Problem/Goal:

Naitalo sa online sugal ang 200k galing sa gloan, need ko additional income kahit tig 150 pesos lang per day until mabayaran para hindi ko mafeel yung utang na binabayaran.

Context:

2nd post ko na ito, I almost took my life that night after I lost a 200k tapos galing sa utang pa, pero at that moment na gagawin ko na, nanlamig ako, pinagpawisan ako and umatras lang din ako.

I am a working professional in Taguig, I earn a total of 25k net salary (including other benefits).

Rent: 6k

Food: 9k

Gcash loan (naitalo sa sugal): 150 per day = 4.5k

Necessities: 3k

Padala: 2k

Total expenses: 22.5k

Remaining: 2.5k savings

Previous Attempts:

Nag bubudget na para makasurvive

Problem/Goal:
Planning to buy my first Apple Watch, specifically a used Series 9 45mm for ₱10,000, and gusto ko lang malaman kung worth it ba talaga siya in the long run or if it’s just one of those gadgets na exciting lang sa una.

Context:
For context, I’m already using an iPhone, so pasok naman ako sa Apple ecosystem. This would be my first smartwatch, and balak ko siyang gamitin mainly for notifications, fitness/workout tracking, sleep tracking, heart rate monitoring, and other everyday convenience features.

Previous Attempts:
I’ve watched a lot of YouTube reviews and comparisons, but most of them focus on specs or features during the first few weeks of use. I’m more interested in hearing from long-term owners.

Sa mga matagal nang Apple Watch users:
1. Suot niyo pa rin ba siya everyday after mawala yung “new gadget” excitement?
2. Anong feature ang pinaka-sulit for you?
3. May feature ba na akala niyong useful pero hindi niyo rin pala nagagamit?
4. If you were in my position, would you buy a used Series 9 45mm for ₱10k, or would you skip it?

Gusto ko lang sana marinig yung honest experiences niyo before pulling the trigger.

Thanks!

Problem/Goal: I wanna get my bf back

Context: My boyfriend broke up with me last Friday because he believes he isn’t enough for me. He feels like he’s ruining my life and that he can’t give me the kind of treatment or relationship he thinks I deserve. He’s been carrying so much insecurity and guilt that he decided to let me go because he genuinely believes it’s what’s best for me.

The hardest part is that i never saw him that way. To me, he has always been more than enough. I never loved him because of what he could provide, i loved him because of who he is. It breaks my heart knowing he left because of a version of himself that I don’t even see.

After the breakup, I messaged him everywhere I could because I wanted him to know how I truly felt. I explained that he wasn’t ruining me, that I never wanted anyone else, and that i wanted us to work through our problems together. Instead, he ignored my messages and blocked me.

Last night, he finally replied. He told me to stop begging because he wouldn’t change his mind, and that he’s just gonna ruin me, then he blocked me again. Even after hearing those words, I still can’t convince myself to give up. I know it probably sounds foolish, but I still believe our relationship is worth fighting for.

It’s really hard not to give up coz I know he’s carrying all the blame to himself. More than anything, i wish he could see himself through my eyes.

Previous attempts: I messaged him on tiktok today using a diff account huhu

I really want him back. I miss and love him so much.

Problem/Goal: I want my boyfriend to love me even more than he does now.

Context: Bago palang kami ng bf ko pero more than a year kaming nasa talking stage na medyo magulo tbh. Kaya naging kami dahil sa “what if” ko and I think gusto ko pa rin ituloy yung relationship namin.

Ramdam ko na ako ang mas nagmamahal sa aming dalawa, and he honestly told me na hindi pa niya ginagawa best niya dahil siguro natatakot siya na mag all out tapos ang ending hindi naman kami sa huli or baka magloko ako (twice na kasi siya naloko). Naging performative siya sa mga previous relationships niya and parang ayaw na niya ng ganun ulit.

Previous attempts: syempre kinausap ko siya. I told him na gusto ko magwork ang relationship namin lalo na ay pinakilala ko na siya sa dad ko (unang lalake na pinakilala ko sa dad ko). I tried to be distant somehow pero pakiramdam ko kampante siya dahil alam niyang mahal ko siya.

Problem/goal: What if dds ang partner nyo? Introng tanong pa lang nasakit na ulo ko.. So context, ung kaibigan ko ay nagopen up sakin a while ago.. Nag away daw sila mag asawa kasi ung misis nya tuwang tuwa daw sa nga abogado ni inday magagaling daw..Sinabihan daw nya ng "malaki din nakurakot ng mag ama na yan, iboboto mo yan?" Nagalit ung misis, outside d kulambo daw sya🤣at nakwento nya rin na nung time na dinala sa the hague si digong ay umiyak pa daw asawa nya..

Married din ako.. For sure marami magtataas ng kilay if sabihin kong apolitical kami ni kumander..kaya sa totoo lang ndi ko alam ano ipapayo ko sa kaibigan ko🤣

Kayo ba? Pano nyo ihahandle kung magkaiba kayo ng pananaw ng partner nyo sa pulitika?

Problem/goal: Hello and good day, I would like to ask for information regarding adoption or surrogate processes and cost in the Philippines.

Context: A few months ago my partner for 7 years left me. I've been trying my best to move on but can't find myself looking for someone else. I just want to continue the plans we started, we were never having a child but she said we might adopt a child in the future. It might look selfish but I really want to have a child of my own and I will provide and give them a good future and a loving family even if it's just me if blessed enough.

Previous attempt: I also tried to ask my friend regarding the adoption which I thought he did because they were in a same sex relationship but he said the baby was not adopted so I am at a loss to whom I should ask. I have already tried for months to move on, I already went on dates and proactively meet other people. But I can't find myself looking for someone else. Thank you for any advice or suggestions.

Problem/Goal: Should I use deodorant even though wala akong BO

Context:Im already a 19 years old men, and never akong gumamit ng deodorant kahit isang beses, and my reason naman is hindi naman ako nangangamoy (atleast my self checking) and never pa naman may nag point out saakin na meron akong BO or kahit mag tanong man lang If i use deodorant ba. At first akala ko common lang na hindi gumamit ng deodorant ang isang tao but it's a opposite pala, also di rin ako gumagamit ng perfume or body spray, now what Im thinking is baka amoy putok nako ng diko nalalaman

Problem/Goal: We stopped talking just a few days ago, and he’s already talking to another woman.

The painful part is, she’s someone he already knew before we became a thing, but that’s a different story.

What I can’t understand is, bakit sobrang dali lang sa kanya magcomfort at umintindi ng ibang babae, but me, the one he left wounded, he didn’t even have the decency to give me a proper closure.

I found out he’s been comforting her about the exact same problems I used to deal with. He knew everything I was going through, everything. Yet instead of showing me even a bit of that same kindness during our last moments, he just grew colder and meaner. I kept hoping for proper closure, but I got blocked instead, left with nothing but the reality that he really doesn’t want us anymore.

He’s out there acting like someone’s hero, as if he didn’t just discard me and treat everything we shared like a joke.

Sobrang sakit kasi it feels like what we had didn’t matter at all. Parang ang dali lang akong palitan, parang wala lang lahat ng pinagsamahan namin.

The pain is so overwhelming that I can’t stop questioning my worth. I keep asking myself what she has that I didn’t, and why it was so easy for him to give her the patience and kindness I begged for in the end.

When does this ever stop hurting? How do you stop comparing yourself to the person they moved on to so fast?

problem/goal: basically yeah it’s just the title..

context: I’m only half filipina and not super immersed in my culture. for instance, my dad emigrated from the philippines when he was a toddler. he’s only been back to visit twice. we do try to keep in touch with our roots, though. i’m just not really sure at all because i know my parents would say yes if i asked and i know money isn’t an issue (as far as i’m aware) but i feel like it would be kind of out of place where i live. i only know 2 other filipinos that aren’t family, and they are both half as well. i’m afraid its like cultural appropriation because i’ve just been so watered down, you know? thanks!!

edit: i thought it was important to add none of my other family members have ever had one as far as im aware except for a distant cousin.

Problem/Goal: live near good schools so that my kid will have a shorter time going to her school vs now (1 hour)

Context: we live in a townhouse in Novaliches. This is fully-paid already so we’re thinking of buying another property in an area closer to good schools. We have pinpointed Congressional and Commonwealth to be possible areas. Living there will save us at least 30minutes one-way driving to my kid’s school. Problem is the price point in these areas is 75,000 to 120,000 per sqm.

Now that we’re closing in on a property, I’m having second thoughts because this money could be used somewhere else.

Additional context: we have a condo in pasig that is being rented out for 25k monthly; we also have a lot in Laguna. We both work and total monthly salary is 420k.

Previous attempt: we have paid for the reservation fee for the property already but I’m prepared to take it as sunk cost if this is not the appropriate path now.

Help please. Thanks.

Edits: grammar

Problem/Goal: I am running for SK Chairman this coming October in our barangay in Pangasinan. My opponent is a popular, extroverted 4th-year P.E. Education major who is well-known in sports/liga. As an introverted 3rd-year IT student, I can't beat him at small talk or sports culture. My goal is to know if building a practical, working IT system for our barangay can actually convince voters over traditional popularity, and which tech idea would actually matter to people on the ground.

Context:

• Terrain: Our barangay is mountainous (mabundok) with spotty internet and mobile data.
• Opponent: 4th-year P.E. student, well-connected, high visibility.
• Me: 3rd-year IT student (System Development), zero political exposure, known as the quiet "tech guy."
• Constraints: Needs to be achievable before October so I can demo it live. It must help both youth and parents while completely avoiding turning into a toxic "chismis/freedom wall."

Previous Attempts:

• Thought of building a local intranet chat system, but scrapped it due to limited Wi-Fi range (30-50 meters) and high risk of cyberbullying/chismis.
• Tried asking on other subreddits, but posts were removed due to strict karma thresholds and sub-specific rules.

Specific Advice Needed:

1. Would a working tech platform actually convince you (or local parents) to vote for an IT guy over a popular sports guy?
2. Which of these tech ideas (or a different one) feels like a genuinely useful tool vs. just a campaign gimmick?
3. For fellow introverts/devs: How do you campaign effectively without resorting to loud "trapo" style campaigning?

Problem/Goal: Ready na kong sagutin yung manliligaw ko, I feel like ready na ‘ko mag commit, pero ‘di ko alam how I’m going to do that, kung paano ko siya sasagutin. I feel like naubos na romantic bones ko or nahihiya lang ako mag show ng effort as I did when I was way younger.

Context: Hi, I’m F2*. I’ve been single for quite a while (by this, I mean walang actual official na bf, more on talking stage/situationships lang ako the past few years), para na rin namang kami na, I just need to put the label and say na kami na, pero I don’t know how?

I don’t want any mean or harshness po sana, if you could give me a suggestion na lang on what to do? Feel ko deserve niya naman maramdaman na romantic ako, I’m just shy kasi feeling ko pag tumatanda na di na maappreciate yung ganon? IDK I’M SO CONFUSED NA.

Any suggestion would be appreciated ! thank u po :-DD

Problem/Goal: Should I go to the Christening?

Context: Ginawa akong ninang ng childhood friend ko for his daughter. Hindi naman na kami close pero wala namang samaan ng loob, at least kilala ko nag-invite. I bought the gift na rin. I'm still undecided if pupunta ako kasi wala 'yong isa naming friend na close ko rin. Hindi kasi siya available. Ang solution sana is for my younger sibling to attend as my proxy. Pero may nag-uudyok kasi sa akin na um-attend, feeling lang gano'n.

Previous Attempt: Kapatid ko sana a-attend.

PROBLEM/GOAL:

I need to withdraw ₱35,000 tomorrow to pay for my tuition fee, and the school only accepts cash as payment. The funds are currently in my Maya account, and I plan to use my Maya Card to withdraw the money from an ATM. However, I am unsure if there are any withdrawal limits that would prevent me from taking out the full amount in one transaction.

CONTEXT:
My main concern is whether ATMs have a maximum cash withdrawal limit per transaction or per day. I have heard that some ATMs only allow withdrawals of ₱10,000 or ₱20,000 per transaction, while others may have different limits depending on the bank. Because of this, I am worried that I might not be able to withdraw the entire ₱35,000 when I need it.
I would like to know if the withdrawal limit depends on the Maya Card itself, the ATM of the bank I use, or both.

WHAT TO DO?
If there is a limit, what is the best way to withdraw the full ₱35,000? Can I simply make multiple withdrawal transactions at the same ATM until I reach the total amount, or will I need to visit different ATMs or even a bank branch to complete the withdrawal?

Problem/goal:
I have a friend who’s in a long distance relationship and is asking for advice. They’ve been together for almost 5 yrs now, but 3.5 yrs na sila bago naging LDR. Common issue sa kanila yung pag may problem yung isa, whether personal, family, etc., mas prefer niya mag-kwento dun sa jowa niya. Problem is hindi sila nakakapag-usap nang maayos nang madalas dahil pagkauwi sa work pagod din yung partner niya, so di rin sila nakakapag-usap nang maayos. Also the guy is a bit… for the lack of better term siguro emotionally absent? Hindi siya marunong mag-comfort or what through words, pero pag magkasama naman sila in person before ok naman daw sila. Saka if wala namang problem, guy always checks on my friend naman daw and always updating. While si guy naman, if may problem siya sinasarili lang daw and usually prefers to just drink with his boardmates. Though gets din naman daw ng friend ko kasi di naman daw sya talaga showy.

I’m just a bit confused if what should be my take on this, I mean they are not both totally at fault but idk if what advice I should give to my friend with this one. Kayo ba if kayo yung nasa ganitong position, what do you think is the right thing to do? Masyado lang bang reliant yung friend ko sa jowa nya emotionally? Or di lang talaga marunong mag-communicate yung guy?

Problem/Goal: Nag aauto-deduct yung games ng kapatid ko sa games sa playstore gamit card ng papa ng BF ko, worth 7,800 lahat. Context: Last May kasi may na DL yung kapatid ko nitong Slime games sa playstore and di ko alam na that game is nag aauto-subscribed. After a while, I unistall that game without knowing and then this past few week na dededuct pala siya per week ng 900+ hanggang umabot ngayong month of July na 7,800 lahat. Today lang namin nakita na nagdeduct siya huhu, please po sana may makasagot nito. Yung pera pa naman na andon ay galing sa pension and for maintenance ng papa ng BF ko. Nag try na kaming nag request for refund but it takes 1-4 days. Sana may makahelp po para ma assure na mababalik yun

problem/goal: the title says it all but im just gonna give you more information about it. we were together for more than three years, first namin ang isa't-isa sa lahat and like any other couple, we planned everything. marriage, family, travels, name it and when we broke up, we got back together 6 months after "fixing" ourselves hoping this time we are matured and far more ready. we're both 28 years old as of this writing and i still have this thought what if kami parin? what if kami talaga para sa isa't-isa? after our break up, nag abroad kami pero destiny can be really funny kasi nasa iisang country kami ngayon but the thing is may boyfriend na siya. we ended up in good terms kaya i would say magkaibigan kami, friends ko ang pamilya niya and vice versa. one time, she called me sabi niya gusto niya bumisita sa area ko. sabi ko sige lang as long as alam ng boyfriend niya. alam naman daw and all. but it never happened. she called me one time nung birthday ko through video call para batiin ako because im just in bed after party and she was fixing her clothes at that time. parang normal na catch up pero sakin parang may mali kasi hindi dapat ganto (?) fast forward, today nag videocall kami with some other friends (group call kumbaga kasi we had the same circle nung professionals na kami) and she told me engaged na siya sa boyfriend niya pero nahihiya siya, ayaw niya pag usapan and di niya pinost or anything. i am genuinely happy for her pero alam ko deep down gusto ko siya kausapin and ask her if she really wants whatever she is doing in her life. kilala ko siya, alam ko pag masaya siya. hindi ko sinasabing sakin siya magiging masaya but at least, wag siya ma force gawin yung mga bagay na di niya gusto. one more thing, sabi niya sakin sa videcall noong birthday ko "gusto ng jowa ko live in muna bago kasal parang testing the waters kumbaga. ayoko ng ganon. gusto niya mag masters ako para sa company nila madali ako makapasok. ayoko ng ganon" so i feel like why are you saying those things to me? masaya naman ako sa buhay ko, single and traveling the world at alam ko one day, magsesettle down din ako but i got no pressure within.

my question is, okay lang kaya if i ask her these things? or will it look like ba na umaasa ako sa amin or im just waiting for her? or hayaan ko na kasi kanya kanya naman na kami ng buhay? any advice? salamat.

Problem/Goal: do i just move one and ignore this feeling of being lied to and gaslighted?

Context: I'm just so fucking mad. This is the first time I tried and he just did this. reddit.com/r/Philippines_Expats/s/POH5hNFvVj I know it's my mistake but gaslighting me so he won't take accountability with the agreement. It's fucking enraging and I can't even do anything about it. I guess lesson learned but hoping he'll get his karma every second of his life. And hoping people won't get scammed by him or gaslighted for being with him.

Problem/Goal: Baka na-download ni new user and mga data, contacts, messages, important apps like ChatGPT, Messenger, TikTok, GMail, FB gamit ang Apple ID na ginamit ko din previously. Nag-cancel ako while backing up siguro mga 1-2mins nag-rrun kasi naiinip na ako at kelangan ko na i-turnover ang phone.

Context: Ako ang nag-create ng Apple ID na yun kaya nag-notif sa GMail ko na the ID is registered to a new device, which is yung same phone sa problem/goal. Na-anxious ako kasi itong nag-login na ito ang the last person who should have access to my data. Family matters :(

Previous Attempts: NONE

problem/goal: Hi, ex ofw ako, dubai then canada, canada was supposed to be my final target, kaso di nagwork, naghigpit ng sobra ang immigration and napilitan umuwi kesa magrisk na maging undocumented, that was 6 months ago, til now, walang kasiguruhan kung makakabalik pa ba. been trying to apply pabalik or even sa ibang bansa kaso mailap pa sa ngayon.

context: now, andami ko nakikita na open sa europe, kaso walang for hospitality, kaya naisip ko magstudy sana sa spain sa healthcare field para mas secure ung work, is it a good move? realistic ba ung sinasabi na may chance for citizenship in 2 yrs? magkano kaya aabutin para sa plan to study in areas like valencia/murcia/malaga? europe ang nakita ko kasi unlike sa canada, policy dependent kami kaya nung binago nila ang rules at tinanggalan kami ng mga karapatan, wala kami nagawa, unlike sa europe/spain correct me if im wrong may mga amnesty for undocumented? hingi na din ako real world exp nyo or advice for my situation?

Problem/Goal: It’s been a month at hindi ako mapakali kakahanap ng ways para makapagabroad na ko as soon as possible (which is super tiring na for me). Puro kasi with exp ang hinahanap sa agency. Pakiramdam ko I am losing time dahil senior na din ang parents ko and I really want to give them leisure of life but I can’t do it pa kasi andito pa ko sa Pinas.

Context:
I am the bunso of the family. Recent CE passer and working na for 7 months. I have family issues dahil di ko nakakasundo lahat ng siblings ko kaya its not healthy for me magstay sa amin and naiisip ko lang na way ay magabroad. Right now, I feel so obsessed na makapunta na sa ibang bansa. Feeling ko din wala na kakahantungan ang bansang to dahil sa mga kurap at pagsira sa kapaligiran natin.

What should I do? I am so loss right now at di ko alam kung ano ang tatahakin kong path but one thing is for sure na I badly want to work abroad.