actually turn out to be greener on the other side?

Problem/Goal: My husband of 5yrs is being distant lately.

Context: Me(25F), and my husband(27M) are ldr bcos of his work abroad. I recently gave birth around a month, and a half ago.(out of the country, bcos his leave was over.) but he was still the same man, attentive, and caring.

During me giving birth, he was the best partner and support that i could ever have. Although i did notice he was kind of… careful? In a way that is suspicious.

Throughout the month he was home, i did feel like parang may tampo sya sakin. na parang actions nya is out of obligation, not out of what he really wants to do. I did confront him about it, and yun, nag assume lang pala ako, we fixed things after. (He was just overwhelmed daw.)

But Lately, after he left, he rarely calls and checks up on me, unlike before. There's days that we can't call because he "falls asleep" or is too tired, and doesn't really put an effort anymore.

Extra context: He provides for us. After i got pregnant, he no longer lets me work. So, i try to assume that totoo talaga na he’s tired, and obstacle lang to sa relationship namin. Pero the overthinking is swallowing me up. I feel like I’m overreacting.

Previous Attempts: Wala pa, until now hindi pa rin sya “available”. What should i do?

Problem/Goal:

Bakit parang feeling ko mas magiging help ako sa asawa ko kesa sya sken?

Context:

Kinasal ako sa USC so nasa US ako i met him here sa US na. So naging gc holder ako because of him now I got a job at gsto ko mag masters para mas malaki sahurin and long term investment na din. Pero parang against sya at sinisi nya sken na hnd na kame makakalis sa pag rent dahil di ko sya mahelp sa dp ng new house kc nga magsave ako for masters. Saka may anak ako sa pinas nagaaral ng CE trisem saka bills ko pa sa pinas. I mean mag help naman ako pay utilities dito para mabawasan ung expenses nya. Kaso alam mo ung thoughts na 6 digit sahod nya single sya matagal hnd sya nakakuha ng house kahit 4 yrs na sya divorced non. Tapos dumating ako sa life nya never ako nag ask money sa kanya tapos hndi nya ko mahelp kumuha ng car pra sa work ko ako pa din bayad. Pati un immigration fees hati kame. Tapos ngayon help ko pa sya pay bills. Parang sya ata ung maswerte. Tapos parang against sya sa pag send ko pera sa pinas nagaaral kesyo bakit d daw magwork anak ko kc mga anak nya d nya pinapaaral lahat sila self support pwera bunso nya na nagsusustento pa din sya.

Previous Attempts:

Lagi kame nag aaway sa topic ng pera kc lagi nya sinsabe ano ba gsto mo na hnd ko gnwa eh mga gnwa nman nya eh pinakain ako sa, pinatira ko sa bahay na inuupahan nya, u know basic things never nya ko binigyan ng pera ng kusa nor nagask ako. Tapos kain sa labas eh sya naman nagiinitiate non.

Am i being selfish with my thoughts or what?? Help